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Fitting in, and not being myself.
ok, so my BFF eversince kindergarden is VERY popular at her public school.But then in 5th grade i went to a different school and we never really saw eachother but we did keep in touch. I went to a privae school, but now i'm going to her school. I wasent very hugely popular at my other school, buut i had connenctions. So next year is my JR. Year. And i really love my BFF. butt we were hanging out yesterday, aand she was telling me who i have to be, like for ex. "You have to wear a jersy for homecomming"
I mean i am friends with them, but how do i tell her that i am who i am with out her getting the wrong image that i'm not like her. Because were are almost identical in EVERY way.
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I advice you to tell your friend that you enjoy being friends with her, but you choose to wear whatever you like to wear .
Sweetie never sacrifice your own Identity at the expense of others; anyone who put this kind of demand on you is not worthy of your frienship .
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She is just trying to help you out. Like wearing a jersey on homecoming basically means that the boy who gave you the jersey likes you. She doesn't mean any harm. Like that is a big deal to get a jersey or even just to wear one for school pride, because there are big differences between private schools and public schools and she wants you to have her friends and be accepted. Just listen to what she has to say and if you don't like it don't do it.
She really only wants what is best for you
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sounds like she's just trying to help you get 'accepted' by telling you what everyone else does, not that shes rlly trying to control you.. she's just trying to help you fit in easier. just tell her you appreciate the help, but yer gonna try stuff your own way, and maybe even ask her if just the two of you can do something different than everyone else -- but still together. if she's your friend, she wont care that you dont go along with everything she says.
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Popularity is stupid.
It means nothing,
I mean those kind of people arent going to get anywhere, if they keep bossing people around and acting like they are better.
Its very un-unique to do what EVERY one else is doing, I mean, if shes your friend, she should understand when you tell her that you like the way you dress, and if she asks you why or brings up what people would think, politely say it doesnt matter to you that much.
You know?
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i understand what you are talking about, but maybe she means she's telling you what most kids do so you it in, but not changing yourself. she may be just telling you the "rules" (or whatever you may call it) of the school since you missed the first year & she wants to catch you up. remember - you don't HAVE to do anything. if you don't want to wear a jersey for homecoming, don't, but remember: your bff might just be telling you whats up, not trying to change you. if you feel like she is trying to change you, just say something like, "i think it's cool that everyone wears jerseys, but that's not really my style." (tahts just an example, but you can adjust that to whatever the topic is.) if she does it alot, you can say, "i know you're just trying to help me, but i'm happy with who i am. i don't feel like i have to change to fit in but thanks anyway" in a nice way :] good luck.
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