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I'm Eightteen Years Old. I'm Still Living With My Mom, At Least For Now. I Am A Training Licensed Cosmotologist. I Have An Amazing Boyfriend. :]

My Friends All Come To Me For Advice So, Apparently I'm Really Good. That's Always Been Something With Me. I Read People Very Well, And Sometimes My Advice Sucks. I Wont Lie About That. Sometimes It Just Is Not Good At All. But I Do My Best, And I'm Extremely Good In The Relationship Department. Kinda Funny, I Can Help Everyone Else, But I Can't Help Myself.

Anyway, If You Need My Adice On Something, And Don't Really Want To Share It On Here, You Can Get In Touch With Me On AIM.
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i messed around with this guy. not sex, but some other stuff while i was drunk. now my throat is really hurting and im feeling a bit sick. and im worried something happened..like idk..but im on the pill and have had hpv shots. but im worried theres a possibility of being pregnant? like from fingering and that stuff. i know im paranoid. i heard your good as long as you have your period, but my pills make me have it once every 4 months, so there'd be no way to know. should i just stop taking them for a week to make sure my period comes? or is it even possible for that to happen from fingering, handy, and some stuff? =/ thanks

i just want to say, that, it is possible to get pregnant on the pill. i understand your paranoia though i've been through it all, i'm actually in questionable doubt :] but outercourse without the ejaculation doesn't cause pregnancy.

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I'm catholic, I even attended a catholic school [K-2grade] I'm 13 now and I don't really believe in God. Actually I'm not that sure anymore. I would like to believe in him but I just don't. So I was wondering if there is like any proof in God. Like how do people know he did exist. Because right now I'm on the lines of believing in evolution because its the only one they have actual proof on and it makes sense. Also, I'd like to add how none of the stories are actually possibe. Like the story about that guy getting swallowed by the whale its impossibe, which leads me to believe God doesn't exist and he's jus a bunch of stories and myths.

okay, so basically i've been raised with the lord in my life all my life :] i've come to believe that i am not classified in a religion rather i know who god is and i am comfortable with who he is in my life. i do not believe that if you are not christian, lutheran, baptist or methodist ect. classified (you get what i'm saying) that your going to be damned into hell. i just believe you have to listen to the message in church, if you go, and if it doesn't make sense to you, keep trying. i don't go to church because i don't believe in the way the pastors deliver the message. i do believe in God. whether that be his name or not, i have questions on how he got there,what made him decide to create the world, is there more of him and are we believing in the right one. you kind of have to decide for yourself what you are going to believe in. and anything you choose, is the right way for you and i don't believe that should be a problem. i hope i've helped some, you can contact me if you need me anytime :]

xo bethloveswife

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my girlfriend wants me to perform oral sex on her next time i see her. i suffer from cols sors sometimes, i heard it means you have the herpies vurus, so will oral sex give her hepies in her vagina?

ulcers don't always mean that you have herpies. lots of times when you get an ulcer in your mouth, you have one in your stomach. if you're really concerned with this, and i'm glad you are because most don't, then i would reccomend seeing a doctor, but then again, if ya'll have kissed and she doesn't have anything on her, then you're okay.

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what is pop your cherry?

you shouldn't be asking questions like this. ask your parents. if your parents haven't told you about the birds and the bees yet, you need to talk to a school councelor.

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13/f
So I used to be all happy and giddy. I used to wear bright colors, and be some what of in a hyper mood. You know someone you would wanna be around.

Well somthing changed. I cry alot. I wear black. Im not really hyper anymore. People dont really like to be around me.

I know I can change because, I KNOW I dont have clinical deppresion. What can I do to change?

-carlee

first and foremost.
when you cry, ask yourself what's making you cry.
after you've sat and discovered your answer, it will be easier to help yourself get back to the way you are.
sometimes things that make you depressed, are things in the back of your mind. you have like 7,000 thoughts per sec. so there is no telling WHAT you might be thinking of unless you focus on it.

it may be:
- relationship problems
- family [ parental divorces ]
- death
- friends
- school

if you can't find the answer, i would reccomend talking to a parent.


