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12 year old sister in trouble? What do I do?
I had NO idea. Over the last few years, since my family moved to where we are now (it's been 5 years), my sister hasn't been making the greatest friends and gets in fights with them a lot, but I didn't know she was turning into such a bad kid. I'm 15 years old, I've never touched alcohol and neither have most of my friends, never even thought about smoking or drugs or anything.
My sister is 12. I know it's wrong to snoop but I looked at her journal thing cause she left it out and every single line is something bad she did. She drinks beer when no one is home or when she is with friends. She steals cigarettes from my mom, gives them to her friends, and she has tried one. Apparently she cut herself once.
What the hell do I do? I have never really had anything bad happen to me before and I feel like it's all my fault. I have tried to just not pay attention to her ever since she started annoying me a few years ago so we rarely talked. And now that I realize how much this has come to I'm shaking. I'm scared and confused and sad and guilty and just shocked at everything. How could she be this screwed up? I can't imagine ANYONE having that many problems and still no one would know for this long, let alone a TWELVE YEAR OLD. This is unbelievable and I don't know what to do. I will feel so weird going to my parents with this because all along they've been saying I need to be the one to straighten her out (just because her friends were mean, they have no idea about the rest), and I tend to push away problems and convince myself they aren't there, to let other people deal with them. So now it all boils down to me and I have no clue what I'm going to do. This is the most bizarre feeling I have ever had.
How could she? I don't even know how to phrase anything I want to break down and cry. Who corrupts their life like that at 12 years old? She's in SIXTH GRADE!
Please help me! I am so confused I don't know what to do!!!!
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I wouldn't even mention the journal.
this is what i would do... just another choice for ya:
have your mom keep her ciggs out of reach... just be like yeah i hear some younger kids are stealing from their mom out of curiosity...
have her not buy more beer than she needs.
don't leave your sister alone all th time with her friends if its not necessary.
i guess she could still get it from other places but i doubt it since she's so young.
if she doesn't have any at home, she not likely to have any access to it.
anyway, just tell her all the bad things about smoking and drinking... give her all the horror stories about people dying and yellow teeth and how unattractive it is. it seems like she doesn't realize how bad it is... don't tell on her until she knowingly does everything. when she does tho.. go ahead. <3
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It's not your fault. Your not the one making her do those things.
Lots of kids I know do those same things Ive noticed these problems are starting at younger ages. Ive seen 5-8 year old kids cuss and fight.
And I think they are doing that because they are growing up to older people doing it, they are following what people have shown them examples of.
You should try talking to your sister.
Tell her that you read her journel. Tell her all of the things she is doing are wrong. Let her know that you are there for her. Maybe hang out with her, or let her hang out with you and your friends.
If she says something like I cant believe you read it and stuff like that tell her you care for her and you want to know whats going on in her life.Let her know if she doesnt try/or stops then youll tell your parents so they can try and help her.If she says shell try then help her, tell her she hang out with you and stuff.
And that if you catch anything of that sort then you will tell your parents.
If she says she wont at least try then you need to tell someone,most likely your parents.
(The things I suggested are things that I would do.)
I hope everything goes ok and that it gets better.
And I hope that I helped some.
(and if you dont mind id like to know how things go.please, you dont have to if you dont want to though.)
*~*Michelle*~*
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You need to talk to her. Tell her that you know what she's been doing and that you are concerned. She is going to be upset that you went through her things but she will get over it. You also need to talk to your parents. It is not your responsibility to "straighten her out" it is theirs. She will be mad at you for talking to them but you have to. She is obviously going through something or trying too desperately to fit in and she needs help before it is too late. She is walking down a dangerous patha and if you ignore it and let it escalate then it could become VERY dangerous. She obviously has someone who loves and cares about her very much and you need to show her that. It won't be easy she will most likely be upset with you and your parents for a little while but it will be worth it when things get better and you know that your sister is safe.
Good luck hope thing work out
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You can't change what she did, but you can prevent it from happening again.
You have to talk to your parents. She'll hate you, but its for her own good. Bring her journal to them and then they will see whats going on. You'll probably feel bad, but what would you rather have:an angry sister, or one dying from liver failure or lung cancer.
xxtiffany
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