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first time sex .. any last helpful suggestions?
18/f.
next week i'm going to have sex for the first time. not sure which day but my parents are going out of town so i have the house to myself.
are there any last suggestions any of you could give me? any pointers? i've been on birth control, take it on time, never miss one. and we will be using a condom. i KNOW for sure FOR sure i want to do it.
i just want to know if there is anything i should know prior to having sex .. such as things to expect .. any helpful hints? any comments will be appreciated! :)
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Helpful hints?
Keep an open mind. Until you've tried something you won't know if you're into it or not. Sex is gross, when you really think about it, so rejecting ideas based on that really isn't the best way to go about it.
Don't do things you aren't comfy with. Instead wait, think about them, try to GET comfy, and try again later when you've got a better handle on things.
Sex can be awkward, goofy, loving, hot, and many other things. Good partners gauge each other's moods to try to be compatible with what the other's feeling. Also, one of you might fart, or elbow the other in the face, or something similar. Being able to laugh stuff like that off is kind of important.
The Post Sex discussion is always a good idea. Ask what he liked. Tell him what you liked. Ask and tell what you might like to try in the future. Bring up anything that was a little off (like painful, maybe)
Be vocal. If you like something, say so. If you don't like something, say so. If you've got suggestions on how something could be better, say so. If something feels good, don't stifle the moan unless you're worried about the neighbors hearing you or something.
Always be doing something. Don't just lay there. Rub whatever you can reach, if you're doing all the work and he's laying there, grab his hands and encourage him to rub you. Put them places you want him to touch.
Massage exchange. Everyone has different parts of themselves that are sensitive. The only way you figure them out is by playing around and touching everything. Lay him down and rub every inch of him. Throw in kisses. Whatever. Lay down and let him explore you. Point out areas you'd like him to touch often, tell him what you feel when he touches there.
Sex is about learning each other. Take your time together, and do the learning.
Last, shower after. Especially if he's using condoms, they make penises taste bad. Keep that in mind and don't drop the glove on until you're done with foreplay.
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Make sure its safe sex. (Safe sex is great sex, better wear a latex) :)
Have fun, dont be nervous about it. And remember your first time isn't always as amazing as people make it out to be, it can take a couple of times for it to be amazing. :)
good luck
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Depends if he's had sex before.
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