I am a Minister / Prophetess , Spiritual Advisor & Christian Counselor . My Advice Column is based on Relationships , Christian issues, Youth / Teen issues , World News and as the Founder of a prison ministry I give advice to families , spouses and friends of the incarcerated using biblical principals as the foundation to provide a Word of Wisdom , a Word of Knowledge, a Word of Prophesy
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i don't care about my life, because this isnt where want to be!! does that make sense?
this is the thing, i have like 2 lives..
one over here, and one in london (i go there once every 3 months) and i like my life over there more, even though this is where my life really is.. so when im over there, i make sure i always look hott, always do my best, always have fun and so on.. i try over here, but it kinda doesnt matter anymore, i dont care about my life here, i dont take care of myself, i can look like crap..i can get bacd grades.. i can be unpopular.. because i dont care, it feels like im not supposed to be here.. while when im over there.. i care. i don't know, i feel so unhappy always waiting for when i can go there and LIVE MY LIFE. i for some reason cant live it here, because i dont want to, and i care more about the poepel there i think.. i dont know, please help me (link)
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The answer is very clear, you're apparently more happy in London and more impotantly your esteem seem to flow healtily in London in my opinion that is where you should be or at least until you a better understanding in this chapter in your life .
one last thing I would share with is, not everyone is destine to live in America; and if I could make my point more personal, I live in Los Angeles, CA . not everybody is destine to live in Los Angeles and the undestanding is really basic in retrospect to there are people all over the world living in every state and country; I know this sounds very elementary thouhgh I live in Los Angles , CA I have to respect and except the fact that everybody can't and will not live in California
As a Minister I will tell you that the reason you're unsettled and seemingly unhappy is because London is where you belong at least in this chapter in your life and the reason why your spirit is broken is because you have not completed your destiny in London .
although I do not know you but God has reveal to me the place where you are now is to fast for you and all this unsettling and broken self esteem has happen because you left London prematurely . the fulfillment of your purpose and destiny is in London; there is a inner healing God wants to do for you and it can't be done in a place that makes you sad this is one reason that London is significant in this chapter in your life .
God Bless You
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Does anyone know any bible verses about faith and doubt?? or just really good bible verses, i'd rather they were about faith and doubt tho. HURRY! (link)
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Read Hebrew 11th chapter that whole chapter is on faith and how many who believed God against all odds saw the promise come to past and went down in the Hall of Faith because they believed God
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Im about to start school soon and im going to a new school.How do i deal with bullies?please answer this question. (link)
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The only way to avoid bullies is to just keep on going, when you see them don't stop and talk just keep going avoid them as much as possible.
If you pass by a bullie and they ask you a question answer respectfully and keep moving or if you do not know the answer direct them to who can answer their question and that is it.
The bottom line let your words be few around them therefore it's possible that they will not bother you because you do not give them much of a conversation .
God Bless
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I feel like I don't want to live anymore. I did NOTHING this summer and I hate myself for wasting my summer. I lost alot of my friends almost all of them. My boyfriend and I just broke up. My 9 year old sister gets treated like a princess by my parents and my parents ground me for everything that happens when my sister always does the bad stuff. My sister gets to go to my neighbors beach house every weekend and sleeps over EVERY weekend while my mom makes me stay with my grandma who hates me while my mom and dad go to expensive restaurants having the best time. I used to be the smartest person in school with straight A's but now my grades are slipping so much I almost had to stay back. I'm so lazy and never get anything done. I've gotten soo much acne and I've went to almost every dermatologist in the state and my pimples are still there and my face hurts because its irritated. My hair always looks unhealthy. My eyes are too small. My nose is too big and is covered in zits. My hair is dead and I use the best shampoo. And today I got so mad because my parents pissed me off so much I cut my hair with scissors and I just cut a HUGE chunk of the front of my hair so now thats screwed up. My hair won't curl no matter what I use. If you had to live that bad, wouldn't you feel like wanting to die? Everything about me and my life is screwed up. I'm so sad lately and no body and nothing can cheer me up. If I could feel good about my appearence and friends and life then I would enjoy living. I used to. But this summer everything is falling apart. I don't know what to do. It's probably just hormones I'm 13 and I don't have depression I'm usually really happy. I don't know what I can do so that I feel better about myself. Help?! (link)
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I'll start by saying you are making yourself feel sad because you are magnifying your weakness and things you can't change presently .'
