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Q: ...What do people think about a teenage pregnancy? Is it bad i mean If a person thinks they are lonley an are scared to be alone while their boyfriend leaves for awhile for the military..would it be okay to have a baby?

at 16 you may want a baby but you have yet to prove you are ready for one. i dont think you have any idea what you would be getting into. i really doubt you are finacially and emotionally ready for a baby and then to raise a child. a baby wont make you less lonely just miserable and busy and tired and stressed out and you would lose pretty much your entire social life.yea i know babies are cute and beautiful and precious and they make you laugh and all but thats only like 10% of the time. the rest of the time theyre crying, screaming, pooping, eating, pooping and well just being babies. it is really hard to deal with all that alone. instead you should go out and have some fun...keep yourself busy...maybe date around a bit until he comes back. if its meant to be it will happen and you and him will end up together in the end anyway and then you can raise a baby together.

*.*.*Sarah*.*.*

Q: Hi, i'm just going to get straight to it.

Im over weight.
I have acne
I think i have a big nose
Im not exactly your average prep
I have a reputation of not being "nice"
Im starting over in highschool, i realized preps arent the only popular people because the punks are getting quite popular. I dont want to be popular i just want to be a normal me. Im kinda like Hilary Duff In A Cinderella Story.
Any advice to any of the problems I listed?
Will Rate 5. Thank you!

Eat right and exercise(diet.
Go to a dermatologist.
Dont think about your nose just learn to like it or at least live with it. draw attention away from it...to a better feature...with an accessory or something or make up.
Start being more "nice" and you rep might change if not than dont think about what other people think you are. stand up for who you truly are.
Be who you are, be who you wanna be and like it no matter who is popular and who is not...you could even be friends with both groups...its possible, believe me.

>>>>Sare

Q: I really want to have a party, but the thing is i am kinda afraid of having one. not afraid like afraid of spiders and i am just worried that people might not like it, or think its dumb or whatver i just am too stressed thinkin about it. should i just go ahead with my plan or what? and also, should i have a big party (which was my original plan) or should i just have a small group of my girlfriends and go to a hotel or something? ideas? thanks

either way sounds like fun. just dont worry and it it will all be good. the spider thing shouldnt bother other poeple. i used to be very afraid and that never stopped me having a great time. i would go for the big one though. what theme depends really on how old you are...

Sarah

Q: Im gettign bracestommmorw! im scared ta death, cna anyine tell me whta goes on what do they do does it hurt stuf lie kthat pelase help

ive had braces for 2 and a half years. it doesnt hurt to get them on. the stuff may taste bad but ya get to rinse it out. your teeth might hurt a bit so you might live off of ice cream or something soft for a while but take tylonel and all is better....and chew gum. chewing gum actaully helps just dont get caught. but you will do fabulous so dont worry.

Sarah

Q: errg. im so fuking pissed. my best friend abby is friends with this chick kenzee again and i hate kenzee and kenzee IMed me accusing me of stealing her dumb ass graphics and i didnt. then kenzee went on my sn and said something like "why am i on ur buddy list?" and i was like "u probably added urself" and then i thought - i remembered abby was hanging out with kenzee today. abby gave kenzee my password that bitch. lol so im just so pissed.

i dont know what to do.

first calm your ass down then go tell your best friend to stop being so damn immature and then ya both get over it. and in the mean time find some tru friends that wont stab ya in the back. as for kenzee let it go and let your bff be friends with her if shes really your bff then she will come back to you always. dont be selfish if you can help it.

>>Sare

p.s. id be pissed to

Q: ok so do bra sizes go in order from big to small or small to big. so i mean is like a the smallest and d the biggest? or the other way around.

theres aa a b c d dd(e) ddd(f) g...in that order aa being the smallest and g being the largest.

now hopefully you still arent confused. you almost confused me when asking your question. hahaha....im a dumbass sometimes.

SarBear...

