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I'm single but I have gone through tough relationships so I can help anyone on that field...


I'm a tracky and I love soccer and most of my close friends play diffrent sports... so sport questions I can help with...


I have awesome friends but we have had our tough times so friendship problems, I know almost all...


I'll tell you straight out what I believe whether good or badd... but I try to be as nice as possible... I answer any type of question...


I'm a Junior in high school... which means I'm in 11th grade for those who don't have any special names and such... i'm 16 since july 9th


Im me on my screenname if you really need help with something that takes further more talking on... or you can just im me to talk... I'm me... xoxoxo


~Gomesy #11~

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Im 13, im goin out with this guy Joe. I really really like and we have gone out 4 other times. we had broke up a little while ago,we had still really liked each other so he asked me out again. but hes always with this girl deena and they're like always standing RIGHT next to each other. and he doenst talk to me like at all amd he'll blame everything on me. we hardly hug, he doesnt hold my hand, and barely ever puts his arm around me, so i dont know if he really likes me although he says tht he does alot. and we've been going out for a week. i dont kno wut to do about him and i really like him. plz help!
signed~ confused

GRAB HIS HAND... meaning take some charge... when he is near deena you go in for the hugg... show her he is yours... even if she doesn't want him just do it... if maybe you start this he will learn to do it on his own... like training a dog... lol... good luck

Gomesy11

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Ok, so im 13 i have this boyfriend joe and i really really like him. We have gone out 4 times before, but i dont know if he really likes me. We hardly ever talk in school and im a shy person so i hate to walk up to him by myself, especially because he is usually by these people who hate me, and this week i have had a cold so. I dont know what to do like i dont know if he likes me and hes always with other girls and hiss best friend is a girl and i guess im a little jeolous of tht and i dont want to be and my best friend is a guy and its one joe hates, so i am sooo confused.
signed ~confused~

Confused,
If you like this guy you have to go for it... i know that seems like shitty advice but there is nothing else... see if you guys have something... than worry about your friends... take chances... good luck

Gomesy11

P.S. If you need more help just ask

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okay i have this friend.. we will call her "jen" and this other kid we will call him "joe"... well jen tells me how much she hates joe and he is gross and annoying and blah blah...but everytime jen sees joe she all acting like they are best friends... i think she may like him but embarrased cause he isnt the greatest looking guy in the world, or maybe she is really 2 faced... im the type of person who thinks good things about everyone and i cant watch her say such horrible things then be all nice to him...i dunno if i really have a problem or if im just in a bad mood or something...do u think this is a big deal? if so what do i do?

This is a issue that could be semi resolved... when she says something about him be like, "Than why do you act so diffrent when he is around".. confront her... put her on the spot... don't do it infront if him though... maybe if you confront her she will choke and end up to say all... good luck

Gomesy11

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hi,
so there is this guy... and he's two grades older than me so he isn't in any of my classes, but he is really cute and i did track with him so i know a little bit about him... from what i know i really really like him... but i never see him anymore cause track is over(for my school at least im not sure if urs is). i see him in the halls but i wasnt great friends with him so i dont say hi cause i dont know if im supposed to so i just smile... and i really wanna get to know him more but i dunno a way how... im kinda sorta friends with his younger sister but obv. im not gonna use her to get close with him... and one of my best friends is the type of person who can go up to anyone and have a convo.. so i was thinking maybe i could ask her to start talkin to him and become to know him and we can becom friends threw friend... i dunno it was just anything... i know i sound retarded but i really wanna get to know him so please please helppp!!lol thanks a bunch if u can

You don't sound retarded... you should defiantly try to talk to him... be friends with this guy... well if your friends the type like that ask her for some help... make sure she knows you like him though... so she won't try to make a move... try that out... good luck

Gomesy11

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ok well, my friend, i really like him alot, but were like best friends, so i dont wanna mess that up. but anyway, last night i came home, and i wasnt at school yesterday. So i was online and he came on and usually i IM him first, and i was typing to him, but he IMed me first, and he was like... I MISSED YOU SO MUCH TODAY! and i was really surprised because i didnt think he would say that because i thought he was mad at me and i'd been thinking about it all day while i was away, and no matter what me and my friend were talking about his name always came out of my mouth. So anyway then we were talking and he was like, listen to this song i found today, and he made me listen to let me hold you by omarion and bowwow, and he was like, when i heard it i had to have you listen to it. And then i had to go and i was like, im gonna go, im dead tired. and he was like, go to bed, and that kinda surprised me because usually he's just like w/e bye. i know this sounds kinda gay, but does this mean anything?