You can make yourself feel better by magnifying your strenths above your weakness, for example perhaps you are a good listner, faithful and true to friendship and or sensitive to the needs of others; any or all these represents your strenth and gives you the right to say I am somebody, I have something to offer others and I am worthy of love etc.
You spoke about your grades dropping from getting A's to whatever the underscore is , you didn't mention however my point is the fact that you were making A's tells me a great deal about your intelligence and achedemic capabilities which also tells me that you still have these abilities but what has happen is you have allowed other things to distract you and therefore it has come between your Achedemic achievement and focus that's why your grades has dropped,not because you're dumb .
Your lack of friends and boyfriend issue is a result of the way you're making yourself feel by magnifying your weakness; your have allowed your weakness to rob you of your joy and motivation to enjoy summer activities with those you love and others you hold as dear friends.
Your skin and hair is going through these changes because of stress;your stress level is high ; what I mentioned in the previous paragraph about magnifying your weakness is the cause of this level of stress, and I believe the reason that your parents are seeming to play favoritism among your sister and going places without you is because I belive they are disappointed about your grades and unfortunately parents usually takes away priviledges and things children care about to discipline them; going through this doesn't feel good but it is apart of growth and to challenge you to make better choices in life; everyone in life goes through discipline .
My best advice to you is to start by focusing on the things that make you feel good about your self, look at your past acomplishments and the things you do exceedingly well presently these are your strenghts ; and keep looking at them and watch your smile and joy return and your stress level will begin to vanish, your skin will begin to clear up, your hair will begin to look healthy, your frienships and relationships return to it's form and your family relationship will begin to heal; above all I want you to know that God is love and no matter what you do right or have done wrong his love for you will never change .
God Bless You
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So I have these two friends, Shelly and Gina. You see, when I hang out with Shelly and Gina separately, we have alot of fun and there's no problems. But, whenever I hang out with them together, like all 3 of us, i totally feel like the third wheel and they leave me out. They're always walking away without me, hugging each other, and telling each other they're each others` best friends. Sometimes it feels like they don't even know I'm there! For example, we were shopping at Old Navy awhile ago and they kept trying on the same things and telling each other what to wear, but when I said I was gonna try something on or I liked something, they either totally ignored me or walked away. Also, people always seem to associate them with each other and invite both of them to things, but not me. I'm pretty sure Shelly is doing it purposely, but Gina probably isn't. This is really making me feel bad. And it's not like I can move on and hang out with my other friends, or hang out with them separetely all the time, because i take dance with them 5 days a week and that means we're all together ALL year long. Any advice on what I should do? Thanks. (link)
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What I believe is happening , just as you hang out with each one separately at times they also are hanging out with each other some times without you, and this is why it seems like they have such a bond when you're present .
Inspite of you all friendship you are still different people in personality etc. and I am saying this to say even if you all of you are sensitive in nature but you handle it differently from one another
for example :
your friend who you think is purposely ignoring you;I believe she's aware that you spend time with the other friend without her and she has taken an offense by this and therefore her way of getting back at you is by treating you as if you're not there; and the other friend she's obviously giving more attention may not be aware of the game; I am sharing this with you for the sake of understanding why this is happening to you and to open your eyes .
My advice to you is to sit them both down and explain to them the way they make you feel when you're all together; and let them know that whenever you spent time with each one one on one, you wasn't doing this to hurt the other, and you can go a step further by saying that each of you do have a right to spend time alone with either friend individually if you choose to however what is inappropriate and unjust is when a group of friends get together and one is being ignored this is unexcepted. and then let them know if you all gonna continue hanging out those things that's causing havoc needs to be exit out .
