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Hello, My name is... Michelle!

Ive been through a lot,so i know different stuff and could prolly give you some sort of advice.
Ive been through:eviction,my father leaving, 5 dads/wanna be dads,drugs,smoking,alcohol, best friends having babies,cheating,love triangles, sex buddies, family/friends deaths, abuse, stress, sicknesses, bi friends,miscarriage,etc. etc.

I love to laugh.Sometimes I cry, and I'm not always sure why. I love to have friends, but only few are real. I hate a lot of people, yet I'm nice to everyone. I try to figure things out, but yet I get nothing.I love being right. But always wrong. I love being close to people. but yet I'm so far.I tell myself things. and never do them. I know who I am. But not enough.
I lie to cover the pain. But it's revealed by honesty. I get away with too much. I'm always so messy.And my room is too.This is my life.
And I like this way.

Ask me anything because even if I'm not sure I'll try my best to help you and I'll let you know in my answer if I'm not sure!
I'm very wierd!or according to most people I am. I consider myself wierd too so its all good.

*Michelle*

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I know this Guy who ive Known for about 15 years now.
He was around alot during my Childhood years.!
Hes not to much older then iam.
He's a really good friend who i tell everything to.
He told me he wanted to be with me & that he was in love with me.

I dont know what to do!

How much older is he?
& Do you like him like that?

If he's not toooo much older than you & you like him then I would go for it.
Good luck ! (:

He's in jail for 6-8 years!! Im waiting for him, well giving it a shot! BUT I have no Idea what i'm gonna talk to him about (other than how I've been and whats going on out here). Any Ideas??

I have 3 friends & an uncle currently in jail, my step dad got out not that long ago. Here are some things I've wrote to them about:

Try to get to really know him & learn new things about him; places he wants to visit & things he wants to try

Find out what he wants to do when he gets out, the first thing he'll do, the first person he wants to see, place he wants to go, etc.

Try to keep him smilin so when times get rough he has something to cheer him up, maybe a joke or riddle, maybe include inside jokes between the two of you, or just maybe even write about some memories yall shared together. or maybe things you miss about him

I found songs that reminded of them or times we shared, & would ask them if they ever heard the song..if he says no send 'em the lyrics to the song & tell him that as soon as he gets out he'll get a cd with those songs on it so he can hear them

Keep him updated, let him know if a new store or place to eat comes into town, if you like the place to eat or the store tell him you're gona take him there when he gets out.

Most importantly just let him know youre there for him...

its a rough road to go down, but you have to go through the worst to experience some of the best (: good luck hun & i hoped i helped (:

what are some things that a girl can do to a guy that will turn them on?

You can do a lot of things to turn a guy on from the smallest thing like biting your bottom lip to kissing his neck.
Here are some things that I've done that my partners have told me turn them on:

Biting your bottom lip, especially when your still really close to their face after you had just kiss him.

Nibiling on his ear, some even like it if you lick the ear and the neck. BUT if you do this make sure your not like a dog and slober all over them, nobody likes that. So if you do slober all over them wipe it off..make a joke out of it or something. thats what I do...my partner likes it when I do that because he likes the way it feels but doesn't really like any slober that's left there, so i always crack a joke about it to make it feel good and less awkward.

A lot of my previous partners liked it when I touched/massaged there stomachs, especially when your on top (whether your just sitting there making out or having intercourse)
Or slightly lick and kiss from their mouth, to the neck, and down to where their jeans start, or even further if you wish.

If he has hair play with it, like run your fingers through it, or just massage his head and neck.

Some guys like it if you trace things slightly with your fingertips on their stomachs (personal favorite is to start from the top of the chest and move slowly down to where their jeans start and linger above the jean line then start back up)

These are the only ones I can think of right now... I hope they help :) & Good luck!

