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My Guy Friend
Ok, so I have been best friends with this boy since kindergarten. I recently switched schools and asked him out. I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt about him. He ended up saying no, and I was crushed. I haven't talked to him since. What should I do?
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You should just put your self back together, and talk to him about it. Ask him how he feels, and why he feels that way. Maybe he just doesn't have feelings for you. He probably cares about you as a friend, but maybe that's all. Think about it this way, would you rather him go out with you, but not like you like that, and make it ruin your friendship with him, or would you rather you and him just be bestfriends like you have been for your whole life. A relationship could put your friendship in the trashcan, and why risk that. Go for a guy who you have feelings for, but not a best bud.
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just talk about it with and the in a couple of days you will get over it
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Since you guys have been friends most of your lives, id really give him a call and talk to him about it. Maybe he thinks you guys are such good friends that going out may hurt you guys close friendship you have. I really hope i helped out some!! Best of Luck to you!!
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call and talk to him tell him you dont want to mess up the friendship and it would be great if yall were to talk and be friends again
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write him another email telling him you dont want to ruin your friendship over what you had asked him
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well you have to understannd that he probably feels awkward and un comfterable about the situation. if i were you i would IM him or e-mail him and say that you understand that it might creep him out that his BFF likes him. but tell him that you really want to be friends and that you truly care about him. let him know that you dont have to date and that you want to be friends.
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ah, I know exactly how you feel right now. But don't worry about it. If he said no, then it wasn't meant to be. Try to find somebody else but stay friends with him. He might come around later.
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Its okay to be crushed and heartbroken that is apart of life and of growing up. What is meant to be will be dont forget that. right now you may feel like the only person you want is him and there is nobody else in the world for you but trust me when i say that there will be others that you feel the same way about through your whole life. When you feel up to it just hold youe breth and call him or write him again and tell him that you still want to be friends. things may be a bit weird now but if you go as far back as kindergarden then i think your friendship still has a chance
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I know how it feels to be turned down by a guy friend. I have totally been in your exact same spot and got turned down. My advice is to suck it up and try to go back to being best friends. It might be weird but once you hang out a couple of times you will put this past you. Try a group thing for a little while..movies out with a group or something. Dont let this ruin the friendship.
In my situation the guy ended up asking me out a couple months later..but it ended up we were better off as friends and through everything...through me telling him how i liked him and getting turned down and through the breakup we went through we are still good friends. We are definately better off as friends. So what im saying is who knows how it will work out but definately dont let the friendship slip away.
i hope i helped out?
<33 melissa
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