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should i or should i not?
15/f
sorry, i had to use my friend's account... but just to say that she already knows that i'm using hers. so yeah, anyways.... i'm just going to get to the point.
my boyfriend wants to have sex with me. and it hasn't even been 2 months yet. i told him when i'm ready, and he's already ready. but then he said he'll give me time, he's the type of boyfriend that doesn't pressure a girl into anything. he says that i'm the best girlfriend he ever had and that he hasn't felt like this to anyone besides me. i want to do it, but the problem is some things are holding me back.. like i'm scared my body won't be looking the same (because thats what i hear all the time), i'm scared i'm going to regret it, i don't want to end up like my sister(her boyfriend took advantage for her and used her for her body), and it's too early. should i just take the risk? or should i just not do anything at all. because part of me does want to loose it to him, but part of me wants to not loose it. >.< help me?
love, jenny.
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Hi Jenny.
i lost my virginity to a boy when i was 15. i still regret it to this very day. if you feel any ounce of that not wanting to do it just yet or its too early feeling - don't do it. and yes its usually an amazing feeling for girls when they loose it and all. but that feeling goes away and then you're stuck with the reality that you just lost a big part of yourself to a guy that you barely know - or maybe you do know him but you know what i mean. i don't think you are too young for say. but i do think you need to really think about what you are doing. your virginity is a one time thing. and you should take as long as you want to before doing anything. be thankful that he's sweet and is allowing the time. a lot of boys would just leave. much like your sister's ex.
<3 beth
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i know you probably hear this all the time but.... you are too young to loose your virginity. i wouldn't have sex with the guy. wait at least another 6 months and see if he means what he said. that you are the only one he has felt this way about. keep telling him you aren't ready. you do want your first time to be with someone special and you do want it to be special, don't you?
i hope this helped,
Caitlin
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I didn't really think that loosing my virginty was a huge thing.. but honestly I think about it all the time.
I was 17 when I lost mine, it was to my boyfriend who I am still with 2 years later. Although we did wait for nearly 12 months before we had sex.
I honestly don't think you should have sex with him. Obviously you have respect for yourself and are thinking wisely.
If you tell your boyfriend that you want to wait and your really not sure of when you will be ready and he disses you.. he's totally not worth it.
You need to be with the right person at the right time, someone who you love and trust. Someone who will treat you like gold and make everything perfect for you and will never pressure you into things.
Just for the record.. your body doesn't look any different.. only if you become pregnant of course.
Just remember to be safe and make your own choices.. don't let anyone else choose for you.
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Hi Jenny,
If you have any doubts at all, which OBVIOUSLY you do; DON'T DO IT. My advice, wait until you have been in an established and MATURE realtionship; it will be SO MUCH BETTER for both of you. IF he really cares for you, and you for him, enjoy your relationship, your friendship, flirting, and gratify each other in another way that you feel more comfortable doing.
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HOLD ON THEIR JENNY. lol :)
By the looks of it you are not ready for sex. Now listen not even 2 months together? That's well, just dont do it. I'm turning 14 in a week, and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend who i've been with for over a year. The point is im trying to make is, wait longer, even 8 months is better then 2 months, you never know if hes a man whore or something lol. Well if you have any questions or comments, reply backk or somethingg =] Good luck and stay safe.
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only two months?
i don't think it's worth it right now, don't take the risk yet. wait until you're sure you want to lose it. and i mean absolutely sure. if he isn't the pressuring type than there's no need to lose it until you're completely ready. =)
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By reading all of your doubts, I can tell that you're not ready to have sex. I know how you feel. I'm a year older than you are right now, and I've gone through the same things. I resisted and I'm glad, I know I would have regretted going too far.
You say that he will wait, but then you worry about losing your virginity to him. I think that you should let him know that you're thinking about it, but that you still need time to sort things out.
Sex isn't a silly situation, and I don't think that you should view it as a risk. I'd like for you to know that you definitely want to have sex with him, and be very sure about your choice.
Really think about it. How will you think about this afterwards.
I hope I helped some.
-Devon
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