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whats a slut ?

Question Posted Friday February 19 2010, 10:18 pm

Ok so 16f and I just want to hook up. I dont consider hooking up having sex though. I think of it as making out, touching, hj, fingering, oral..
I dont want a relationship, i'm just not that girl, relationships aren't me, and ive come to accept it, i feel doomed like i'll never have a good relationship. Plenty of guys want me, theyd love to have me as their girlfriend, but it just never happens. i'm the girl that wants all not just one. I'm not a slut though because I havnt hooked up with a lot of guys. But guys, what do you consider a slut?
How can I go about hooking up without coming across slutty or eazy? I like doing things when I'm drunk but then I dont remember it, so how fun is that.

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Additional info, added Sunday February 21 2010, 8:39 pm:
Personally I think a lot of things such as what i consider hookin up are taken way too seriously. I feel like things like that should be more normal instead of like OMG SHE GAVE HIM HEAD!! it should be ohkay cool she gave him head and..
I mean what really gives others the right to judge

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Roxy07 answered Sunday February 21 2010, 8:28 pm:
I think any 16 year old girl who wants to be sexually active is disgusting. Especially if you just want to 'hook up'

I think you need to reconsider your thoughts here other wise your are going to be named the cheap nasty girl who dished it out to anyone and everyone.

Giving guys the impression that you will have oral sex with them will give you that name! I think it is degrading that you wish to do this. Do you have any pride in yourself? any respect for yourself at all?

I think you should wait until you grow up before you start giving oral sex to which ever guy you think is cute enough!

Oh.. and it doesn't matter that you haven't 'hooked up' with a lot of guys. No one will believe you. Your putting yourself in a dangerous situation here. Giving or receieving oral sex while you are drunk.. If you can't remember it.. who's to say you wont get raped?

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Melody answered Saturday February 20 2010, 4:31 pm:
How do you know you like doing these things when you're drunk, if you don't remember doing anything at all the next day? Just a thought.

There is no textbook definition for how many men a girl has to have sexual relations with before she is deemed a slut. It's all a matter of personal opinion, and in the end the only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself.

If you don't feel guilty about what you are doing and you don't think it's wrong, then who am I or anyone else to tell you otherwise? A girl can be called a slut for kissing one guy. No matter what you do, someone will talk negatively about you. That's life. However if you are open about fooling around with a lot of guys just for the fun of it, girls will call you a slut quite frequently. That's life.

Just because you haven't had luck with relationships yet, doesn't mean you won't in the future. If you aren't ready to settle down yet, that's great! You are only 16 after all. Date around instead of sleep around. Just because you don't think it's bad now, doesn't mean you won't regret it later. In fact, I bet you will! Don't rule out relationships in your future. If you find a guy you like, give it a chance. Don't be so afraid of getting hurt that you avoid falling in love. Life's no fun that way.

If you like the way you are doing things now, be prepared to have tough skin. People will call you names, I promise! Always be safe. Whether or not you are having intercourse, any sexual contact can result in STDs. Always use protection, no matter what kind of sexual relations you participate in.

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