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everything is going wrong..
lately ive just been so FED UP with my appearance i hate looking in the mirror because its not what i want to see =( everyone else is so much prettier than me or thats what i think. my hair bugs me it never stays right i wish i was tanner i wish i was everything else..
i know im not DEPRESSED or i dont think so but maybe just jealous of every other girl. and i really like this kid but he has a girlfriend and it kills me everytime i hear her name because i know that i cant have him
also my parents have been telling me that i need to go do other things rather than come home go on the computer go to my cousins (my best friends house) and then when i get home get back on the computer! they are telling me i need to get out of the house and go with my other friends but the only problem is i dont have many OTHER close friends i can hangout with..
my life just seems to be going completely wrong.
ahh! what do i do? i cant live like this anymore..
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i'm right there with you about the appearance.
you have to learn to love yourself for who you are and what you look like though.
i'm working on it too.
you will find a guy.
even if its not him,someone will come along at some point.
i cant really tell you exactly what to do,cause i can relate with you about the parent thing too.
just try to do a few extra things around the house before you get on the computer,so you can have a defense when they get upset.
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hope i helped.
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try a new look maybe cut ur hair wear makeup
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First of all: I'm sure you don't look as bad as you do. Learn to accept your appearance. If you really feel strongly about the way you look, try to change something. Frizzy hair? Straighten it. Hate your eyes? Put some eye shadow on or mascara. These little things can help a lot. But, trust me: even if you do nothing to your appearance, you are beautiful the way you are.
Second: Get to know the person you like more. Be his friend. Then, when his current girlfriend breaks up with him, be ready to ask him out. But you have to know that if he turns you down or if you start to go out with him that he is not your everything and you can live without him.
Lastly: Try and make more friends in school. I know its hard, but just be a nice person and open to other people and you should have more friends in no time. Although for the time being, tell your parents you like doing what you are doing and don't need to go out with other friends.
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honestly, you sound alot like me. I had friends, but they were so much skinnier, and prettier than me. They also commented "that i was way too ugly for him!" when i was caught staring at a boy. Well, as a confidence booster, i saved up to do stuff for myself, like getting my nails done, or getting a new hair do. It works! When I went back to school, people noticed i was more confident, and had a whole new attitude. i made a lot of friends like that, and not the artificial kind, friends i could count on. Please let me know if my advice helped you!
M.J
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Hola. I feel like this a lot too or at least i did until i realised what i had to do.
Find something that you enjoy doing and that you can socalise whilst doing it. i.e i joined the gym the other day and i have met new people and it makes me feel loads better working out, i love it. Plus, if you join a gym you can use the sauna yayyyyyyyyyy!!....it makes your skin loads softer.
Secondly, look after yourself well. Use new cosmetics and buy new clothes...things that you feel sexy in and you will feel loads more confident :)
Lv vick x
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Hun, there is beauty in ever imperfection and ever insecurity. Just because you dont like your hair, doesnt mean someone else doesnt. If you wake up and your hairs a mess, then go with it. People will respect the fact that you are confident and dont care what others think, even if you do. Wanting to be like other people isnt healthy. You should respect yourself and what you look like. And know that you are pretty whether other people are willing to admit it or not. I`m not the most gorgeous girl in the world, but I wake up every morning, look in the mirror, and come up with one thing that looks ok. And it starts off the day good, and I feel good about myself. And that makes others look at you a different way too.
Start talking to more people you meet, or go to a local hangout and start talking to people you know from classes and stuff. That way you can make new friends and hang out with them. Or you can just do things outside by yourself like jog, or walk, and stuff like that. That can help you get tanner too =]. haha. Or you can take up a new hobby, join a camp. Stuff like that.
I know exactly how you feel, my life was like that too. I wanted to be skinnier, tanner, prettier. I even started getting drastic by dying my hair and all this other stuff cause I thought it would help. But I realized I`m fine how I am. And if other people cant appreciate that then fuck them! Learning to accept every part of yourself is the epitomy of courage.