- bethloveswife

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I REALLY NEED HELP! i have a 6 week old puppy, he is a lab/pit bull. he was crated when he was with his mom and brothers. but now that hes crated here even if hes falling over tired he still cries! he wont stop. all night long. non stop.. we have to put him in the basement where we cant hear him but i feel so bad!!! even in my room if the door is shut he starts yelping. i know the crying is just cause hes out of what hes intouch with but everything people have said to do does NOT work. even if i lay down with him and my fingers inthe crate singing or talkign to him he SCREAMSSSSS and i cant take it. i start to cry. if anybody has ANY tips pleaseee help me.

*a vet told me not to put any hot water bottles, school clocks, blankets, or toys unless they are kongs. they choke on toys and blankets, pop the water bottle, pee on the toys and blankets. it makes a mess... so i cant put anything int here!! i put his stuffed animals outside looking in thinking that would help. it didnt.

*I take his water and food up about 2 hours before being crated and i take him to go to the bathroom and run him around alittle bit untill he gets SUPER tired and is falling over. (he still wakes up when he is put in there and starts howling)

any tips, stories, anythiiinnngg!!! just please help me! thanks sooo much in advance.

i know you dont want to hear about the not keeping the puppy in the crate, but i've got to say it. crates are for when you're leaving the house, or bed time. crates are also a puppy/dog's safe place. i have a red doberman mixed with a blue heeler. she's 3 now but she still gets into everything. at such a young age, your puppy needs more and more interaction with you. and crates are only supposed to be big enough for the animal inside to turn around. too much room and they take advantage, not enough room and they're uncomfortable. puppies need attention. and labs are extremely social. thus needing that much more interaction.

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Okay, so I'm starting to go to the gym almost everyday and I do the elliptical for 40 minutes and then I just play basketball for a little, but I'm working on getting some more arm muscle too. I am a 36C and I really don't like it. My boobs sag a little and I'm only 14. I bought this new bathing suit at Victoria's Secret but my boobs don't look good at all in it. My boobs are also kind of far apart even though they're big. How can I make them be sort of more..in/together? They sag a little and it looks like my boobs go out. And if I lose my goal of 20 pounds, will my boobs be smaller and more up there? I kind of want boobs that are in place. My friends who are A's and Bs have that.

some people just have wide-set chests. i do not agree with the first answer you got, i'm a 34b and mine don't sit together, i would LOVE them to, but they don't. anyway, it's all about the fit of the bra, which the person under me explained correctly. and i hope you get into a good habbit of staying healthy and exercising regularly :]

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how do u make a kissy face?

thanx!

act like you're kissing the air.

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alright so i sorta kinda maybe like this boy and idk if i want to cause i always end up for going byos i dont know to well..and get my self hurt..
but the bright part is he might also like me too..and i just wanna hang out with him more..

but there is anthor prob..so there is this guy "bob" ( thats what we will call him ) and we've been having this thing for a while now..about 2 months or so but we go to differnt school and he lives abnout 15 mins away..and whenever we try hanging out he cancles at the last min or just can't ..and i tried telling him about this and he goes well its not like your not busy..but thats not true cuase im ALWAYS inviting him to places and making sure hes on the kids i have come..but oh guess what..HE CAN'T!!!!!and so he got alll mad cause i was at the movies with guys and hes lik oh blah blah..and i was like i dindt do anything ..

and so we talked after about 2 weeks. and were talking and we got on the subject of our like "status" and i was lik well..idk if like you..( i don't know cause its just so damn hard..and thats when i started sorta likeing the other guy i talked about above..

i just don't know what to do..HELP ANYONE?!?!!!?

well, lets see, so you've got say a friends with bennifits type person, who acts sorta like a boyfriend but you're not that into him and youre liking other people. thats very simple. moveon from the nonboyfriend dude who seems to not be so great anyway.

