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i love him so much i dont want to lose him
i have this guy i been with for 8 months and he broke up with me and i gave him a letter begging him to take me back telling him i love him and i need him and i cant live without him.. and he just read it and ripped it up...and i left crying and he cursed and yelled at me..when i came back i sat by myself and cried for like 2 hours and he was all over my friends hugging them and stuff like that and i got so uppset and he didnt even care..this happend like 20 minutes ago and he isnt calling ...he never calls when we break up...i always call and beg for him back what should i do to make him want me back?
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it sounds like he's being a jerk.
i think he realizes how much you love him,and he knows that you're always gonna call and beg,so he doesnt even consider that ya'll might be through.
i think this time you should let him do the worrying,& instead of calling and begging,wait it out and let him get worried.
it might not work, but you dont need to keep letting him think he's got you wrapped around his little finger.
you deserve better than for some guy to be a jerk to you.
i hope i helped, and good luck.
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you're not going to want to hear this, and you probally be pissed and upsset, but please think about it.
there is not much, if anything you can do, and most of it in the end will end up hurting you. this guy does not feel the same towards you and if he is he is showing it in an abusive manner, h is intentionally trying to hurt you, maybe to make you jelous or just out of spite. he is not worth you time.
Try to move on, give yourself time to heal, their will be other guys and this guy could always come back, you never know. ad if he comes back then you have the choice but he will likely hurt you again.
take some down time
GoodLuck, contact me if you ever wannt to get somthing off your chest, it will stay confidential.
Jon a.k.a GateKeeper
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Ok first of all this guy sounds like an ass, why are you begging him to come back, he is obviously hurting you on a continual basis. You can't make someone love you, believe me I have tried. You deserve better then him.
If you really want him back, (despite the fact that he seems like an ass) then here is what you do: Don't call him, If he calls you tell him your busy right now and you will call him later, then make him wait for a few days. If you see him don't react to him AT ALL just say like hey and walk away. I GUARANTEE that he will be the one to come begging it will drive him NUTS that you are not running after him.
Good Luck and if you ever want to talk about WHY you think you deserve a guy like this let me know.
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oh no no no...im sorry but honestly, DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK! he is completely not worth it! iknow it will be hard, and i know you love him, but he is absolutley not worth your time, i promise you, you WILL get over this, it will just take some time, and in the future you will think back and be like, im so glad i got out of that situation, trust me! if you are "always breaking up" there is another hint that this is clearly not working out, you DONT want him back, you will be happier, go find a better guy whos less immature, sorry i hope i helped you
[P.S. i think the most you should tell him is that he really hurt you. thats all you should say to him completely]
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Your story remind me of my own when I was in high school with a guy I loved and he broke my heart over and over and he would humiliate me in front of people the same way this person is doing you , he humiliated me so much until everyone at school knew it and many saw it. I feel your hurt
He is treating you like this because he is arrogant and immature and with these two mix together is like putting a match to gasoline
The more you show him you care the more he blow up, sweetie I know it hurts but I encourage you to flip the script on him; stop calling him,and when you see him if he is right in your face out of common courtesy smile ,speak and keep going but do not hold a conversation ; you have to flip the script because he is not respecting your kindness or your love for him, remember those two things I mention, while those things are going on he is going to keep hurting you ; so this is why it is imperative for you to flip the script.
The guy I was telling you about was just like him and then he got worse, the more I showed I cared the worse he got, the fact that you care for him is not wrong , there is nothing wrong with you for there is nothing greater than love for God is love however the problem is his arrogance and immaturity .
Also I question your friends perspective because they would not let him hang around them knowing he is dissing you like this.
I do not know you and have never saw you however I am not just an Advice Columnist but I am also a Minister & Spiritual Advisor; I encourage you to draw strength from the fact that you have the ability to love and not just to love but the ability to love someone unloveable that power .
If you follow the advice by flipping the script you will see a difference, he already knows how you feel, he already know how much you care; I encourage you to use this time away from him to learn how to love yourself; use this time to discover all your attributes, discover and rediscover your inner and outer beauty, I am encouraged as a messenger of God to give you this powerful truth & secret; you have chosen the better part by choosing to love , he have chosen to be unloveable , and what makes this so powerful is he needs you in his life more then you need him because you have love and he do not but the reason that he doesn't realize it is because you are chasing him , you have to step back for him to see it, he is just using your friends as a smoke screen to appear happy; I do not know if you have a relationship with God, but I will tell you this God is gonna heal your heart and show you how beautiful you are .
By the way the it was only after I stop chasing my high school sweet heart I saw a change, we broke up before I graduated I am a year older than him, we got back together a little bit after school and was together for awhile; we kept breaking up and getting back together; the last break up we had he got in some trouble and now he is doing along time in prison however he has contact me and ask me to forgive him for the way he treated me when we were in high school , and of course I forgave him, after all I am a Minister / Spiritual Advisor / Advice Columnist. and I say all this to say , God will turn your pain into power and use it to help others even the one who has hurt you; just two weeks ago this same person asked me to help him by formatting a letter to send it to a legal organization that help people whose incarceration is unconstitutional ; yes I formatted the letter and sent it to organization and they will be in contact with him shortly .
Be encourage
If you like you can send mail to my inbox anytime you need to talk .
God Bless You,
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move on. he doesn't want you back. guys don't like getting dumped and it does stuff to their egos when then come crawling back. no guy i know would go back to someone that broke up with them. so really, start moving on. there are better guys out there, i promise. <3
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