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Please give me advice on this dream
The person that I am dreaming about is a guy that I dated off and on for about 2 years around the age of 15. I am now 33. The first dream that I can remember having about him was about two years later. It was very vivid like he needed help or something. I had a few of those. Then, he showed up at a party I was at. He said he would soon be moving and had hoped to see me before he did so. I felt like i had mentally connected with him. Over the years, I had several more boyfriends and would still dream about him from time to time. I am now married (have been for 5 years) and seem to be dreaming about him pretty frequently. I should stop here and say that I did see him again briefly about 5-6 years ago at a bar. I with my fiance, he with his. Needless to say, I was drunk as was he and I dont think I made a very good impression (wanting to hug him 3 times when I saw him, mentioning the dream, etc)Anyway, these current dreams, they are not sexual (he was not a good lover) but I always feel so warm and content and happy, protected, etc. when he is there in my dream. Why am I still dreaming about him after all this time? I was a teenager when we dated, I had other teenage boyfriends, its not like he was the only one. PLEASE HELP!
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You dreamed that he needed you, and you feel warm, content, happy, protected in his presence. How we feel around someone is something we remember forever, long past the remembrance of what we wore or said. Those powerful feelings may pop up at times we miss them or identify them with something else. Even sexual dreams are rarely about sex, so I don't doubt you about the dreams being nonsexual anyway. Likely you felt with him something that you are longing to have back in your life now. Concentrate on those feelings...they are telling you something about yourself. The dreams are more about you, then they are about him. It is not about wanting to rehook up with him, but about rehooking up with a feeling you had, that can be useful now. Are you missing or lacking any of the feelings you associate with the dreams? You don't need him to be back in your life to feel the way you long to feel. Try writing down your dreams as soon as you wake up. This usually reveals clues to become more intuned with yourself. It is important to check in with ourselves...and your subconscious is definately trying to get in touch with you.
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Hello and how are you I here to share a little light on the dreams you've had and other concerns .
The dream you had about your former boyfriend where you saw him needomg help, that was God showing you a glimps of what was going on in mis life at that time .
I am a minister so I need to minister to you and then ended with advice .
I believe there is a two-fold message and reason why you dream about him ! .
I don't know what you were going through in that chapter of your life at 15 teen however the fact that he was kind to you was impressive and it brought comfort to you , it's almost like that was the first time you ever experience real kindness .
God is showing me that you are very sensitive
and I believe the reason that you dream about him is because that was the first real comfort you experience from another human being and so when you begin to deal with various issues of life especially those things that make you feel sad, you reaching for comfort (that's human nature)).
So to answer your original question the times you dream about him is God's way of providing comfort to you during that time and season in your life concerning whatever you're dealing with ; also that is the reason that the dreams are not appearing sexual .
When you saw him in a dream and appearing to need help, God was showing you what was going on in his life; and the reason why he would show this to you is because of how you bonded with him, you see you may think that you met him for the purpose of a relationship although that did happen but the real reason why he was in your life at that time is because God sent him to be a comfort to you although you and he was unaware of the purpose; God makes us a gift to people and makes people a gift to us .
The reason why he stood out in your mind over the other boyfriends is because they were not sent in your life for the same reason he was .
I know you are married now and I pray God's blessing on your marriage and on your husband personally and I pray that you feel the warmeth and protection from your him .
God Bless You !
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I have done the exact same things as you are describing.
I think it's because some people are always searching for something that they don't have now. Is there even the smallest thing that is lacking in your current relationship? If so, this is probably why you are feeling the way you do. Also the human mind is naturally curious and we think a lot about "what if"..or "if I only". You may have some regrets about ending the relationship with him. Of course we can't repeat the past, and undo anything, but in a fantasy world we can.
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To see an old ex-boyfriend from childhood in your dream, refers to a freer, less encumbered relationship. The dream servers to bring you back to a time where the responsibilities of adulthood (or marriage) didn't interfere with the spontaneity of romance. You need to recapture the excitement, freedom, and vitality of youth that is lacking in your present relationship.
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Sounds like to me you may be associating your old boyfriend with a time in your life when there was less stress and obligations. Also he may represent safety for you which is why these are not sexual dreams. I think the reason you dream of him as opposed to another teenage boyfriend is the age that you dated and the length of time. At 15 it was probably your first serious relationship and at 15 your body and mind are at a pivotal growth / state of maturing.
Hope this helps.
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