My name is Rae. I live in Colonie. I go to CCHS asa freshman. I'm 14, my birthday is October 7th (( tomorrow from wen im writing this lol )). I help my friends out with advice ALL the time and i'm pretty good at it. I keep an open mind and make sure i give people as many options and opions that i have for them. I'll try to come on here everday, but if i dont i may have computer problems, charging my laptop, working on a website, or currently dealing with my own problems. I want to open up to you guys and relate your problems to mine. I may be young but i have gone through a lot in my life, as well as seen people i'm very close to go through the same problems you are. I'm actually really bad at solving my own problems... which is probably why i'm good at solving other peoples.
There are a lot of useless random info about me and i dont want to bore you anymore haha. but if ya wanna no more e-mail me, IM me, or jus ask a question lol. thanx
x333333 RaE aKa LiL sHoRtY
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E-mail: x3candiigurrrl@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Colonie New York
Occupation: Radio Host && Singer/Songwriter
Age: 14
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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering. (link)
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omg. i looove wen guys when obsession for men by calvien klein. but its too much money lmao. otherwise axe. omg. i love it. haha. it doesnt remind girls of their older relatives. if you did they wouldnt go near you in the first place
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I have a problem of staying on top of things at school. I study, but I freak out on tests. I make a schedule but I rarely ever follow it, and when I come in for extra help it's never worthwhile because I just end up doing worse.
My point is, I need GREAT, EXPERIENCED, and PROVEN advice on how to ace tests and assignments (OK maybe not "ace" it, but rather do dramatically better). Also, give me some great techniques, like for example I heard chewing gum helps you stay awake and attentive on tests, and helps you do better with thinking of answers more effectively.
Also, advice on my "procrastination" problem would be nice as well.
Thanks in advance!!!
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Well I`m gonna give you the best advice youll ever get. You ready? Theres NO sure fire way to do good on a test. No secrets or anything. You can study forever, but if you dont truly UNDERSTAND what your studying, it wont help. Everyone is different, and some things might help you stay focussed. But try studying a LITTLE bit everynight leading up to a test. Have someone quiz you or do flashcards. if you can fid a way to make it fun it makes things a lot easier. If you listen to classical music its supposed to make you more aware of your sub conscience. I think its bull, but scientists have proven it. Also ask lots of questions in class and always go with your first instinct. If you think A first go with it. The more someone thinks about something the more you second guess yourself. Good Luck!
Also, I procrastinate more that anyone else, TRUST ME. Basically theres nothing anyone can do to help except you. Try going home and getting everything done first, i know.. hard. u procrastinate. Or try doing some fun things and THEN working. Its hard to help, since I have the same problem.
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Hi,
I’m going to try to make this brief since I know you don’t have time to
be going through pages of my problems. You see, I am love with this guy
DJ, I have been since I was in 6th grade, when we started off as being
friends. That eventually grew into being best friends, and before I
knew it, he liked me. But I didn’t see it because at that point I didn’t
know what it was like to be liked by a boy. When he liked me, I was
going through stages of struggling with makeup, getting my first period,
desperately trying to learn how to shape my eyebrows (which always ended
up being pencil thin), and trying to figure out where I belonged in my
social circle (at the time I was more in the “gangster” kind of
clique).
He was my first love, and no matter how hard I’ve tried, I could never
get him out of my head, nor my heart. I’ve liked other boys, but he had
always been in my heart, and there was not a time in my life that I was
definite that if he asked me out I would say no. He was (and still is)
a very handsome boy that all the girls swoon over. When I was in 6th
grade we were very close, until something happened at the end of the year
which caused us to part. In 7th grade, things were very wishy-washy,
meaning that we weren’t very good friends, although we didn’t exactly
hate each other. We talked every now and then if something bad happened
between one of our friends but nothing other than that. I felt things for
him on and off, and he remained in my heart, but I knew that the way
things were going, that it would be pointless to try to get us together.
