about

name's chelsey.
i'm 16,i'll be 17 in a little over 3 months.
i've been through a lot,and i have a lot of wisdom in different areas.
i'll try my best to help you in any way i can.
just ask :]

advice

So the other night my friend was planning to set me up with her boyfriend's friend. I already knew the guy a little bit but i was excited to get to know him more because i heard he was a good guy. So the night of date..my friend totally didnt say one word about meeting up or anything..she either forgot or she didnt want to do it anymore. Well comes to find out..she broke up with her boyfriend soo thats why we didnt go on the double date. I was soo hurt because i was looking forward to it. Should i contact the guy and ask him out myself..what should i do?

don't ask him out.
i agree with the other person when they said to get to know him better and become better friends first.
but i do think you should contact him and ask if he still wanted to get to know each other.
see if ya'll maybe can hang out one night or something

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hi,therez this girl she likes me i like her im going to ask her out..just wondering how 2 be a good boyfriend what do girls like in a boy or boyfriend??..thanks

i would be like everyone else and give you a lest of things to do,but honestly i think that you should just be you.
yes,it helps to do some of those sweet things.
but just in general,treat her good.
treat her like a lady.
don't be too sappy,or not yourself,because it'll get old to both of you after awhile,and it won't work out.
just be real.
hope i helped.

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what are different precautions that i can take to not get pregnant??

use condoms,get a prescriptionm for birth control from your gyno, or the safest way of all, don't have sex until you're ready to get pregnant.
good luck.:]]

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i have this guy i been with for 8 months and he broke up with me and i gave him a letter begging him to take me back telling him i love him and i need him and i cant live without him.. and he just read it and ripped it up...and i left crying and he cursed and yelled at me..when i came back i sat by myself and cried for like 2 hours and he was all over my friends hugging them and stuff like that and i got so uppset and he didnt even care..this happend like 20 minutes ago and he isnt calling ...he never calls when we break up...i always call and beg for him back what should i do to make him want me back?

it sounds like he's being a jerk.
i think he realizes how much you love him,and he knows that you're always gonna call and beg,so he doesnt even consider that ya'll might be through.
i think this time you should let him do the worrying,& instead of calling and begging,wait it out and let him get worried.
it might not work, but you dont need to keep letting him think he's got you wrapped around his little finger.
you deserve better than for some guy to be a jerk to you.
i hope i helped, and good luck.
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How do i make my cat stop pooping so much?

welll, i'm sure feeding it less would make it poop less;
but make sure you don't like starve it..cause that wouldn't be good.
lol.
good luck.
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Well I jus watched the movie, the butterfly effect, with my friends. and the ending is how he like never becomes friends with kaylee and stuff. Well my friend said that when she say it and it was a different ending, like he was in the womb, and like choked himself with the ambilical cord.

Is that like one of the endings?

oohh i love that movie.
but yeaa, it was the alternate ending.
i saw the one with him choking himself in the womb too.

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Im getting my belly naval pierced tomorrow and i was wondering on a scale 1 - 10. 10 being the worst.. how bad did it hurt? Im kind of nervous but I just want a heads up thing. Thanks in advanced

eh,it's not that bad.
yea,it'll hurt,but only for a second.
i'll give it a 6.
good luck though!
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15 Female

Last night I was at a party and made out with this guy (hes 18) four times. The thing is, that was my first kiss.. but I think I did pretty well. Anyways, he started with his mouth open which was sooo awkward, but then again we were both kinda drunk. Is it normal to begin with fullout french kissing.. no closed mouth kiss before?

Thanksss.. :)

there's not really a certain way a first kiss should be.
my first kiss was a full-out makeout session.
so it doesn't make a difference either way.
except you probably had more fun that way :]]

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Okay, so, im 15, and im going into my first year at high school. Its summer and there is this soar program (summer school basically) the introduces me into algebra. The thing is, I am like majorly terrified! what will high school be like once the year starts? will the people be nice? the school is like a maze, im gonna get lost for sure, I am so scatter brained! What should do? Does any one have advice for starting the school year or surviving the treacherous mayhem of algebra and puzzling world I am now cursed with?

highschool isn't anything.
people are going to try and freak you out,but the truth is,it's really no different.
you will probably like it better,actually.
the first year of highschool,you usually get caught up in friends,and relationships and all that,so just try to remember to pay attention to school work.
if you pay attention in algebra,it's a breeze.
highschool isn't all that bad,.trust me.
just don't fall for it when an upperclassmen tries to sell you a "pool card" or an "elevator card" it's bullcrap.
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good luck.

