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first off im 16. ok so a few days ago i met this guy on facebook. we started talking a lot, and then talking on myspace. we dont live like anywhere near eachother but, i really am starting to like him! he is only like a year or 2 older, super cute and funny. and hes so sweet. we have a lot in common too. i mean im not too worried hes gonna come and rape me or anything haha, i havent said many personal things, and he seems like a good guy, im even talking to some of his friends. we talk a lot, and it seems hes starting to like me haha. please dont say omg be careful he could be an old creepy guy haha. i am just wondering, is this weird? whenever i talk to him i cant help but smile. am i weird to feel this way? haha thanks. (link)
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No its not weird. It just means that you really like him and that is completely normal. Meeting people over the internet is becoming a common thing. One of my best friends met her husband over the internet and her sister met her boyfriend of 4 years over the internet and started out just like you described. The way you're feeling is normal. You've met someone that you have feelings for so of course you're going to smile and feel good when you speak to him.
Good luck and i hope things work out
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I'm a junior in highschool and i'm really stressing out over college. I'm starting to look at colleges but i'm really overwhelmed b/c there are so many choices. Does anyone know a website that i can search colleges on that has a pretty broad search questions...but only gives you a few results (i can't do specifics yet b/c i dont know my major or what my SAT scores are...
I know i want a small co-ed school, that is located ON a campus (nott in a city). And price is NOT an issue. And I am like a b/b+ student
Any ideas??? Or does anyone know a good website??
Thankss so much!! (link)
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Try collegeboard.com its free and they can help you make a list of colleges and show you where you stand as far as students that go there by showhing the average number of students they accept with your GPA and SAT scores.
Good Luck
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I had NO idea. Over the last few years, since my family moved to where we are now (it's been 5 years), my sister hasn't been making the greatest friends and gets in fights with them a lot, but I didn't know she was turning into such a bad kid. I'm 15 years old, I've never touched alcohol and neither have most of my friends, never even thought about smoking or drugs or anything.
My sister is 12. I know it's wrong to snoop but I looked at her journal thing cause she left it out and every single line is something bad she did. She drinks beer when no one is home or when she is with friends. She steals cigarettes from my mom, gives them to her friends, and she has tried one. Apparently she cut herself once.
What the hell do I do? I have never really had anything bad happen to me before and I feel like it's all my fault. I have tried to just not pay attention to her ever since she started annoying me a few years ago so we rarely talked. And now that I realize how much this has come to I'm shaking. I'm scared and confused and sad and guilty and just shocked at everything. How could she be this screwed up? I can't imagine ANYONE having that many problems and still no one would know for this long, let alone a TWELVE YEAR OLD. This is unbelievable and I don't know what to do. I will feel so weird going to my parents with this because all along they've been saying I need to be the one to straighten her out (just because her friends were mean, they have no idea about the rest), and I tend to push away problems and convince myself they aren't there, to let other people deal with them. So now it all boils down to me and I have no clue what I'm going to do. This is the most bizarre feeling I have ever had.
How could she? I don't even know how to phrase anything I want to break down and cry. Who corrupts their life like that at 12 years old? She's in SIXTH GRADE!
Please help me! I am so confused I don't know what to do!!!! (link)
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You need to talk to her. Tell her that you know what she's been doing and that you are concerned. She is going to be upset that you went through her things but she will get over it. You also need to talk to your parents. It is not your responsibility to "straighten her out" it is theirs. She will be mad at you for talking to them but you have to. She is obviously going through something or trying too desperately to fit in and she needs help before it is too late. She is walking down a dangerous patha and if you ignore it and let it escalate then it could become VERY dangerous. She obviously has someone who loves and cares about her very much and you need to show her that. It won't be easy she will most likely be upset with you and your parents for a little while but it will be worth it when things get better and you know that your sister is safe.
Good luck hope thing work out
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Im dating this boy whom I really like a lot.