If you ever wanna talk
AIM - loca1 x cel3b
yahoo - x3candiigurrrl
hope i helped babe
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well, you and my are officially twins! It feels like everyone else is sooo much prettier than me! I wish I had blonde or brunette hair, cuuse i have red. I am the pailest thing. i want a tan, but i cant, cuz ill get burned. Im on the computer like 24-7 2! and my parents bug me about it.Plus i only hav like one close group of friends. My life is messed ^^^. But that's why I started this advice thing. It gets my confidence up when i help someone. What you need is to do something you love. A sport, team, club. anything. once you feel like u belong somewhere, you wont feel like that. And you are pretty. so dont say youre not. I mean, ino i want a tan, and a different hair color, but you have to except you 4 who you r. Because you're not going to change. And one day, you'll find a guy that likes you for who you r. Guys can be weird, and only like girls for stupid things, like your chest, or how skinny you r. dont give up. And FYI their r lots of girls outt there who feel the same way!
Hope i helped
~lucky
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sweetie, everyone feels this way at one point in their lives. it's completely natural. but, don't be so hard on yourself. you are probably a very pretty girl! but, if you have a negative attitude about yourself, people will see it. believe it or not, people can tell. it's just a vibe, u know? about the friends issue..... i know how you feel. i have been going to the same school since i was seven years old and i feel like nobody there likes me. everybody just treats me like scum. i know that this is going to seem like such a mom thing to say, but sometimes moms are right about this stuff, and we as teenagers, don't see it till we're older because we haven't lived through life as long as our parents have. but, sometimes people don't talk to us and treat us that way because they are jealous. you might be jealous of all the other girls because you don't see the defects in people. and that could be a blessing and a curse both. i know i have that problem. i don't see the wrong in people, and you probably don't either. but, no one fails to see them in themselves. and by the way, all those girls that are all like "i love my friends!" and all that, are hypocrittes. i know more about those girls than anybody! once the girl turns around, they are all like "shes sucha bitch!" because the more people talk bad about other people, the more the image of themselves to them is probably the size of a pea, unless the girl really is a bitch lol. about the guy, i know it's hard. i've liked the same guy for years and i just want a chance with him and i know that if i could have it, i could show him that i'm the only one for him. but, maybe God wants him for you later because he knows that he is a great guy but, maybe he's into things right now that you don't want to be mixed with. like, my guy. i don't want to get into the stuff he's doing right now. i'm 15, he's 16. but, he needs to grow up a little bit. but, maybe it's not even that. maybe he will wake up one morning and decide he's not going to be into that anymore. and if you're guy isn't under this category, then just let the time fly. put on a smile, and if you're cousin is your only friend, then that's fine too! i wish i could have that atleast! so if there is anything else, please feel free to drop one in my inbox. i hope i helped atleast a little and i hope that you feel better. i felt the way that you did for TWO YEARS. and now, is when i'm finally getting back and realizing that it's not worth it. *muaz* xoxo
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I can completely relate to what you are going through as each teenage girl goes through the same thing. At some point or other (even more than once) a girl seems to think that she isnt as good looking as another girl or isnt as popular. Truth be said your probably a much nicer person, and honestly you are beautiful and don't forget that! Every one is beautiful in there own way and you are no exception. Next time you look in the mirror tell youself your beautiful no matter how much you dont believe it or one nice use your spare time to do your hair and make up and then you will see your real beauty. Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting to be out with your friends all the time, your obviously more of an independant person, your parents might just be saying this because they think you are unhappy about being in alot. Why not arrange to go out for the night with some of your close friends or have a girly night in with just one friend. Its not about quantity its about quality :) Let me no how everything goes and I really hope you are feeling better soon! P.S You are beautiful! dont forget that! :)
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Ok, I feel the same way. I would always be with my friends who were prettier than me or skinnier than me, and I would wish so much to be like them. But I came to find out that people thought I was really pretty. It was jut myself feeling insecure about myself. After I started feeling better for myself, I actually had a few guys start liking me. [I am dating one of them now :]]
Dont worrie about the guy you like. He does have a girlfriend, but chances are, that 16 year old guys dont stay in too long of a relationship. But Do NOT try to break them up, this will only lead to the guy hating you for trying to mess up his life.
