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i don't like him
ok, i have a really good friend of another race that i had no doubt at all was gay. he was always checking out other guys and stuff so of course..duh, i thot he way gay. so we were really good friends and then all of a sudden he told me the DAY BEFORE april fools that he had had a really bad crush on me since the beguinning of last year. k, it TOTALLY threw me by suprise b/c i thot he was GAY!! so ne ways i though he was joking cos the next day was april fools but he wasn't kidding at all!!! so he kept stalking me and wouldn't leave me alone. he would always be like "have you though about it yet, you're taking FOREVER!!" but my mom just got home from the hospital from a really stressful and long-recovery surgery and she JUST now started walking. so i've been distracted obviously with my mom. so ne ways i was doing this filming project for school and he was stalking me the entire time. we were filming and he'd just be standing there looking around doing nothing, watching what we were doing when we all asked him to leave like 30 minutes ago, but he wouldn't leave. so finally we finished the project and i needed to change out of this crazy costume i was in so i told him "hey, i need to change into my regular clothes." an he just tood there starring at me, then he goes "well then?" like i was ACCTUALLY going to do it in front of him! so i told him he needed to go outside and he was all pissy about it. so then while i was changing i saw him STARRING AT ME THROUGH THE WINDOW WHILE I WAS CHANGING MY TOP!! oh my gosh it was so horrible! i felt so violated! and he's still been stalking me and saying "hey, how's your day?" to me in the hallway like we're going out even though it should be pretty clear to him that we're NOT!! so how do i tell this guy to get lost and leave me alone? i don't want to hurt his feelings, but then again he was starring at me while i was changing so i kind of do. ne suggestions? what should i say? i rate high
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If he's stalking you then call the cops. Really if he's freaking you out that's the best thing to do. I've had many stalkers and I called the police. But before you go that far, if you know the guy, then tell him it's making you uncomfortable with him stalking you and that you want him to stop. Then if he doesn't stop call the police.
Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~
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Tell him to LEAVE YOU ALONE. If you feel uncomforetable around then you mite need to be rude and mean about it. And another thing. This boy is sexually harassing you. This is a federal offense and he can get into A LOT of trouble for it. You should rite down date and time of everything he does that makes you uncomforetable and put it in a notebook that paper can't be added to. When you feel ready tell a trusted adult and show them the notebook. You'll feel much better and safer too!
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tell your parents And call the cops, its harrasment
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Some people can't take a hint. You just have to come right out and tell him. I am not intrested in you now or ever. I don't like hurting yur feelings but stop following me around or I will call the cops/dad/teacher. Good luck. :)
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Tell an adult!!
This guy could do something worse than just watching you change!!
HURRI!!!!
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Well you said he was a good friend of yours.. so i dont know if you want to lose is friendship all together or not... if you want to lose his friendship jus tell him to leave you the fuck alone.. easy as that.. but if you want atleast a chance for a friendship i would tell him that You wished that he'd respect that you dont like him more then friends and would like him to stop making you feel awkward about liking you and stop saying things and doing things to you that make you uncomfortable.. ask him to respect that or he wont even have you as a friend..much luv dez x0x0
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Maybe you thought he was gay because of his reaction to you. He maybe was conscious when you are around. If you don't want to hurt his feelings but want him to get lost then maybe you should look for another guy and let him see that you are not interested with him. This means, try going out with the other guys, so he'll get what you mean.
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Wow. That's disgusting. (that he would stare at you while you were changing.) You WERE violated. If I were you, I'd tell my mom. Err... maybe not. (BTW, sorry about your mom..) Maybe you should tell the school counselor. They're cool. Write him a letter telling him that you're sick of him stalking you and that you like him AS A FRIEND, but nothing more. Also, make it clear that if he doesn't get his act together you're going to turn him in. (And don't you DARE hesitate to do so!)
If he needs an excuse, I think your mom is a really, really good excuse. Not even an excuse - a real REASON.
Just tell him that you don't like him. I know it's hard, but that's what you've got to do. Avoid him at all costs, if you'd like. (I would!) Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. (he's man enough, he'll get over it.) Start of softly, talk to him in person, tell him (gently) that you don't want to be his girlfriend right now, but you just want to be friends. If this doesn't work, write him a .. slightly harsher E-mail or letter. If this doesn't work, write him a serious E-mail/letter telling him that you're sick of it and threaten to turn him in. If it continues, turn him in and seek help!
If it stil hurts you that you were violated in such a way that he saw you while you were changing your top, please, do not hesitate to seek profesional counseling. It's not an easy thing to get over, and you shouldn't be ashamed of doing so. I know alot of "normal" girls who go to counseling just because they need someone to talk to. In your case, you've been... "tresspassed" and might need to talk to someone.
I... I can't say how sorry I am that things like this happen. To anyone. And you sound like a really nice girl... it's a shame.
Talk to God, above all. His comfort is like a comfort that cannot be described. There are times that I was sure I was going to die (I'm NOT kidding) and, yet, here I am. Do not try to tell me that this is just coincedence or something... because, really, I should be dead. And if not dead, maybe with horrific scarring and maybe brain damage. (uh.. I do some stupid things sometimes. lol)
If you think your mom is up to it, talk to her about this. Moms can be cool. Pray for your mom, too. That's great that she can walk again. (not cool that she needed surgery and stuff.. but definitely cool that she's getting better.
Feel free to ask or talk ...
Much love in Christ,
-FunnyCide
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What you could do is, the next time he asks you about it just be like, yeah, i dont think we should go out. If he asks why, just say he's been invading your privavcy, and you need some space, and that you dont like him like that. I'm soo sorry for what happened, it sounds terrible! I hope you can work it out!
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well you should tell him to give you your space you know? You should still talk to him but not to much to give him the idea of the point for when you say "leave me alone" but since you mom and everything dont take this really hard you dont want to put more stress on yourself!
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Damn i would be scared! You have to get it through his head that it's not gunna happen! Tell him that it's fine to be friends but hes gotta start acting like a friend more then someone thats trying to bang ya at any possible moment! and if he cant act appropriate then he's gotta go. I know you might feel really bad about it, but what has to be done has to be done ya kno? Good luck! and remember if all else fails, restraining orders can always be done,make sure he doesnt go any further then he has!
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