Hey ya'll my name is Ashley and i'm fourteen yrs. old. I have brown hair, hazel eyes, and i'm 5'4". I play softball and volleyball and i love boys of course!! I was in my school's pageant this year and got in the top 15 so i'm proud of that. I love horses, dolphins, and the SOUTH of course. I'm a country gurl born in Texas and raised in Alabama. I decided to have an advice column because I've been told that I give pretty advice. Also like everybody else in this world i need it sometimes too!! well my aim screen name is rutterbutter14 so im me if you want to talk on there cuz i'd luv to chat with ya'll bout nething!!
Luv always!!,
advicehotti21
~~~ASHLEY~~~
Gender: Female
Location: Alabama
Occupation: softball player
Age: 14
AIM: rutterbutter14
Member Since: April 21, 2005
Answers: 47
Last Update: May 23, 2005
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my dads in prison for beating up my mom and for possesion of drugs he has asked to see me i really miss him even though his done wrong should i go and see him or not for all the misery his put my family in. (link)
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He's still your dad and no matter how hard you try to hate him he's still your dad!!! I think you should at least try to see him because if you dont you'll be giving up a chance to forgive him possibly if you want to that is.
Luv,
advicehotti21
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So prom was last night I went with the guy I like but as soon as his ex girlfriend came to our table he stood up to talk to her and she kept comming up to him all night. And I got upset because I was supposed to be his date and he was like we are just really good friends and he was like all touchy after I got upset what is up with that? And I also think I have a crush on my friends boyfriend because hes so sweet and im an old fashion type of girl and he opens doors for us and stuff and I dunno what should I do? I rate high! (link)
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I think you should keep your love life on hold temperarily as long as you are deciding between these two guys. My opinion get rid of cheater guy because you know he's obviously still caught up on his ex girl but on the other hand this other dude is going out with your friend and doesnt want to be annoyed with you liking him when he's got a girlfriend my advice either wait on this guy to break up with your friend and then go for it or just find somebody else. This choice depends on how good of a guy your friends boyfriend really is!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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I have eczema on my stomach, thighs and knee, i was wondering is there any medicines that will help it go away? (link)
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Yes!!! it will take some time no doubt but they're are medicines for that if you haven't been to the doctor go and they'll most likely give you the rite one for your type of eczema!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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Hi in my opinion i look nice the way i am...but the thing is that my arm has like a flub there and i just want to get rid of it. what can i do to get rid of the flub? any exercises for my arms? it's on my upper arm and it's just disgusting! please help! (link)
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Push-ups are great for arm flab!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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female,16....Hi im elena and i was woundering, My friend and i were in the park one day and we ended up making out.. The next day at school he didn't talk to me or even look at me.. He told his cousin that he liked me and he liked what happend but he wont talk to me. IS there something wrong or am i just freeking out? (link)
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He might be shy/nervous about the making out thing if you haven't told him if you liked it or not. You have to tell him and then he will talk to you.
Luv,
advicehotti21
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ok i have some acne. not a lot but some. and my friend will sometimes make fun of it. i dont think she realizes it, but she still does it. then when i ask her not to say it she just goes, "gosh i was just kidding!" now this girl is flat chested, and if i ever make a joke about that she completely refuses to talk to me for like a day. today something happened and i apologized to her 3 times but she wont forgive me! ive known this girl since second grade and i really dont want to lose a friend. help please!
