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Q: this girl i like is popping by just to visit me in a bit. im only gonna see her for a few minutes. truth is im really falling for her and i dont know what to do. alot of the times i find we just have alot of awkward silence, like tehre is nothign to do and absolutly nothing to talk about. i really like her, and she likes me somewhat. i dont think she would say yes if i asked her out, because she doesnt do the whole commitment thing but that doesnt mean she wont hook up with me. so what should i do, she'll be here soon, and we will only have a short amount of time together. what can i say to get her into a romantic type of feeling maybe so we can make out or somthing. because honestly, i dont know what there is to talk about anymore, we've talke forever about almost everything. and i really like her.

Do you really like her or do you just want to hook up with her? Just...try not to make it look to obvious that you wanna hook up with her. Try like listening to music with her and just tell her how great she's looking and well... i'm not to sure because i've never tried to get a girl to hookup with me before sooo... just like complamint her alot :) hope i helped a littlee insy bit.

Good Luck

Q: for school i have to write about an event that "broke down a wall" for racism meaning something that like opened new doors and stuff? i can't think of anything! does anyone have ideas?

yea i like the martin luther king jr. speech alot to but i did a report similar report to that on the bus boycott of 1955. i thought it was really interesting and i found a great movie (fiction) that helped me really get into it and understand it... its called "The Long Walk Home" it was made in 1990 & released in March 1991.. and it stars Woopie Goldburg && Sissy Spacek...

hope i helped!

Q: well,my b/f and i have been going out for 6 weeks.my b/f's birthday is in less than 4 weeks time and im not sure if i should get him a present.we will be going out for 10 weeks then and i think we will still be together because we love each other.what should i get him?should i get him something?what do you think?13/f,xxaoifexxx

think of something fun and original! make him a cd with songs that remind you of him instead of buying him one! make it specail!

Q: So my boyfriend is almost positive he got genital herpes from an ex-girlfriend. However, he hasn't been tested and he hasn't had an outbreak. We've been having sex, intercourse and oral, protected and occasionally unprotected. I'm wondering what my possible chances of catching or having caught herpes are. Thanks in advance.

whoa chicana.... get tested ASAP... how could he not have gotten himself tested... how could you have sex with him KNOWING he could and hasnt tested. Honey... go to a clinic.. herpes are not curable. EVER. think about the consequences of your actions a little more closly.

Q: I had sex for the first time 2 nights ago. i wasnt in pain that night, but i was the morning after. im okay today, but i was wondering if there was a certain amount of days you should wait before doing it again?

eh no there really isnt any specfic # of days... it's gonna feel like the first time, everytime, for a little while at first. if i were you i wouldnt wait long times in between so you can get used to it.

Q: How do i know when i am cumming? Or having an orgasim

this is hard to answer because your body isn't like mine... or anyone elses we're all different! but in my experience... you just KNOW! you didnt mention if you were sexually active but if you are maybe you should try masterbating... it will help you get in tune with your body and you will defintly have one! boys aren't always reliable :)

Q: over spring break i hooked up with this guy. i know him and everything but i am curious. ok like we started makin out, then it lead to hand job and fingering. then like he cam. then like we started to have sex AFTER he cam. there was still some on his dick and all tho, is that normal or is there any chance i might get pregnant from that?? i mean i know i shouldnt worry about it until my period comes around, but i cant stop thinkin about it!

of course you can get preg. if you don't know these facts you should read up on them or visit a free clinic in your area. other then being preg. there are STDS (100's of em) floatin around out there and honey they will find you! so i'd get checked and tested but in the mean time, the worry sucks about not knowing... use protection!

Q: OK so I've been dating this guy for a year and I'm totally crazy about him but I'm his first girlfriend and I've dated 2 guys in the past. One of them I dated on and off for almost 2 1/2 years and we are still really good friends. I've only kissed my bf, not like madeout or ne thing but my old b/f and me made out a bunch of times. My best friend thinks I am being dishonest by not telling my new bf about what me and my x have done but he's never asked and it's never been a problem so I don't see why he needs know. Question: am I being dishonest and does my new bf have the right to know or should I leave it because it's in the past?

you're not being dishonest. I mean if he hasn't asked then maybe he doesnt WANT to know about your past things... just concentrate on the future... you seem so young to be so serious babe!