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I used to go out with this guy named Josh. I loved him so much, & when he broke up with me -- I thought EVERYTHING would change. & I never thought I'd find myself in this position.

But now I met this new guy named Ralph, and whenever we go out on dates, or if we just talk on the phone, I always unfortunetly find myself comparing Josh to him. & How great Josh was, and the little things he did that Ralph doesn't do.

I don't want to do that anymore & it's really getting on my nerves. I won't be going back out with Josh again, but I can't help but think about how perfect he treated me, and then I just compare which really sucks.

Is it wrong to compare?
Does anyone else do it? I don't want to feel like soo horrible about it, but I just think I'm trying to get over Josh.

Thanksss.

no;it's not wrong at all.
i've been comparing a guy i'm going out with to one of my exes for the past week.
the problem is,it fills you with doubt,and makes you miserable.
just start trying to focus on all the stuff he DOES do for you,instead of what he doesn't do.
and if it isnt working out,don't drag it on,it'll just make it worse.
hope i helped.:]

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Im really nervous to have sex with my boyfriend even though we've been dating for a long time. I want things to be perfect. How do I prepare myself for sex? I shave everything in that area and I know about protection, but I want to know some ways that girls get ready for sex, or any opinions of what guys like. If he gives me oral Im scared that it will like taste funny down there...are there ways that I can make sure its okay? Any advice is apprecitated. Thanks

i totally agree with the girl below me.
even if you don't think you will regret it,you probably will.
you may even think you will be together forever,but the fact is that things happen.
you're young,and the chances that you two will be together for the rest of your lives is very slim.
just don't do something that you mihght regret or that you aren't 150% sure of.

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lately ive just been so FED UP with my appearance i hate looking in the mirror because its not what i want to see =( everyone else is so much prettier than me or thats what i think. my hair bugs me it never stays right i wish i was tanner i wish i was everything else..

i know im not DEPRESSED or i dont think so but maybe just jealous of every other girl. and i really like this kid but he has a girlfriend and it kills me everytime i hear her name because i know that i cant have him

also my parents have been telling me that i need to go do other things rather than come home go on the computer go to my cousins (my best friends house) and then when i get home get back on the computer! they are telling me i need to get out of the house and go with my other friends but the only problem is i dont have many OTHER close friends i can hangout with..

my life just seems to be going completely wrong.

ahh! what do i do? i cant live like this anymore..

i'm right there with you about the appearance.
you have to learn to love yourself for who you are and what you look like though.
i'm working on it too.
you will find a guy.
even if its not him,someone will come along at some point.
i cant really tell you exactly what to do,cause i can relate with you about the parent thing too.
just try to do a few extra things around the house before you get on the computer,so you can have a defense when they get upset.
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hope i helped.

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Here's the story. I started going more to my church because i love listening about God right. So, this day that's where i met my best friend Raymond. When we met i felt this connection between us because we can talk about everything. We could tell each othe anything right. We used to hang out all the time none stop until one day we went out to this show called fuse right. We started holding hands and kind of flirting with each other that day was the best day of my life because for the first time i knew he was feeling the same way i felt about him. I mean we used to always send email to each other and call each other and talk for hours. But as the days pasted by the feeling was becoming stronger and stronger and this were starting to become intense with each other we start to kiss but i mean really kiss it got to a point it was none stop. And we couldn't stop thinking of each other and we were always there no matter what. But one day I didn't see him anymore. And we never broke up. And now that he's in my life again and i saw him again is akward we say hi to each other and smile at each other and always look for each other in the room but is like we don't know what to talk about or how to act around one another. And sometimes i regret going out with him sometimes i think maybe if we would have never gone out things weren't be this way. But i the same time i don't regret it because with him i felt a love that i never felt and i fell inlove with him and even though things are akward between us i still love him the same way and i can't keep him out my mind. And my question is this how can i stop loving him and just see him as my friend and how do i get things the way they used to be before when we were just best friends and used talk and laugh with each other.

boy oh boy.
i know exactly how you feel.
& to tell you the truth,i dont know that i can give you an answer to that.
the same thing happened to me,and now,almost a year later,even though i am over him, he will always have a place in my heart.
everytime i see/talk to him,my heart still jumps.
so,i dont know what to tell you.
but,if you still want to try with him, then you should say something,because you dont want to lose him forever.
trust me.

