Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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okay so i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and our relationship has been quite unhealthy...(fighting alot, cursing at eachother, no trust, on and off) and recently we were in a HUGE fight and i went to a party and got drunk and high and i went with my bestfriend her boyfriend and his friend. and his friend is one of my bestfriends too so at the party he sat on my lap and turned to my and said "kiss me" and im not NO and hes lie comoen just do it and i gave him a kiss and I FEEL SO TERRIBLE ive been crying and i love my boyfriend i feel so terrible... also the boy i kissed is my boyfriends good friend so i cant tell him! or else i wont have a boyfriend or a friend :( idk what to do i feel so guilty its killling me im not happy anymore i just wanna be happy. please give me your advice. thank you. (link)
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Sounds like it's time for you and your boyfriend to break up!
You say you love him, however, as you said, you yell and fight with one another. People who love each other have trust in their relationship. Clearly your boyfriend will see you as untrustworthy now more then ever if he was to find out about the kiss.
Do you really want to put yourself in that situation of being with someone who is constantly checking on who your with or who you are talking to because you cheated?
I think perhaps your boyfriend deserves a bit better then that. Clearly there were trust issues before the kiss so whatever happened before has obviously taken it's toll on you.
I personally think it sounds like it's time to let go and move on. Find someone you can trust and they trust you back. The longer you stay with your boyfriend, the more guilty you will feel which will only cause friction in your relationship. One or both of you will be very hurt by the time you two are through which is very unfair to the both of you.
If you managed to even consider kissing someone else while having a committment with someone else, means you have doubts about your relationship already. The fact that you did kiss someone else.. only proves to yourself that you are ready to move on.
Do yourself and your boyfriend a favour. Break it off.. or things will go from bad to worse!
Good luck :)
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Okay I'm not one of those people who try to get sick so they don't have to go to school. But i have to do an essay on things people do to avoid school and why. So wht are ways you can get sick? Also ways that you can get a fever. Ways that ACTUALLY work. Haha thanks! Answers soon and lots of answers to! Thanksss (link)
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Go to bed with wet clothes on
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Two nights ago I went out wearing new high heels. Halfway through the night they started rubbing on the side of the ball of my foot so I put a piece of tissue in my shoe to stop it hurting so much and tried to ignore it. In the morning, the blister had turned into a horrible sticky open wound and the area around it was all swollen. I thought it would sort itself out so I put a band aid on it and left it but today it's still the same. Everytime the band aid comes off, the wound is still open and full of pus and my foot is still swollen so I can't really walk comfortably.
What should I do? (link)
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You need to let the wound dry out. Putting anything over it will let it stay moist which I guess.. Kinda feeds it!
Keep it really dry and it'll be gone before you know it :)
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hi... as funny as this sounds, this a really weird and bad situation and I was hoping I could get some advice from you guys. My mom is ltierally obsessed with hair, but not just any hair, MY hair. She's always "liked" hair, I guess you could say. She should have become a beutician! She loves to do make up and all of that stuff. But, lately, the obsession has grown to the point where she really doesn't let me live. About a year and half ago, I had an eating disorder. I was anorexic and mildly bullemic. However, during this time period, a lot of my hair fell out. It was not just that. It was also the fact that I had done a lot of things to my hair. But at the time, I was like 17 or 18 and I just wanted to experiment with different things. My natural hair color is an ash brown. It's actually very pretty. I've always just done highlights and lowlights for it not to be so ashy. But, it is a nice color. I don't have a problem with it. My senior year of high school, I just bleached my hair blonde, blonde, blonde. It didn't look ugly, but after I while, I just didn't feel like myself. I tried different shades of brown, and I thought that for now, any brown would look fine because you wouldn't notice the hair growing back as much as you would in blonde. My roots looked almost black next to that hair color because it was so light. But, the bleach and other stuff made my hair fall out. I cut my hair around shoulder length and it wasn't short. Just normal. I got extentions to make myself feel a little better because not only was it shorter than my hair usually was (it was usually up to my waist), but it it was very thin and it had no volume. My mom has become obsessed with those extentions.
