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E-mail: Kakashi_hero_narutofan@hotmail.com
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Age: 18
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ok, this is prob going to be very long and it might be a little confujsing but i'll try to explain it as best as i can. so in 3rd grade i met this girl, lets call her lisa, and we became totally inseperable. but in 7th grade she pretty much ditched me for these other group of friends, so i became best friends with this other girl, lets call her rachel. so after a while lisa kind of lost touch with the other group of friends so she came running back to me and we started being best friends again (waht can i say i was young and stupid and let people manipulate me). so i was kind of caught between two people, lisa and rachel, because they really didn't like each other. and it was really hard for me cuz i didn't want either of them to be mad at me so if lisa was trash talking rachel i'd trash talk rachel with her and if rachel trash talked lisa id trash talk lisa with her. i was basically working 2 sides to please everybody because i didnt wanna become a part of their fight. so, now, in 10th grade, we are part of this group of friends consiting of me, lisa, rachel, and three other girls that we'll call emily, jamie, and heather. so for a while lisa and emily were kind of better friends and me and rachel were kind of better friends. but then lisa, emily, and rachel kept on having these private get-togethers that was just them and me, jamie, and heather felt left out so i talked to lisa about it. and she said that the reason she didn't invite jamie and heather is because they can get annoying and i kept asking lisa why i wasn't invited to these things and what my problem was but she wouldnt answer me so i got frustrated and pissed off. so the same day that that happened we had a meeting for this after school thing we do and i didnt want to go because i was really pissed off at lisa. so rachel and emily were wondering why i wasnt going so lisa tells them this totally wrong and untrue story abotu how im really jealous about them hanging out together and that i think their not allowed to do anything without me, and that was NOT what happened she definitely stretched the truth. so rachel got really annoyed with me and just stopped talking to me altogether and when i asked her why she wasnt talking to me she said it was because i was annoying about that whole thing and that the reason i wasn't invited to their get-togethers is because they think im uptight and all they wanna do is have fun. and that really upset me because basically she just told me that they think i ruin their fun. so now theyre all three best friends (lisa, rachel, and emily) and they rub it in my face by putting inside jokes and stuff in their profiles and always saying how much fun they have together and how much they love each other. and they really dont get how miserable their making me like ive considered killing myself because obviously i mean nothing to them anymore. and i just dont know what to do because they are making me so upset and i just want them totally out of my life but i see them every day in school because i have classes with them and i just want to move and start fresh with new friends but i cant do that and i just dont know what to do. a part of me is saying that im really really sad and that i should just apologize and explain to rachel that lisa stretched the truth, but another part of me is saying that i dont deserve to be friends with such backstabbers. i really dont know what to do. help!!!!!! (link)
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Dear, Friend trouble
FOR HEAVENS SAKE DON"T KILL YOURSELF! Things like this happen quite often I hate to admit it but it's true. Here's my advice. Just don't worry about them. Find new friends to hang out with. Sure you'll see them around but try to get over them although it won't be easy. You shouldn't have to explain anything to anyone. If they were really good friends then they would have known that what was said wasn't the case.
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any tips? im trying to cure myself from depression and be HAPPY. I'm trying to be positive and make the best of life. But it's sooo hard when things keep going wrong. It get harder and harder with every breath. so help me.
what can i do to keep my hopes up? what can i remind myself of to not lose faith? i need hapiness so badly. i dont wanna cry myself to sleep anymore. help anyone?? (link)
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Dear,hope
Life can be a bitch sometimes but you have to keep your chin up. Things will keep you down unless you don't let them. Remember god is in control and he will be there to take our burdens and pain. Try listening to some happy music or doing things you love.If things keep happening that are bad look at them from another point of view the old saying is true. There's a bright side to everything
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I have a huge crush and he doesnt feel the same but I really want to be closer friends anyway. He doesnt like going places where he's the only guy so it has to be a group thing. What do you think we should do? I always thought of me having a holiday party and having a sevcret santa and "secretly" giving him me.He also loves the jets so I thought a couple of friends and I could go to the game. I really want something fun that can show him that i'm a fun, cute, sweet girl. Any suggestions? (link)
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Dear,crush
Wow how that brings back memories. For startes those are great ideas lol but don't force yourself on him. I would start off going to a game like you sudjested or as far as going out to eat with a few friends. Dinner convorsations always prove most interesting.