18/f.

next week i'm going to have sex for the first time. not sure which day but my parents are going out of town so i have the house to myself.

are there any last suggestions any of you could give me? any pointers? i've been on birth control, take it on time, never miss one. and we will be using a condom. i KNOW for sure FOR sure i want to do it.

i just want to know if there is anything i should know prior to having sex .. such as things to expect .. any helpful hints? any comments will be appreciated! :)

Make sure its safe sex. (Safe sex is great sex, better wear a latex) :)
Have fun, dont be nervous about it. And remember your first time isn't always as amazing as people make it out to be, it can take a couple of times for it to be amazing. :)
good luck

20/f, dating a 20/m.

My bf and I have been together for almost three months, and we're getting ready to start having intercourse. Niether of us are virgins, and we've done basically everything else with each other except have sex. In the past month I've begun birth control and he and I have both gotten tested for STDs, and we're planning on using condoms. So safe sex is a sure thing.

But I also believe that having a dialogue about sex before starting it is crucial, involving discussing our sexual history. I've told him about my sexual past, including funny embarassing stories and things that I do and don't like in bed. He didn't seem at all uncomfortable with hearing it and it really got us to a new level of trust. I invited him to share his experiences with me, but all he said he didn't like talking about it.

I'm really curious about his past, but I don't want to pressure him into telling me about anything that makes him uncomfortable. All I know is that he's had "Maybe just the one" previous partner, but I don't know anything else. Should I just get used to not knowing? I really don't want to pry, but if I'm going to be sleeping with him, does that make it at least a little of my business? Or no? I'm confused and I just want to know if I should drop the whole subject, and get used to being curious.

Thanks in advance!

Well for me I'm always curious, even when I know that I'll never get to know about my partners past.
In time he may open up to you about it...but you never know.
Expect to never know, but hope to find out (that's what I do)
Have you tried asking why he doesn't want to talk about it? If not next time the subject comes up ask him how come he doesn't like talking about it.
Don't pry though, it may have been a bad experience that he doesn't want to remember.So just let it go if he seems irritated or upset after you ask him.. maybe even ask him if in time he would eventually tell you what happened.
good luck! :)

when im with my group with my good friends they wont able to tell that im sad, but when im with my new friend she knows when im actually sad or im just being quiet why is that? i just lie to her that im just tired when im sad since i dont like talking about my feelings but whenever im sad but tries to keep it to myself she seems to find it and asks me whats the matter, how can she able to tell? it makes me want to tell her whats wrong but i just cant trust people. She makes me want to put my guard down but im scared.

A girl like her is a good friend to have.
Tell her how you feel, if she's really a good friend she'll be understanding and maybe even help you through it and maybe eventually you'll be able to put your guard down.
the people you love hurt you the most & you always hurt the people you love..it happens. you can't control it. don't be afraid to be hurt because you never know how it could turn out in the end..it could end up being something amazing. :) good luck

I am a 15 yr old female. I have been dating this guy for 3 and a half years. He is amazing. We have been best buds since I can remember. He is kind sweet sensitive. I am not in love with him. Because I am too young for love. But I have very strong feelings for him. But here is the problem.
Me and my boyfriend have only held hands. Wehave agreed we both want too have our first kiss. But we dont know when to do it. We see each other once a week.But I really wanna kiss him. He said he wants too kiss me very badly. I dont know how too kiss but how do you know when it is the right time too kiss. We only see each other at youthgroup. We get 15 minutes to ourselves too do what ever and we hang out in a van. Any ideas on how we can have our first kiss????I am soo very sorry this is so long.

Take your time! It'll come naturally. And you're probably thinking it won't and your nervous that it won't be "right" or "perfect"... but relax, there is nothing to worry about because nothing is perfect.
When the time is right for ya'll to kiss..you'll know it.
I denied my first kiss... I gave him the cheek, then about a week later we were playing around and it just came naturally.
& if you want tips on how to kiss go to google & type in how to kiss & some tips come out..but remember they don't work for everybody because everybody likes different things. :)
Good luck! & don't stress it :)

I'm 17 and have had little flings with guys but never had a real relationship until my most recent one.My boyfriend of 3-4 months broke up with me because he said he didnt feel he liked me as much at that point as he should.I was his first real gf and i did everything for him (even his friends said i did more than any other girl has) and he admitted that i was the most amazing girl he's ever met.I guess after we broke up,we became close friends and hungout quite alot (people thought we were still together!) but he confronted me and said the friends thing isnt working because he feels as though I want more from him and i always bring up past times and he feels bad and doesn't want to hurt me anymore.I want to either get him back or move on...suggestions? I haven't done much ignoring him and all his friends are my friends so its hard to avoid him completely.Has anyone had this issue before?