But he is always really mean to me, and we fight all the time. He is always trying to make me have phone sex with him and he considers it "making up" he tells me all the time "lets fight so we can make up" and when I say no, he gets mad and starts saying I dont care about him and im selfish and I dont care about nobody but myself. He always has a way to turn things around and make me look like the bad person and feel really bad for something.
he calls me fat all the time and I only weigh 105 lbs and im 5'5. He calls me ugly all the time and then he says he is just playing. But sometimes he can be the sweetest guy in the world.
He is 16 and a preacher, so maybe he takes out his stress on me, or maybe its because he is black and im white?
Today him and I got into a fight and he told me
"If you were hangin off a cliff with lions and snakes under you, I wouldn't pull you up I would stomp you down"
I dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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Ok, this kid is not a good boyfriend and you seem like a nice girl. You can do better. The way you talked to him was in a mature manner and her responded with immaturity and rudeness. you threatened to leave him and now you need to. He is a cruel person and he is stomping on your self esteem to boost his and that is NEVER ok. him being stressed is not reason for him to talk to and treat you like that. You need to leave him before he gets worse.
He is acting like someone who could potentially be abusive and you definately do not want to be a part of a relationship like that. You need to end it now before it escalates.
It sounds like you do care about him so it probably won't be easy but trust me you don't need someone who treats you like that. You deserve better.
Good luck and i hope that i was able to help you.
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okay so I hooked up with this guy one of my best friends has a thing for. I had no intention to and I have no feelings for him at all. when she asked me if I hooked up with him, I said no first but then I told her the truth 2 seconds later because I cant lie to my best friend. Now she is mad at me because i attempted to lie. what should i do? (link)
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just try talking to her. if she's really your best friend then she'll forgive you. Just apologize tell her that you made a mistake and that you feel bad for it. If she is truly your best friend she will forgive you just dont get mad at her for being upset and accept that you made a mistake. She'll come around.
Hope things work out
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last night i hung out with this guy who i used to date before he got locked up. i havnt seen him for a year but when i saw him again it was amazing. well, we ended up doing it but he didnt have a condom. and before you say it, i know! stupid move!! what was i thinking!? yeah, i know, me and him were talking about that all night. so we know we did wrong. no need to tell us we did. now im worried that im pregnant, he didnt cum in me, i know FOR SURE because i cleaned it up. and he cant talk to his parents because hes still on house arrest and if he has any contact with ME he will go back into juvie. so hes 16 and im still 15 but ill be 16 on december 8th. i dont know what to do. i want to get a test so hes going to get a friend of his to buy it. but could i buy a test? i know i cant buy the morning after pill because you have to be 18. he called me this morning to see if i felt sick, i did, but i felt like that last night, like a hungry sick. i didnt throw up or anything. i havnt eaten very much food latley.
im freaking out. i live im michigan if that helps, and if you cant tell in the story im 15/f.
im totally scared, i could never tell my mom about this, im not on birth control - i want to be but my mom dosent want me to be. i would like advice on what to do, and anything, incase i am pregnant. anything please! (link)
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Ok first of all you need to calm down. the reason you feel sick is becuase you are stressing yourself out. It is possible that you could be pregnant however you cant do anything about it just yet so just try and relax.
Second, you can take a pregnancy test but it will most likely be too early to tell if you're pregnant. Do you have a regular period? if you do then you can wait until that time. if you're late take a pregnancy test or you can take one a week or so before you are supposed to get it that will probably give you a pretty accurate reading.
If you're worried about telling your mom then wait until you know for sure. Wait until you've missed your period and seen the results of the test. there is no need to get all worked and cause drama between you and her and then find out that you are not pregnant at all. The best thing you can do is try and stay calm and just wait and see what happens.
If it turns out that you are pregnant then you have to tell her. She'll be able to help you decide what you are going to do and she WILL help you. Yes she will be upset but she is your mother and she will help you through this if you are pregnant.
