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Growing up
Im 17. My mom keeps pushing me to get a job. I want a job, because I want to get a car. But I realise that once I get a car, Ill have to pay for insurance and gas, so basically once I start working, I wont stop until Im like 60. That makes me sad because Im not ready to grow up yet. In one year Ill be an adult and Im just not ready for bills, work, college, and other big responsibilities.
Any suggestions? =[
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Get a job.
You'll survive.
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maybe instead of just up and changing your life style by workin alot you could slowly adapt to the pressures and stress's of a job by helping people do little jobs for a few hours a few days a week you would get a little cash and still not be totally comitted to a job
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Dear,growing up I understand it might be scary but good things come at your own pace..just because you grow up doesn't mean you can't be a kid at heart...bills can be a pain but it's life we're all gonna grow up some time or another but that's why jobs are good training for us and siduations in life. My advice for you would be work hard at your goals no matter what they are..talk to your mother calmy about how you feel..right now your going through a very hard stage but i know you can pull through. Your friend Violet
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I think youre mom is trying to prepare you for the REAL world in which you will need to actually work and sacrifice. But, I agree with you totally. Youre only 17 once. Why work when you could party?! But, people I know get jobs that dont make them work that much and they get paid! And they still have tons of time to party. Its best to avoid jobs that dont pay much much and make you work long hours. Like a supermarket or a clothing store. Its better to work at a restaurant as a hostess (you only have to work a few hours at night and at most restaurants YOU pick what days/times you want to work.) And people who work at restaurants (washing tables, making salads/desserts and hostessing) only work a few hours and then have time to go out after work. Get a fun job, like lifeguarding or working at a health spa/gym. Also, babysitting is a job that lets YOU pick when you want to work. So, thats a good job. You CAN have both a life & a job..it just takes balance. Also, try negotiating with your Mom to pay for half of something. For example, my parents bought my sister a car with insurance but she has to pay for gas + anything else extra she wants like clothes.
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Welcome to the jungle.
Here's the good news about the whole job, mortgage, responsibility thing: you get to ease into it. It doesn't usally hit you all at once.
Start by getting the job, and if you can, make it a job with at least some enjoyment value. For instance, if you're into music, try applying at record stores. Yes, you're going to lose some free time and pick up some new anxieties, but there is also a lot of satisfaction to be had in earning your own money.
Yes, you're probably going to have to work until you're well past sixty. But you won't be working at entry-level drudge jobs all your life. You can seek out work that you find interesting and even entertaining. Sure, you'll have a lot of bills to pay, but you can exercise some control over that by choosing what's important to you and avoiding the rest.
College is what you make of it. Sure, there's a lot of B.S. in the system, but there's also tremendous opportunity.
Taking charge of your own life is not as hard as it looks. There are a lot of really dumb people who do just fine (you, I perceive, are not dumb and therefore likely to do a lot better than fine). Growing up is good. It comes with chains and shackles, but you also get wings.
One piece of practical advice: Credit cards are not income, and there's a big difference between a $2000 credit limit and a $2000 bank balance. Credit card companies seem to revel in the concept of taking young adults to the cleaners. If you can start life off without a huge accumulated debt, you'll have a much better chance of making it.
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I know exactly how you feel! Im 17 and going through the same thing..being 17 is hard because we arent in the real world yet..but we are pretty damn close..and our parents are putting more on us.
My advice is to get a job and work a few hours a week..you dont need a full time job at this point of your life. if you truly want a car and if you have to pay for gas and insurance..it will take hard work to pay for it all. dont worry about the future. make this year awesome because its the last year before you are on your own! think about college and what you want to be. my future was scary to me too until i started thinkign about the future. i want to be a landlord and i want to go into real estate. im pretty excited about it so that helped me out with my nervous feelings. dont let things overwhelm you..take it one step at a time!
<33 melissa
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Maybe make a deal with your mom... you get a job if she pays half of the car or insurance. maybe that will help you ease into all the financial responsibilities. <3
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Start small,,,get a part time job and you will start feeling proud that you are paying your own way. It is a part of growing up and it scares all of us. But see it this way, if u start now, u wont be so afraid later. The longer you hold onto your momma's apron strings, the harder it is to let go. :)
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