Because I am a minister / spiritual advisor my best advice would have been to advice you to show yourself more friendly by communicating more when you all are together but the problem is not your communication , it is the absent of comunication from those around you and with this being said the above paragraph is my best advice due to the circumstance . remember
forgiveness + forgiveness = more forgiveness
God Bless You
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I dont go to church as often as I should ( maybe 2-3 times a month ( instead of every week). But anyway, my best friend's younger siblings are gettin blessed this upcoming week, and I am going to be there because thats where I go to church but, my otha best friend's mother got an email invitation to go. Now the thing is my girl best friend ( who's mother got the official ivite) she is an actual official member and has been going there ever since she was two ( now almost 15) and my guy best friend ( who's siblings are getting blessed) has been there for six years...so there families know each other. But I am pretty cool with his mom, was I forgotten why I didnt get an official invite. I am the best friend here, but he told me about it on the phone, but what if they and who ever got the ivite are having lunch later on..I wont be there, was I forgotten, am I unwanted. I just want to be included tho...but its hard because kids can only have so much of an impression on adults...and my dad isnt that social...so adults dont really know me because they dont really know my dad, my queston is.....how do I get included, and does my best friends family not like me enough to invite me?? Or am I just jumping to negative conclusions?? HELP (link)
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I do not believe that your friends or the adults has purposely ininvited you; first you must remember that you are hardly there and I believe that it just wasn't in the scheme of things from their prespective to invite you
Also you must remember that each individual person handles people and situations differently, and what I mean is this; the fact that you are rarely involved in the church meetings there are people who would'nt think to mention this occasion to someone who they think isn't really interest or preoccupied with other things and there are another another kind of people especially concerning a church event they will extend the invitation no matter how many times you're rarely there however I believe these people are those who perhaps are called to thiis kind of mission and unfortunately in many cases unless people are called to this kind of work as it relates to church functions they may not be motivated to extend the invitation and on the other hand your friends in particular may have considered asking you but because they may not know if they'll ve successful and I believe that is why your friend mentioned it right before the time .
However after all I mentioned I don't believe their intentins was to leave you out and I belive God has allowed you to be sensitive to the fact of the matter he want you to give more of your time serving him and be attentive to things that involves him
God Bless You !
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The person that I am dreaming about is a guy that I dated off and on for about 2 years around the age of 15. I am now 33. The first dream that I can remember having about him was about two years later. It was very vivid like he needed help or something. I had a few of those. Then, he showed up at a party I was at. He said he would soon be moving and had hoped to see me before he did so. I felt like i had mentally connected with him. Over the years, I had several more boyfriends and would still dream about him from time to time. I am now married (have been for 5 years) and seem to be dreaming about him pretty frequently. I should stop here and say that I did see him again briefly about 5-6 years ago at a bar. I with my fiance, he with his. Needless to say, I was drunk as was he and I dont think I made a very good impression (wanting to hug him 3 times when I saw him, mentioning the dream, etc)Anyway, these current dreams, they are not sexual (he was not a good lover) but I always feel so warm and content and happy, protected, etc. when he is there in my dream. Why am I still dreaming about him after all this time? I was a teenager when we dated, I had other teenage boyfriends, its not like he was the only one. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Hello and how are you I here to share a little light on the dreams you've had and other concerns .
The dream you had about your former boyfriend where you saw him needomg help, that was God showing you a glimps of what was going on in mis life at that time .
I am a minister so I need to minister to you and then ended with advice .
I believe there is a two-fold message and reason why you dream about him ! .
I don't know what you were going through in that chapter of your life at 15 teen however the fact that he was kind to you was impressive and it brought comfort to you , it's almost like that was the first time you ever experience real kindness .
God is showing me that you are very sensitive
and I believe the reason that you dream about him is because that was the first real comfort you experience from another human being and so when you begin to deal with various issues of life especially those things that make you feel sad, you reaching for comfort (that's human nature)).