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I need some ideas for a speech topic,
so far i have the following ideas
-The Simpsons
-Fast Food Restaurants
-World Hunger

Those are all I have, but i dont really like them,
any new ideas? Im in grade 8 btw
and PLEASE HURRY with the answer i need the outline for tomorrow!
Thanks so much!

you could have a speech about what problems face America today. and you're main topic could be how our biggest problem in America today is our people. and give your own ideas. idk i did that for english last year and i got a really really good grade.

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13/f
what can i get rid of scars with, without letting my mum know.
p.s most stuff i get my mum gets for me.

cocoabutter.

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ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half, and well two nights ago he told me that he loves me. it was in a message over myspace so i just didnt respond..well last night he said it again and i asked him if he really did mean it and everything and he said that he did... he said that hes been thinking about it for the past week but he just wanted to be positive that he really did feel that way before he said it... well the thing is that im not sure if i love him, like i love him as a person and everything like i care for him alot but i dont think im in love with him, but yet for some reason i told him that i do love him but that ive been in love with someone before and that i felt alot more for that other person when we had gone out..another thing that im not sure about is that this guy has told three other girls besides me that he loved them.. i asked him about this and he said that he only really loved one of them, the other two that he apparently loved had told him that they loved him first so he just felt obligated to say it back... he told me that he loved me first... i dont really knwo if i should believe him or not... so i just wanted to know basically if A.)i should believe him when he tells me that he loves me and B.) if i should say anything else back to him about him loving me like about how i had told him that i love him too.. should i take it back or what cause i do love him, but im not in love if that makes any sense... thanks in advance.

if you have to stop and question if you really feel the same, chances are you don't. i know how it is, with loving someone and then just fresh in a new relationship, that old love is still there. basically being with someone for a little over a month is way too early to be saying 'i love you' i've been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months. we've been saying those three little words for quite sometime, but we realized that we really ment them when we were together for 7 months. anyway, if you feel doubtful, give yourself some time is all i'm saying. if he really loves you, he'll understand. sorry i went off in a tangent there. :/

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soo i have a short tongue. and i basically wanted to know if like making out with someone with a short tongue sucks or not? cause i heard that long tongues are better. are they? if so..any tricks? to make it better and all?

well, i know i wouldn't want to make out with a frog.. you know the long tongue and all.. but i don't believe its a problem. be confident in yourself, it does alot.

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what happens to your body after you loose your virginity (to a girl)?

this is what i heard:
you gain weight
you get flab on your stomache
your legs get spread open because of the vagina

so what happens?

your body starts to develope more.
like you get boobs and you don't get
flab for say.. but your body starts to
mature more. like... i am getting love
handles, but thats because i sit on my
ass all day. if i got up that wouldn't
be there.
you don't gain weight.. you burn carbs
when having sex.

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15/f

sorry, i had to use my friend's account... but just to say that she already knows that i'm using hers. so yeah, anyways.... i'm just going to get to the point.

my boyfriend wants to have sex with me. and it hasn't even been 2 months yet. i told him when i'm ready, and he's already ready. but then he said he'll give me time, he's the type of boyfriend that doesn't pressure a girl into anything. he says that i'm the best girlfriend he ever had and that he hasn't felt like this to anyone besides me. i want to do it, but the problem is some things are holding me back.. like i'm scared my body won't be looking the same (because thats what i hear all the time), i'm scared i'm going to regret it, i don't want to end up like my sister(her boyfriend took advantage for her and used her for her body), and it's too early. should i just take the risk? or should i just not do anything at all. because part of me does want to loose it to him, but part of me wants to not loose it. >.< help me?

love, jenny.

Hi Jenny.
i lost my virginity to a boy when i was 15. i still regret it to this very day. if you feel any ounce of that not wanting to do it just yet or its too early feeling - don't do it. and yes its usually an amazing feeling for girls when they loose it and all. but that feeling goes away and then you're stuck with the reality that you just lost a big part of yourself to a guy that you barely know - or maybe you do know him but you know what i mean. i don't think you are too young for say. but i do think you need to really think about what you are doing. your virginity is a one time thing. and you should take as long as you want to before doing anything. be thankful that he's sweet and is allowing the time. a lot of boys would just leave. much like your sister's ex.

