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i dated a guy for over a year. he broke up with me like a little over a month ago, i was crushed and devestated but i'm getting over it now. i saw he was in a relationship so i texted him. he ended up calling me that night saying that he met someone that he needed as a friend, to be there and to understand him and then that girl just started liking him so he went along with it. (he was depression and not many real friends) he said that the more he hangs out with he's finding out that she's annoying. he told me he also told her that he needed a month to himself. i know he has depression (his parents are going through a divorce) but i'm getting scared that he's now suicidal. he asked me how i was taking the whole 'breaking up' thing and i was i was doing really well..then he said "we like switched roles this time" (we broke up once before and i was the one who was really upset) so yeah he told me he's never told anyone these secrets. he didn't tell me, but he hinted to me and came extremely close to. i know he's suicidal, just don't know the details. i also told him that if he ever needed a shoulder, i'm always here. and he said it meant alot and stuff.
so yeah he's dating this girl that he thinks is annoying, he says she caught him on the rebound and he's suicidal. his girlfriend obviously doesn't know about it. and i'm pretty sure i'm the only one who does since he said he can't open up to anyone at his school or his home. what do i do? i want him to open up to me. i didn't try to force it out of him but i told him i'm here. and what do you think of this whole girlfriend thing? i just need your opinion and any advice would be amazingg. thanks.
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Hey there :) sorry its taken me this long to reply ive been super busy with school anyway.
okay firstly let me say I think its great how well your dealing with the break up espically considering it was a long relationship.
I can relate to this in a small way as regards the suicidal part,(an ex of mine was extremely depressed also over family issues) what your doing so far is perfect,telling him that youl be there as a friend to help as best you can and that hes not alone. thats really important keep reminding him of that because depressed people sometimes feel completely isolated.
The main thing is try not to panic and stress yourself,I know its so scary but it could just be a phase in his process of coming to terms with the divorce and that. but then again it might pass or it could be serious I would say watch him closly over the next little while his behaviour constantly remind him of the good things in life and to be positive if he seems to be getting worse,I know he told you not to tell anyone but itl come to the stage where youl have to if he cant get through this by himself or with your support.
Its alot for you to have to deal with alone too he will thank you in the long run too.
as for that gf id but it down to him just trying to find consolation in someone else basicly a rebound. she obviously didnt mean much to him if he didnt confide in her and has already broken up so I wouldnt read too much into it.
Thats really all I can advice you for now just watch and see if he starts to pick up if not someone else needs to be told like a family member so he can get help.
I really hope I helped in some way!
Much <3
Jess
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