Good luck I hope i was able to help. And stay calm (i know its easier said than done) but you will make yourself sick if you continue to stress yourself out like this
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my best friend is anorexia and she has lost alot of weight. i was wondering how long does it take for people to notice that you are losing weight and about how many days? (link)
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When I first started to really becom anorexic people noticed my weight loss right away. I weighed 110 and lost 10 pounds in a week though. It depends on how deep into the disease she is. When people start off they usually just cut down how much they eat they don't usually just start starving themselves this will affect how noticable her weight loss is to people. Because she weighted 190 it will take a little longer for people to notice her rapid loss. But eventually they will notice. I can't exactly tell you how many days it will take people to notice. It all depends no how fast she's losing the weight. If you know that she is anorexic then you need to get her some help. Anorexia is a very dangerous disease. I keep saying diseas because dispite what people think that is exactly was anorexia it's a disease and she's going to need help with curing it. You need to talk to your friend tell her how horrible what she's doing is and that you want her to get help. If she continues to starve herself she's going to get extremely sick. Because of my anorexia I ended up losing a ton of weight it got so I looked like a skeleton my clothe literally hung off of my body. It also caused me to develope anemia. I ended up in the hospital for a week and then I was put into a type of rehab that specializes in anorexia. You need to get her help before it's too late. I don't know how far into this she is but if people aren't noticing then I'm guessing she hasn't been doing it for too long. Please get your friend help before it's too late. I lost a friend to this disease and I don't want you to lose one too. You need to talk to your friend give her a chance to let you help her and if things get worse then you need to get her some proffessional help whether she wants you to or not. She may hate you for it at first but trust me when she is cured and is living a healthy life she will thank you and love you for saving her life. If you have any more questions feel free do drop on in my inbox.
Good luck and I hope things work out
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me and my mom dont have a very good relationship! i am 13! i want to tell her so many things but i am usually too embarrassed to tell her! there isnt really anybody else to talk to about stuff! i want to be able to tell her what happens at school and who i am going out with! i would also like to get her to let me go to the movies on friday nights! dont say jsut talk to her about it bc i cant! its not that easy! thanx! (link)
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There are other ways of communicating other than just talking. If you are uncomfortable talking to your mom. Try writing her a note. Tell her that you would like to start a new relationship with her. You want to start from scratch. Tell her that you want to be able to communicate with her without being embarrassed or feeling uncomfortable. You are going to need to talk to her eventually and this will probably be easier than talking to her face to face if you are uncomfortable. It will help you break the ice. I'm sure that she went through a lot of the things that you are going through and will want to hear what you have to say and wont to give you advice on things. She's probably just as uncomfortable as you are and just doesn't know how to start a convo with you. You should really try writing a letter tell her something small at first. Maybe tell her about something that happened in school. Once she sees that you want to talk to her she will open up more too.
Good luck and I hope everything works out
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Okay, I've been best friends with this girl since last year and we've been so tight! And now I think my other best friend is jealous and is trying to take her away from me! What should I do? (link)
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First I don't think your best friend would try to ruin a friendship for you. If she is then she's not really your best friend. You should talk to her. Ask her what's going on. You haven't really given enough information here so I'm just going to throw out a scenario. If your best friend who you think is jealous is starting to spend more time with your other friend and you are starting to feel excluded then talk to your friends. Both of them. Tell them that you are started to feel left out and you think that you are losing your friendship with them. No matter what is going on you need to talk to the jealous friend. Tell her that you think that she is trying to break up your friendship and explain why you think that. If she is truly your best friend then it is probably just a miss understanding and she will explain, apologize, and all will be well. If she is trying to ruin your friendship then first she's not really your friend and second you need to talk to your other friend and tell her what happened. Hopefully it is just a misunderstanding and everything will get better.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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Yes, well i'm rather young and I get around a lot and I dont ever use a condom. (the boy) because I dont even have my period yet but does this mean that I can still get std's?? If yes, do they make a condom made of paper or something cuz im allergic to the plasticy rubber stuff.
thanks,
I rate fairly high!!