Q: theres this one boy, eddie. We're best friends, and i'm in love with him(but he doesn't know). today, me, him, and two other friends were all together, and one of them asked him if he thought my other friend, kim, was hot. he kind of blushed, and he didnt really say yeah but he didnt deny it either. and then she was like, so you do? and he kinda said yeah.
but he kinda acts like he likes me. he sits next to me whenever he gets the chance, and he's really nice to me. when there are a whole group of us, me and him always end up walking behind the rest, talking to eachother.

does the fact that he thinks my friend is hot mean that he can't like me? does he sound like he might?

boy best friends are very complicated. There is a huge possibility that he does like you, and while a boy likes you he still has opinions on other girls OR he likes you when he's around, but okay.. lets put it this way... he wants his cake and to eat it to. EXAMPLE.. "Kim" is his cake. he wants to be able to have it but "U" are the eating it part.

Also... sometimes when you like someone it's easy to read more into their feelings because you want it to be there.

But like i said, there is a very thin/complicated lines between boy bestfriends and girls. They're your best friend, so its easy to fall in love with them, and the fact that they're a boy lets there be the sexual side into it. because think about it, if your best friend was a girl she'd be everythng you looked for in a guy BUT not attracted physically too.. thats why boy bestfriends are complicated.

hope i helped. i was in a VERY similiar situation.

Q: i have my boy friends myspace password. i accidently signed on his and saw that he had a new message. i read it. it was him and this girl have cyber sex. i know i shouldnt have been reading his messages because that is personal. but do i have a right to be mad at him? and what should i so about it?

I know how hard it is NOT to use your b/f's password for myspace when you have it. Curiosity usually wins so you're normal...we've all done it. While it's true, you shouldn't have been reading his messages, something in your mind told you that you couldn't trust him and that's why you looked... and you had good reason to, but yes you have every right to be mad at him! Cyber-Sex is just disgusting first of all, that's how petofiles *Spelling?* are made! Second... hes YOUR boyfriend. Not that other girls... she doesn't get the privlage of having his sexual attention. PERIOD. it's yours. I would confront him about it, who cares if you were in the wrong for looking at his myspace? he's only going to get pissed because of what you found not because you snooped. Hope I helped!

Q: Do pink and black go good together?

great together

Q: Hi. In my history class we're working around propaganda, and so we had to pick an issue in the world right now and make an ad about it. I picked the Iraq war. Naturally, an ad either paints half-truths or goes in for emotions, but I cant think of WHAT to advertise for, really...soldiers? money for the war? What exactly? I want it to be unique and not boring and stuff. Any ideas, anyone? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

advertise for money to bring the soldiers home to visit family, or to take family to them!

Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for about 2 years now and im really upset tonight because he promised me he wasnt gonna go somewhere because todays our anniversary but then when he got here he told me he had to go and he couldnt help it. we got in a big fight before he left. i just had surgery and he wasnt able to be there because of his dad and this weeks been terrible. anyway we had a big fight and he said he was just gonna go so i could sleep and not be angry at him. and i havent talked to him since then and that was several hours ago and he said hed be back before then. i guess i dont really have a question, i just need someone to tell me something idk if anyone wants to talk on aim please leave me ur sn

sounds like me and my bf a little. we've been together almost 2 years. he used to do that stuff on our annaversiry too. but he doesnt anymore, i talked to him and i told him how much it hurt me because those days were special.

i think you need to have a talk with your boyfriend because 1.you just had surgery, unless his parents are making him do something he should be there with you and 2. ITS YOUR DAY! you know?