The best relationships start off with friendship... you should go for it... it seems like he is starting to like you more than a friend... just go for it girl

Take chances

~Gomesy

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I have a cingular motorola picture phone. How do i get the pictures I take go on the computer?

You send the picture on your fone to your email adress and then go to your email and save it to a file...

~Gomesy

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im having a really tough time right now. im going out with someone who will stay unmentioned..but the thing is i used to like this other kid who we will call **matt** ok well *matt* and i were talking for the first time since he found out i had a boyfriend and he told me about how he used to like me a lot. the problem is that i really like him even when me and my bf began going out. but i also love my boyfriend. they both live in different towns than i do and i have no idea how i am feeling right now about both of them. its really confusing me and i just feel like giving up. pleaseee help me.

well **matt** should have told you he liked you before... he probably want to keep you for himself and such... don't let **matt** ruin your relationship with this new guy... don't lead **matt** on and tell him the truth... don't have one guy and another one... that's messed up and i bet yopu wouldnt want your boyfriend to have another girl... good luck

~Gomesy

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Do you think it's possible to find your soulmate at 12? When I was 12 I got my first bf and we're still together. (I'm 14.) We've been through a lot together and I feel really close to him. But I don't know if that's just because he's the only person I've ever been with, or if my feelings are real. I can't imagine us not being together. He's my best friend. So... Do you thinkit's possible he's my soulmate or am I too young and am being fooled?

It's so sweet that it is soo sweet you guys have been going out for so long and that you guys are best friends and such... but your still young and you can change... let days pass or weeks or years and see how it goes... maybe someone will come and your feelings might change...

GOOD LUCK

~Gomesy

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i am a 14 yr old girl and of my boyfriend always wrestles with me what does that mean ?

Means that you guys are close... if you don't want anything to happen than don't let anything...

~Gomesy

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Me and this boy are really serious. We have been talking for like3-4 months.But this other guy asked me to the dance and then we started to talk cuz i kinda said yea since the first boy doesnt go to my school.Then he asked me to come outside and we were walkin around all day.Then he fingered me like 4 times,. But i feel really guilty cuz i love the other boy.What do I do? IS this cheating? Do i tell the other dude.

If you do something with another guy sorry to say but it's cheating... but at the same time, are you and this guy official going out?... because if your not than it's not but if you are it is... just see where you and the guy you like go... he'll probably ask if you have done stuff with guys and if he does than tell the truth... good luck

~Gomesy

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I have a track meet friday, and last time i had one, i fell! and couldnt run for the rest of that meet. Well, like i said above, I have a Track Meet Friday, and I am soo scared!!! and I am so nervous, i have been since monday, no joke! and i have been thinking about it since then! i know it sounds crazy, but it sure is true!! SO, what are some things that i can do to distract myself from being nervous? I have a fear of falling too, i fell in the open 100M dash! and i have to do it again tomorrow, and also the open 200M dash! and i am fine w/ doing the 200, its the 100 i am nervous about. when i fell i dontknow what happened, and i only had scratches on my legs, not my hands or anything. so, i think i was breathing funny because i was nervous and blacked out. well, I also dont know weather or not to use the blocks. :/

sorry, this is so long!!