So to answer your original question the times you dream about him is God's way of providing comfort to you during that time and season in your life concerning whatever you're dealing with ; also that is the reason that the dreams are not appearing sexual .
When you saw him in a dream and appearing to need help, God was showing you what was going on in his life; and the reason why he would show this to you is because of how you bonded with him, you see you may think that you met him for the purpose of a relationship although that did happen but the real reason why he was in your life at that time is because God sent him to be a comfort to you although you and he was unaware of the purpose; God makes us a gift to people and makes people a gift to us .
The reason why he stood out in your mind over the other boyfriends is because they were not sent in your life for the same reason he was .
I know you are married now and I pray God's blessing on your marriage and on your husband personally and I pray that you feel the warmeth and protection from your him .
God Bless You !
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I know you probably can't answer this but, I am sad and I feel depressed I mean I have great parents, a great boyfriend, and semi-cool friends and I'm popular but I always feel sad like I have these friends but I dont really belong how do u feel belonged and not sooo depressed, sorry if this is confusing but please if u can please help (link)
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It is a wonderful thing to have great parents, a great boyfriend and cool friends but I believe the reason why you are feeling depressed is althouh these things are wonderful but there is more to life , in other words having wondeful family and friends is not a fulfill life that is only the benefits are should I say one of God's gifts to you which brings me to this point, take all the love that God has brought in your life and share it with others who are not in your circle this will cause you to be fulfilled and happy ; my final advice if you do this I believe your depression will disintegrate
God Bless You
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Hi i'm 15/f and me and my boyfriend are starting to have sex and are moving slow. I was wondering how to get birth control if you don't have a Plan Parent hood and you live in a small town wear everyone knows you. I want to make sure that everything is okay before trying again and I've done some research and I want to know if it is necsesary if I don't have sex really often maybe only once every couple of months or so? Thanks (link)
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you may not want to reply to this message after reading my advice however you're just 15 years old, you need to focus on your schooling; and you asked is it neccesary to not have sex really often ? my advice to you is not to have sex at all and therefore there would be no need for birth control or a plan for parenthood .
Howver if my advice means absolutely nothing to you then the next wise thing for you to do is protect yourself; there is no guarantee that this young man will be with you always you're just 15 and you have have your whole life ahead of you .
God Bless You
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My 6 year old daughter recently started saying she wants to meet her real dad (he hasn't seen her since she was two years old except for a brief chance meeting at a friends house a two years ago.) I'm not sure what brought this on, except that I just had another baby with a different man, and he and I share custody, so maybe she's feeling a little jealous that her baby brother's dad is around but hers isn't. I'm no longer involved with my son's father, but we are civil for our child's sake so it isn't like he could be a father to her. But I need to know- do I call my daughter's father and make him have a relationship with his daughter? I don't know what to do, or what to say to her. (link)
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My advice to you is to contact your daughter's father and tell him that she is asking for him and wants to meet him; you didn't state what caused and you do not have to however my point is this what ever you do please do not go into what happen between you to because it's irrelevant regarding your daughter having a relationship with her dad; I don't know how old you are but I encourage you to please be wise when you contact him ,in other words be polite and do not attack his Fatherhood remember you are trying to restore or bring about for the sake of your daughter .
What many women has to learn and understand is alot of fathers especially young fathers never saw the example of how a father should be to his children and the Mother of his children; most of them all they ever saw was a father run from his responsibilities and therefore they repeat what they saw unless they break the cycle like my dad did and I'll explain ..
My dad and his 5 siblings lived with his parents who were married but there was just one problem his dad was never there he was only there long enough to impregnate her; and all mature folks know that it only takes one time for that to happen; my dad is the second oldest child so he would know how often his dad was there, he told us that his dad never stayed with them although his parents where married and I am saying all this to lay the foundation to this point; my dad and my mom married when he was 19 and to them was born 4 children ; 3 boys and 1 daughter - yours truly anyways my dad promised that he would never do to his family what was done to him;and he kept his word until the end .