I've been through this before, and i know it can be really hard, and sometimes it a bit easy. But you should probably move on. If yall have the same friends you can still have some contact (which I would want if I was you, but that's just me) But maybe if you try moving on you'll find some one better, and maybe even eventually later down the road you and him might get back together, you never know.
I don't know if I helped at all but good luck hope it works out the way you want it to :)

what are some big (non-obvious) turn ons for guys during sex and stuff?

Besides the ones that the person said before me;;
some guys like it if you kind of message there stomach, or like feel on it (especially while your on top)

Some guys like it if you kiss/slightly lick there stomachs down to their (you can figure out what)

Some like it when you kiss their neck and move your way to their ear & kinda nibble on it

And others like it when your kissing & you suck on their bottom lip or bite it gently...and when you pull away from a kiss bite your bottom lip gently, that sometimes turns them on a bit.

If your comfortable enough with your partner just ask what he likes
Hope I helped some what :) & good luck

im female, 15. my friend is 16. ok well there is this guy. we were 'talking' before but i decided i wanted to stay just friends. firstly, because my best friend used to like him, and secondly i like good boys and id always be worried about him. he does like weed and stuff. anyways all he mostly talks about is weed and drugs. like i kno what all that stuff is, i dont. but i dont like it. and ive told him before that i dont kno wat they are. theres a hint i dont like it. well he sees nothing wrong with it of coarse. so what are some topics to get him off of that subject. or a way to help me get him off of it by talking to him. he honestly has probably heard it a thousand times that he shouldnt do it. so talking about him quitting wont help. also his family knows he does it. and his friends do it as well so i see it as impossible. just help me on how to change the topics or just anything. please! and im not gunna call the law on him or tell him to go to a doctor or therapist, just because it wont work.

A lot of people do and try drugs, its kinda natural. especially to try them around your age (i say that like im so much older than you & im really not.lol!) but anyways, im not saying its a good idea to go try drugs or anything, but people do it, its something you just kinda deal with in life..if I was you id just tell the guy that you do not want to talk about drugs so yall need a new topic or a change of topic. & if he is not willing to do that then you just need to lose him.

Hi,I'm a 18 yr old female and I have a question that I need some opinions on.

Okay so there's this guy who i knew since last year but we started talking since March 1st and we've been talking everyday since then. I've gotten to know him a bit and he seems like a nice guy and eventually i started catching feelings for him(because i fall for people easily).I was kind of getting the feeling that he likes me because he would tell me that i'm pretty,he asked for my number so we exchanged numbers, he would talk to me everyday on MSN(he would always be the one to message me first), he would flirt with me saying that I'm sexy or that i looked nice today at school and he told me that even if he was sad, my hugs would make him happy because he likes my hugs, that kind of stuff.

But lately it seems as if he wanted to know if i like him because he would ask me in subtle ways and like today he told me on MSN that his friend thinks that I like him but he didn't think so, so then I told him that his friend is right but i didn't want to tell him just yet because i felt that it was too soon and it was over MSN. But I told him that i didn't want to tell him as yet because i didn't want to make things awkward btwn us but he said that's he's kool with it and that things doesn't have to change if i don't want it to. But I kinda regret telling him because he didn't tell me how he feels about me...if he likes me as a friend or more. Thing is, i'm having a late start at my school this wednesday and last night i was flirting with him about wanting to cuddle with him so he told me that it could be arranged and he also suggested that it would be on wednesday that we would cuddle. so i said okay, but now i don't even know if that's a good idea because what if he doesn't like me? i just don't want to get hurt again because this happened to me before. I hope you guys understand my situation...what do you guys think about all of this?