Thanks so Much in Adavance

-Kelsa-


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I'm on the track team too... i use to do the 100 but i do the 200 and sometimes 800... what my friend told me to do is when your at the starting line and such just focus.. like some people will be jumping aroung and such but just get in your position and just look at the finish line... easy breaths... just like its only you.. block eveyone out and when the gun goes off so do you... i tried it during the 200 and i thought it works... GOOD LUCK AT YOUR MEET... I HAVE ONE TOMORROW!!! I'm doing the 800, throwing disc ( i usual throw shot put), 4x1 relay (we are close to making states), and long jump... im a busy gal... try what i said and tell me how it goes


~Gomesy

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so ive liked this guy at school forever. weve both always had bf/gf this year though. well were both single now and weve been getting close. we hangout all the time at school and every1 thinks we go out. he said he doesnt want a relationship right now though. at school he puts his arm around me and hugs me forever and on the wekeends hell hold my hand and kiss me and stuff. but he wont kiss me at school. not even a little peck. he kissed his ex all the time though! and he tells me he loves me and calls me babe and calls me every single nite. hes reallly sweet. well i didnt see him last weekend so he said hell "save a kiss for me on monday" monday came, he didnt kiss me. today i was kind of bummed so i wasnt talking alot and he could tell i was mad and kept asking me. my friend eventaully told him what i was upset at. so before we left he hugged me for like 5 minutes and said srry but were at school..i was like yea w/e and walked away. well he called me today after school and he was like your mad because i wont kiss you at school and i was just like no im not whatever. he was like just wait for the weekend babe. im getting soo frustrated. its not even a big deal but ive been through soo much shit with guys and hes the one guy who is so sweet. why wont he just ask me out!? ughhh what can i say/do about this?..

To tell you the truth from reading that it seems like he is trying to get something out of you... don't like kiss him and really talk to him about stuff... i think if you guys start to go out and such he will kiss you... h might have had problems with past relationships and thinks kissing in front of allot of ppl means your with the person and you wnt everyone to make sure they know...

Hope i helped

~Gomesy

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hey... im 14 and to new people i am really shy but with all my friends im kinda the crazy one that no one takes seriously... but my problem is that i dont know how to make friends...expecially guys... i feel like its time that i finally get a boyfriend or even just friends who are guys but i never know how to start a convo or keep a convo goin
help!

I have the same problem... just talk to people like you talk to your friends but don't say everything exactly... I talk to people i know from sports and we talk about certain things... for example a really cute guy on the track team... i would never say a word to him but at one point i talked to him about track and soccer... just find something you have in common... when you get going you won't be worrying about nothing to talk about you'll be worrying if your going to forget to say something... Good Luck

~Gomesy~

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I went out with this boy for 4 months and we broke up. He has a new girlfriend now. I don't know her, but one day she messaged me out of the blue and started asking me if I still liked him and have feelings for him. So I told her that I don't because I kinda do, but only a teeny bit. Anyway, she won't leave it alone and everyday she asks me if I want him back and blehh. What do I say to her to make her stop, cause I'm really tired of telling her that I'm not trying to steal her boyfriend.

She is trying to make sure your not a problem... most of us girls do it now a days... she will stop sooner or later... if she doesn't she has major problems... next time she asks be like... "the more you ask me the more he comes on my mind and the more i think about him and think if i do like him or not..."... maybe if you say that she will be too scared to ask...

Gomesy

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So, theres this guy and he shows all the signs that he likes me and this other chick but I dont know if Im really his type.We have gone out sevral times and it has been GREAT but it seems everytime it ends he goes back to his emo ex!!! and I alwaz get hurt what should I do to get his attentions and make him love me NOT HER!!!??!!
Sighed,
~Helpless~

This guy seems as if he is trying to play a game with yah... if i was you i would try to find another guy who will be focused on you... it won't be easy to get over the guy but be strong and find another guy... don't play his game... don't be the chick on the side

Gomesy

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(15/F) I have two best friends, and I'm either with one or the other. I don't have any other 'good friends' in school. Everyone is already settled with their own group of friends and I feel so alone when I'm not with my best friends. I think girls view me as a snob though, because I do have more guy friends and honestly I'm attractive. How do I get more friends and find people my age that I have stuff in common with? I don't want to come off as desperate or dorky but I do need more girl friends to hang out with.