My parents was married for 38 years we lost my dad to reno failure December 4, 1998 although we had to come through this lost God has brought healing and now I use the testimony of my dad to speak into the lives of men & women but especially young men; I tell them that they do not have to do to their children what was done to them and I encourage them tobe the one in their family to break the cycle;and I reiterate that my dad broke the cycle by not doing what happen to him; and I tell them if for whatever reason you can't make it work between you and the other parent learn to communicate the best you can for the sake of the children and do everything that you know to do to be good to your children and I pray that that their children gain my testimony of having parents who was able to stay together with them until the end .
In my closing if for whatever reason the things that each willing parent hope for between them and the other parent doesn't occur know that your life is in God's hand and he will bring someone in your life who will love you the way you want to be loved and they will love your childen as their own this is why it is imperative to wait for the right one .
You will know the right one because they are a builder and not a destroyer
God Bless you and all who reads this
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I have been haveing really weird dreams latey. like last night it was that i was at my neighbors house and they had chips and i ate them and i felt horrible after become [im on a diet] and so then after that i realy dont reamember what happened but people left me behind.. so then i could not find my mom and i drove her car into the lake. it doesnt really make sence i know but most of them im left behind. witch i dont really understand. can someone help me out??
oh yeah i remember the reason i went to go get the care it was because this man was chaseing me and he tryed to kidnap me. (link)
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The interpretation of your dreams is this
the part about being at a neighbors house and you ate some of their chips and dip and felt horrible; this s not a sign of being poison by your neighbors however the interpretation is God was showing you how badly you will feel for eating something you know that you shouldn't ve eating while you're on a diet .
The second phase of your dream when people kept leaving you behind; the interpretation is other people in your life are in a different transition in this season in their life perhaps doing things opposite of you also I believe there are situations in your life that is causing you to be aloner from those closes to you for example let's say if you were dating someone who is holding you back from growing as a person and progressing in your purpose and others around you growing and progessing that would constitute them leaving you behind .
When you could not find your mom and ended up in a lake ; do not fear you are not going to die, the interpretation is this you could'nt find your mom because you are going in a different direction; in real life that wouldn't be bad if the direction you're going in is good for example if you were going off to College .
The reason why you saw different scenes in your dream is because God was showing you different phases of your life.
Lastly you saw a man chasing you and trying to kidnap you; yes from a human perspective you have to be careful of your surrounding but the intepretation is spiritual; you saw this man chasing you and trying to kidnap you but what was actually going on is God is trying to draw you to himself but you are running, because God is a
spirit when he come to us in dreams he come in the form of a natural person to reveal himself;
Moses was inquiring of God to show him somethings and God did what Moses asked but he told Moses he can't see his face for there shall no man see him and live - Exodus 33 :20
we who confess to know him, we know him through his word, we know he by his works, we know him by how he makes us feel, we know him through signs and wonders above all we know him because he changed our lives .
he came to you in the form of a natural man;but while you were dreaming it looked like you were being chased by a man trying to harm you
It's just like if someone was running to catch a bus to others who saw this person running their human instinct interpreted as someone must be chasing them or their running because they've done something bad . I pray that you receive everything you need
God Bless You
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ok, so my BFF eversince kindergarden is VERY popular at her public school.But then in 5th grade i went to a different school and we never really saw eachother but we did keep in touch. I went to a privae school, but now i'm going to her school. I wasent very hugely popular at my other school, buut i had connenctions. So next year is my JR. Year. And i really love my BFF. butt we were hanging out yesterday, aand she was telling me who i have to be, like for ex. "You have to wear a jersy for homecomming"
I mean i am friends with them, but how do i tell her that i am who i am with out her getting the wrong image that i'm not like her. Because were are almost identical in EVERY way. (link)
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I advice you to tell your friend that you enjoy being friends with her, but you choose to wear whatever you like to wear .
Sweetie never sacrifice your own Identity at the expense of others; anyone who put this kind of demand on you is not worthy of your frienship .