Your friend, Violet
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Things were going GREAT with Nick until Friday afternoon. Earlier that day, he said I could sit by him at lunch since my friends weren't going to be there. I didn't actually end up sitting by him because my friends came back and forced me to be by them. But anyways, then I sat by him at the pep ralley and he said "What happened at lunch? I saved you a seat". I explained to him the story and apologized and then we just joked and laughed the whole time. I really like Nick because of his personality. Everything he says or does makes me smile or laugh. BUT after school, everything changed. Nick's friend, Will, knew that I liked Nick so he asked Nick if he'd want to go to homecoming with me. That made me really mad because I wanted Nick to ask ME. And if I was going to be the person who asked, I wanted to do it myself and not have somebody else do it for me. Well long story short, Nick said no. I have no idea why. Maybe it was because he couldn't make it or maybe it's because he doesn't like me. I really want to know! If I don't have a chance with him, I'd rather him tell me that so I can move on. It's just confusing because all of the signs point to him liking me. He flirts with me all the time! I'm not upset that he said no to me, but I'm upset because now everything is different. He completley avoided me after that and didn't talk to me like he normally would've. I just want things to go back to how they used to be =( Even if that means we are only friends! What should I do? (link)
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Dear,Help me.
Boys are strange. Someimes they want to be with us and other times they avoid us entirly. Well here's what I think. Either he's not ready for a commitment or he's just shy. He very well may like you or hes the type who thinks he can toy with your feelings. As for the whole change in attitude against you that can be very difficuly since i've had it happen to me many times.
First of all I think you should talk to Will then you should talk to Nick face to face and ask him why he's treating you diffrently. Boys can be stubborn but it's up to us girls to be accertive. If he won't listen make him it's only fair. Your friend,Violet
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I swear my mother is really hurtful I can't take her anymore. I feel so offended by what she does. WHy can't she just leave me alone. I hate her. I just feel really annoyed by her and I don't even have anyone to talk to (link)
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Dear,in pain I'm very sorry to hear that but maybe your mother is being stressed out by something going on...i wish i could be more help but i don't have much information on the subject if you wish to talk more here's my email Kakashi_hero_narutofan13@hotmail.com...good luck i'll be keeping you in my prayers.
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Im 17. My mom keeps pushing me to get a job. I want a job, because I want to get a car. But I realise that once I get a car, Ill have to pay for insurance and gas, so basically once I start working, I wont stop until Im like 60. That makes me sad because Im not ready to grow up yet. In one year Ill be an adult and Im just not ready for bills, work, college, and other big responsibilities.
Any suggestions? =[ (link)
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Dear,growing up I understand it might be scary but good things come at your own pace..just because you grow up doesn't mean you can't be a kid at heart...bills can be a pain but it's life we're all gonna grow up some time or another but that's why jobs are good training for us and siduations in life. My advice for you would be work hard at your goals no matter what they are..talk to your mother calmy about how you feel..right now your going through a very hard stage but i know you can pull through. Your friend Violet
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It helps if you read my other question first. it'll clarify a lot for you! oh, and i'm really sorry in advance- i ask a lot of questions, and some are a little stupid. :-\
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OK. Well, i finaly built up the courage to tell him i liked him. and his response was : "I'm not very good with relationships. but i wouldn't mind staying friends, maybe we could try in the future." alright. here's the thing. i've known him to be very honest. but what if he didn't mean it? are things going to be really awkward between us from now on? was this a bad thing for me to do? and another thing- what if he finally ends up liking me, but i stop liking him? will that make things even more awkward? and what do i do if it happens?
ok, that's it i guess. sorry for allllll the questions. i'm just weird like that.
