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friend trouble
ok, this is prob going to be very long and it might be a little confujsing but i'll try to explain it as best as i can. so in 3rd grade i met this girl, lets call her lisa, and we became totally inseperable. but in 7th grade she pretty much ditched me for these other group of friends, so i became best friends with this other girl, lets call her rachel. so after a while lisa kind of lost touch with the other group of friends so she came running back to me and we started being best friends again (waht can i say i was young and stupid and let people manipulate me). so i was kind of caught between two people, lisa and rachel, because they really didn't like each other. and it was really hard for me cuz i didn't want either of them to be mad at me so if lisa was trash talking rachel i'd trash talk rachel with her and if rachel trash talked lisa id trash talk lisa with her. i was basically working 2 sides to please everybody because i didnt wanna become a part of their fight. so, now, in 10th grade, we are part of this group of friends consiting of me, lisa, rachel, and three other girls that we'll call emily, jamie, and heather. so for a while lisa and emily were kind of better friends and me and rachel were kind of better friends. but then lisa, emily, and rachel kept on having these private get-togethers that was just them and me, jamie, and heather felt left out so i talked to lisa about it. and she said that the reason she didn't invite jamie and heather is because they can get annoying and i kept asking lisa why i wasn't invited to these things and what my problem was but she wouldnt answer me so i got frustrated and pissed off. so the same day that that happened we had a meeting for this after school thing we do and i didnt want to go because i was really pissed off at lisa. so rachel and emily were wondering why i wasnt going so lisa tells them this totally wrong and untrue story abotu how im really jealous about them hanging out together and that i think their not allowed to do anything without me, and that was NOT what happened she definitely stretched the truth. so rachel got really annoyed with me and just stopped talking to me altogether and when i asked her why she wasnt talking to me she said it was because i was annoying about that whole thing and that the reason i wasn't invited to their get-togethers is because they think im uptight and all they wanna do is have fun. and that really upset me because basically she just told me that they think i ruin their fun. so now theyre all three best friends (lisa, rachel, and emily) and they rub it in my face by putting inside jokes and stuff in their profiles and always saying how much fun they have together and how much they love each other. and they really dont get how miserable their making me like ive considered killing myself because obviously i mean nothing to them anymore. and i just dont know what to do because they are making me so upset and i just want them totally out of my life but i see them every day in school because i have classes with them and i just want to move and start fresh with new friends but i cant do that and i just dont know what to do. a part of me is saying that im really really sad and that i should just apologize and explain to rachel that lisa stretched the truth, but another part of me is saying that i dont deserve to be friends with such backstabbers. i really dont know what to do. help!!!!!!
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Dear, Friend trouble
FOR HEAVENS SAKE DON"T KILL YOURSELF! Things like this happen quite often I hate to admit it but it's true. Here's my advice. Just don't worry about them. Find new friends to hang out with. Sure you'll see them around but try to get over them although it won't be easy. You shouldn't have to explain anything to anyone. If they were really good friends then they would have known that what was said wasn't the case.
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ok well this is a tough one. tell both girls that you both are really good friends and set a time wee you can only be with rachel or only be with llisa. but dont spend to much time with one. if the other one stars to be jelois just say that you need to know that we always be friends and if she cant acspet that you have other friends then she is a hog and you should not be friends.
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Don't be friends with Lisa. NEVER be friends with Lisa. The other girls shouldn't really affect you. If the ever decide to come around to reality & want to be your friends, let them. Just keep it normal..like saying hi's in the hallway kind of friendly...but dont get too close or there will be a chance of this happening yet again.
Sorry couldn't leave the answer as another answer. Had to delete that long fantabulous one. lol. If you need more help or such, IM me at r0ck0nl0ser
byes =]
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Ok well i think i understand ad thesse seem like a bunch of girls who will say anything about anyone they dont like and if theyre making you that upset you should not be around them if youre thinking of killing yourself they obviously dont care about you. I know its hard but just ignore them and make new friends that make YOU hpapy and people YOU care about
good luck because it seems u deserve better
kim
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