God Bless You ~
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 months. Before we started going out, we were really great friends. He was my best friend. And I have a STD, HIV actually. I got it from birth because my mother had to get a blood transplant and back in 1986 they didnt check blood for HIV and such, we've been talking about being intimate with eachother. I am 15 and I need to tell him before we have sex. I need help on the following things:
1.) How to tell him: What should I say? Should I have my sister whos like my best friend be there with us?
2.) When should I tell him?
3.) How do I handle the thoughts of being rejected and trusting him?
He is my best friend and I trust him and I talked to him and have told him that I have something I'd like to discuss with him and I made him guess on what it was and he said "is it a genetically passed STD?" and I did not say anything.
I'm scared that he will tell someone. He's very trusting but I dont know, He would be the only person I told besides one person and the only boyfriend I've told. Please help.
Comfort my thoughts on this so im not such a worried reck
Thanks (link)
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Because I am a Minister first It's my position to advice you to focus on your schooling , continue to follow your Physicians instructions that has been provided to keep this disease under control and continue to enjoy friends , however at 15 you do not need to be talking about having sex with any body .
If you refuse to take my advice from above, then if you cherish your friendship with your friend, you would tell him that you have this condition, not telling him would be a disaster; if you're really his friend you would give him the option to choose oneway or another
I know that it's not your fault that you inherit this condition but you can not sacrifice his health because this has happen and it would be selfish by all measure to hid this from him because you fear rejection, the wises thing for you to do is to tell him; and if you need support from your sister then ask her to be there , I'm sure she'll honor your request .
I will pray that God gives you a miracle
God Bless You ~
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My nephew KC is marrying Kendra and they have 1 child together who is 2 years old. This will be the 3rd date set for marriage. KC is not himself when she is around. He is extremely quiet and uninvolved with the family when she is around. But, when she leaves he smiles and laughs and has alot of fun. Kendra uses their daughter to get what she wants. She has told KC that he will not get to see their daughter when things are not going well between them. She has threatened to leave and he will never see her again. She has said the same thing to KC's mother and even went to their house and took all of their granddaughters photos from their home. She has called his cousins and told them that she hates our entire family. Their wedding is in a few weeks and we are not sure if it will happen but now she has contacted the flower girl's mother and told her that she is not needed in the wedding because of budget issues. She also sent an email to the best man's (KC's only brother) girlfriend and told her she is not invited to the wedding and that if anyone does not support their marriage then they should not be there. Please help with any advice. (link)
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Kendra is a manipulator, I believe she is very mean to him when no one's around this is why he is quiet and sad when she is around because he doesn't know at what moment will she latch out at him in front of the family ; and therefore when Kendra is not around he feels free ; her presence makes him feel like he is in captivity .
If I had an opportunity to give KC a few words I would advice him not to marry her under this kind of pressure, and if he's looking for a sign to know if he should or shouldn't marry her what she is putting him through is his sign also once she takes on his name she's gonna really throw her weight around on him and his family .
I also would advice KC to continue being good to his children and cross every " T " and dot every " I" concerning your children even from a legal perspective just in case she tries to pull a number on him and take the child or children away which will be virtually impossible from a legal perspective if he stays a step a head of her manipulation ,
Another sign for KC not to marry Kendra under this kind of pressure, if she is disrespectful and picks fight with his family this is a huge Red Flag, if he marry her she will turn him against his family .
My final advice we have to forgive Kendra for her bad personality, however KC do not have to marry her in order to forgive her ..
God Bless You !