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Yes you can still get STD's. And yes they do make condoms out of different material but they are not as safe. The laytex condoms work the best and are the most affective but they do make different kinds. Even though the different condoms are not as safe and stong as laytex condoms they are still protection than using nothing. You should also go get tested for STD's. Just because you haven't had your period yet doesn't mean that you can't get diseases like HIV, AIDS, Herpees etc. you should get tested for STDs if you are going to have sex, and you really should start using a condom. STD's can be deadly and I'm sure you know what AIDS and HIV can do to you. If you are going to have sex use a condom. There should be condoms made out of material other than laytex near the laytex condoms. Go buy some and be safe!
Good luck and be safe
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my friend Alyssa is a BIG liar, she always makes up stupid stories. and when i tell her shes lying, she gets mad at me and i have to apoligize. but anyway, heres the point: today in lunch, i was sitting with Alyssa, my other friend Cassi, and my other friend Jenna. Alyssa said she has a friend named Jake who likes me and she said i've hung out with him and i've never known anyone by the name of Jake. so when she left the table, my friend Cassi said "so...do you believe her about Jake?" and instantly i said "nope." so...should i believe her? im hoping shes right. she said he looks just like the boy who i like and hes HOTT! so, should i believe her or not?
I RATE 5'S FOR GOOD, FAST REPLIES!! :) bub byezzz (link)
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If you know that she has a history of lying then I wouldn't believer her. I used to have a friend like this she had nothing to talk about so she would make things up. You can hope she's right but don't get your hopes up. Especially because you know that she constantly makes things up. And if he was that hott wouldn't you remember him? You should wait and see what happens, if she is telling the truth then that's great for you but if she's not (which seems likely to me) then you won't be crushed or upset about it because you never got your hopes up.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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Ok, I'm a really bad procrastinator if I'm really not interested in doing something.
Tips to help? I know it's bad...how did you overcome it?
Thanks! (link)
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I do that all the time. Something that helps me is I make sure that that's all I have to do. For example say I have a history project due in 2 days. I'll try to organize everything. I'll sit down and make a list of things that I want or need to get done and prioritize them. I know it sounds really annoying and time consuming but trust me it helps. Try it and if it works then great.
Good luck and I'm sorry that I couldn't be more help
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How do you pronounce the name of the song D'yer Mak'er by led zeppelin? (link)
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This can be pronounced a bunch of different ways. I've heard it pronounced dier maker, and deer maker. I heard that the reason they did that (led zeppelin) was so that it would be pronounced did chya maker. I've always pronounced it dier maker but that's just me.
Sorry I couldn't be more help
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I am a year old female that is about to be 15 in about two months or less. And well me and my friend are anorexic and we are so sick of starving so we decided to start eating what ever the hell we wanted but then throw it up after. But then we relized that it would rot out teeth and stuff like that. But isnt that when u throw up constantly. I mean we are still going to starve our selves but only once in a while we will make ourselves throw up. Will this still rot our teeth or do other damage? (link)
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Ok you have a lot of problems here. First of all yes it will still rot your teeth but that's not your biggest problem here. I know what it's like to be anorexic and bulimic. It is a disease and it can kill you. I know that you have probably heard this a million times and you don't want to hear it anymore but maybe if I tell you what happened to me it will help you.