I told him during the year that I liked him sometimes, but of course,
since we weren’t very good friends, he didn’t care very much. And there
were also times that I told him that I didn’t like him anymore which
was always a lie since he was always in my heart. A few days ago he
instant messaged me saying that he felt stupid for walking out on me, and
that he regretted it because he realized that I was a good friend. So we
are now best friends again, and I’d have to say that I’m pretty happy.
I want to tell him how much he means to me, that I dream about him at
night, and that I am overally just completely in love with him. The only
thing is that as I am in love with him, he is in love with this other
girl Casey, the one that he was going out with in 6th grade, when he
liked me, but he cared for her more so wouldn’t leave her for me. He had
told me that at the beginning of the school year that he would ask her
out again, which is coming on September 6th. I feel that my time is
running out, but since we have only just became being best friends again, I
don’t want to rush things, because I don’t want to mess things up and I
want us to have a relationship.
I need some serious help on what to do from here.
He means everything to me and I only wish that I meant the same to him
in his eyes.
Please help. I’d appreciate it so much you have no idea.
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I know how it feels to love your best friend. But ever think maybe he is feeling the same way your feeling right now? Sometimes in friendships they do that. So when your thinking he doesnt like you, then he could be thinking you dont like him.
The only way to do it is to just tell him how much he means to you. Do you want to spend the rest of your live wondering "What If?"
As friends, even if he doesnt feel the same way hell know that you do. And maybe someday hell realize he loves you too. I really hope you tell him. Its the only way to do it.
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what are some good questions to get to know someone better? because im talking to the kid i like right now and we kinda dont have anything to talk about...
we already talked about favorite food/movie/color and that stuff. anything helps thanks. (link)
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Ask about favorite sports, school subjects, what does he do in his spare time, jobs?, role models, people he looks up to, has he ever been to _________ (( state, park, concerts stuff likee that )). TV shows he likes and doesnt. theres millions of things to ask. Try writing down a bunch of stuff about you and things you like. and ask him questions about what you rote.
So If you put down "I like Turkey" ask him about turkey.
haha. hope i helped
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hi. I am a 13/f and i started my period about 6 months ago. I play soccer alot and do track in school. I have never used a tampon, only pads. My mom wont bring the subject up and i'm too nervous to ask her how to use it or if I can use them. PLEASE HELP!!!! my soccer tournament is in a few weeks and thats when my next period is supposed to come! any advice on how my mom can bring up the subject? or how i can get the nerve to talk to her about this?? should i just not tell her and just use one?? but i've never used one before and i'm nervous and dont know how to use one. PLEASE HELP!! thank you sooooo much (link)
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A tampon is a serious thing to use. if it isnt used properly it could cause something (sorry i dont remember what its been a while since those sex videos in health class. But i do know something happens when it isnt used right) She isnt going to bring it up unless you start hinting. When your in the grocery store say "oh wow look at that tampon" or something. Otherwise just go up to her when your alone with her and ask her about it. Thats what moms are for. I know its hard to talk to parents about stuff like that but she wants to help you.
If you still dont feel right asking your mom, then you can ask to see your doctor and they`ll tell you everything you need to know. Tell your mom you need a physical before the soccer competitions. Its completely free anyway. Or you can just call your doctor and ask.
Hope I helped.
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Ok to start 14/f
Before I ask my question I'll give you a backround
Today i woke up and i was pissed because i got little sleep. My little brother was talking to my dad about how i dont go to sleep when im supposed to (12am) because I get on my computer and stay on there till about 2 or 3 am. My dad was pissed and said that when school starts for the first 3 months he will cut off the internet. Then since I was still pissed I was ranting on about how school sucks and that landed me a 15 min lecture about how if i didnt go to school I wouldnt be smart and get a good job. Later today my older brother started thinking that im turning anerexic because I had not (and still havent) eaten anything all day. I kinda blew that off and then my mom said that I dont like my family because eariler i said that its not really that cool to go to the bowling alley with my family and not my friends. Shes says that im lazy and just dont want to get any exercise (even thiugh you dont exercise at a bowling alley) so now im thinking that my family is out to get me into the loony bin
So now my question is
do i apologize for being a sort of smartmouth
or just leave it alone and let them apologize.