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my granny is causing me to be depressed I'll give you some examples.on my 17th birthday she told me that nobody loved me and that I was stupid becouse I was in special ed classes at school.my granny also told me that Iam to fat for my own good and she told me that my mom killed my dad becouse she divorced him when I was 3 and said it broke his heart and that's why he died,but I think she had a pretty good reason for divorcing him when I was 3 becouse he molested me.I took an extra adderal and bloodpressure pill today hoping I would lose weight becouse my granny keeps telling me that iam fat and ugly and I was kind of hoping it would kill me from overdose.my cousin is the only person I can go to with this problem becouse I can trust her to keep it a secreat.I've talked to my cousin about my suicide attempts and she just kept an eye on me and didn't tell my mom about it becouse she knows how my mom is.what should I do? please help me urgent. (link)
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Rachel your grandmother is being very unwise; just by all the mean things she say to you makes her unwise; it sounds like she has unresolve issues and guilt from what happen in your parents history unfortunately when this occurs they usually take it out on those closes to them who perhaps had nothing at all to do with what happen however I advice you to still respect her as your grandmother; but I also encourage you to never give anyone that kind of power to make you feel like harming yourself ; just because it's someone you love such as family they do not get the right's to drive you to not want to live, look in the mirror and say to yourself " I am not a Mistake " God does't make mistakes , and say to others I was born because God wanted me, he has a purpose for my life.
If you need to lose some weight you can work toward it to stay healthy however needing to loose weight does not make you unworthy of love or an unprofitable contribution to society ! in fact the exact opposite is true you are loved .
Sometimes when people closes to us do not model the love we need inside God sends others in our life; so look around honey and know you are loved and you do have something or many things to contribute to society this is why you're still in the land of the living because God want you to live and not die .
I advice you to discover your gifts and talents and show everyone around you that inspite of your special ed needs, inpite of being in a disfunctinal family you're turning your weakness into strengths to fulfil your God given destiny
I declare you to live
God Bless You ~
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13/f
okay well for a long time now (about 4-5 months) i have been telling my parents and my grandmother that i need like a counselor or something i used to have one before and my mom made me stop going because she didnt like the idea that someone was telling her she was wrong for some things. so what do i do if my parents wont help me and my grandmother wont either?
-thanks- (link)
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Do you believe in the power of prayer ? if you do I advice you to take some quiet time and pray ; tell God how you feel, you can talk to him like a friend; and you do not have to use big words; pour out your heart and ask him to reveal his love for you; and after you do this watch how better you feel because during this process he is healing your heart through your tears and he is working to heal the broken places in your life .
God Bless You
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15/f
Okay so Idk what is wrong with me. Like Im convinced bad things are going to happen to me.
like when I'm 16 I cant get my license but i think to the future and picture myself getting into a car accident and like i actualy believe that this is going to happen to me.
And i read a story in seventeen magazine about a women getting murdered in her house and i think to myself oh that will prob. happen to me. like im convinced that something bad is going to happen. Like every bad situation I hear I make myself think its going to happen. Idk why but I dont think its healthy, and i freak myself out. Like I seriously think im going to prob. die in a car accident when i can drive.
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Yes the thought you are having are unhealthy,you must get grip on your thoughts, the reason why I saw you must do this is because it sounds to me that you are making yourself think these bad things about yourself ,
You can change your thought pattern by changing the atmosphere , you can start by surrounding yourself with things that make you happy not things that cause you to be fearful .
Yes we're all gonna leave here one day but I encourage you as a Minister to know that Life & Death is in God's hand, he knows the hour and time and my final advice to you is to think on things that are lovely and are of good report .
God Bless You
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i have this guy i been with for 8 months and he broke up with me and i gave him a letter begging him to take me back telling him i love him and i need him and i cant live without him.. and he just read it and ripped it up...and i left crying and he cursed and yelled at me..when i came back i sat by myself and cried for like 2 hours and he was all over my friends hugging them and stuff like that and i got so uppset and he didnt even care..this happend like 20 minutes ago and he isnt calling ...he never calls when we break up...i always call and beg for him back what should i do to make him want me back?
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Your story remind me of my own when I was in high school with a guy I loved and he broke my heart over and over and he would humiliate me in front of people the same way this person is doing you , he humiliated me so much until everyone at school knew it and many saw it. I feel your hurt
He is treating you like this because he is arrogant and immature and with these two mix together is like putting a match to gasoline
The more you show him you care the more he blow up, sweetie I know it hurts but I encourage you to flip the script on him; stop calling him,and when you see him if he is right in your face out of common courtesy smile ,speak and keep going but do not hold a conversation ; you have to flip the script because he is not respecting your kindness or your love for him, remember those two things I mention, while those things are going on he is going to keep hurting you ; so this is why it is imperative for you to flip the script.
