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Two-Sided Love
yeah, this might be long, and from my viewpoint its pretty confusing so leave now if you want...
okay, im a sixteen year old male to begin with, and ever since i can remember, ive had five best friends (and i mean BEST, these five people mean more to me than anything else in this world). these five friends consist of four girls and one guy (the guy has nothing to do with this so you can forget him). Well, the problem is that near the end of last year, the girls all started fighting with eachother, even though theyd all been the best of friends since forever. the group ended up split apart, with two girls on one side, two girls on the other, and me and my guy friend stuck in the middle while still being best friends with both sides....so here comes the complicating part...for the whole time i can remember, ive really liked one of my friends (lets call her girl 1). well, girl 1 has always acted like she doesnt want to be more then friends with me. so now one the girls from the other group (girl 2), has told me that she likes me...so i asked her out and weve been going out for a month now. well, ever since i asked out girl 2, girl 1 hasnt spoken to me at all (by the way, the two groups of girls hate eachother a LOT)...so ive been trying to find out why girl 1 hasnt been talking to me...and it turns out that girl 1 really likes me....which sucks because im already going out with girl 2....i want to talk to girl 1 again because i love her to death, but i dont know how to do that...she wont answer her phone when i call, ive sent her emails, text messages, and even stuff through myspace...im about to just go to her house and show up with some flowers or something to show her that i still love her to death, and that the only reason that i didnt choose her is because she acted like she didnt like me....but im afraid that my girlfriend (girl 2) will find out and be mad at me for somewhat obsessing over getting my friend back....what should i do? any help is appreciated...
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ok heres the thing you want to be friends again your girlfriend has no rite t obe mad at you for that. So go ahead and do that thing you said you wee going to do.thats happened to me and now the guy i liked is my boyfriend and if you still like her and she still liokes you then wait a lil while and find a reason to break up with ur girl friend. then wait like a weak to go out with the other one and wait before you tell anyone if you dont want your old girlfriend to get mad at you. Thats all i can say. So write back and tell me how u did and if i helped. Signed Speedy0301 goodluck !!**
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Wow that was hard to keep track of. i'm sorry but i don't think i can make the answer as long as the question. ok so if we were just talking about friends here you know it would be cool because ofcourse you could be friends w/ girls from different "cliques" but it's not. and you can't date girls from different "cliques". actually it's immoral to date more than one girl wether there in the same "clique" or not. first off let me tell you it's kinda wrong to date someone when you like someone else anyway. you should probably tell girl 2 because that isn't fair to her. And girl 1 (no offense to the girl you ove to death but...) she's being kind of pathetic. She never forbid you from going out w/ girl 2 and she never said she liked you. she shouldn't be mad at you. if you still like girl 1 go for it (that is if not actually liking her already dimminished your chances with girl 2). The flower thing sounded good but you better act before this turns into "John Tucker Must Die".
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That's a bad situation.
I would say break it off with girl 2 ASAP because she's the one whose going to end up hurt. If you don't feel the same way about her, just be honest.
And wait a while before you start going out with girl 1 too to spare girl 2's feelings.
By the way, it seems like such a shame that your group broke up. It's a little off topic, but have you tried patching up things between them? Sometimes high school can get intense and you need a third party to look at it.
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I have to agree with Kevin. Don't date girl number 2 if you have feelings for another girl.
It really isn't fair to her and she is a friend.
You may not be taking it as seriously as she is and her feelings will grow stronger every time you
are with her. So end it now before she gets hurt even worse.
After you break up if you immediately start dating girl 1 girl 2 is going to come unglued. Be prepared for that. She will be mad at you I'm sure. It can't really be helped. :)
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well....no pain no gain...if you REALLY LOVE that gurl 1 ...you'll have to do anything to staisfy her what so ever...but remember..you're just doin it for HER OWWWWNNN SAKE...and that's wut proves you love her...you just have to stop dating the other two gurls and GO FOR IT MAAAN!!or else you just think you love her but u actually dont
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This is the toughest question I've ever answered on this website. And I've answered quite a few if you look at the bottom of my page. You have to ask yourself:Am I only going out with Girl 2 because Girl 1 is being stupid or do I really like her? If you don't like Girl 2 as more than a friend, break it off regardless of what Girl 1 thinks. Don't have Girl 2 as a gf if you don't honestly like her that way. Girl 1 sounds really confused about shit. But when you say she has always acted like she didn't want you, did yall ever actually talk about that? Or did you just assume? Go for the girl you truly like and if it doesn't work out with either, then it doesn't. No big deal and move on. Hope I helped ya, man.
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Dear,stuck You have a very complicated problem and i'll try to give to a whirl. Ok so you mentioned you pretty much only asked girl 2 out because she liked you..it sounds like girl 1 was really jelous of girl 2..i think that it was a good idea to try and go make mends with girl 1..but if you truly want to try to get together with girl 1 i would talk to girl 2 about that first. Your friendship seems like it was really good at first..but somethings change and you have to accept it..maybe they have indivual problems too girls are weired like that. Your friend, Violet
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first off you need to sort out your feelings for both girls...then you need to talk to your girlfreind first,tell her that you realized that you like her alot but only as a FREIND,its painful for her but you have to tell her sooner cuz if you dont shell still be having hope that you like her and then you tell her later on when shes like in love with you and this way youll bring her down like hell and youll even lose her as a freind....imajine THAT happened to you! as for girl 2(the one you love) go to her house(like you said) itll be so CUTE and bring some roses and tell her how you really feel and that you liked her all along and would have asked to be her boyfreind if you knew she liked you, but she wasnt giving any signs of liking you.
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You just found out that the girl youve liked for like ever likes you. I think you should break up with girl 2 and try to start something with girl 1. But have one of your other friends make sure she really likes you, and isnt just trying to break you and 2 up because she hates her. If your in the middle all the time you should tell both groups that it sucks, that you all used to be friends and just because they cant get over something doesnt mean they should ditch you because you have ties with both.
If 1 really does like you, and youve liked her for that long. Go with it, and tell 2 that you like her but as friends, and youve always liked girl 1. Shell prolly be hurt, but if shes a TRUE friend, then shell undrstand and want you to be happy. Or maybe not, since its the girl she hates, and if thats the case then shes not a good friend.
well I hope it made sense.. good luck
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