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if i love him.
ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half, and well two nights ago he told me that he loves me. it was in a message over myspace so i just didnt respond..well last night he said it again and i asked him if he really did mean it and everything and he said that he did... he said that hes been thinking about it for the past week but he just wanted to be positive that he really did feel that way before he said it... well the thing is that im not sure if i love him, like i love him as a person and everything like i care for him alot but i dont think im in love with him, but yet for some reason i told him that i do love him but that ive been in love with someone before and that i felt alot more for that other person when we had gone out..another thing that im not sure about is that this guy has told three other girls besides me that he loved them.. i asked him about this and he said that he only really loved one of them, the other two that he apparently loved had told him that they loved him first so he just felt obligated to say it back... he told me that he loved me first... i dont really knwo if i should believe him or not... so i just wanted to know basically if A.)i should believe him when he tells me that he loves me and B.) if i should say anything else back to him about him loving me like about how i had told him that i love him too.. should i take it back or what cause i do love him, but im not in love if that makes any sense... thanks in advance.
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Well first i want to say, you'll never know if a guy really loves you until you are actually married, but that's just my opinion...
anyways my recent relationship was almost 11 months, and my ex-bf always told me he loved me, but he still ended up breaking up with me. i believed him when he told me, you know, and he thought about it before he told me...and i said it just b/c he did, but it's okay if you don't say it back. since you have said it once though, just let him know that you love him, but not so much yet. just let him know, you need to settle in first. and i'm sure he will appreciate it that you need time instead of just telling him when you don't mean it. and just don't think about his past relationships. you'll never know, but thinking about it doesn't get you anywhere. it really only messes things up.
so i'd believe him, but just let him know how you feel. =]
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if you have to stop and question if you really feel the same, chances are you don't. i know how it is, with loving someone and then just fresh in a new relationship, that old love is still there. basically being with someone for a little over a month is way too early to be saying 'i love you' i've been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months. we've been saying those three little words for quite sometime, but we realized that we really ment them when we were together for 7 months. anyway, if you feel doubtful, give yourself some time is all i'm saying. if he really loves you, he'll understand. sorry i went off in a tangent there. :/
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Honestly, a month and a half is a pretty short perion of time to be saying you're in love with someone. I dont know about you but I think that love is a very rare thing and that if hes said it to 3 different girls in the past he kind of is just throwing the words around. Don't be like "I take it back, I dont love you" but talk to him about it and explain the fact that you love him but you aren't in love yet. If he really cares about you he will hear you out and understand where you're comming from. Hope I helped.
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well you cant really question if someoen loves you or not. if he says it, then you should believe him since he is your boyfriend nd all.
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