The guy I was telling you about was just like him and then he got worse, the more I showed I cared the worse he got, the fact that you care for him is not wrong , there is nothing wrong with you for there is nothing greater than love for God is love however the problem is his arrogance and immaturity .
Also I question your friends perspective because they would not let him hang around them knowing he is dissing you like this.
I do not know you and have never saw you however I am not just an Advice Columnist but I am also a Minister & Spiritual Advisor; I encourage you to draw strength from the fact that you have the ability to love and not just to love but the ability to love someone unloveable that power .
If you follow the advice by flipping the script you will see a difference, he already knows how you feel, he already know how much you care; I encourage you to use this time away from him to learn how to love yourself; use this time to discover all your attributes, discover and rediscover your inner and outer beauty, I am encouraged as a messenger of God to give you this powerful truth & secret; you have chosen the better part by choosing to love , he have chosen to be unloveable , and what makes this so powerful is he needs you in his life more then you need him because you have love and he do not but the reason that he doesn't realize it is because you are chasing him , you have to step back for him to see it, he is just using your friends as a smoke screen to appear happy; I do not know if you have a relationship with God, but I will tell you this God is gonna heal your heart and show you how beautiful you are .
By the way the it was only after I stop chasing my high school sweet heart I saw a change, we broke up before I graduated I am a year older than him, we got back together a little bit after school and was together for awhile; we kept breaking up and getting back together; the last break up we had he got in some trouble and now he is doing along time in prison however he has contact me and ask me to forgive him for the way he treated me when we were in high school , and of course I forgave him, after all I am a Minister / Spiritual Advisor / Advice Columnist. and I say all this to say , God will turn your pain into power and use it to help others even the one who has hurt you; just two weeks ago this same person asked me to help him by formatting a letter to send it to a legal organization that help people whose incarceration is unconstitutional ; yes I formatted the letter and sent it to organization and they will be in contact with him shortly .
Be encourage
If you like you can send mail to my inbox anytime you need to talk .
God Bless You,
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i recently went on a school trip and we stayed in a hotel. the last day we were there, the left side of my bottom started hurting really bad. it was really sore, but there wasnt a rash or bruise or anything. When i got home i noticed some small bumps on my bottom that are really sore to touch and hurt really bad. I sat on the edge of the bathtub in the hotel when i shaved my legs and i was thinking that could be where i picked up these bumps. there is no chance they are an std unless i might have picked up herpes or something on the bathtub because i've never had sex. can you catch herpes off a bathtub? what else could it be? (link)
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I don't believe you have anything to be alarm about, this is a word of knowledge for you, some lotions can cause irritation, some lotions that you can use on your legs , arms may cause irritation and symptoms of a rash forming if you use it on perhaps your face or bottom because these areas maybe the most sensitive part of your body; before you attempt to go to a Doctor you can go to a pharmacy and ask the experts there if they have over the counter cream you can buy for a mild rash or itrritation on your bottom, then use it as prescribe and if the irritation disappears that woukd be the indication for what was describe in earlier paragraph
Also the bathtub could have been slightly damped with water and you wasn't aware of it while you were sitting and if you were perspiring that day this would also case irritation .
I trust and believe God that you will be alright
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hey, I have a rare and widely unknown disease called interstitial cystitis. If anyone has this disease, PLEASE TELL ME! I don't know anyone else with this disease, and the doctors are shocked that I have it so young, they say that it's usually in people over 40. Thanks :] (link)
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I am sorry that you are going through this health issue and as it has been reported by the Doctor usually older people has this disease; it's possible that someone in your family lineage perhaps in a earlier generation before you where born had this however I encourage you to follow the instructions as perscribe by your physician and I will pray and believe God for your healing .
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