The other day, I needed to redo the extentions because they had already grown out a lot. They just needed to bring them up. In doing this, the lady doing my hair had put a toner (which isn't a hair dye, it's like something that just enhances your color, makes it look brighter). It came out a little red. So, I went back and she put something else in it to take out that red. The red was very potent. I had to take it out. Now my hair looks a little darker. After a couple of washes, it will wash out. It's not that big of a deal. But my mom went CRAZY. She was like that's too dark and she was like almost crying in the car. She's like going crazy. Then today, when I woke up, the quality of the hair was really bad. Like, it was brittle and frizzy and I just went yesturday to go get it fixed! She had ANOTHER fit. And she said that she was going to call her today and she was going to have to fix my color.
I understand where my mom is coming from and why she is upset. The hair looked terrible today and we paid good money for it. However, when it comes to the color, and the way she's going about it, she's out of control! I mean, I'm 19 and I think I can handle these things myself. I really look fine. It's just the quality of the hair that's bad. But... my mom doesn't even let me wash my own hair! She says she has to do it for me! I really don't feel comfortable taking out my extensions until my hair grows out just a little bit more. But, how can I deal with my mom? I don't think it's hair necessarily that she's obsessed with. I think she's just using that to cover up for other things. It's always my hair! She never asks me about school, work, boyfriends, you know, important things! How can I deal with her and what do I do about the hair until it grows back? (link)
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Hm.. I guess our mum's are just so used to seeing us one way and all mum's are biast.. They think their children are georgous not matter what anyone else says..
So I guess maybe what your mum is thinking is that if your hair isn't close to what it was before you started colouring, your not the same person?!
OR..
Just a thought..
Perhaps when you had your eating disorder, she felt guilty for not taking control and she blames herself?! Mothers are suppose to pick up on these things (apparently)!
Maybe she's thinking she couldn't control your eating habbits but now she's over obsessive and she can see your hair getting out of control and she's taking action? Like she feels she should have when you started getting symptoms of your eating disorders?!
Well done for over coming your disorder by the way!
Hope I helped :)
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So for my photography project instead of writing about a story i kinda have to interpret it in photos. I'm lost with what to take photos of cause i don't really have anything interesting around me or any one to photograph any suggestions ideas anything will be helpful.
thank you :) (link)
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Why don't you try to interpret nature and polution?
I'm sure it'll be different to what everyone else has chosen.
Take photo's of beautiful tree's and flowers and cute animals or birds then take photo's of buildings and cars and trucks etc with smoke coming out of them.
Take photo's of rubbish on the ground and try to tell your story about how we wont have such beautiful tree's etc one day if we continue to have polution in our world! Stop world polution or something?!
Hope I helped!
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what do you call this kind of art?
http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lbxrdaWsxr1qb9hiro1_500.jpg (link)
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Creative.
Sorry I couldn't give you more :)
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heyyy everyonee!
okay well im 16 and i weigh 153 and i am 5'6". i am not obese but i could loose about 25 pounds the most. i go to the gym and i am not sure if i am doing the machines right and i just dont know how to lose weight because i see no results.
****ALSO**** i am on ADHD medication which decreases my appatite alot so its not that i eat alot so idk what to do!
please help me on finding a way to lose weight fast :) thankss. (link)
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Hi there..
Loosing weight too fast can lead to excess skin (flabby skin) which i'm 100% sure you don't really want :)
Ask the people who work at the gym if your using the machines right.
Exercise has to be consistent to loose weight. It's advised to excercise a half an hour at least 3 times a week. If you able to excercise for longer, go for it.
It's so easy to put weight on but extremely hard to loose it! Keep going, don't give up!! You will eventually notice that your loosing weight.
Set yourself goals too. If you on an exercise bike for example and you can ride so many meters in a half an hour, try and beat it next time! That's what I do. It makes it more interesting and a bit more fun too. You always feel better if you beat your own results too. Shows your getting fitter :)
Goodluck!
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im female, 15. my friend is 16. ok well there is this guy. we were 'talking' before but i decided i wanted to stay just friends. firstly, because my best friend used to like him, and secondly i like good boys and id always be worried about him. he does like weed and stuff. anyways all he mostly talks about is weed and drugs. like i kno what all that stuff is, i dont. but i dont like it. and ive told him before that i dont kno wat they are. theres a hint i dont like it. well he sees nothing wrong with it of coarse. so what are some topics to get him off of that subject. or a way to help me get him off of it by talking to him. he honestly has probably heard it a thousand times that he shouldnt do it. so talking about him quitting wont help. also his family knows he does it. and his friends do it as well so i see it as impossible. just help me on how to change the topics or just anything. please! and im not gunna call the law on him or tell him to go to a doctor or therapist, just because it wont work. (link)
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Well I see it as... If your such a good friend to him, then you will force him to receive help with his drug probelm.
