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What are some ways to flirt with a guy that you work with? We work in a restaurant in different positions, but pass each other a lot in the kitchen and stuff.

Whenever you pass him, you could smile cute or smile and say "hey" or "how's it going?". Also, since you just pass by him, you could lightly touch his arm every now and then. Just do cute small things because you don't want to make a scene at work :]

Have fun,
-Devon

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Does anyone know if the band McFLY is going to be on the Concert for Princess Diana? Thanks.

I'm pretty sure that McFLY isn't playing in the Concert for Diana.

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HEYy i have a problem of eating to much...
i cant stop i never realy have that full feeling.((only on thanksgiving))haha.
well i run every night almost and it doesnt seem to be comming off.
PLEASE!
i need advice i feel fatt.

Oh, don't feel fat!
I eat quite a bit too, but I balance it out by being active and really concentrating on my problem areas.

Try eating more slowly, the slower you eat, the more full you might realize you've become.

Make it a habit of putting down your utensils every few bites, and give yourself a minute to really finish what you've already eaten, and let it settle into your system.

Running is a very good activity. Maybe you could look into yoga or pilates. Yoga and pilates help your systems and your body at the same time. They can also alter your mood, by releasing endorphins.

Most foods release endorphins, like turkey on Thanksgiving. You can eat, and eat, and eat, and not realize how much you've actually eaten until you can't even move.

I'll advise you to eat small portions of the food that you like, and then continue with your nightly running, and maybe add in a few extra activities.

Just don't get yourself down, it's hard to lose weight and it doesn't happen immediately!

Hope I helped, good luck!
-Devon

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I want to gain weight. I'll even take fat.. Any tips? No, I can't just pig out on junk food. It is unhealthy and it does not work because of my high metabolism. Is there certain foods to guarantee weight gain or some pills to take?

I don't really want muscle. I'm kinda bony. I'm 16. 5 feet and I weigh about 85 pounds. i never had an eating disorder. I really want to fill in my curves more. My hips are bony and blah. I really want to feel more confidence in myself.

I can't go see my doctor because she's booked for a while now. I really want to do something over the summer. Help please?

Snack a lot and still eat at your normal times.
Don't snakc on junk food alone though.
Try some of these:
-Special K Bars
-Peanutbutter/Cheese crackers
-Fruit smoothies
-Milkshakes
-Yogurt

Just try to eat foods containing more carbohydrates.
-Peanutbutter
--Make a peanutbutter sandwich with *white bread.
-White bread contains quite a few carbs.
-Eat meat! Try to have more chicken every now and then!
-Foods with high starch content such as potatoes and rice.
Hopefully you like milk, because it also has a lot of protien in it, as well as fat.

If you're up to it, you should try to wrok out, so that the fat builds into muscle.

Well, there are plenty more ways to eat that can help you gain the weight you desire. I'm sure you will get many more helpful comments!

Good Luck!
-Devon

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i need somewhere to get free ringtones for my nextel i560?

I suppose you could try http://www.phonezoo.com

My phone doesn't support their ringtones, even though they said it would, but they really are free! Also, they have pretty good quality.

Have Fun
-Devon

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i am inlove, inlove, with boys like girls. but then, all of a sudden, it got on this really popular radio station that EVERYBODY listens too, and they keep playing it, and now like everyone i know is like, "omg i just love them!" and im like you dont even know anything about themmmm. you only know like those two songs. and uhh, there like well, so. and its just EXTREMELY annoying. i dno, im just one of those people who like to be the only one who knows a certain type of music, so then no one can say they like it. because they dont. and its just annoying all the way around.

does anyone ever feel this way??

I always feel that way. I just have to relax and realize that people all over the world listen to the same music, and that it wasn't just made for me (as much as I'd like that ;])

The radio ruins a lot of good bands for me, but it doesn't make me stop loving them, and it shouldn't do that to you either!

Keep on loving your music!
-Devon

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15/f

sorry, i had to use my friend's account... but just to say that she already knows that i'm using hers. so yeah, anyways.... i'm just going to get to the point.

my boyfriend wants to have sex with me. and it hasn't even been 2 months yet. i told him when i'm ready, and he's already ready. but then he said he'll give me time, he's the type of boyfriend that doesn't pressure a girl into anything. he says that i'm the best girlfriend he ever had and that he hasn't felt like this to anyone besides me. i want to do it, but the problem is some things are holding me back.. like i'm scared my body won't be looking the same (because thats what i hear all the time), i'm scared i'm going to regret it, i don't want to end up like my sister(her boyfriend took advantage for her and used her for her body), and it's too early. should i just take the risk? or should i just not do anything at all. because part of me does want to loose it to him, but part of me wants to not loose it. >.< help me?

love, jenny.