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Have you really told her that you don't think that her making fun of you is funny. I mean it sounds like your always just like "ugh thats not funny or stop it okay" and she might not understand fully that it hurts you. I mean ya'll have been friends since second grade so it's nothing to lose a friend over just try to tell her more profoundly what you dislike about her "jokes" about your acne!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex and I just had my period. I usually have it for 4 or 5 days but I only had it for 3 this time. The first two days it was very heavy. I had to change my tampon (regular absorbancy) every hour. Thats a lot for me but still it was only heavy like that for 2 days .. Im really nervous. I just want to know if u guys think I could be pregnant. I dont feel any different at all.. no stomach aches or dizzieness. Please help.. I rate high! (link)
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You could always possibly be pregnant when having unprotected sex but personally this situation doesn't seem like you are. My advice is if you don't want to be pregnant which by your question you obviously don't then you need to stop having unprotected sex!!! Still I'm no doctor and I could be wrong about you being pregnant so you should still get tested either way!! Hope your not pregnant gurl!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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How long does it take for a symtom of an STD to show up? I just gave my boyfriend a blow job last night for the first time and now i have a sore in my mouth. Could it be an STD and should i be worried? Thanks so much. (link)
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It could possibly be an STD and if I were you i would worry but I don't really know how long it takes to show up but you need to consult your physician and another thing your boyfriend should really share is he has an STD or not because he could harm you too. Hope your clean!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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ok i just got pro-active and i was wondering how long does it take 2 start seeing results?
and everyone always tells me such good stuff about it.. but has it NOT worked for anyone?! has anyone had any bad experiences with it. thanks!! (link)
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I use it too and it's done pretty good for me i mean it's just sumtimes i don't remember to put it on and then if your inconsistnent it doesn't work as fast because your not using it alot. Just out it on on mornings and nights and it will definately help i mean it can't hurt!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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My mom and I started going to church recently. I totally believe in God and I am 100% Christian. However, my dad was baptised (sp?) as a Morman, and neither of my brothers go to church. My brother A, isnt in to the whole believin in stuff type, hes more i'll believe it wen i see it. And Brother B just doesnt go to church. So my question is will my family all go to Heaven, or will my brothers go to Hell? I'd love answers asap please. (link)
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Just because you don't go to church doesn't mean your going to hell i mean its jsut a way to show your dedication. It's when you don't believe in him and you don't think that he is the Savior and Christ. As long as you don't worship satin and you believe in God i think you are good. Remember he is forgiving as long as you want to be forgiven, he loves his children!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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Ive got a really bad obsession with the drink coca cola! and its not good for you to drink it everday of the week. Anyone give me advice on how to stop drinking so much coke?!?
rate hight for good answers
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just stop buying coca cola! Buy other drinks from the store and you can't drink it because you don't have it in your house!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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see well i peirced my own ear... the third whole.. its still on the lobe but its far up... see what i did was i took a thumb tack and i put ear peircing cleaner on it and had an earing ready... i iced it until i couldnt feel it and stuck the tack thru with an apple slice behind it and put the earing in.. i cleaned it afterwards... i did it last nite on one ear... and i did the other on about two hours ago... and see my parents found the one that my i did for my friend. it looks a little red and one of them hurts a tiny bit... what should i do about it? (link)
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First of all piercing your own ear or anything by yourself is more likely to get infected so i think that should keep cleaning it with your stuff and alchohol because redness and a little bit of pain comes with any piercing but it doesnt mean its infected hope i helped!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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Okay, there's this chick I know, who was kind of my friend. Here's where the problem starts. I heard that she thought I was annoying (but she still thought I was cool), so I backed off a bit and didn't hang around her a lot. NOW, she's in a fight with a really good friend of mine because she (the mean girl) called her (my good friend) a b*tch. I also heard that she wanted to rip up a card I made her for her birthday (but, being the great person she is, she just threw it on the ground when I wasn't around). I have to go to her birthday party soon, but she's so mean... This party is also for another person (who's a good, nice person). How can I cope with this girl being mean? I'm sorry this is so long, but I will rate! Thanks so much! (link)
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I'd ignore her totally I mean it's not your fault she's mean and she is obviously two-faced believe me you'll regret it if you don't end this "friendship" now!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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okay, well i like this guy but he doesnt like me i dont even think he likes me as a friend i dont know why i mean i talk to him on the bus and all but thats it. and i overheard him say he doesnt like me but i have liked this guy for a really long time. im 14 and have never had a boyfriend or even danced with a guy i know its pathetic...so could someone please help me because im at the end of 8th grade and i really want a boyfriend or just someone to like me back and i seem really pathetic..i know but idk what to do please help me...