You will eventually wish that you had of helped him when he ends up in jail or worse... dead!!
This is serious and it does happen!! Ignoring it will only encourage him! Your not a friend at all if you don't help him! That's all I have to say about this!!
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i was on the computer and it was my birthday. my mom,dad,brother,sister,cousins,and everyone came in, i was masturbating with head phones on, so i didn't hear them come in. i had my eyes closed.i finished. i opened my eyes and my mom screamed. i can't talk to any one about this. what should i do? (link)
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Whoops! First of all I would suggest that next time you lock yourself away before you decide to do it again.
Second, There is nothing you can do or say to take it back. What's done is done! Yes it is very embarrasing but your going to have to shrug this one off!
Masterbating is a natural thing and EVERYONE does it! It's just a shock when you are caught, especially by family members who know it happens but don't expect it happens to their own children!
Life will go back to normal. It will be a tad awkward for a while but at the end of the day.. your only human!
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hmm so my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time. He didnt like the experience because he was afraid he had gotten me pregnant. now he says he doesnt want to do it again. BUT I DO. what should i do? oh , and i tried masturbating. NOT THE SAME (link)
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If he doesn't feel comfortable having sex because of the consequences then I applaud him! There aren't that many guys these days that care so much about sex and the appropriate time to do it!
The experience can only be comfortable and enjoyable if both people are ready!
I am sure when he feels like he is ready again to do it then he will! Having sex with you doesn't seem to be the issue but the thought of having a baby is!
I guess in the mean time you could go on the pill and when you do have sex always use condoms to calm the situation! Don't force him though!
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I have gained ten pounds. I have not gotten my period for two weeks now but I'm no taking that too seriously because I have not been able to refill my birth control pills so that could be why I'm not getting it yet. Lately for the past two or three weeks my breasts have been leaking liquid that is either mainly clear with a hint of whitw color to it or straight up white when I squeeze them. Mainly my right nipple and hardly any from my left. Whenever it comes out its not a lot but it does it all day. I looked it up and its hard for mw to find anything about it. I took a test four days after my missed period and it came out negative but it was not digiral and it was an equate and had a VERY faint negative after about four minutes. I tried to look it up and apparently its not a very reliable test with a lot of complaints. I don't know what I ahould do or think. I don't really think I am but I know thwre;s a chance. Help? (link)
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The most accrate way to find out if you are pregnant or not is to see a GP.
Just to be clear, if you don't continue to take your pill your period usually comes 3-4 days after you continuously skip the tablets.
So the fact that you have ceased your pill for about 2 weeks and you still haven't got your period is a problem!
See a doctor!
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Hello everyone!
I have this wedding dress pic but I don't know who the designer is. I adore it and i would like to buy it online. Please help me.
Thank you in advance. :)
http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/7605/23210083.jpg (link)
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Wow it is georgeous!
I'm sorry I can't tell you where to get it from or who might be the designer, however, google Light in the Box!
Full of wedding dresses! You may be able to find that one or one similar!
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17/f
For almost 2 years, I've been really attracted to girls. I've only dated guys, and that's how I like it. I don't think I'd ever want to be in an actual relationship with a girl. But it drives me crazy that I can't have sex with other girls, mostly because I'm not going to tell anybody I feel this way. So it has gotten to the point where I watch lesbian porn, and it is the most sexual gratification I can find. I love having sex with my bf, but to be with a girl seems much more pleasurable. My question is, do a lot of girls feel this way ? Because I sometimes feel like most girls are attracted to other girls, just won't admit it. And also, can anyone relate to this ? I can't really understand if I'm considered bisexual or if this is just a phase.
THANK YOU :) (link)
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Hi there..
All people, girls and guys are curious about the same sex at one point in their life. You just happen to notice the sexual desires of a woman! There is nothing wrong with that. Why don't you try watching the porn with your boyfriend?
I wouldn't say that you are considered bisexual, there isn't really a catagory you need to be in to say how you feel about the same or opposite sex.
