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For those of you who believe in God
What do you do if you find yourself more and more each day, liking a guy who does not believe in God? I am a christian and I have my morals, standards and beliefs and he doesn't meet my number one standard which is believeing in God and having a relationship with him but, on the other hand, I am so drawn to him I can't help it.He's a really great guy but should we just stay friends and nothing more?
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You must think that someone can only understand you if they share your religious beliefs, but that isn't true. There will probably be "Christians" that you go out with that don't understand you at all and have completely different morals. Not believing in God doesn't mean you don't have morals, trust me, I've been an atheist my entire life. If you like him, go for it. You may learn from him and come to understand why he doesn't believe in God. If you say you'll only go out with Christians, you're just closing yourself to all the wonderful oppurtunities that could be out there. You won't be giving up your own Christianity at all, and that person who said that you shouldn't associate with "non-believers"...psh. Jesus did. Good luck. =)
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God should always be your first priority. More than likely, he would not convert to Christianity just for you, so you shouldn't give up your Christian background and morals for him. God has a plan for you, and he has a great Christian guy out there waiting for you. It says in the bible not to be associated with non-believers, so, even though you're attracted to him, you should follow the beliefs you have been taught as a Christian.
I hope I helped!Good luck & God Bless!
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*
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wOW. this is kind of weird. if you like him, different beliefs should not get in the way. i guess it sucks that he doesn't believe in God, but you know what? that shouldn't get in the way because if he loves YOU and respects YOU, then even though he doesn't believe, he's a great guy, and that's what matters most. staying just friends with him just because of that is like, in my opinion, mean becuase it's like you disliking someone based on their religion. i believe in God, but i won't let that stop me from liking a non-believer, because that's not really my problem...there is probably even a reason, but that has nothing to do with you two. it's not like he doesn't like you for believing, right? no reason not to keep your relationship with him.if he's not disrespecting your beliefs, that is...because you're kind of disrespecting him. i'm sorry if this makes no sense but it's hard for me to sort out ideas, but i hope i still helped. any more questions, please feel free to leave them in my inbox! *MaRi*
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go for it sweetie, i'm sure you can convert him to mormonism or whatnot after a few months of bible thumping goodness.
-hitler
section addressed to mormon haters:
and if you don't like mormons and are going to say they will burn in hell, then you should reserve yourself a seat next to good ol' joe. they're christians too, just a little bit different.
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If your convictions are that strong then I'm sorry to say that friendship is as far as Id take the relationship.
He could change, but most likely will not. Doesn't make him a bad guy, just not one that you could hope to have a long term relationship with. Be friends though. Consider that the draw. :)
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I've had a situation like that. Usually, I try to go for guys who play an instrument, or sing, so they know what my life is all about (I'm a singer above all else), but I ended up with a gamer who's more into computers than anything. But he's also more into me than anything.
You've gotta weigh your issues. Is it really so big of an issue to you that HE believe in god, as long as he doesn't try to make you not believe in god?
I don't love computers the way my guy does, but he's not trying to make me love computers. I'm not trying to make him play an instrument or sing, either.
You don't always have to believe in the same things for the relationship to work. I'm supposedly Jewish, and my guy's supposedly Roman Catholic.
In your situation, I think I would give in and like him. If he likes you, I'd go for the relationship and see what happens. If it doesn't work because your beliefs are too different, break it off. What's the harm in trying it? It won't kill you, it's just a difference in beliefs.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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Use it as a project. Try and teach him about God while having a fun relationship. He may try and pull you down with him, but if you are strong in your faith it will give him a good impression of you. Do you have a youth group at your church? If so, bring it to him sometime and maybe he'll be able to learn about Christ in a fun atmosphere. Don't give up on him just because he's not a Christian yet. He may come around in time with your help. Who knows? God may be leading you to him for that reason!
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I'm in the same boat as you. I really like this guy who doesnt believe in God and I do. We've known each other for almost 2 years and I've liked him since the first day I met him. He's asked me out a couple times but each time I turned him down because he doesn't believe in God. We're still really good friends, and yes I still really like him, but I think it wouldn't work out because I care about God more than anything ... even him and my family and friends and my sole purpose in life is to go to heaven to be with Him eternally. It was painful for me to turn him down but I think you two should just remain friends. He wouldn't understand your beliefs about God. Just pray for him, talk to him about God and all his miracles and show him proof that He is here. And if he asks why God is almighty and powerful but yet lets so much even into the world tell him that everybody has their own free will and he lets us have our own choices. If we love Him so much we will seek him out on our own but He will guide us to him. Everybody has a choice on whether they want to believe in Him or not. If you can, try to get him to read books about God or Mary. You can find these books at a bookstore or even places like Wal-Mart and Target should have them.
Pray for him that he finds the way to God but I would suggest you don't go out with him. It's your decision though :)
Hope I helped!
Rachel
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If the situation was reversed - Would you want him to give up on you on the sole reason that you are of a different faith than he is? If the answer is no, that you would feel hurt, then you should definitely give him a try.
Just because he is an athiest does NOT mean that he doesn't have morals, standards, or beliefs.