I rate depending on the quality of the answer.
Thanks, DarkChocolate794 (link)
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Ick. I`m going to try and help you to the best of my ability. I`m not sure if it will make much sense, and it might be reeeally long. But I`m trying here.
I`m 14/f too and I never get a long with my parents either. So I know where you`re coming from. I do the same thing, Go to "bed" and then cruise myspace or anything else until mid morning. But your probably going to need the internet for school. So to get out of losing the internet tell him that your going to need it to do projects and homework assignments everynight and if you lose it you wont be able to do as good. Tell him that his lecture about school and not getting a good job made you realize that school is important and you want to start school off on the good foot, and no internet could jeapordize that. Yeah, It might be lying, but it`ll get you what you want and make your dad feel good.
And just because you dont eat something one day doesnt mean your going anorexic. Siblings, older or younger, say things just to make you mad for their own amuesment. I wouldnt pay any attention to it. Although your older brother should know better than to throw serious accusations areound, it sounds like he was just kidding around. Make sure you eat in front of your family so they know you arent anorexic ( and dont go right to the bathroom after so they dont think your bullemic ) that way no matter what your brother has been saying, they know hes just full of crap.
As for bowling, talk to your mom by herself. I know from experience sometimes parents... ugh you dont even wanna deal with them. But if you go up to her and say that you do love your family, but that going out in public with them makes you feel weird. And that your sorry and that sounds wrong but it was your teenage-ness coming out and that youd rather be with friends then family. Or say that you just dont like bowling that much with family cause its too competitive for you. Then try going on walks and doing some physical things so that shell knock the lazyness out of her mind.
I hope I helped babe.
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All my best friends have gotten into weed. I'm not like that, so I've shifted to a new group of friends. Now one of my other good friends, who doesn't do weed, all of her "group" is into it too.
She so scared, and she pretty much has no friends now cause she's not into that stuff and they hate her now cause she isn't doing it too.
I'm her friend, but theyre in her classes and I'm not. How do I help her get thru this. She's starting to show symptoms of depression from this too. (link)
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uhm.. i dont wanna sound like really mean. but she should get over it. They are obviously not true friends. and if theyre ditching her because shes actually SMART and doesnt do that stupid stuff, then she should find people who are better... like you.
If they`re ditching her, why dont you try to get her to hang out with your new group of friends. you became friends wit them when your friends did pot. so cant you include her? school is only 6 - 7 hours. theres 18 hours left of the day. invite her over and hang out ya know?
Not all friends are gonna be there forever. If you find ONE good friend your lucky.
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What exactly is a tease ? Like if someone calls you a tease. What does it exactly mean ? (I know kind of stupid question). But thanks for people who answer this nicely (link)
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when you flirt with guys and then when they respond to it ur like. uhm no.
haha. like if you were flirting with someone and then they acted like they liked you, or asked you out. you said no. and then ignored them.
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Ok i am a 15 yr. old female who loves to be active. I usually run cross country but i decided that i would take a year off. But i have realized that i am gaining a little bit of weight and i don't like that. I am used to being quite thin. I play soccer and i would like to improve my skills there. But going out and playing soccer all day isn't going to cut it. I also have a short attention span. I do 250 crunches/situps every night. What would be an appropriate workout for me to do everyday. Something else i need to keep in mind is i have to work part time. (link)
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Since your body is used to running try jogging every morning and go to a gym or jump on a trampoline, siwm. Theres tons of things you can do to keep active and stay thin.
