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Hey, im not going to sit here and say ive been through everything and i dont know everything and ye im only young so some of my answers could be a bit naive. Well im !5 im from England, Leeds (sunniest place on earth =]) I have an amazing set of friends that keep me alive and just love them!
ill try and do my best to give the best advice i can, as i said i dont know everything so they might be a bit limited but i hope it helps you.
Some thigns i have no idea about so i wont answer them kind of questions i wont give an answer that i feel doesnt asnwer the question well enough.
well thats it really
kim
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advice
i need a good song that basically says
im done with you you dirty scumbag
your a liar and a cheater ... etc.
but no CARRIE UNDERWOOD please
jojo too little too late is an ace boy bashing song
for when youre in that mood lol
xxx hope you like it
im 13/f
iwanna lose weight im pretty big for my age
how many sit ups should i do
how long should i stay on the tredmill (i have one at home ) and what food should i eat?
thank u
Start of with oing about 20 mins a day on your treadmill that should help a bit but not oo fast and oyu should find you can build it up as you loose more and become moe healthy.
Sit ups id say about 50 but you wont see the affects of the sit ups untill youve lost some weight because all that does is tone the muscule because you wont be able to see it for the fat.
Just eat healthily and try and cut out snacks that should help.
Good luck
hope this helps
xxx
13/f
I've been dating this guy for sometime now. It was an internet relationship, but i didnt care. He was sweet and made me feel so much better about myself in so many ways. We used to say to tell each other that we loved each other everytime we talked. But recently i he wasnt on for a while. I kept on loving him. There was a place to put if you had a special person, so I put his picture on there saying that i always will love him. When he got back on he said he didnt love me anymore. I was crushed and we've been talking about it. Now he is saying that he isnt the same type of guy and that i should judt forget about him, and he doesnt get why i still love him. the question is, why all of the sudden does he not love me? Is it because the natural male instince to run when a woman says she loves a guy?
He probably doesnt know why he doesnt live you anymore feelings are something unexplained it just happens.
At least hes not pretending that he still likes you and he has the decency to tell you.
It will probably some time to get over it because it never esay to get over someone but you will and hten youll find someone else.
hope this helps
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i need some advice on how to talk to boys. its kinda hard. becuz sometimes i just say the stupidest things.
advice??
thanx. :]
Just talk to them like you would your friends relax a bit.
Talking to them isnt any different to talking to a girl, only jus different things to talk about, i think anyway.
It will probably take some getting used to if you dont talk to them much.
hope this helps
xxx
Ok so im 14 years old and im a freshman in highschool.. i dont play any sports so i was going to try out for tennis this year but i didnt because i didnt know how to play.. so i passed up that sport opportunity and in high school you really have to get involved if you want to be regconized and i dont do anything really.. i just want to be able to have a lot of friends and i want to be able to talk to the football players.. so i thought that i might want to become a cheerleader.. some of my friends are cheerleaders but i dont know anything really about cheerleading.. and my older brother that just graduated high school last year was a football player and he was SO popular.. i just want to be as well known as him so i thought maybe cheerleading would be good.. and if i ask my friends that cheer for help i think they might tell me that its too late to learn how to cheer but idk .. any advice?
Its never too late!
Just put your all into it try ur best and it should pay off.
But try not to compare yourself to your bro too much your a different person and being popula isnt everything in life.
Hope this helps xxx
This guy asked me out and my best friend says he likes me as more than a friend, but I mean, I haven't known him for long at all. Did he ask me out just so he could have a gf? Or does he actually love me? I can't really tell... when we're together he holds my hand and he puts his arm around me, but, it just doesn't seem like he's letting himself go. I don't really like him as more than a friend right now, I think mostly just cuz I don't know him. But I wonder if he only wants me to go out with him to impress his friends, I mean, we never do anything alone, it's always around our friends.
Theres no point going out with someone unless you actually like them
When you get to know him better and then you think yeah i like him then you should maybe think about going out with him.
Find out more about him to see if hs the sort of person who would go out with someone just to have a gf and then make up your mind.
hope this helps
xxx
Well my boy friend of 2 months is moving back to chicago in 4 months. we had broken up for a couple of weeks but i really love him & were back togeather now. but i dont know if i should stay with him because i noe hes leaving & il probably never see him again. pls help me :( we r just soo in love with eachother & it happend soo fast. should i stay with him or leave em soo its not that hard on me wen he leaves??
What youve got to think about is if you continue to go out with him for the 4 months hes here then how hard is it going to be for you to get over him when it goes because youll probably end up just liking him more.
If you break up with him now ye it will probably be really bad for a bit but you cant put of the inevitable.