When I was 13 I weighed 140lbs. I was fat. I tried all the diets and nothing worked. So I started to starve myself. I did that for a couple months every once in a while I would cheat but I would make sure that I excercised for hours to burn off what I had eaten. I got really sick and extremely weak. I didn't stop though. My friends started to catch on to what I was doing and they made me start to eat. That's when I started to make myself throw up. I loved that it made me feel so good. I had a whole system down. I knew exactly how to do it so that people wouldn't find out. I lost a lot of weight. By my 14 birthday I weighed 100 pounds. That was my goal weight but I couldn't stop. I became an addiction. Soon I would start binging and purging. I would go out and buy tons of food then eat all of it and then make myself sick. I thought everything was going great. Then I started to lose more and more weight. 4 months after my 14 birthday I weighed 80 pounds. It got to point where I only weighed 75 pounds. I was in really bad shape by this point. I had developed anemia and I had burned my asophagus, throat, and mouth with all the vommiting I had done. I even lost a friend to the disease. She only weighed 60 pounds when she died. My friends and the school found out again and they told someone. I was put in a place where they treat eating disorders for a year. I'm still not completely cured every once in a while I get the urge to throw up or I have to convince myself that I'm not fat and that I can eat. Please listen to me. Get some help. It will be hard but you need to stop before it's too late. I know that this will probably not convince to get the help that you need so look at it this way. You're doing this because you think that you are fat you're not. I don't care how much you weigh or what you look like you're not fat and you don't need to starve yourself or make yourself throw up. Go to a school counselor tell them what you've been doing. PLEASE don't go down the road I went don't let this disease consume you. Get help before it's too late please. Look at each other. Do you really want to see your friend die from starvation? Think about this and please consider getting help.
Good luck and I hope I help....please let me know if you decide to get help
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So, I'm in 8th grade (im a girl) and recently I geuss I have begun to be really good friends with a 5th grader (boy) (i go to a SMALL Catholic school in the middle of no where). Now I like him much more than a friend, but i dont know if it's wrong to like him more, or what i can do about it?. (link)
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It's not wrong to like him more. If you enjoy hanging out with him and he enjoys being with you then I don't see anything wrong with it. In my highschool seniors go out with freshmen all the time that's a 4 yaer difference as well. Some people have problems with it but most people don't care or they just get over it. If you really like him and he really likes then don't worry about the age difference. After all age is only a number. However if you decide to go for it you should know that some people will probably have a problem with it. But that's their problem you have a right to be with who you want to be with it's you choice not theirs. If you two really like each other then don't worry about what anyone else thinks go for it.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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I'm in 8th grade and there is this 7th grader in my Strings class that has like an aide and he is soo annoying and weird. When we went to Busch Gardens for a competition he would only be in my group and he stared at me CONSTANTLY. He wouldn't leave me alone either. He would only go on rides i went on. The other day my friend asked him without consulting me if he liked me and he said yes. My other friend wants to ask him if he'd ever ask me out but i don't want to have to break his heart. Everyone i know wants to ask him for laughs but i don't know what i would say if he did, not that think he would. What should i do? (link)
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That's really mean if he has an aide then that means that there's something wrong. First you should tell your friends to leave him alone. that is really mean to mess with him. If you see him during the day try to be nice to him but not so nice that he thinks that you like him. If you don't then just stay away from him and keep your friends away too. Don't mess with the poor kid. And if he does ask you out talk very calmly and nicely tell him that you don't like him like that. That you think he's a nice kid but you don't want to become involved in a relationship with him.
Good luck and I hope it all works out
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Ok heres the deal..im 14 and in the 9 grade and i feel like i have no friends..i mean yea i talk to people at school but idk like at lunch i sit with these ppl that my "friend" sits w. and i dont even sit by her i sit at the end of the table w. these boys and i dont even tlk to them i just sit there and eat my lunch. Then there comes the weekends and i have nothing to do and i usually stay home w. my mom and dad and i come home every day after school its really is pathetic..any idea to help me? (link)
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Don't be so shy. If they're your friends then they will want to spend time with you. Ask them what their plans are for the weekend and if they say nothing then be like oh me either you want to hang out or something? You need to ask people to hang out with you if you want it to happen don't wait for them. I doubt that your friends don't wnat to be around you if they didn't then they would avoid you and wouldn't want you around them. Once you ask and you start to hang out with them they will start to ask to hang out with you and before you know it you'll be doing something everyday of the week.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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My name is Kayla and I live in Houston, Texas. O.K, I have known this guy for about three years. He is a total gentleman. By the way, I'm 13 and so is he. We were born on the same day. He has some sort of autism that causes him to act younger. People at school don't respect him. He has crushed on me ever since fifth grade and now, we're in seventh and he still has this crush. He has asked me out several times and I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO NOT HURT HIS FEELINGS. He likes that "Pokemon" show on WB kids and he's obsessed with "Yugi-oh" and he's just... weird. He's really sweet though. His mom just passed away on Friday the thirteenth and he's really depressed. I called his mom Aunt Paula and he called my mom Aunt Leanne. I love him and all... but not the way he loves me. He's more like... my cousin/brother. Not a boyfriend. I told him I would LOVE to be his friend but I'm not ready for this kind of relationship. A long time ago, he told me he had a dream about me. I asked him what it was about. He got all shy and red in the face and he smiled, showing his braces. Then, I said "O.K, you tell my sister and my sister will tell me." my sister was only 9 at the time. He whispered it in her ear and ran away. My sister Brittany told me and he said his dream about me... naked... making out with him. So, I stopped talking to him for a while because he said he would make a move on me. I was really scared to be alone with him. A few months later, he told me he stopped having those dreams and he was sorry that it scared me so I forgave him and we were friends again. He asked me out again and I told him "No. I only like you as a friend." and he started CRYING!!! He's like a cousin to me but not like that. I really don't know what to say. I rate good answers and will email anybody who wants me to. Please help me!
