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I got drunk and kissed another guy... now I feel awful!
okay so i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and our relationship has been quite unhealthy...(fighting alot, cursing at eachother, no trust, on and off) and recently we were in a HUGE fight and i went to a party and got drunk and high and i went with my bestfriend her boyfriend and his friend. and his friend is one of my bestfriends too so at the party he sat on my lap and turned to my and said "kiss me" and im not NO and hes lie comoen just do it and i gave him a kiss and I FEEL SO TERRIBLE ive been crying and i love my boyfriend i feel so terrible... also the boy i kissed is my boyfriends good friend so i cant tell him! or else i wont have a boyfriend or a friend :( idk what to do i feel so guilty its killling me im not happy anymore i just wanna be happy. please give me your advice. thank you.
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i highly suggest telling your bf what happened..
A- you'll feel LOADS better that you got it off your chest
B- your bf would appreciate the fact that you're HONEST, and not hiding it from him
C- if he does break up with you, karma. it was your choice to get drunk and high.. numbero uno bad decision.. pay the consequences.
D- whatever happens..happens. everything happens for a reason. if he breaks up with you.. then it wasnt meant to be. if he forgives you, it teaches you a lesson never to do it again.
E- FORGIVE YOURSELF. the past is the past. this is the present. whatever happened in the past is over now. you cant go back and change it. why bother dwelling on the past if its just going to hurt you..?
F- learn from your mistakes.
there ya go. my biggest advice is to just forgive yourself, say sorry, move on. whatvever happens happens. just go with the flow. you cant change what happened.. so its just best to move on.
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Sounds like it's time for you and your boyfriend to break up!
You say you love him, however, as you said, you yell and fight with one another. People who love each other have trust in their relationship. Clearly your boyfriend will see you as untrustworthy now more then ever if he was to find out about the kiss.
Do you really want to put yourself in that situation of being with someone who is constantly checking on who your with or who you are talking to because you cheated?
I think perhaps your boyfriend deserves a bit better then that. Clearly there were trust issues before the kiss so whatever happened before has obviously taken it's toll on you.
I personally think it sounds like it's time to let go and move on. Find someone you can trust and they trust you back. The longer you stay with your boyfriend, the more guilty you will feel which will only cause friction in your relationship. One or both of you will be very hurt by the time you two are through which is very unfair to the both of you.
If you managed to even consider kissing someone else while having a committment with someone else, means you have doubts about your relationship already. The fact that you did kiss someone else.. only proves to yourself that you are ready to move on.
Do yourself and your boyfriend a favour. Break it off.. or things will go from bad to worse!
Good luck :)
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