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You will find someone when your meant to. You can't force someone to like you and if they don't like you back they're really not worth the time stressin over it. I mean when your ready and god knows you are he'll send someone your way and it'll be the best thing thats ever happened in your love life.
Luv,
advicehotti21
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hey...i'm thinking of getting my cartilage peirced does anyone know if it hurts and how badly? and also like whats thing like if its in a certain ear your gay and if its in the other you aren't..? (link)
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I dont know about the gay thing but I do know that body piercin people say that getting your cartilage pierced is about the most painful place you could get it pierced and it is also a more likely place to get infected and it's easy to get it infected!! Hope i helped your decision!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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One of my friends has tried to comitte suicide twice before and i am afraid she will do it again it terifies me what should i do. (link)
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Explain to her that you cannot lose a friend like her no matter how bad she thinks her life is there is always someone out their with one worse and your always gonna be there for her!! You cannot let this girl lose her life over her teenage problems!!! Please stop her another life taken is another hardship she puts on her friends and family!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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Im gay and i wanna tell my boyfriend that im gay, what should i do? (link)
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Well i'm asumming that you just realized that you are gay because you currently have a boyfriend. All I can tell you to tell him is the truth! I mean you can't exactly change the way you feel on this subject and you can't really act like you love him when you don't love any guy so Iwould just come out and say it it wll end better than lying and telling him another reason and him finding out you are gay later!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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hey my name is Ashley and i'm a feamle(of course) and i'm 14 yrs. old heres my question for anybody with good advice!!!
I like my best friends ex!!! Heres the scoop... they broke up because my best friend was confused and she cheated on him. Well now(two months later) she starts telling me she now knows what she was missing and she really did love him and she wants desperately to go with him again. Now i've been talking to him since they broke up because he needed a friend cuz he really liked her but she cheated on him.(yea i kno guys actually have feelings...well at least the good ones) and i'm starting to like him now i mean he's the perfect boyfriend he's cute, hilarious, loving, i don't know he's just soOoOo great!! the thing is that my best friend who i've been friends with for almost 11 yrs. still "loves" him i really really think she'll be so mad if he askes me out or if i ask him. I dont know what to do cuz i dont want her to be mad at me but i dont get very many guys nowadays and i really like him and he told me i was hot yesterday please help me!!
Luv,
~~~ASHLEY~~~
P.S. i rate high
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You should go for it babe!!!!
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I recently started going out with this guy, I am 16 and he is 18. We make-out tons and tons, and its great and it feels great. But then that makes me wonder if he is only in it for the physical aspect, I asked him if thats all it was, he said no and that he likes being around me and he likes hanging out with me. Whell things dont feel right at all, I feel like im just his toy or whatever and he doenst tell me how he feels about things. Its often hard to express myself as well because I dont know how he would react. Its just weird, I just want to make things better (link)
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If you just feel like his toy then ditch him!!! i mean i'm not sayin dont talk to him cuz believe me you can get him to talk but it again would be only because you cut off the physical supply(if you know what i mean) but no gurl deserves to be some guys toy i mean we weren't just mad to give them whatever it might give them to be with us. God doesn't want it like that and if I was you I wouldn't want it to be that way either!!! well hope this helps!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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I have to give a speech in fron of the whole class next week, and I'm absolutely terrified. I am really bad at speeches. I start shaking and I can't read my notcards. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me get over my fear? (link)
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Ha ve confidence i know that sounds really simple but if you have confidence and believe that you can do it no matter what then you will do great! Just remember that everyone has speech fright even the people who don't show it but they have conficence!! Hope this helps!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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