If you think you could make a long distance relationship work then go for it but you said you might never see him again?? how can u have a relationship with someone you dont see?
But if you keep on just putting it off its only going to worse and a lot harder when he goes.
Hope this helps
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I am going to deliver a persuasive speech ("Support indie films") next week and I have absolutely no idea how to actually "persuade" my classmates. I have my speech plan, but I don't think it's enough. What can I try doing or saying on the actual delivery? I need tips! I suck at public speaking, belive me.
Thanks in advance!
Even though you might not be the best at public speaking (im not) they dont have to know that, keep ur head up make eye contact and try and relax.
Try to keep some expression in your voice and dont just speak in a monotone voice.
thats all i can think of really
hope it goes ok and hope this helps
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ok so i've(im 20) had a crush(he is 20) on this guy for 7 years and i just told him recently how i feel . we talk all the time at least once a day. but the prob. is his best friend(is 19) whom i have no interest in what so ever has a huge crush on me its to the point of obsession and the guy i like used to date my little sister. he is the same age as me though, he just think it be weird to be with me after dating my sister and i also believe he dont wanna hurt his friend's feelings. up till three days ago i thought we were just friends thats it but then he started say he wanted to " Sleep with me" i accidently sent the message to his friend, who says he is just messing with me. but he confroted his frend(my crush) online last nite and i was talking to my crush at the time and he(my crush) said that his friend was asking why he(my crush) was hitting on me . my crush im'd me saying that he could get himself out of trouble with his friend. he told me what he told his friend he said that he was using reverse psychology on me then laugh about it with me. i said twice well he(my crushes friend) dont have anything to worry about its not like u have feelings for me right? and he said he knows what im capable of and he likes u. WHAT SHOULD I DO ? DOES HE LIKE ME OR IS HE JUST MESSING WITH ME? PLZ HELP
ok so im going to see my crush tomorrow at the football game, only prob. he is coming there with his ex gf and i just found out they watched tv together today.but he says that she was sending him mixed signals. so question one should i even bother going to the game? if i go should i just ignore him? or should i steal his attention? and what should i do to be unforgetable? how should i dress,act,etc? man im confused
So, do you want to put him in the position of having to choose wether to put him in the place of chosing between you and his friend who obviously likes you a lot?
Guys always send mixed signals i think its like a law or something that they have to do it. If hes a nice guy then i dont think that he would mess with your head. What did he say when you told him how u feel?
I think tomorrow when you see him dont look like youve tried to hard just dress like you normally do and as for how to act just be yourself and try to talk to him as much as you can really try not to fade into the background, make him remember you dont become someone youre not tho just do what you think is right,
For the dating your sister part ye thts a little bit wierd but obviously theyre not together now so it cant have been all the great between them although it probably would be a good idea to check with your sister first it dependz on how recently they went out.
Youv obviously liked him for a long time so its not like youre doing it out of spite.
Hope this helps
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So.
I wax my eyebrows! =D
Except, I have tan skin…and where I wax its really white and noticeable..
And I don’t want to cover it up with my eyeshadow…
Soo im wondering what to use.
A concealer? Some sort of foundation? …a bronzer…?
Please give me links =] thankssss
Foundation and concealer are good.
You could always try getting a tinted moisturiser that woud probably cover up the ares but adding foundation and concealer ontop should mean its completly covered.
Hope this helps
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so i was hurt a while ago. I didnt know that if you werent raped that its still abuse and your still effected by it. I need help talking to someone i trust alot about this i talked to her once. she went thru some of the same stuff i did probley more. and she was effected more by it because it was her dad. but i need help opening up to her agian i did once but im scared to talk to her agian i feel like she doesnt have enogh time to. the first time i talked to her about this i felt so free. and i felt like i would always feel comfortable around her, but i dont anymore cus i feel like she doesnt want to talk about it. even tho she said i could when ever i needed. i dont know what to do...
What makes you think that she doesnt want to talk to you?
she obviously doesnt mind talking about it to you, so you should just try and find a time when you both have time.
Maybe ask her to come round so you knwo shes going to have plenty of time to talk about it
Im sure that once you get talking again then you will be able to talk freely to her once you start.
hopw this helps xxx
My boyfriend is very close minded. He is totally against drinking, smoking, drugs, dying your hair, peircings, tattoos, etc. He freaks out when I say I want to do any of these things, especially without him. What can I do to make him more open minded?
This might sound like an obvious thing to say but you should never try and change a boy if theres something that you dont like about it then you shouldnt try it becuse you end up trying to change them which doesnt help as you cant change someone.
You will probably just have to try and exept the fact that he is close minded
If you cant accept that then youre going to have to decide yourself what youre going to do.