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When I was about 13, I decided that I never want to get married and I still feel this way and believe that I will always feel this way. I guess it does kind of reflect on my family because both my parents have been married multiple times but it isn't just because of that. It seems as if married means nothing anymore to most people (not all people, I know). So I don't know, people are always telling me that not all marriages end and that mine doesn't have to be all bad like my parents and I know that but I just dont see myself getting married. Does anyone else feel this is way or am I alone? Please don't tell me reason why marriage is so great and how if it's the right person it'll work because I've heard it all before. 17/f


i'm in the same boat as you.
except for i want to get married,it's just scary because both of my parents had many failed marriages,and they aren't together anymore.
&yea,christianity sets good standards for marriage,but that still doesnt assure you that it won't fail.
some people don't ever get married,and that's okay.
it's your choice.
i advise that you pray about it,& ask God to shine some light.
hope i helped. :]]

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How can you tell if the person you're kissing and/or making out with is truthfully enjoying it and not just faking satisfaction in order to continue getting more lip action?

if they're not into,they're more than likely going to find an excuse to stop.
but,if you just want to make sure,
while you're making out,you can kinda back off for a second,and if they start coming in for another session,you know they were liking it.
lol.
hope i helped.
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Okay I am 15 and I am very devout, although I'm catholic I follow the belifs in general of Chritianity. I have had a connection with God. This year it was on and off all the time. In may I went to Quebec and Saw the Basillica of Saint Anne de Beaupre(people claim its were heaven and earth meat) and upon entering the church, I felt something and upon entering the main part of the church I felt something and I felt a strong connection to god. Since tyhen the connection is lost. I feel empty now unless in a sancutary. Do any of you (christians only please) know how I can streghten my connection with god>

well,i'm not a catholic,so i really don't know what half the stuff you just said was,but i am a christian, and you just need to refresh your relationship with God.
God is always going to be there,and sometimes we take advantage of that.
try to have a down point each day where you just sit and talk to God.
when you feel yourself shying away from him,
just have a nice long prayer.
it may also help to keep a prayer notebook that you can use like a journal.
good luck& God bless.
i hope i helped.
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ok..

so theres this guy whos liked me since 7th grade or w/e. and he wants to go out. but just today he said " well im only 16, i wanna experience a little more before i go out with you because i have a feelings we'd go out a long time, we have that chemistry" i said ok fine like a dumbass.. then i said id wait for him and give him time..

SHOULD I WAIT!?!?!??! or just be like either me or not.

he probably just got scared because he realizes that if he goes out with you now,then he's lost his "freedom" for awhile.
he probably jsut wants to be able to flirt around,so i think you should do the same.
just have some fun,and get to know other people.
if/when the time comes for you two to go out,you will both feel like you have looked at all the choices.
hope i helped.
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My wife and I have been married for 13 years. I'm 39 and she's 40 and we've been together since i was 22 and she was 23. Lately, she's been down and I'd like to put a letter from a "secret admirer(me)" in her car and see if that perks her up. Ideally, I'd put an email address in it and see if she would contact me at it. Does anyone here have any good ideas for a secret admirer letter or can someone draft one up for me? I wanted to make it seem like it's from a local man that thinks she's beautiful. I can be reached at ericmsdw2005@yahoo.com

thank you!

i dont think that is a good idea either.
when she found out that it was really you,it would probably make her feel like you were testing her.
i agree that it would make her feel a lot better,if you just stuck a little note in her car or her purse for her to find,telling her how much you love her,and you hopes she has a good day.
good luck & i hope i helped.
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There is a guy I really like (who also has the slight potential of liking me back). He's very funny and actually very polite and nice. However, he doesn't seem to be a very devout Christian, because he cusses. Even though I cuss sometimes, I feel like he may have a bad influence on me in that way, and I know from Bible study that I'm supposed to surround myself with people who share my beliefs and are going to be a good influence. But there seems to be something wrong with that, because if I cuss now and then, I may be a kind of bad influence on others too, and they wouldn't want to be around ME either. I guess what I'm trying to ask is...would it be okay to continue to flirt with this guy and (if it works out right) date him? Sorry, this was kind of long and confusing... btw, I'm almost 16, if that helps any.

everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and slips up.
it doesnt necessarily mean he isn't a Christian.
However, if he's not a Christian, then, yes, it says in the Bible to not associate yourself with non believers (that goes for relationships too.)Hope that helped!

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What actually does matthew7:7-8 mean i am a teen and i would like to know.

it simply means that when you are in need, all you have to do is call on the Lord, and everything you need will be given to you.

"Ask and you shall recieve."

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