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Dear,confused It natural to think this but don't feel like this guy is your whole world eaither...ok maybe that wasn't the right thing to say but anyway boys are plain confusing...as far as things being aqward to be onest i can't tell the future dear but from what your telling me i think that things may be....relationship are something people develope just try and think things through. Your friend Violet
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ok last night i woke up at about 3:30 because i heard a creaky noise and i flung up and went OMGSH!! i went to say you scared me to who i thought was my moms girlfriend and my dog but the person just turned around and looked at me like i was insane i stared at them as the faded into my door without opening it am i insane.. do i have some special power? this happened when i was like three.. i was in the bathroom potty training [ bear with me here ] && the door was open and all of the sudden a clown came out of the wall [ im not afraid of them ] and i screamed he looked at me and walked out the door and my uncle came running and looked at him or so i thought.. but i dont think he saw him .. whats wrong with me? am i just seeing this stuff and its not there do i have some power i dont know about im only 13 so it could get stronger (link)
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Dear,ghost No no your not crazy but children can have very over imaginations...i can't say much about the clown however about the ghost i think that might have been the real deal and no no one has special powers like that..just try and sort things out maybe reinact it one day to see what happens. Your friend Violet
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okay, well my birthday is in December and i will be sixteen. I want to do something fun, but dont want to spend 10,000 dollars. hah. I kinda want to do something that will bring back my childhood. like a teaparty, haha. [yeah, i'm a girl] but i can't figure out what to do. please help me!!! (link)
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Dear,sweet sixteen LOL i remember those days back when i was young too lol well anyways if yo want to do something fun yet a bit childhoody why not go bowling or have a party at your favorite pizza place or if you wanted you could defanantly just have a party at your house like you mentioned a tea party well combine it with some cool tennage stuff too. Well good luck too you happy early birthday ^^ Your friend Violet
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I'm a thirteen year old female.
Well I have a very bad problem with a friend. She thinks I am a backstabber because she thought I got mad at her for taking her old boyfriend, but I said I didn't. And she thinks im an annoying person because she said "Your like a mosquito that won't go away." I've tried talking to her, but nothing helped me. I tried telling her I won't be annoying anymore, but she didn't believe me. We have been friends since Kindergarten and then this happened....HELLLLP..please!!
-Depressed Anonymous- (link)
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Dear,depressed ah how fate led us to meet...i too have had friends like this...well lets look at the siduation..so she mad because she thinks you got mad at her for taking her old boyfriend well first of all if it was her old boy friend she shouldn't get upset cuz her and that guy are over...secondly if she thinks your annoying explain to her that all people are diffrent and that if she's really your friend that friends don't let other friends treat them as if they were nothing. Last but not least Tell her how much your friendship means to her hopefully things will brighten up,i'm wishing you luck.Your friend, Violet
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Okay, so I really really like this boy James. But he hates me. For no reason! Omg. Hes so sweet/cute/fine and I really like him. People try to convince me he likes me but I just know he doesn't. I know this sounds dumb and all but I started cutting myself just because I think my life was horrible [in my opinion] and now this to make it worse! I cant stand It but i like him so much. I want to stop cutting SO bad because its really not the right thing! Please help me with suggestions to stop! I really dont wanna ruin my life by a stupid mistake I made.
Sincerely,
Bloody Wrists. (link)
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Dear,bloody wrists First of all take a deep breath and calm down,even though this guy may not like you maybe he isn't the one for you...i would sudjest you even though it's hard to do let him go...as for your cutting it's good you've relised it isn't the right thing to do...try and think of yourself better relise it isn't your fault things turned out the way they did make sure that you talk to your friends or maybe your school councler they should be able to help you...try to keep yourself away from sharp objects for awhile and do some constructive ways to deal with pain like right down your thoughts and feelings,hang in there i know you can make it. Your friend, Violet
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I'm a professional student, and I've been wanting for a few weeks to talk to a professor because I share some intellectual interests, but I feel awkward starting the conversation because I'm not asking for anything specific. I like the person, and the person has been very good to me, but I feel like I'd be taking up the person's time and bothering the person if I go talk to the person without a specific need. I also really could use someone off of which I could bounce some career thoughts in the field, although there's no need for me to decide anything specific now. I feel somewhat intimidated by the person, although the person has a reputation for being a good advisor. How can I get a conversation started? (link)
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Dear,cat got yor tougue Stay cool go up to the person and start with a simple hi and ask them if you could ask them about smart carrer choices to pick start with that and move foward. Your friend Violet
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Since summer started, ive been at my dads a lot and stopped communicating with a lot of other people. I feel like everyone else is making connections with others and i only hang out with people that don't go to my school because therye not away or "busy" i don;t understand i feel so uneeded like in the way, am i really annoying? or are people just plain busy? (link)
