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I like my best friend's ex!!!
hey my name is Ashley and i'm a feamle(of course) and i'm 14 yrs. old heres my question for anybody with good advice!!!
I like my best friends ex!!! Heres the scoop... they broke up because my best friend was confused and she cheated on him. Well now(two months later) she starts telling me she now knows what she was missing and she really did love him and she wants desperately to go with him again. Now i've been talking to him since they broke up because he needed a friend cuz he really liked her but she cheated on him.(yea i kno guys actually have feelings...well at least the good ones) and i'm starting to like him now i mean he's the perfect boyfriend he's cute, hilarious, loving, i don't know he's just soOoOo great!! the thing is that my best friend who i've been friends with for almost 11 yrs. still "loves" him i really really think she'll be so mad if he askes me out or if i ask him. I dont know what to do cuz i dont want her to be mad at me but i dont get very many guys nowadays and i really like him and he told me i was hot yesterday please help me!!
Luv,
~~~ASHLEY~~~
P.S. i rate high
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You should go for it babe!!!!
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wow...drama, drama, drama...she needs to get her priorities straight b/c shes the one who cheated on him...why was she confused? well you should tell her and if shes ok wit it then askk him or wait for him to ask you...if shes a lil pissed then you should still do it but if you do go out with him you should keep it on the down low until she is better or happy for you. if she is really pissed then idk what to say to you.
hope i helped♥MeMe
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Well, I do think that he likes you if he told you that you were hot. If you can, be honest with your best friend and tell her that you are attracted to him and have recently thought about hooking up with him. Normally, she will be pretty pissed off, but there isn't much you can do about that. Most likely, this will all cause a lot of problems and you probably shouldn't get involved, but you need to weigh your options and see which path you prefer.
EDITED: I don't know why you just insulted me, I know that he said YOU were hot.
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Never date a best friends ex, it can only lead to fights and possibly losing your best friend.
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She will no doubt be mad, but she shouldn't have cheated on him and let him go. Thats pretty hard to forgive. You can't just treat someone badly and then return and expect forgiveness when things don't go well in the relationship you dumped them for. Thats just crazy. I think if you and her ex like each other then you should go for it. She'll be mad but she'll get over it. :)
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So the saying goes: "SisteRs befoRe MisteRs", my daRling! He may be a RemaRkable guy, but do you honestly think he's woRth the loss of youR fRiend?? I don't know anything about this giRl, but I'm going to assume she'd act like any otheR female who has just found out that heR best fRiend is dating the ex she wants back.. and FLIP!! Place youRself in HER shoes.. wouldn't you be angeRed?? Yes, it's tRue she did him wRong and disRespected him, and yes he DOES deseRve betteR than to be tReated that way, but it's just a known Rule of thumb not to get involved with a fRiend's significant otheR, past oR pResent. Well, whateveR you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck!!
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I think you should tell your friend how you feel about her ex. Just be honest with her. Tell her that your starting to like him a lot and that you hope she understands. Be gentle in telling her this though because I have been there and hearing that your best friend likes your boyfriend is not easy to hear, lol. Hopefully, you friend will undertstand. Ask her how she would feel if you were to date him. At least, then, you would know her position on things and how she feels. You can decide by her reaction if it is ok for you to date him or not. Best of luck!
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hey ashley,
ive been in that situation before to but ive also been on the flip side of it to.i kno for me it really hurt me that my friend ive known for 12yrs did not even tell me that she was starting to like him much less ready to go out w/ him.so wen he asked her out it was a complete shock!!!!! i was really hurt she and i talk about everything and she didnt even mention it at all. but u see she went out w/ my x a year after i dumped him. ya i dumped him i wasnt really ready for a bf at the time but ive alwaysed loved him, so wat i would do is mayb talk to your friend and tell her how your feeling, if shes been your friend for that long she will probly understand, because shes inlove with the same guy!!!! well anyways once you talk your friend everything she be ok!!!! and i tottally understand about the not getting many guys, you dont want to let him slip through your fingers!!! so let the guys deside between you and your friend!!!! and which ever one he chooses yall should be happy for each other!!!! if you have anymore ?'s dont be afraid to ask!!!!!
*~kaleigh~*
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That is a tough spot to be in. The thing you have to figure is who you care the most about. Do you value your friendship with her more or do you want to risk it for a guy that you like. I think that you shouldn't get involved with him. She's your best friend and she has told you that she has feelings for him and if you get involved with him then she will probably be very upset. You can still be friends with him but I don't think that you should get into a relationship with him. There will be other boys that you will like and if it is really meant to be with him then it will happen later on in life when things aren't so messed up between him and your friend. A friendship that has lasted 11 years isn't worth risking for a guy. Stay friends with him but don't get involved in a relationship situation when your friend still has feelings for him. I hope I helped
Good luck and I hope things work out
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That must suck.. liking your best friends ex. Seriously, I think that you should stay out of this. She really really likes him,well it seems like it. She shouldnt of cheated on him but thers nothing she can do about it now. If you go out with him your best friend will be hurt and dont do that to her. They might go out again. You never know. Dont get involved with him . She is your best friend so dont hurt her just because of a guy and expecially because he is her ex. You can still talk to him and everything and maybe after a while you both can go out! X0`
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If your best friend cheated on him and then dumped him then thats her fault, if he likes you the way you like him she no longer has a chance with him. If you like him you should go for it. Don't worry to much about your best friend, talk to her if you need to. If she's really that great of a friend she will get over her mistakes and move on to someone else and be supportive of you. I'm telling you this from experience, I'm caught in the same place right now but it's working and it will for you too. Just go for it. Good luck! Luv Melissa
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well its her problem...she shouldnt have cheated on him. i would go for him, shes gonna have to get over him sometime and i doubt the guy would wanna get back with her anyway. hope this helps! <3
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A love triangle isn't what anyone needs... just try to let him go... if he comes on to you it isn't your fault... let him pick i guess
Gomesy
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Dear Ashley,
It's not bad that you like your friend's ex because I liked my friend's ex too. But ask your friend if she still has feeling's for him if she says no ask her if she would feel comfortable that you asked him out if she says yes then go for it if she says no then lay off him for a while and if u still like him after about 2 weeks ask her if shes over him and ask her if she would feel comfortable with you dating him most likey she will say yes because she's your friend. GOOD LUCK!
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this may seem pretty simple, but maybe you should just talk to your friend about it. tell her that you 'may' like him. see if she shows a reaction. try and find out if she really would get mad if you two started going out.
hope this helps!
-katie
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I really think that you should let your friend and her ex work things out. It does sound like your friends will be mad at you, so do you want 11 years of friendship ruined because of a guy? Wait it out for awhile. Maybe you can talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. If shes a good friend then she'll listen and you too will work this out together. Even if you don't end up dating this guy, you've gained a friend.
Hope it all works out for you!
~kooka
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