By reading all of your doubts, I can tell that you're not ready to have sex. I know how you feel. I'm a year older than you are right now, and I've gone through the same things. I resisted and I'm glad, I know I would have regretted going too far.

You say that he will wait, but then you worry about losing your virginity to him. I think that you should let him know that you're thinking about it, but that you still need time to sort things out.

Sex isn't a silly situation, and I don't think that you should view it as a risk. I'd like for you to know that you definitely want to have sex with him, and be very sure about your choice.

Really think about it. How will you think about this afterwards.

I hope I helped some.
-Devon

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what happens to your body after you loose your virginity (to a girl)?

this is what i heard:
you gain weight
you get flab on your stomache
your legs get spread open because of the vagina

so what happens?

Oh no! Where did you hear that!?
That's not true!
-You can, however, gain weight if you take birth control (but it's really not a big deal).
-Get, what you called, "flab", if you, say, become pregnant.
-If, per chance, you pull a muscle in your groin while having sex you could walk strange...I guess.

...
Really, these changes that occur can be very emotional. You can feel sad afterwards...happy sometimes afterwards...it all depends on you.

I think that before you try to have sex, you should learn more about it and what can happen, there really aren't many changes as long as you're safe and know what you're doing.

Try to study up on these things before you jump into them, especially if you are massively misinformed.

-Devon

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I swim for a swim team and every summer i get swimmers ear and it is always really bad like drainage kind, It is starting to happen again but is there something that like really works to get rid of it, i've already tried cheap riteaid stuff and it doesn't work! HELP!

The "rubbing alcohol method" does work very well! Also, you could buy ear plugs, and as annoying as they are, they work very well.
I think you can find them in most drugstores, and if not, ask your doctor (because swimmer's ear is very painful) where you can get them for a fair price.

Good luck!
-Devon

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What does GQ mean? I guess it has something to do with looking profesional because my brother struck a pose and people said it was his gq pose, and my other brother went to prom and they said he looked gq.

Hah, that's funny, I've never heard anyone use it as an adjective :]
It means Gentlemen's Quarterly. It's a magazine for men, stock full of men's fashion, interesting (yet manly) articles, and of course busty women.
It's a good thing to "look GQ". It means you're stylish!

Hope I cleared that up!
-Devon

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is there another store like hot topic that i can look up online. anything is appreciated. i do rate and i rate well.

Now, this might be pushing it a bit (I'm not too sure about it)...
http://www.katesclothing.com
http://www.interpunk.com/

These are more novelty, gift like things, but they might have some things you like...
http://www.spencersonline.com/

And another site that's quite expensive, but good if you're willing to dish out the money...
http://www.heavyred.com

Happy shopping!
-Devon

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Well we have a school graduation dance on Tuesday. No one has asked is that ok? Does it mean that somethings wrong with me? I never dance at these things, should i ask someone to dance or would it be weird because im the new girl and i have only been here for one year?

Well, if you have any close guy friends, those should be your go-to guys (especailly if you're new). There's nothing wrong with you, don't ever think that! if you don't plan on dancing, ask a couple of your closest girl friends to go and you can hang out and talk about everyones dresses and dates. Who knows, maybe you'll end up tearing up the dance floor with your buddies and having the time of your life :]!

Really, please enjoy your dance! I hope I helped you out!
-Devon

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what are some really cute flirting tips to make a guy really want you!?!

Well, the other comment said to touch whomever you're trying to attract. It depends on the person I guess. I tried that once and it didn't quite work out. So maybe just a little touch on the arm to start and make sure it's okay.

Don't make a fool of yourself, you have to keep control of the situation. Don't just laugh at everything they say, but don't shoot them down either. If you don't find something funny, maybe just smirk a little, to let them know that's not your style.

SMILE. It's cute and it'll let him see that you're happy and confident...which leads me to not putting yourself down. Don't say bad things about you, even if it makes him say good things about you. It may seem like the boy is complimenting you, (and hey! he really might be) but he might just being realizing that you don't like yourself. And how can someone like another when they don't even like themself.