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I made out with a guy a few weeks ago. I have a project in the works that would leave us alone together for several hours, hopefully to repeat the experience. I was wondering if anyone knows any specials tricks that guys really like when you're kissing them or particularly sensitive spots that wouldn't be too embarrassing to caress mid-make-out (I'm not looking to grab the family jewels, ok? I'm talking collarbone, behind the ear, stuff like that.)

thx

there is a line of soft spots following from right behind the ear.. you can feel it between your jaw bone and the bone behind your ear there is a soft spot.. follow that line all the way to your collar bone and then kiss lightly and a little hard suction in a couple of places.. all guys like that.

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Why do most people hate cheerleaders?


I don't understand it at all.


please help me!

i am a former cheerleader.
not all cheerleaders - none on my squad
are snobby and what you see on TV.
somegirls are just hard core bitches.
you find them everywhere and some
girls just try to be like everyone
else but if you really get to know
them they aren't rude.
but yes people are stereotypical and
extremely judgemental so someone
may have had a horrible encounter with
a cheerleader once and so in their
mind.. thats how all of them are.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month. He just turned 18 and I'm soon to be 15 so we're about 3 1/2 years apart. Nothing bad or serious is going on but we do make each other very happy. I don't see him often but we talk on the phone for about 3 hours every night. My parents and family have no problem with it, they like him. But, his mom hates me! She's vietnamese and is from Vietnam so she has different views. He's an only child so I totally understand her being protective but idk what to do. I want badly to change for her but also, he likes me for me and I don't want that to change. They constantly fight about me, even tho I haven't seen her in weeks and she doesn't really know we hang out (she doesn't even know we're offically dating, he hasn't told her). She thinks I'm just doing this to prove I can get an older guy and mess up his life but that's not true! I care very much about him and love him a lot. I always put him first, he's one of the best people in my life. But I'm afraid that all this fighting is going to drive him crazy and he's going to decide it's not worth it and everything is too complicated. I'm stuck. What do I do?

that is a very big difference in age.
but as long as ya'll aren't fooling
around and such, i don't see how you
could be messing up his life. and i
wouldn't really take it personally
i think she is just shocked at how
young you are. and vietnamese women
are, i don't know how to put it
exactly but, they're very strong in
they're beliefs and opinions. but
maybe trying to talk to her and
just tell her that you both enjoy
eachother's company. communication
is the policy. if you don't talk
about things it won't ever work out
or get better.

i hope things work out for the best.
-beth

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Hi!

So is there a weightwatchers program for men? I mean guys need help too when it comes to losing weight.

It seems like men are completely left out of everything to do with diets, dieting and weight loss. Why is that?

THANKS!

Nutrisystem


Or, however you spell it. My principle back in highschool used it and looks alright for an older man now :]


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okay . so , me & my current bf have been dating off & on , for around 3/4 months . anyways , about a month ago he broke up with me , then the next day i found out he was going out with my bestfriend in 5th grade(caitlyn) [that he knew because she went to his school now,] and he said he only went out with her because he missed me . which didn`t really make any sence at the time , so i took him back . then today i talked to the girl he wen`t out with [caitlyn] on the computer then she said "your bf didnt want me to tell you , but i will anyways . before he "broke up" with you , he was going out with me" then i said "so he was cheating on me?!" then she goes "yes , for a day , then he broke up with me because he really liked you" so i started crying , and then i called him to get the details and i told him the whole story what had happend . he said that caitlyn still liked him & that wasn`t true at all . he said that they had started talking about going out , but never accually did . and now i`m stuck in the middle & i don`t know who to belive . my friends pretty much hate him because i`ve gave him a lot of chances . and idk . i reallllyy love him , he was my first real boyfriend , my first kiss . and idk what to do , i`m just stuck in the middle .

sounds like hes playing you dear. leave his ass, he's not important anyway.

always remember this "there's a reason you broke up in the first place, and that reason will always come up again"


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