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my best friend
Okay so im a sophmore and my best friend is a Senior. Ive been noticing lately that everytime i tell her that i like a guy or that i think this guy is cute she always seems to like flirt with them in front of my face. For an example there is this new guy at our school and hes really hot so i told her that i thought he was cute and they sit at the same lunch table so she always tells me these stories and she sent me their conversation trying to make me jealous. If shes suppose to be my best friend why does she do this? Or am i just being paranoid but if im just being paranoid then i dont know bc I seem to feel this way a lot. Please help me i'll rate
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ok look all you have to do is talk to the girl ask her why she does that and tell her you dont like it . if she keeps doing it than dont tell her who you like and ditch her
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I have a friend that does this too, all you need to do is talk to her. Explain what you're feeling, it may just be a misunderstanding. She has no right to do that. But if she continues to do it, she is not a real friend. Good luck!!
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She's immature and has to be jealous of every guy you like. She doesn't sound like much of a best friend, maybe it's time you found a new one. That, or don't tell her when you like a guy. That should be amusing. Mess with her head and stuff.
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Hi There,
It sounds as if you're really fed up because this sort of thing keeps happening to you. So, how can you stop it?
Well, you probably need to learn to be a bit more assertive. This will mean calmly standing up for yourself. It seems at the moment that you let people change arrangements and that you feel powerless to stop this, but then feel hugely angry afterwards. The trick is to put your case firmly long before it gets to this stage.
In this situation, I think you might have more success if, when a friend muscles in. In other words, you need to be calm and clear about what you want. It's not easy, but once you learn how to do this, it will help you not only with friends, but in jobs and relationships too.
To get you going though, here are two hints to start you off on that assertive road:
Speak up for yourself sooner rather than later
Express yourself by using the word 'I' not 'You'
We tend to use 'you' when we're getting angry. This does not sound calm and assertive.
It takes practice to stand up for yourself calmly and firmly in this way. But it's well worth the effort to learn how to do it.
Goodluck
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she doesnt sound like a best friend at all. from the way it sounds it does sound like she is doing this on purpose. but maybe, she might just be jealous of you? But even if that is the case, its not right for her to flaunt that in front of you. Before you just stop being her friend, sit down and talk to her about this. if it doesnt get any better, then maybe shes just better off as a friend instead of a best friend.
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Ok, i've had a few good friends do this same thing to me over the years.
Usually their motives are different. Sometimes they just want to flat out make you jealous, sometimes they want to see if they can get the boy to like them before they like you, sometimes they do it and dont realize it(which is hardly ever the case).
She could very well be jealous of you.
Girls are weird in highschool..and they usually arent that faithful to each other.
I suggest that you talk to her. Dont let her give you the "i didnt know i was flirting" excuse..because she does know.
Tell her how you feel..and ask her to stop..and if she doesnt..dump the broad. If she cant simply back away from the boys you like, than she isnt worth it.
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It looks to me like your friend just gets very excited when she finds out who you like. She's happy for you. When she sends conversations to you she isn't trying to make you feel jealous, she thinks that hearing what guys that you like say would make you happy. She's trying to be a good friend, by accepting the guys that you like and liking them too, but not in the same way at all. She wants to be involved in your life and one of the ways she does this is by being pals with guys that you like. If it really bothers you though, just tell her how you feel. I believe that you two are just confused and this can easily be worked out if it even has to be. Good luck with your friend, and don't worry, you're not paranoid, you're just not talking to your friend enough!
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