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I've look this song up on the internet but I can't find it maybe its cause I ain't got enough information on it? I'm going to try to give you enough information on it..Its a rap song and at the beginning its got kids singin this.. does you chin(or something like that) wobble to the floor.. thats the only part i know.. do you know what it is? Thanks soo much! (link)
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Chain Hang Low - Jibbs
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can you listen to ipods in tanning beds ? (link)
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I know tons of people who bring their IPods with them to the tanning beds, but some of them say that its better to leave it on a table or something so that the IPod doesnt overheat.
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im 13 and i dont know if this is normal or not you see my penis kinda leans to the right but i dont know if its normal or not and if it is wont a gurl think its wierd (link)
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Well im kinda the same age as you, and a girl, and I cant believe of answering this question but I have a few guys here who say theres all curve slightly too and that its normal and Im pretty sure its not weird... =]
**ughh btw this is sooo worth a 5 since i answered a very awkward qustion =]**
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Okay I will try and keep this as short as I can, but there's a lot to tell. First of I am a 25/F and I have this ongoing issue with a guy at work. I am older than him and a bit higher than him on the heirarchy of positions but not technically his boss. Anyhow there has been some flirting back and forth, so I think anyway, we are both very discreet so it's really hard to figure out what the true intentions are. He is so confusing, I have never had this problem figuring out a guy's motives. Maybe I should just list of the things he has done and said I think that would be easier. Besides finding him staring at me and the long gazes between us, he has found ways of touching me, from the shoulder, forearm to the small of my back. He has ran his hand through my hair more than once and his sideways hugs have turned into full frontals and really tight bear hugs. If I have a new bracelet on he holds my hand with both of his and inspects it for what seems like forever. He has held my hand randomly at numerous times. He will walk by and say my name and then some comment about how I am his favorite or his best friend there or more recently that I was sexy. He also every once and awhile makes sexual jokes that come off as invitations, and my replies have started to be something like don't tempt me. However for all these signals he is sending he can act very aloof and somewhat ignore me. He drives me crazy but we are friends and I don't want to screw anything up or lose us our jobs. I also found out that he's seeing this girl that he's apparently all about but he keeps it very secret and when people say anything about him having a girlfriend he replies that he doesn't have one and that he's a pimp. So that makes me think he is a player and I shouldn't waste my time. But when he's not in front of other people and just with me he relaxes and seems totally different. Also if he's all about this girl then why does he mess with me? Does he really like me or am I just something to play with while he is at work? I don't see him act like he does with me with anyone else so I just don't know what to think. I really like him but I feel like maybe I shouldn't and I am just setting myself up to be hurt. I hope I made some sense here and any help would be appreciated. (link)
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Well its really complicated so Im not sure what to tell you. Based on what you said hes definitely flirting with you and it sounds like he likes you. And if you like him then maybe you should tell him and try to start something. If he doesnt have a girlfriend already youll be able to tell... cant tell you how but its this sense all females have =]
Some guys say hes a PIMP as a joke. Like oo I hook up with girls at bars cause Im single so im a PIMP. does that make sense?
I dont think youll lose your job, cause you said you guys were really discreet, which should help you.
I know that me and my guy friends flirt and they say stuff like that to me all the time, but kiddingly. But then again, we`re teenagers, and your adults. It sounds like he likes you, but I would talk to him about it first. Like next time he makes a sex joke go with it. Drag it on to make it sound like your interested and see what his reaction is. Just remember that in a work setting, and a friendship deal, it can get ruined when its over.
Im sorry I was all over the place, hope I helped.
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My legs are really thin, but I have streach marks at the very top. Nobody can see them but me. But they still really bother me. And I told my mom, and asked her if I could get some cream stuff, and she said no. What should I do?