I'm sure if you just act like you normaly do, and throw in a few of the things mentioned, you will do wonderfully! And if he doesn't catch on, then it might not even be worth it.

Hang in there! I hope I helped!
-Devon

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k now i told u bout part one part 2 is as follows.
i was talking to her on msn and she said she wants to make out with me and she wants me to make out with her and than i told her what i had for dinner and shes like you should have had me for dinner and she said if me and you go out ill let you eat me out.
k so if she wants to make out with me and she says if me and her do go out i can eat her out does this me she actually does want to go out with me? or what....?

This might not sound so great, but there are two sides to this.
1. She might really like you and want to go out with you, she shows many signs that she does.
2. On the more negative side, she might just want to get some action. (I hope this isn't the situation, because you seem nice and just a little confused.)

Is this what you really want to do? Should this relationship be based on more than a girl that wants you to perform oral sex? I think maybe you should talk to her more, and find out what's really going on.

I really hope I helped and that you can make a good decision!
-Devon

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I need some music that is/has:
1. Not fast but not slow.
2. has a deep meaning/feeling.
3. Something like Joss Stone
or
4. Joss Stone Music

Thanksss

Someone mentioned Imogen Heap, which would be my first group listed.
Another group like Imogen Heap is Frou Frou. Their songs vary from fast to slow, and all have very nice meanings that are rather clear.
Also, a few songs by the All-American Rejects are good.
-Some are fast, some are slow, and some are in between. Even though they aren't like Joss Stone, they still sound nice.
Anna Nalick sings a song called Forever Love(Digame) and it's beautiful.
And as a last one, try As Tall As Lions- most of their music is wonderful!
Hope I added a little bit to your list :]
-Devon

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My new best friend is a paraplegic. We have
become really close but he never talks about
it.

I do know he had some kind of diving accident
but that is all. We get along great and talk
about everything but this one thing.

Would it be really rude of me to just ask about
it? I'm asking because he is my friend and I
want to know all about him just like he knows
about me.

I don't want it to seem like I am being nosy
or anything because I really am not. Its just
I'm always wondering things about it and it is
distracting that I do.

How would you approach the subject?

Thank you for your time.

Well, my brother has been paraplegic since birth. Normally, people have no problem asking him what his story is, and he has no problem explaining it to them. Every now and then, those who are cuious enough, but too shy to approach him, ask me, and I can fill them in. I say, that if you're good friends with him, then go for it. I believe someone already mentioned not to push him into telling you if he doesn't want to, that's a good thing to remember. No matter how long ago it occured, it could still cause him emotional pain. Just go by asking him in a calm way, as if you were asking him any other question. He's really no different than anyone else you talk to :].
Hope I helped a little bit,
Devon

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Does anyone know good books for summer reading. And the books are atleast on a 10th grade or higher reading level...
Thanks anyways :D

If you're looking for something that will take a while to read and challenge you a little, you could try:
-The Book Theif by Marcus Suzak
--Another one of his books, that isn't quite as long, but still amazing is:
-I am the Messanger
Maybe you're looking for more "life-like" books that pertain to things that happen in highschool lives...you might like:
-This Lullaby (Sarah Dessen)
-The Perks of being a Wallflower (Stephen Chbosky)
Another great read is The Wish List by Eoin Colfer.
--And if you end up enjoying that one, you might like his Artemis Fowl series. (This series is strictly fiction and involves "faeries" and other things of that sort...but it is still a very good group of books)
Seeing as we're on very fictional books at the time, Tithe (Holly Black) is brilliant.
Some more interesting, but...strange...books are:
-Invisible Monsters (Chuck Palahniuk)
-Running With Scissors (Augusten Burroughs)
-Gingerbread (Rachel Cohn)
-Crooked (Tom McNeal)
-Massive (Julia Bell)
-Give a Boy a Gun (Todd Strasser)
-A Million Little Pieces (James Frey)

Here's a list of some other random books that I found to be quite good:
-Holes (Louis Sachar)
-Small Steps (Louis Sachar)
-Hoot (Carl Hiaasen)
-Life in the Fat Lane by Cherie Bennett (It's really not that weird)
-Speak Laurie Halse Anderson
-Tending to Grace (Kimberly Newton Fusco)
-Girl, 15, Charming but Insane (Sue Limb)

I guess it all depends on your favorite genre of books, but I think I covered a few categories.
I hope I helped out a little bit, have a good time.
-Devon

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