If you feel that your urges for girls are much more desirable, then don't fight them. Do what makes you happy!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a litle over three years and just last week he told me that he thinks we need a break. He says that he's not happy anymore and that for the time we've been together he's felt tied down like he couldnt do anything.
Recently he has also been texting this girl that we went to high school with and when I ask him he says there just friends. We have an apartment together and he no longer stays home he's always out partying with his friends and this girl. I found a text message on his phone about him staying at this girls house and passing out in the same bed but when i asked him he swears on his life that there only friends, he has no feelings for her and that he would never do anything with her.
He also can't tell me that he loves me anymore or if he wants to try and make things work. He says that when I change and stop being so contolling then he'll try to fix things with me but I have to prove that I've changed first.
I really love this guy so much he's my best friend and the only person I have in my life. My parents are divorced and no longer talk to me much because its always a battle of who I like more.I am 19 and female and I know I have a long life ahead of me but hes my high school sweetheart and the on for me. What should I do? Am i to insecure? Do i break up with him or just give him space for a while? Im so confused I don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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Hi there,
I guess you really need to work out for yourself, are you controlling of his actions? If you are then perhaps you might be a bit insecure.
Your guy probably feels like he needs to live his own life and not worry about anyone else but himself. 3 years is a long time to be with someone, he might just feel like he needs to be with his friends sometimes.
At this stage I would find out what he really wants. There is no point him going out and partying with his friends and passing out in other girls beds if he's not going to come back to you in the end. Find out from him if he really wants to be with you or not!
If he doesn't want to be with you then I guess unfortunately he's not going to come back.
However, if he feels like he needs to do whatever it is he thinks is right, then let him! Ground rules will need to be set without being to over powering.. No passing out in other girls beds.. friends or not!
You have to ask yourself, is it time to move on? Is it time to also live your life? As you said, you have your whole life ahead of you and right now your in a messy situation but.. in 5 years time, will this matter?
Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best!
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Hi,
Long story short.. my parents are divorced, I live with my mom whom I do not get along with. I would rather live by myself (not with my dad cuz that would create more conflict with my mom), but just in my own house with myself. I have had kidney failure my whole life so I have to visit the doctor a fair bit.
I've had my share of bad days. I only ever had one true friend.. that ended up using me for my brother. My mom likes this betrayer more than me and she treats my younger sister as the daughter she never had. (theres only two girls, my younger sister and I).
I am in grade 12 and I am trying so hard to make it through my classes and my life, but with all the stress of my mom, my older asshole brother, my cheeky younger sister, no friends (except for the 'one' who sleeps with my bro every weekend when he comes home), I don't have anything to hold onto. I just want to get through this year without killing myself (not literally, but inside) and being able to know that when I get on the other side, something greater will be waiting.. and maybe it won't hurt just to touch it.
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Hello there,
I don't really have a lot of advice on how to fix your situation but I can tell you this..
Life is how you make it! You control what happens in your life and the outcome (good or bad) is because of your choices. I know that you said moving in with your dad will cause conflict with your mum, but if you feel like you don't 'fit in' then think of yourself.
It's not selfish to want to be happy!
You seem like you've got the right idea with your studies and being in year 12, added stressors are the last thing you need. Move in with your dad! Just as a trial basis even!
As for the friends issue, again, life is how you make it! For every person in the world, there is someone! Whether that be a friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, relative! Go out and find friends, those people might not realise the hurt you have inside, they aren't mind readers. I am sure there are thousands of others out there who wish they had a friend too. Go find one!
Good luck! Hope everything works out for the best!
Roxy :D
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how can I commit suicide without making a big deal for others out of it, finding body, cleaning up, anyone finding me. Iam 64 worn out tired need out. (link)
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Get some help for crying out loud! There is always someone else who is worse off then you, stop dwelling on life and change it yourself!
You are in control of your life and actions, so make things better for yourself! Find a hobby or something to do!
My grandfather who raised me was only 58 and died suddenly and very unexpected, I would give anything to have him back or even just to speak to him! Don't waste your life because you feel it's time to 'give up'
Get over yourself! There are people who care about you!
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Okay, so.. I wish there was a category that combined mental health and sexual issues.
Anyway. I'm a physically healthy female who just turned 21 in February, college student, straight edge, and resposible with all my many chores. But, I've always had problems with sex; no, it's not like I was or am unable to have it, it's just that I want it for the wrong reasons.