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I cant believe she wouldnt help you out. Next time you get a few dollars go to a local drugstore or mall and buy some cocoa butter. I know it works cause my Aunt used it when she was pregnant. Stretch marks are normal though and since everyone gets them where the skin is growing then I wouldnt worry about it. Especially if nobody can see it
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yeah, this might be long, and from my viewpoint its pretty confusing so leave now if you want...
okay, im a sixteen year old male to begin with, and ever since i can remember, ive had five best friends (and i mean BEST, these five people mean more to me than anything else in this world). these five friends consist of four girls and one guy (the guy has nothing to do with this so you can forget him). Well, the problem is that near the end of last year, the girls all started fighting with eachother, even though theyd all been the best of friends since forever. the group ended up split apart, with two girls on one side, two girls on the other, and me and my guy friend stuck in the middle while still being best friends with both sides....so here comes the complicating part...for the whole time i can remember, ive really liked one of my friends (lets call her girl 1). well, girl 1 has always acted like she doesnt want to be more then friends with me. so now one the girls from the other group (girl 2), has told me that she likes me...so i asked her out and weve been going out for a month now. well, ever since i asked out girl 2, girl 1 hasnt spoken to me at all (by the way, the two groups of girls hate eachother a LOT)...so ive been trying to find out why girl 1 hasnt been talking to me...and it turns out that girl 1 really likes me....which sucks because im already going out with girl 2....i want to talk to girl 1 again because i love her to death, but i dont know how to do that...she wont answer her phone when i call, ive sent her emails, text messages, and even stuff through myspace...im about to just go to her house and show up with some flowers or something to show her that i still love her to death, and that the only reason that i didnt choose her is because she acted like she didnt like me....but im afraid that my girlfriend (girl 2) will find out and be mad at me for somewhat obsessing over getting my friend back....what should i do? any help is appreciated... (link)
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You just found out that the girl youve liked for like ever likes you. I think you should break up with girl 2 and try to start something with girl 1. But have one of your other friends make sure she really likes you, and isnt just trying to break you and 2 up because she hates her. If your in the middle all the time you should tell both groups that it sucks, that you all used to be friends and just because they cant get over something doesnt mean they should ditch you because you have ties with both.
If 1 really does like you, and youve liked her for that long. Go with it, and tell 2 that you like her but as friends, and youve always liked girl 1. Shell prolly be hurt, but if shes a TRUE friend, then shell undrstand and want you to be happy. Or maybe not, since its the girl she hates, and if thats the case then shes not a good friend.
well I hope it made sense.. good luck
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what are the signs of being in love with a boy??? (i'm female of course)sorry its schort but that's all i need to know...thanks! (link)
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Uhm... If your in love youll know it, and you wouldnt have to ask what it is youd just know. Its when you feel special around this guy, like hes the best thing in the world. He makes you feel likee your floating and you never wanna leave his side. You feel different about him than you have with anyone else, and you cant describe the feeling. Like, I cant even try to describe it to you. Its like fireworks, or... idk. But when you get it youll know babe.
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ok i have friends of mine that i grew up with and knew my entire life they soo sweet and innocent and everything and they were my best friends.. but now they are doing stuff that they would normally not do like one smokes pot now which is not like her.. and another one of my friends that i grew up with is not her self she drinks now to the point that she vomits and thats also not like her and all of this just recently started like a week before school ended.. i dont know what to do i thought that i would be friends wit them forever but i guess not.. and i use to chill wit them a lot but now we just act like strangers i still talk to one of them but the other one were not even really friends n e more. also this makes it harder because the one that smokes doesnt know i know she smokes so what should i do? (link)
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Sometimes people change for the better and for the worse. You cant stop it you know? But the things they're doing are wrong. They used to be your best friends, So you should talk to them about it.
Let the one who smokes know you know. Tell her that what shes doing is wrong and it can really hurt her. Make sure she knows your trying to be a good friend and warn her, and that you cant stop her from doing it but you wish she would listen to you and stop.
The one that drinks, tell her she cant get alcohol poisoning and die if she keeps drinking that much. Puking everytime she drinks is really bad, and it can affect her in the future too. Not to mention it also kills brain cells. Let her know you were best friends and your looking out for her.
You cant make them stop, but if they see how much they mean to you, and that you want whats best for them, they might try to change a little bit.