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Dear,reaching out First of all you have to understand your friends have other friends so don't feel like they are just tossing you aside..i do think it's good you started making new friends that's a great start....as for feeling un needed try asaking you dad if he needs any help or spend some time with him...you can't expect everything from everybody..give people some time and see what happens. Your friend Violet
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I saw You, Me & Dupree today and it was rated PG-13. At one point in the movies, Dupree said the F word. Since when is that word allowed to be in PG-13 movies? (link)
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Dear,Dupree If you've seen bruce almighty you'd see that quite a few times too...and i have to agree with you on that but hey it's hollywood ...if you feel strongly about this write or email the director or find someone who will listen to you. Your friend Violet
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Upon reading so many other questions and having some of my own I decided to ask the guys out there specifically, (ladies you may answer as well) whether or not you can love more than one person at once. I guess you can substitute like for love as well but I am interested to see what you guys have to say about this. Obviously you can be interested in more than one person, but can you really have equal feelings for two people at the same time? So basically for you guys out there who have girlfriends and ladies who have boyfriends as well, can you love that person and still have equally strong feelings for another person who is not your current partner or is it merely a random attraction? What do you all have to say about this I am curious to find out. :) Cheers! (link)
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Dear,girl crazy You asked a good question the truth is yes you can love more than people at once and it's not wrong...that's why dating around is better than sticking to one diffrent person..there are many diffrent people out there..but somewhere the right one is out there..trust me you'll find her when the time comes. Your friend Violet
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I bought this whipcream that's in a can that has a nozzle. The first time i tried, the whipcream came out, and now it doesn't, but I have no idea why. It says if you bend the nozzle, it comes out, so I did it and last time it was perfectly fine, but this time, I can't get the whipcream to come out. Please help. (link)
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Dear,creme Try shaking it then bending the nozzle if that doesn't work go to the store and by whipcream in a plastic container. Your friend Violet
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i knew a girl about 3 years ago ,when i see her i used to say hi and that's it this year wat diffrent this at the end of this year ,,, i talked to her alot ,, it was nice ,,,, and at the end of this year i was going to ask her to give me her phone number but i couldn't coz her friends want her to saty with them so i talked to her for short time and i couldn't ask her for her phone number so i think i can get her phone number from some friends but i am just wonderning wat should i do after i get her phone number and wat she will say when she get massage or call from me wat is her responed for that i really like that girl alot so please can i get help,, and i am from libya ,,, so wat should i do ? (link)
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Dear,love struck it seems what your going through is normal you just have the nerves i'd sudjest you talk to one of your friends about how you feel ...if it helps try and ask her to come over sometime take it easy ..you'll get there. Your friend Violet
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I like going to school but i'm really really really SUPER extra nervous for high school. In our school we have ALOT of people who THINK theyre better than everyone else. They push others around in the hallway, look at you funny, always act retarded to get attention and teachers love 'em they get away with everyone. Theyre just annoying! I HATTTTTTTTE it. Is there anything i can do to stop it? (link)
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Dear,peacemaker I am alot like you in the way wanting your school run..the fact of life is people are gonna be nasty and yes people are gonna think that people are lower than they are it the harsh face we all have to face.Talk to the teachers about it or gather up a rally of students you can't stop it but you can narrow it down. Your friend Violet
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ok so i really like this girl. but there is a problem, she is my friends ex. everytime im with her it feels right. we kiss and hold hands. but somedays she acts all weird, like we dont have a "thing". does it sound like she is using me to you? (link)
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Dear,stressing out It sounds as if the girl likes you...but maybe your ex has been talking to her and making her feel uncomfortable around you...try asking her about it next time she acts as if your not gf and bf. As for using you it could be a possibilty...i can't tell you much more than that.hope everything works out Your friend Violet
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Okay, so I'm best friends with this named Alex. We've been best friends for like 3 years. The problem is, ever since school ended we haven't been as close..it's not that I don't see her over the summer because I do, alot. We just have other people with us and we don't talk and be like ourselfs like we were in school. I don't think she's mad at me or anything because we rarely ever have fights and she's not the kind of person that just gets mad at people, their has to be a really good reason. Has anybody been in a situation kind of like this and know what to do and how to get closer to their best friend? (link)
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Dear,disconnected Funny thing you should ask this it's happened to me loads of times..the best advice i can give is there is no shame in being yourself outside of school go up to her and talk to her maybe invite her over even talking about small things will help trust me ^^..Maybe she's scared of what her friends will think of you too..you should talk to her about it ..take it slow find out how to bring it into one of your conversations, lotsa luck to ya. Your friend Violet
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