~~~Luv, Kayla (link)
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It seems like you are really nice to this kid and that's a really good thing, kids like that need people to be their friends. When he has asked you out you have the done thing you weren't mean about it you were honest and that's the best way to deal with things. I'm sorry to say this but your kindness has put you in this situation. It sounds like he just found someone to be his friend and now he's getting obsessive. You have done nothing wrong keep that in mind. Try making it clear that you like being his friend and that he's like a brother to you but you just don't want to be in a relationship with him. I think that the more that gets pushed in his head the more he'll believe it and soon he'll be grateful just for your friendship. He will probably cry and get upset again just comfort him make sure he knows that you do value his friendship. That is really all you can do.
Good luck and I'm sorry that I couldn't be more help
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ok well i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 9 months now and i really love him. he has only had sex with one girl. but many times. they broke up long be fore we got together. so just say i lost my virginity to him do you think he would have any kind of std from having sex with just that ONE other girl.?? like do u think theres a chance of him having an STD, from that one girl and then having sex with me and then all of a sudden i get it??? thanks i rate HIGHHH (link)
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Ok first off if you should be using protection you could end up pregnant. And yes it is possible for him to have gotten something from that one girl. She could have had sex with other guys and gotten STDs from them then passed it to him. You should both go get tested if you are going to continue to have sex. Even if you're not you should get tested STDs can become very serious. Yes it is possible get tested and you should really not have unprotected sex.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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Ok. I don't know if this is me being totally paranoid or what but this just caught me a little off guard so I thought I would ask about this.
I got really sick the day before yesterday and have been really out of it for the past two days. So this morning I was feeling really sick and my dad brought me to the doctor, we left right after I got up and I went in my PJs and no bra.
So they did the normal thing at the doctors office, but I saw a doctor I don't normaly see. And he did the normal thing and he took my pulse with the thesascope (sp?)on my back then he did it on my front under my shirt which no doctor has ever done to me and he put his hands right under my breasts, and he like held them there a little longer then it takes to take a pulse and no doctor has ever done that either (except like once when I got a pysical). So when he did that it caught me off guard (he wasn't wearing gloves or anything)(and it was only me and him is the room, no nurses)
Also, when he was taking my blood pressure, he like kept his hand right on my breast when he was holding my arm.
I don't know if I am being paranoid but I really don't think so because no other doctor (male or female) has ever taken my pulse in the front, under my shirt, and done that (keep in mind I had on no bra) and no other doctor has had to rest their hand on my breast when taking my blood pressure....
I would like to know what some of you think, if I am just crazy or if your doctors do this?
Thanks for any advice or opinions. (link)
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That doesn't sound normal to me. I've never had a doctor do that to me before. You should tell your dad about it. You're not being paranoid there is something wrong with that. You need to tell your dad or someone.
Good luck and I hope this helps
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