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Miss Courtney ox

Q: Hi.I just have a general question. I have gone to a doctor for over a year just for things like when I had a cold and I have acne so for prescriptions for that and also skin rash medication and that kind of thing. A few months ago I had to go to the DR regarding a female thing and he suggested that I got to Health & Community Services because it's run by woman and I might be more comfortable getting treated there so he gave me the number. So after that I decided that I would like to get on the pill but I would rather see a woman doctor for that type of stuff so I looked though the newspaper and found a woman doctor that was taking new patients and went to her for them. So basically my question is..should I just now go to the woman doctor regarding everything? They are both really nice but I would rather have a female to discuss female problems with and get pap tests done . If I should ever become pregnant I guess I'd go to the female dr..?? I like them both but I don't know if I should only go to 1 now? They are both GP's. I am from a small town so when I lived home we just went to the local hospital and whatever dr was there at the time treated us so I don't really know if I should only go to 1 or not..:S

Anyways does anyone have an opinion? What do you do?

Thanks :)

personally i stuck with my family dr. lol the one who even dilivered me! i thought i would be more comfortiable with a woman dr. but the more i thought about it, shes a stranger! i was comforitable with my normal dr even though he is a male. i dont think i could get a pap smear by a stranger.

Q: Umm this is kind of hard to ask but... why does it feel like I'm peeing razor blades? I heard this could be either connected to a bladder infection or an STD. I've never really had sex except with these guys that kind of dress up like girls, because I heard you can get STD's from having sex with women. But you can't get STD's from anal/oral sex right? Well what I'm trying to say is does anyone know what I can do to make the pain go away, short of chopping off my own penis with a butcher's cleaver. 13/m if that helps.

oh yes you can get STDs from anal AND oral sex! it could be a bladder infection, but males rarley get them. you need to get to the dr. ASAP and read up on STD's because you can get them from both things you've listed. i advise you google it and look it up.

Q: Alright there is this girl i really like her she is funny and beautiful and all that good stuff but i don't know if she likes me to. Well i want to know what is the best way to go on about this.

do you ever talk to her at all? ease into it. talk to her in class, like ask her what kind of movies she likes and if she says comedy be like "theres this new movie "TITLE" and ive been dying to see it, do you wanna do?" or maybe if shes into bands, see if there are any local bands playing and invite her to come along with you.

Q: you are really pretty. just thought you might like to know.. lol.

thank you so much

Q: OK my hair doesnt hold ANYTHING from curls to color. Is there any way that I can make my color last longer (its the most permanent thing out there and it washes out in 3 washes, maybe 4) and my hair goes gross from curls within like an hour and a half. If I straighten it, its only nice and striaght for 2 hours. Is there any way I can make these things last longer in my hair? THANKS!

when you have curls there is a GREAT curling iron from Revolon, its GOLD plated and spirled down the center. and when you use a straightener make sure its GOLD. anything other than GOLD plated, will not really work.

Q: I'm a 13-year-old girl and I always want to have sex...I just get this feeling a lot "down there" and it feels really good. I think about it a lot. I know that 13 is WAY too young to be having sex and I would never ever do it until I'm married, but I feel really guilty for getting like this. Am I way too young to be feeling like this? Am I way too young to even be thinking about this? Is there anything I can do about it without intercouse?

13 is to young to have sex, i dont think you would be ready for everything that comes along with it. but you are perfectly normal for feeling like this, it's not just you. all girls do. its natural and there isnt much you can do to stop it from happening. you are not to young to be thinking about this and of course there is something you can do about it. have you ever heard of masterbation? If you haven't, you should google it.

*i think its awesome you want to wait until marrige because trust me sex is NOT worth it so take your time!

Q: Okay so im a sophmore and my best friend is a Senior. Ive been noticing lately that everytime i tell her that i like a guy or that i think this guy is cute she always seems to like flirt with them in front of my face. For an example there is this new guy at our school and hes really hot so i told her that i thought he was cute and they sit at the same lunch table so she always tells me these stories and she sent me their conversation trying to make me jealous. If shes suppose to be my best friend why does she do this? Or am i just being paranoid but if im just being paranoid then i dont know bc I seem to feel this way a lot. Please help me i'll rate

she doesnt sound like a best friend at all. from the way it sounds it does sound like she is doing this on purpose. but maybe, she might just be jealous of you? But even if that is the case, its not right for her to flaunt that in front of you. Before you just stop being her friend, sit down and talk to her about this. if it doesnt get any better, then maybe shes just better off as a friend instead of a best friend.