Good Luck
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I'm a female 16yrs old:
Hey I am going threw a horrible brake up and I had this dream. I believe that dreams mean alot. I always have a dream that hints to whats going to happen, but I cant figure this one out.
In the dream I was listen to my brother and x talking on the phone, I was using the phone in my room and my brother was in his. As I listened I felt very sad and was breathing heavy but away from the phone so they wouldnt hear. My x was inviting my brother to go on a trip, my brother said ok I think. Finally I went into my brothers room and asked What happened what he say? what happened? Then he said Oh I'm going and tia(thats out aunt incase you odnt know spanish) can come too. My mom was also in the room. Oh and my brother was hiding under the covers if that means anything.
Please help, do you know what this dream could mean?!? (link)
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Im not a dream expert... but some people just have random dreams when they are going through a hard time in their life. It might not mean anything at all, just that your going through some things, and you were thinking about a lot of random stuff, and it showed up in your dreams.
I have heard from a lot of people that dreams and things you secretly wish to happen.
hope i helped
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lately ive just been so FED UP with my appearance i hate looking in the mirror because its not what i want to see =( everyone else is so much prettier than me or thats what i think. my hair bugs me it never stays right i wish i was tanner i wish i was everything else..
i know im not DEPRESSED or i dont think so but maybe just jealous of every other girl. and i really like this kid but he has a girlfriend and it kills me everytime i hear her name because i know that i cant have him
also my parents have been telling me that i need to go do other things rather than come home go on the computer go to my cousins (my best friends house) and then when i get home get back on the computer! they are telling me i need to get out of the house and go with my other friends but the only problem is i dont have many OTHER close friends i can hangout with..
my life just seems to be going completely wrong.
ahh! what do i do? i cant live like this anymore.. (link)
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Hun, there is beauty in ever imperfection and ever insecurity. Just because you dont like your hair, doesnt mean someone else doesnt. If you wake up and your hairs a mess, then go with it. People will respect the fact that you are confident and dont care what others think, even if you do. Wanting to be like other people isnt healthy. You should respect yourself and what you look like. And know that you are pretty whether other people are willing to admit it or not. I`m not the most gorgeous girl in the world, but I wake up every morning, look in the mirror, and come up with one thing that looks ok. And it starts off the day good, and I feel good about myself. And that makes others look at you a different way too.
Start talking to more people you meet, or go to a local hangout and start talking to people you know from classes and stuff. That way you can make new friends and hang out with them. Or you can just do things outside by yourself like jog, or walk, and stuff like that. That can help you get tanner too =]. haha. Or you can take up a new hobby, join a camp. Stuff like that.
I know exactly how you feel, my life was like that too. I wanted to be skinnier, tanner, prettier. I even started getting drastic by dying my hair and all this other stuff cause I thought it would help. But I realized I`m fine how I am. And if other people cant appreciate that then fuck them! Learning to accept every part of yourself is the epitomy of courage.
If you ever wanna talk
AIM - loca1 x cel3b
yahoo - x3candiigurrrl
hope i helped babe
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i think i like a gay guy. i would ask him out if only he wasn't gay. hes cute but wears the same tight jeans that look like he got them out of the womens department everyday. i have no idea why he would wear that in the summer anyway. also with that outfit, he would wear a black shirt, black sneakers, volcom cap, and checkered belt. also only on one day he wore a different outfit. it was a marun (however you spell it, and if u don't no what i put, its that dark red and purplish color) shirt, plaid shorts, same belt and hat, and green sneakers. it looks like he took a pair of shorts out of my dad's closet. i don't know if hes gay or if he just doesn't have style. what do u think? and also i would like him if he wasn't "gay" and had better style. what should i do? thanks-♥ (link)
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Ugh your really stereotypical. Grow up and give up with the stupid labels. Just because he dresses like that doesnt mean hes gay. Maybe he just likes to dress that way. And if you like him then go with it. You shallow little girl. Just because you think he has no style doesnt mean you should ditch him like that. Go ahead and rate me a 1... ur pathetic
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