If he wants to cuddle he obviously wants you

so i like this guy at my school and he talks 2 me sumtimes but not alot how do i no if he likes me?

The only way is to talk to him more & pay attention to how he acts towards other people..
if you notice a difference there may be a possiblity he likes you, but the only way to know for sure is to ask him. don't be afraid to get test the waters and have fun, if he doesn't like you oh well move on there's somebody out there waitin for you to come along :)
good luck.!

I resently asked a question about If I shuld go out with my best frend of 3years. And you all said yes. So I hav another question. How do I actually ask him out. We txt all the time and somtimes it's really perverted things. Like him" haha" me " ur so mean" him " you like it like that." and there was also another one not too long ago. Me "did you start ur project yet." him "not even close" me "ur Gunnar get an F" him "ya an F in duin you." so could I ask him during during one of the perverted txts. But then there's another problem. Wenever we txt it's lik he's a different person. And then wen I c him........I'm disappointed. Is that bad.

when he acts different in person and in text which person do you like? the one you text or the one in person?
Because when a person acts different through text than they do in person it normally is a bad thing because they may not be them full selves in public... tell him you like him but tell him you dont like him how he is in person...
or you could just tell him you like him, and see how that goes... and if you dont want it hurting ya'lls friendship (in case he doesnt like you back) then let him know that too.
good luck :)

19/F

My girlfriend comes back from her vacation soon and I want to do something cute/romantic for her when I pick her up from the airport/ have a date night with her the next night...any ideas?

Thanks!

I agree with the person before me, but I would also add to what they said, if you do the dinner with candle light thing i would also play some music too, and ask them to dance with you.. I only say this because there is nothing like dancing with your partner to some good music..
good luck :)

and doesn't support me as much as I need him to.. =/

Sooo, my boyfriend got me pregnant two months ago, we live together with his dad. But ever since I got a thumbs up from the doctors he's just been leaving the house at 11am and usually comes back around 12am... it's around 2:20am now and he still hasn't returned, I'm starting to get worred.. I don't know where he goes and he gets angry when I pry. He hasn't kissed me since the 19th - 20th April =/ He said he couldn't wait to be a father at the start but now he's drifted away..
What can I do? =[
(by the way, I'm from the UK.)

I agree with the person before me but I also think that you have the right to know what he's up to... ask him if he's worried about what is going to happen and etc,and tell him how you feel too. you are both probably worried/stressed about this and you need to talk to each other about it. have you tried to kiss him? tell him you want to kiss him, and you want to be kissed back.. tell him you need some support, and give him some too.. in relationships you must give and take, in order to take you also need to give though.

good luck with everything! :)

19/f has anyone been in a situation where they like someone & that person likes them back but you can't be together because of certain circumstances? :)

Oh yeah.! plenty of times. from parents not liking us being together, to long distance, to us already being taken by some one else, etc.
It can be a pain, but it can also be the best thing in the world :)

okay i have a new *guy* friend and i like him alot. but yesterday i saw the old *guy* friend yesterday for the first time in 6months and my feelings for him came back stronger than ever b4. well my new and old guy friends are the same age 15 and im 16 well i have no idea who or what to do cause my old friend cried when i told him about how i like my new one and my new friend got mad when i told him bout my old....someone help me please

Do what you feel is right, because if you try to please everyone else you will end up hurting them, and yourself. Try even make a pros and cons list about them so you know who you like and what you like about them or your dislikes..that might help.
good luck! :)