I hope this helps
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lately my best friend has been acting different and it's just confusing me and making me annoyed. she comes into school in the morning and seriously acts like a zombie, im not kidding, like i'll say something to her and she won't even answer. i mean everyone has those days- and she's obviously not a morning person, but it's EVERY SINGLE DAY. and if i'm around her in the morning, she just puts me in a bad mood, cause like she'll just pass me in the hall and not say anything and if she does, it's hardly anything.
also, i'm not a mean person or anything but she's also been acting kinda bitchy. of course again, everyone acts like one at some point, but it's just making me not wanna be around her, even though i love her to death and she's my best friend. like today in history, my teacher was handing our tests back and she accidently gave mine to my best friend (it must have been mixed in with her papers) my teacher noticed that she didn't have all the tests to give back and asked if anyone had some mixed in. so my friend had mine, and a few minutes later i JOKINGLY said to her "you stole my test" and she flipped out like omggg no i didn't she handed it to me. then, later, when school was over, i was talking to my other best friend, along with this one, and mentioned that she "stole my test", again, joking-yet she was like stop saying that she handed it to me blaaah. like i've been best friends with her since 4th grade and she doesn't realize i'm joking?! it's not like i said it seriously..idk.
it's just weird and unlike her. when we hang out outside of school, she's usually fine (except for the fact she'll like leave at 9 pm willingly, we're 15 almost 16, who stays out to only 9?) i have 4 classes with her in school, so i see her a lot and half of the time she is in a bad/weird mood, so i try not to say much, but when i do, half the time she comes back with something bitchy, and she ends up putting ME in a bad mood. i'm confused, i wanna say something to her, but i'm sure she'll come back with something, and we'll end up in a fight. what should i do? sorry for the length, thankss.
It sounds like something might be wrong with her becausr proplr dont act this way for no reason
Maybe theres somehing bugging her that she just doesnt know how to say it
Ask her round and chat with r and say it nicely and stuff but just try and find out i theres anything wrong.
hope this helps
xxxx
15/f
I am about 5'3" and 120 pounds. I do not think I am fat, but I think I have fat ON me (there IS a difference!) I'm pretty confident in my body and I'm not striving to be stick thin, I just want to lose a few pounds. How many? I'm not sure. I don't know numbers. I just want to feel better about myself and I think it is a pretty achievable goal.
I can pinch a pretty decent amount of fat on my lower abdomen; I have a bit of a gut. If that was gone I would not have any complaints about my body. SO: I don't know if this is the healthiest choice, but it is most convenient for me. What do you think about this?
For breakfast I eat a SlimFast bar and a cup of coffee (yeah I know... it'll stunt my growth. Don't bother telling me).
Lunch I eat some type of sandwich on wheat bread (plain turkey or peanut butter & jelly), a water bottle, and a fruit or vegetable.
No snacks
Dinner I eat whatever my mom cooks but if there is a salad I go for that first. I try to eat small portions and stick with healthier options. And for a drink I have skim milk.
I am not getting a ton of exercise. I just come home from school, do homework, take a shower, eat dinner, do more homework, and talk to friends/boyfriend a little. So I think cutting out the extra calories is necessary.
However I do think soon I may start some kind of workout routine. Just some cardio for now. My friends and I have been wanting to do yoga and I might look into that. But I should probably start jogging for a while every day too.
What do you think? Will this work? Good idea? Input? Suggestions?
Thanks in advance. =]
Well i think that cutting out snacks and stuff you dont need is good.
It seems that you arnt cutting out meals which is good as that isnt healthy.
Jogging will be good as cardio excersise helps to sit ups etc will not help you loose weight they will just tone up your muscles which would probably be good when youve lost all of the weight you want to.
Maybe a little more for breakfast because eating little at breakfast will only make you hungry before lunch so you will be more likely to snack so thats the only thign i can see that may be a problem if not should be fine.
hope this helps
xxxx
16/f
so i like 2 guys and i dont know which one to focus on or which is even worth going out with.
guy number one:
-he's a very close friend
-i know him much better than the other guy
-we talk everyday
-we say hi in the hallway
-we "play fight"
-he's rich! but im not materialistic
bad stuff:
-he is possibly getting back with his ex who has only caused him pain and misery
-i don't think he likes me
-he has anger issues
guy number 2:
-he's really nice
-he flirts with me
-in class he asks me to sit near him
-his friends were teasing him about liking me and he was like "shut up go away"
-he's alright looking, not an amazing hottie
bad stuff:
-he smokes pot and cigarettes
-he rarely says hi in the hallway or in a study hall we have together...he only says hi in a different class that we have
-he doesn't have a job
i don't know what i should do. there isn't anyone else at my school that i like.
help!