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im a christian and i dont think believing in God would keep me away from having a relationship with someone. if hes an atheist, he could convert or something but really, being different doesnt make him any less lovable. as long as he doesnt worship satan then its fine and not a sin. <3
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you should become pretty good friends with him. then gradually start telling him about God. if converts to Christianity, date him and thank God! if not, ya'll should just remain friends. it is sinful to date a non-christian
xoxo
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I'm not a Christian, but I can relate. It's really important to be in a relationship with someone who understands and appreciates who you are in every aspect - including religion. And who else would do that better than a Christian, someone of your own religion, right?
Yeah, maybe in the long run that will be the case. But unless you are planning on spending the rest of your life with this guy, does it really matter? Think of it as a learning experience - if it doesn't work out, you can ask yourself if it was to do with him not being a Christian. If it does (and even if it ends eventually but was still a great relationship), then you know not to exclude non-Christians in the future.
The fact is that some Christians, like some members of all other religions, are going to be assholes and not understand or appreciate you, even though they ARE the same religion. The same goes for non-Christians. You'll find someone who appreciates you AND your religion - whether they are a part of it or not. Luckily, a lot of people are really open-minded nowadays so just think of dating people belonging to other religions as 'expanding your horizons' rather than closing them in. What I'm saying is, don't expect a non-Christian to not understand how important God is to you...I think it depends more on the person and not their religion.
Give it a go with him! What's the worst that could happen? Your religions clash and you break up? Well then, you know to be more careful when considering non-Christians in the future. Just don't tar us all - Christians or otherwise - with the same brush :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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ok, being a christian has nothing to do with ure luv life. i am 1 but i dont really show it. but is it really fair on him and you if u give up on this great gut just because he doesnt beleive in god its not like he wouldn't support you. hey my mums a christian and my dads nothing he doesnt believe in any religion he makes up his own lolz. all am saying is religion is just a small part of life love is not
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Its ok to go out with a guy that has different believes! if hes not a big believer in god thats fine, just let him know that you are a christain and believe in god, oposites attracted! so you might well be good together even if hes into different faiths or no faith at all.
luv roxie
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First, I believe in God and in my part I can't imagine myself having a relationship with someone who doesn't believe on my faith. In your part, maybe God purposely brought you together to let you encourage him to believe in God. Remember putting God as the center of your relationship is what will make a relationship stronger and stable. So if you want to be with him forever, encourage him and help him to have his faith.
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all i can say is: you love who you love, it donesn't matter in what you believe in, for all i know someone who i might really love could believe in something totally different that i might have never heard about, so if you think that you two like each other enough and you can see each other as a couple go for it!
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i don't think i need to repeat the bible verse that tells you not to date non-christian guys . ( other people have already put that in )
. As a Christian myself , I really do believe that you should NOT date this guy . I understand that you like him , but keep this one sided . Admire him from afar , but do not flirt or get too close to him . And in the meanwhile , pray really hard that a Wonderful Christian boy will come into your life , and that he will be everything you want.. i'm sure God will answer your prayer . =) and remember , GOD comes first before everything else ! =D
Keep believing , Gods bless ,
*wondering*
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You should go out with him and not talk about religion.
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Don't compromise your standards. Guys come and go... God is forever.
That being said, my advice for you is pray. Pray hard, Pray often. Ask God to take the reins and steer you on the right path. Talk to someone about this- a friend, youth pastor, etc.- talk to another Christian who can give you advice, support you through this, and pray with you.
I guess everything I've read (like in Brio magazine, teen devotionals, etc.) has said that while yes, it's important to be friends with non-Christians and share Jesus' love with them, it's not a good idea to date a non-Christian. The Bible says (sorry I don't know the verse number here) "Don't be yoked with un-believers." Pray for a Godly man to come into this guy's life, a Christian guy who can disciple this guy into the light. Pray that he finds Jesus. Continue to be his friend.
Having a crush is okay. But make sure that you don't lower yourself to worldly expectations. Be God's girl first, and some guy's girlfriend second.
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Please, please, please, please leave it at friends only!
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people." - II Corinthians 6:14-16
Powerful verses. Don't fool yourself by saying that you'll witness to him and he'll get saved 'cause you are dating him. He'll respect you more if you're just friends with him. Don't lead him on or anything. That would be a sin.
I know you're drawn to him, but I'm sure there's an awesome Christian guy out there for you... I found one...
Tell yourself how much you'd be sinning if you did that. (no sin is unpardonable, but you know... it's not okay to do it just because God will forgive you!) Stay friends with him, but don't go out with him. Even if he asks you out. You have a reason. Stick with it, please!
Pray for him every night, for his Salvation. Maybe invite him to church, witness to him.
Keep your high morals and standards. It is SO easy to lose all you've worked for because you're going out with a nonChristian. It is easier to be pulled down than to pull someone up. That means that it'd be easier for that guy to convince you to sleep with him than it would be for you to get him in church and saved.
I know it's not a pretty message... but it's one that has to be told.
-FunnyCide
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Aren't we here to spread God's love? I mean that's something i hear everyday in church, and this is your chance, you can bring God in his life or show him how it all works, i mean if it's love with you two then nothing can get between it and he'll listen to you and im sure if you were to get married or watever he would have no problem going to church with you even if his childhood didnt have god in it. hope it all works out and you find out what you wanna do!
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