Its totally common to have your cousin as one of your closest friends. I am actually at my cousin's house right now. I love her dearly, but I do have other friends. You should try to get to know some of the people at your school when its starts back. Try to make friends with people who are in most of your classes first. That way, you will have someone to hang out with alot. Make sure they like what you like also, becuase if not, you all will probably not have alot in common. Yet again, opposites attract. Anyhoo, just find someone that you think would be a nice and loyal friend.
And I will say again. My life used to be like this. Dont to anytyhing too drastic. You WILL regret it later. But for now, just find some friends and live life as it comes at you. Hope I have helped :]
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laddy noone died hahaha calm down you sound just like me hate everything about yourself just im not jelous of anyone haha listen everyone has something about that they dont like ofcourse theyre might be people that just love everything about themselves even their imperfections they love but normal people are always like "oh im ugly look at my tighs..im fat" just stop if you think your fat loose weight if you think your ugly try and do something about it new hairstyles..new cloth honestly there is no ugly people they are just people that make themselves look ugly...so do something if you think your not pretty how much you wana bet your pretty just you dont think so...most of the people that think theyre ugly are pretty...its kind afreeky actually haha...and for that guy that doesnt like you screw him!! you dont have to worry about any guy there soo many other guys in this world if he has a girl and loves her then let him be happy and look for someone that would make you happy they usually come along...just stop hating life make new friends...and your own style people will follow your trends ;) okay then ...best of luck dude! laterz!
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Everyone is unhappy with something about themselves. I hate my fat thighs. They don't match with my little bitty waist. My hair NEVER fixes the way I want it to. My boyfriend hates his acne.
These things you see NO ONE else notices. I promise. I know I'm at least 30 lbs over weight.. but who cares. I'm happy and that's all that matters.
My boyfriend is SKINNY! Almost sickly looking. We look like a circus couple, to me.. but everyone says we're adorable together.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You really just need to accept who you are. You only live one life. Don't focus so much on the negative things. Let them slide. There are SO many more important things. Also, if you're positive, others will be too. One negative attitude can turn an entire room negative. It's contagious.
Just be happy with who you are, what you are, and focus on future successes. Friends are not a necessity. You don't have to have them. I have only 2 friends... My boyfriend, and a friend I have had for 8 years. Although, I NEVER see her. We don't talk much. We don't live next to each other anymore and she's at a completly different college. I know that if I ever needed anything, she would be there.
It's you that makes the decision whether to be happy or not. You might not like what is going on around you, but you control your emotions.
be happy!
run..
ride a bike..
eat a gallon of icecream..
it's ok to smile!
good luck!
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hey alot of people your age are probably feeling the same way you do. i always wish that i was prettyer, but really, you can apply all the make up you want, style your hair all different ways, but in the end, your still the same person you always have been.
Someone once told me that she didn't think she was pretty at all and she would cry herself to sleep when she was in her teens, but then one day she just said to herself well if i can't be pretty, then i will work on my personality, and today she's 31 i believe and she is absolutely gorgeuos. If you work on your personality and build more confidence, i'm sure that other people will realize just how pretty you really are.
In my opinion, no one is ever ugly. Everyone has one thing about them that creates there unique beauty, sometimes you find it right away, other times it takes a while. And the thing is, it doesn't even have to be a physical aspect that makes you beautiful.
Maybe you can invite some of your friends over and have your best friend invite some of her friends over. Even if your not very close with these other people, i'm sure they would love to hang out with you anyway. Besides, it won't be so awkward if you hang out with them in a group.
i'm sure your very pretty, so don't worry, things can only get better =]
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well, if you have a close friend, talk to them. or see a cousler. a lot of really good looking people think they're ugly, so, don't get down on yourself. think positive. about the guy, you might get your chance one day. his girlfriend won't be there forever. they're not getting married or anything. right? just think about your good traits and don't worry a lot. it will only bring you down more.
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Please. I know how you feel. But im sure your gourgous! & I meen whats wrong with going to your friends house? Idk, But at school kind of try to make more friends, you knoww? Telll me how it workss out!
♥ Sam.
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