Well if guy one gets back with his x it aint going to be possible is it?
and also if hes a REALLY good friend then it could mean compromising your fiendship with him a little so think about that before going in that direction, anger issues can also be helped and sorted out so dont let that put you of as long as hes not agressive to you.
As for guy number two it doesnt matter if he smokes really i mean he could stop any time, does he really have to have a job? he might be looking for one you never know.
If it was me id say guy number two but its your choice i hope this helps both seem like nice guys
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okay, so there's two boys that have my head completely spinning!
..well, to start off with, ive been dating this kid ryan for about two weeks now. Everythings fine and dandy
but my old crush mark likes me out of random. Me and him are going to homecomming together, and im extremely happy (this is b/c ryan doesn't want to go, and is aware im going w/ mark)
well, mark likes me. and im starting to get the feeling i like him as well..
only problem?
ryan. idk what to do, b/c im dating and really like ryan, but when i see mark, i get this totally different feeling, and like him also.
i like mark, but dont want to leave ryan, bc i like him as well
what can i dooo!? =/ they both have my head spinning faster than i can handle =/
Hi, well it seems that (from what you said) you kind of like Mark more than you like Ryan.
Id probably go to the homecomming and then youll know wether or not you like mark more or not and then decide from them.
Hope this helps
xxx
I'm in college and a guy friend I live with kissed me and a bit more. I broke up with my long term boyfriend for him and then he says that the kiss didn't really mean anything and he just felt like kissing a girl. What do I do now. Living with him sucks and is rather uncomfortable because we are not really talking. So, should I say screw him or screw him?
Thanks
From what hes said it doesnt really seem like he is really greatly interested.
Although lads can sometimes be funny about things like that so if youre not sure ask him about how he feels.
it might give you the answers that you need
if he llikes you ye go for it
if he doesnt is it really worth it??
hope this helps
xxx
I used to like this kid. like a lot. we kissed all the time and stuff like that, talked on the phone all the time. and somewhere in between all of that, he started talking to my best friend, and fell for her. so basically, he never calls me anymore, and I don't see him often anyway because he kinda far away. So now I'm starting to have doubts if he even did like me. Well about two weeks ago, the last time I saw him, he kissed me-- I kissed back. He told another best friend of mine that I kissed him first, I pulled his face in, all this stuff. He tried to put blame on me on a scenario that didn't even need "blame"... I was furious. My friends all told me "forget about him, hes a dick, he likes your best friend" all this shit. I agree with them, and I haven't really talked to him; he hasn't really called me (only twice since then) and I only called him once. I've been trying to tell myself hes such a dick, and for a little bit it worked. But now I'm realizing that I miss him. A lot. I miss kissing him, I miss him holding me, and I feel pathetic. He disrespected me and I feel used, but a part of me still wants him so bad. I can't talk to him about what he said either because the friend that told me said she wasn't supposed to tell me. What should I do? If I do see him, the next time is going to be the end of next month. Any advice?
Well what hes done probably isnt the best thing,
although this might sound like im defending what hes done but you cant help who you like
Its totaly normal to miss someone even if what theyve done isnt that nice i mean youll probably feel this way for a while
If you see him dont be mean or funny with him, just dont expect him to be the same with you
If you want to ask him about then you should although he might say that he doesnt like you which could be a bit upsetting but some people rather know the truth.
hope this helps
xxxx
would you brake up with someone that ..its almost 20 years old and is still in high school and your 17 and are already in colleage?? he's not the best person in the world but he's okay, and you've fought a lot latly but you can't imagine being without him but you want whats best for you and you know he's not ???? but you love him so much ? =S
It depends, do you love them?
sometimes you want something thats not best for you and you just have to decide wether although it might not be the best are the good things about it better than the bad things
If you cant imagine being without him then i guess you should just see
hope this helps
xxx
hi i am a 13/f
and i would like to lose some weight by halloween,
here are my problems
no access to a gym
running huge problem because my area is not safe to run, even if i'm with someone.
any exercises, diets i can do at home?
ex: sit ups?
things like that.
thanks so much!
Excersises like sit ups and push ups etc will only improve your muscle tone they wont burn your fat.
The way you can do that are things like running or something that gets you heart rate up (like going on a cross trainer that has the same effect as running really)
If youre really stuck running up stairs helps as it gets your heart rate up.
Your diet could be very important aswell, not eating anything doesnt help but just looking at what you eat, cutting back on sweets and junk food really helps because you dont need them but eating regular meals really helps and making sure you just eat the right thing.
Hope this helps :)
xx