I went out with this guy in 8th grade for a few months and we really liked each other. I don't remember what happened but I broke up with him, let's call him Jim. Freshman year was the first time Ive ever fallen in love. We dated for a long time, we'll call him bob. Bob broke up with me because it was gonna be summer and we wouldn't have any contact due to the fact that my grandma doesn't like him. We ran into eachother a few times after and everytime we would end up making out whether we were taken or single. In late October I ran into him and we were both taken but we hung out alone for like an hour, we ended up making out and he told me how he still loves me and he wants to get back with me. I ran into him on Friday (we both are taken once again) and he's friends with my boyfriend Jim, well now ex. We were with a group of friends an Bob kissed me and told THEM how he's still in love with me. He told me he wants to hang out with me but I'm not sure because both of us love each other an who knows what will happen..now back to Jim, we kept in contact since 8th grade (I'm a sophmore now) and he told me he used to always tells me how he loves me. I went back out with him again for like a month and I broke up with him on Friday night. He was "depressed" and he's been trying to go back out with me this whole weekend. Well today I found out he already has a new girlfriend! Now there's one more guy.. Before I went out with Bob I had feelings for another guy, I'll call him Chris. He had feelings for me too but I had more feelings for Bob. While I was dating bob, Chris liked me on and off. We were best friends for a little over a year. We would talk everyday and he'd call me every night. We started growing apart when I got expelled from our old school and we barely talked. I haven't had a long conversation with him for like three months. Lastnight I was on myspace and he randomly sent me a message. We were talking for a few hours and now he wanta to hang out with me. I'm so confused about all three guys. I font know what to do anymore :( Im kind of mad at Jim, I rarely see Bob even though we will always have a spark. When I'm with him it feels as if it's only the two of us and nothing bad could happen. It's weird. And I'm just not sure about Chris. I don't have a specific question I just need advice on what to do with all three guys..

Okay, this is how I would handle the whole situation.. and none of this is meant to sound harsh or anything..
As for Chris I think you should just keep his as a friend, just because you sound like you don't want him in the way that you want Jim. So tell Chris that you just want to be friends, and thats all. If he has a problem with that then he'll either have to get over it or you shouldnt call him a friend anymore...(That sounds harsh, but its unintended.)
As for Bob, you shouldn't really feel bad for him being depressed, its just him saying that he wants you back and he's gona do that to try to keep your attention. Tell him you apologize for hurting him and that you don't want him anymore, especially since he apparently has a new girlfriend that he failed to tell you about sooner..
As for Jim... I would try to make things work, ask your grandma if she would give him a second chance and see if things could work out..
Sorry if I didnt help any... and good luck with the situation :)

i dated a guy for over a year. he broke up with me like a little over a month ago, i was crushed and devestated but i'm getting over it now. i saw he was in a relationship so i texted him. he ended up calling me that night saying that he met someone that he needed as a friend, to be there and to understand him and then that girl just started liking him so he went along with it. (he was depression and not many real friends) he said that the more he hangs out with he's finding out that she's annoying. he told me he also told her that he needed a month to himself. i know he has depression (his parents are going through a divorce) but i'm getting scared that he's now suicidal. he asked me how i was taking the whole 'breaking up' thing and i was i was doing really well..then he said "we like switched roles this time" (we broke up once before and i was the one who was really upset) so yeah he told me he's never told anyone these secrets. he didn't tell me, but he hinted to me and came extremely close to. i know he's suicidal, just don't know the details. i also told him that if he ever needed a shoulder, i'm always here. and he said it meant alot and stuff.

so yeah he's dating this girl that he thinks is annoying, he says she caught him on the rebound and he's suicidal. his girlfriend obviously doesn't know about it. and i'm pretty sure i'm the only one who does since he said he can't open up to anyone at his school or his home. what do i do? i want him to open up to me. i didn't try to force it out of him but i told him i'm here. and what do you think of this whole girlfriend thing? i just need your guys' opinion and any advice would be amazingg. thanks.

It's not good for him to go out with someone else soon after, especially since he finds her annoying. So I'm glad he broke up with her, cause it wasn't fair to him or her.

If he ever starts talking to you, and he says something bad about himself try to make him happy, or let him know that you dont think that way of him. It helps him know someone cares for him, and you obviously do.
And maybe next time he talks about suicide or anything like that let him know that you are always there for him whenever he needs you, and maybe suggest that he try talking to one or both of his parents.
He should let them know how the divorce is affecting him. Most kids believe that they are the reason of their parents divorce, which is normally not the case. So don't let him try to blame himself either.

I hope I helped some... =]

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