Long story short, I had a really, really bad childhood with mixtures of child abuse as well as sexual abuse and now I kind of search for an answer to why a man would want to do such things.
So, I hate men and I generally fear them, but I have this terrible obsession for them. Like, I'll see a guy who looks like he would jump at a chance to take advantage of a girl and have a lack of care for her emotional state and want to punch him square in the face and have sex with him at the same time. I have this situation with one sort of.. Well, I suppose a lover of sorts. He doesn't know it at all, and I'd prefer him not to know it since he thinks I don't have a brain in my skull, but I've always wondered what was wrong with me.
I mean, I was in a seriously loving relationship for four years and my ex loved me with every bit of him. But, I ended up messing it up completely because he actually FELT emotions for me whereas I couldn't completely feel comfortable with him because I knew he cared for me. I wanted to analyze him and all he did was show me how much he loved me. I was a HUGE idiot basically. I still talk to him everyday and we both laugh and joke.
I'd love, and would give anything, to feel some sort of emotion besides lust, desire, and anger to make things better.
I mean, I try to socialize myself now since I was never properly socialized when I was a child, but I just don't understand communication or how my actions or words affect another person, yet I'm sensitive as all hell.
What's wrong with me? (link)
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Hi there!
I would certainly say that your reasons for wanting to punch a guy in the face and have sex with him at the same time is because you feel he looks untrustworthy. This is because of what happened to you.
Your wanting to show him the hurt and put him through unwanted sexual abuse, more like 'rape' out of desire for wanting to show him that it's not nice and it hurts.
Everyone deals with these sorts of things differently and their feelings are always described different. Don't think that you are unable to 'love' or 'care' for someone. You most certainly are but you haven't been shown how to do so.
You have had a traumatic experience with sexual, mental, emotional, and physical abuse as a child. A child so innocent that you have no reasons or explanations as to why it happened to you. I'm guessing that the abuser was someone who was suppose to love you? I could be wrong!
Your obsessing over answers instead of trying to figure out how to care for someone else. It's not something you are able to forget however, you are in control now. You are the one who controls your motions, your body and your actions.
Look at the achievements you've have so far college, responsible, respectful and i'm sure there are others. Your at a good place now. Control your situation, don't let it rule the rest of your life! It was certainly out of your control as a child but your not that little girl anymore. Your a powerful woman who made it through child abuse! I applaud you!
I really hope I helped! Good luck :)
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Ok so 16f and I just want to hook up. I dont consider hooking up having sex though. I think of it as making out, touching, hj, fingering, oral..
I dont want a relationship, i'm just not that girl, relationships aren't me, and ive come to accept it, i feel doomed like i'll never have a good relationship. Plenty of guys want me, theyd love to have me as their girlfriend, but it just never happens. i'm the girl that wants all not just one. I'm not a slut though because I havnt hooked up with a lot of guys. But guys, what do you consider a slut?
How can I go about hooking up without coming across slutty or eazy? I like doing things when I'm drunk but then I dont remember it, so how fun is that. (link)
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I think any 16 year old girl who wants to be sexually active is disgusting. Especially if you just want to 'hook up'
I think you need to reconsider your thoughts here other wise your are going to be named the cheap nasty girl who dished it out to anyone and everyone.
Giving guys the impression that you will have oral sex with them will give you that name! I think it is degrading that you wish to do this. Do you have any pride in yourself? any respect for yourself at all?
I think you should wait until you grow up before you start giving oral sex to which ever guy you think is cute enough!
Oh.. and it doesn't matter that you haven't 'hooked up' with a lot of guys. No one will believe you. Your putting yourself in a dangerous situation here. Giving or receieving oral sex while you are drunk.. If you can't remember it.. who's to say you wont get raped?