If your soo cofident in yourself just go out and talk to people... if they don't like you tough luck... don't worry about what people say... all that matters is what you say and you...

Gomesy

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hey i have a friend and him and his girlfriend broke up like 2 weeks ago and he still likes her so me and her hungout friday ane he got mad at us. But now i like her and like shes my bestfriends ex. What should i do?
P.S. were both 14

It's not always good to hang out with your best friends ex... unless you and her were already friends... i can see a love triangle in the making... if i were you just back off for awhile... its not always good to be with your friends ex it can cause major problems... just seee what happenes with them and let her decide...

Gomesy

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okay.. so theres this boy that likes me who i really like also... he told his best friend that him and i were going to go out.. but he hasnt asked me yet... his best friend tells me that hes most likely going to cheat on me... so thats a bummer right? well.. i realy really like him you know but i dont want to be cheated on.... so i thought maybe i could go out with him but not think much of it.. but that wouldnt make the relation ship work... than i decided i could realllly dedicate myself to him and that would stop him from cheating on me.. but no one wants their heart brokend.. WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?


signed... helpless!

So he's a cheater and such... and maybe a bit weird???... Weird cause he told his friend you gys were going out when he didnt ask you... idk how you guys are... Maybe him saying this shows that he likes you???.... there is nothing wrong with taking a chance... every relationship is going to hurt... that's what helps it grow and become stronger...

Take a chance... ~Gomesy

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hey my name is Ashley and i'm a feamle(of course) and i'm 14 yrs. old heres my question for anybody with good advice!!!

I like my best friends ex!!! Heres the scoop... they broke up because my best friend was confused and she cheated on him. Well now(two months later) she starts telling me she now knows what she was missing and she really did love him and she wants desperately to go with him again. Now i've been talking to him since they broke up because he needed a friend cuz he really liked her but she cheated on him.(yea i kno guys actually have feelings...well at least the good ones) and i'm starting to like him now i mean he's the perfect boyfriend he's cute, hilarious, loving, i don't know he's just soOoOo great!! the thing is that my best friend who i've been friends with for almost 11 yrs. still "loves" him i really really think she'll be so mad if he askes me out or if i ask him. I dont know what to do cuz i dont want her to be mad at me but i dont get very many guys nowadays and i really like him and he told me i was hot yesterday please help me!!

Luv,

~~~ASHLEY~~~

P.S. i rate high

A love triangle isn't what anyone needs... just try to let him go... if he comes on to you it isn't your fault... let him pick i guess

Gomesy

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I have seen my report card since 8th grade (I'm now in 11th). Ever since my sister started high school (she's a year older than me) she started throwing away both of our report cards because she doesn't want my parents to see them. My parents did notice at first and called the schools and everything and they schools told them that they don't know what's going on because they've been sending them. So, my parents kind of forgot about it. I didn't really care about it but now I do! I have no idea how I'm doing in school. I think I'm failing half my classes but I don't actually know. I have no idea what my GPA is either (we get it in about 3 weeks but I don't know what to expect). It's completely unfair that I don't get so see my report card because my sister doesn't want my parents to see hers. I've told her before to just throw hers away and not mine but she was like "No, then they'll figure it out." I've also tried asking her to at least just let me see it and then she can throw it away. She agreed at first but then "accidentally" threw it away. She already got into the college she wanted to get in and my parents are all proud of her and whatnot so I don't get it! What else should I do? And no, I won't tell my parents about it. Other than this, my sister and I are really close so I don't want to do that to her.

It's cool that you and your sister are close... i wish me and mine were... but mayve go to the guidence office and such and ask for your grades... idk how your school system works... but if you and your sis are close she should let you see it... tell her exactly how you feel or what you wrote up there but put it like your talking to her... if she is almost out of college she should let you see your repert card so you know how your doing so you could try to get into a good college.... hope i helped

Gomesy

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