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Very confused..
I went out with this guy in 8th grade for a few months and we really liked each other. I don't remember what happened but I broke up with him, let's call him Jim. Freshman year was the first time Ive ever fallen in love. We dated for a long time, we'll call him bob. Bob broke up with me because it was gonna be summer and we wouldn't have any contact due to the fact that my grandma doesn't like him. We ran into eachother a few times after and everytime we would end up making out whether we were taken or single. In late October I ran into him and we were both taken but we hung out alone for like an hour, we ended up making out and he told me how he still loves me and he wants to get back with me. I ran into him on Friday (we both are taken once again) and he's friends with my boyfriend Jim, well now ex. We were with a group of friends an Bob kissed me and told THEM how he's still in love with me. He told me he wants to hang out with me but I'm not sure because both of us love each other an who knows what will happen..now back to Jim, we kept in contact since 8th grade (I'm a sophmore now) and he told me he used to always tells me how he loves me. I went back out with him again for like a month and I broke up with him on Friday night. He was "depressed" and he's been trying to go back out with me this whole weekend. Well today I found out he already has a new girlfriend! Now there's one more guy.. Before I went out with Bob I had feelings for another guy, I'll call him Chris. He had feelings for me too but I had more feelings for Bob. While I was dating bob, Chris liked me on and off. We were best friends for a little over a year. We would talk everyday and he'd call me every night. We started growing apart when I got expelled from our old school and we barely talked. I haven't had a long conversation with him for like three months. Lastnight I was on myspace and he randomly sent me a message. We were talking for a few hours and now he wanta to hang out with me. I'm so confused about all three guys. I font know what to do anymore :( Im kind of mad at Jim, I rarely see Bob even though we will always have a spark. When I'm with him it feels as if it's only the two of us and nothing bad could happen. It's weird. And I'm just not sure about Chris. I don't have a specific question I just need advice on what to do with all three guys..
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Just go back with Jim. Throughout the past 3 years or whatever, it seems you just keep going back to him.. might as well try for a real relationship. If your family doesn't like him, then have him over or something to meet the family, & show them how great he really is.
Keep Chris as a friend, and make sure you tell him you just want to be friends. Bob is just upset that you guys broke up, and probably doesn't understand the sudden break up (if it was out of no where.) & just give him some space, he'll get over it.
or maybe, if that doesn't sound like a good idea to you, maybe you should just kind of distance yourself from all three, & decide which one you can't imagine being without. :)
good luck with whatever decision you choose!
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Okay, this is how I would handle the whole situation.. and none of this is meant to sound harsh or anything..
As for Chris I think you should just keep his as a friend, just because you sound like you don't want him in the way that you want Jim. So tell Chris that you just want to be friends, and thats all. If he has a problem with that then he'll either have to get over it or you shouldnt call him a friend anymore...(That sounds harsh, but its unintended.)
As for Bob, you shouldn't really feel bad for him being depressed, its just him saying that he wants you back and he's gona do that to try to keep your attention. Tell him you apologize for hurting him and that you don't want him anymore, especially since he apparently has a new girlfriend that he failed to tell you about sooner..
As for Jim... I would try to make things work, ask your grandma if she would give him a second chance and see if things could work out..
Sorry if I didnt help any... and good luck with the situation :)
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