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22F- I have a great boyfriend who I love dearly but I met this great older man (51) last summer and we had a fantastic time. He's wealthy and enjoys traveling and doing things that I want to try. I have been avoiding him but I'm being drawn back to his lifestyle since summer is coming up. He has a boat, helicopter, huge house, motorcycles... and he will pay for most of the expenses on whatever we do. I went on a trip with him and some of his friends last fall and had a fantastic time but I had to lie to my dad about it. My mom knew who I was with from the get-go but I didn't tell my dad the whole story until I got back. I know my parents won't be very keen on me traveling with the 51m and I don't know how to tell them that I want to try new things and travel and I don't want to pass a great opportunity. But my bf and I have been together 5 months and we are in a great place. He just graduated college and I'll graduate in May. He lives and works about 2 hours from my hometown (where I want to live after I grad) and I don't think he wants to move. I've told him I want to live back in my hometown and he just doesn't jump on board with it. He has a great family and he's the last of 4 to get married. I get along with everyone in his family very well, also. We have discussed marriage (which is what I want ultimately out of life) and children (I want 1-2 and he wants 3-4) but he doesn't have the funds to propose to me or anything, which I'm not sure if I would say yes if he proposed. I guess I need advice on what to do. Should I break it off and have fun and be young with the spontaneous older man or should I suck it up and sacrifice this opportunity to stay with my boyfriend and strengthen our relationship? What should I do about my parents?
a little more:
I usually date older men
I have a tendency to cheat on my bf's when I see them going sour
I feel like I am sacrificing my youth to be serious (link)
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Your 22 years old and you want to travel the world with a 51 year old? Honey i'm sorry but your crazy!!!
You are not sacrificing your youth to be with your boyfriend, your finding out what life is all about! You obviously love him if you say you could marry him if he asked you.
This older man is more like another father to you. Sounds like your excited because this man could PAY for everything for you. What do you think he would want in exchange? Sex of course. Do you really want to be 40 years old and married to a 70 year old?
You really need to think about the way you treat people. Cheating on your boyfriends when you feel they are getting sour. Obviously you can't committ to just one person. Do you ever consider the boyfriends feelings or do you just break it off because you feel they are committing to much to you?!
You don't have to be serious at 22.. Tell me.. Why do you feel you need a boyfriend? If you want to be young.. why don't you be single and find out what you really want in life?! Don't sacrifice these men's feelings for your own benefit.. they are people too!!!
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A close relative ended her life a few months ago after struggling with chronic pain and depression.
Losing her was one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with in my sixteen years of life.
I find myself a little lost at times, and feel as though there's no one I can really talk to about it.
Every now and then, I'll think that I'm okay, that everything's fine, but it's not. I go back to four months ago, that feeling of hopelessness and I just break down again and cry. I cry for my cousin, and I cry for the rest of her family that she left behind.
But I have to cry in secret. I feel ridiculous. Why?
Is it strange of me to still feel like this after four months? I feel like my parents get annoyed with me when I bring it up to them, so I don't.
When I'm not doing anything, my mind instantly wanders to her, and I'm constantly looking at her Facebook page even though I know she's not actually there anymore.
I get scared sometimes too about losing another relative or a friend. Anytime someone says "Ugh, I'm so depressed", I get angry. Because they don't even know the meaning of that word. But I have to be secretive about it, because I feel like everyone expects that I've already moved on from it. But it's hard. I'm struggling.
If I ever bring her up to talk about with a friend, they change the subject very quickly or else don't say anything at all. And they change the subject to these trivial things that don't matter.
And I can't talk to my extended family either because I feel like they think I don't have any major reason to be so sad about it. Because I've never been that close to any of them. But I was close to the one I lost. :( (link)
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Hello there.
I know exactly what you are going through. I lost my grandpa only 6 months ago. He was only 58 and the healthiest person alive. He collapsed at work and had a major brain bleed which led to his death. We watched him get weaker and weaker for 30days before his life ended. My grandparents raised me from a baby.
There isn't really a right or wrong way of 'getting over' a death or a loss of a person. There are no rules for such thing. Everyone finds it very different to handle these sorts of situations.
Some find it easy to talk about, some shut themselves in a little ball and others have anger issues.
There are different stages of grief and everyone reacts differently. It can't be controlled. it can't be forced.. but it can be helped.
I know you said you think your parents get annoyed when you talk about it, but they need to be there for you. If you can't talk to them.. who else? You need to sit down with them and tell them. You can't be expected to deal with it on your own.
Trust me.. the longer you wait to talk about it. The worse you'll become. If there is any advice that I could give anyone. It would be about this. Please talk to you parents. Who knows... they might not know how to approach you on this situation, especially if you and the deceased were close.
Don't shut yourself out. Open yourself up! You can't live your life in secrecy! Believe me!
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