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opinions please?
i dated a guy for over a year. he broke up with me like a little over a month ago, i was crushed and devestated but i'm getting over it now. i saw he was in a relationship so i texted him. he ended up calling me that night saying that he met someone that he needed as a friend, to be there and to understand him and then that girl just started liking him so he went along with it. (he was depression and not many real friends) he said that the more he hangs out with he's finding out that she's annoying. he told me he also told her that he needed a month to himself. i know he has depression (his parents are going through a divorce) but i'm getting scared that he's now suicidal. he asked me how i was taking the whole 'breaking up' thing and i was i was doing really well..then he said "we like switched roles this time" (we broke up once before and i was the one who was really upset) so yeah he told me he's never told anyone these secrets. he didn't tell me, but he hinted to me and came extremely close to. i know he's suicidal, just don't know the details. i also told him that if he ever needed a shoulder, i'm always here. and he said it meant alot and stuff.
so yeah he's dating this girl that he thinks is annoying, he says she caught him on the rebound and he's suicidal. his girlfriend obviously doesn't know about it. and i'm pretty sure i'm the only one who does since he said he can't open up to anyone at his school or his home. what do i do? i want him to open up to me. i didn't try to force it out of him but i told him i'm here. and what do you think of this whole girlfriend thing? i just need your guys' opinion and any advice would be amazingg. thanks.
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It's not good for him to go out with someone else soon after, especially since he finds her annoying. So I'm glad he broke up with her, cause it wasn't fair to him or her.
If he ever starts talking to you, and he says something bad about himself try to make him happy, or let him know that you dont think that way of him. It helps him know someone cares for him, and you obviously do.
And maybe next time he talks about suicide or anything like that let him know that you are always there for him whenever he needs you, and maybe suggest that he try talking to one or both of his parents.
He should let them know how the divorce is affecting him. Most kids believe that they are the reason of their parents divorce, which is normally not the case. So don't let him try to blame himself either.
I hope I helped some... =]
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now that he broke up with his gf hes going to feel so alone.he had you to keep him on track then he lost you and needed someone else so he got some other rebound to help him out.he feels alone and doesnt know how to deal with it soo hes trying all these other approaches by getting a rebound etc.
its really hard to help someone thats depressed because theyr past the stage where you can say soemthing and then theyll just listen to you.theyr past the stage where they think theres a better way than killing their self.
its hard to change someone thats depressed because theyv put up this barrier where they dont want anyone to help them and think that no one can help them or no one loves them etc.
right now he needs you more than ever.he broke up with that girl and now he has no one else except you.you just gotta be there for him even if he doesnt ask for it.just be there and talk to him and hang with him etc so that he know hes got somethign to live for.surprise him with things like take him on a picnic,go to the beach with him.treat him to the movies etc.just be his friend and let him know that you guys are just friends and that you miss him and wnat to hang out.keep in contact because thats pretty much all you can do for now
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When it comes to personal serious feelings like this their are very few things a person can do. Telling him your their for him showed him that he isn't alone in this world and as he said it meant a lot. I know you want him to open but some people can't see the good in sharing all their thoughts to someone else, even though expressing your emotions are very important. I am very sorry to hear a guy you care deeply about has fallen into this depression and I can offer you this. Do what you think is best for him. Don't worry about how he will feel about, just listen to your heart. Maybe you should try to get him to open up to you, or maybe you should tell an adult. I am sure you know the answer more than I ever could. Do what you think is right and hope for the best. Times like these are tough but you have to think about his saftey and well being.
As for the girlfriend thing, I don't think staying with someone even though he doesn't like her is a very smart decision. It will only end in her being very hurt, unless of course he does find that he likes her more than he thought.
Hang in there and follow your heart. I hope everything works out for you!
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