Q: Ok so on the fourth of July, my cousin annie and i went to the mall early in the morning to catch the early bird sales. we went like really early. then her mom drove us back to our grandpas houses where we had to clean up the house..(windows, etc..they havent been cleaned for years!) anyways, we were sooo TIRED..and then my other cousin julie came over and I didn't want to ignore her..like i said "hi" and stuff and i chatted with her a little but not a lot because we had to clean up and she was just standing there doing nothing! ..ughh so anyways, blah blah blah..she went home crying to her daddy about how i didn't tallk to her and i avoided her the whole time (BS). and usually, she is suppose to call me everyday at 4:15..but she stopped for some reason..i didn't know what was wrong..until i found out she was mad at me a week later..she is still avoiding me now! what do i do!?

well she is being a bit immature. the only thing you can really try to do is call her and just explain as quickly and painlessly as possible. "julie please stop being mad at me because i wasnt trying to ignore you i just wanted to finish cleaning." maybe listen to her side a bit and stay calm. i mean dont lose it on her. if she still deosnt get it then just give her time and try not to worry about it. go on living your life. im sure she will get over it soon enough.

Sarah.*.*.

Q: Well I didnt know what section this would go under cause im not EXACTLY sure what im asking for but I need help. THIS IS GOIN TO BE REAL LONG! well last night I cryd myself to sleep. I was basicly crying to god. I kept saying like "why cant I be happy, why, why cant i be happy. Just let me be happy please. Let me be happy or let me die." and now that i think bout it im kinda scared cause ive been suicidal before and ive had cops called on me cause I was gona kill myself but i thought i had stopped.. ( you probly think im a crack head.) anyways. Ill fill you in on why i was crying. 1st in April my dad, my god father died. He was like a second father to me and I really miss him. He was shot a fiew years ago and it paralized him his body slowd down ahd he died. Also a few years ago my cousin was murderd. also my bestfriend in the world is moving and ima have no life without her (if she reads this ima feel stupid) and also cause I feel like im not special to anyone and I really wana be special to someone. and I want someone to hold me when im crying tell me its ok im here for you. someone to love me. ( aka a guy) there was only one guy that made me feel special but he ended up being a player and after a jack ass to me.. for so long ive felt not special :( and I just wana feel special. Theres one guy in the world that makes me feel special.. the problem is he lives hours horus miles miles away! ive never met him so you prob thing im queer but he is my friends friend. And he makes me feel like something. but like he lives for ever a way and i cant wait like for ever years to finaly see him! and I just dont know what to do. Im not sure what im asking for exactly but can you please help me! ive spent the hole day in my room crying. and thats when I decided I would try and get some help with whats wrong. so please help?

love maddie

Maddie...
well i read the other answers and i think they gave ya a bunch to go on. i just wanted to say that you and me both know that all that shit sucks. im sorry i cant really feel ya on losing your dad and all but i know what its like to wanna be special to a guy and all and to feel like youre worth nothing to anyone. and my best friend has left me to create a knew life too. so until you can find someone to talk to or who can really help you remember something you loved to do before all that happened and go do it when ya feel bad. or maybe write ti all down. write a book on your whole life story. its alrite to cry too.crying is better then killing yourself even if it deosnt feel that way sometimes. if you tell yourself over and over that everything is gonna be okay you'll actually start to beleive it. trust me. and im so glad you admit you need help. some people refuse to and thats what kills them. you'll be fine. eventually someone from somewhere is gonna love you more then you can imagine. and all the guys you had wished you had will be nothing. just keep your eyes open.

im sorry if i didnt really help i just thought i would let ya see my opinion.

you will be fine. just hang on to what little you can. and in the end you will be happy you did. i promise.

**Love Sarah**

Q: i recently got kicked out of my house, illegally, by my dad. i had a job before i left, and i was friends with a guy there. i had a cell phone on my dad's plan- but he screwed me over too many times with the bill, and he always questioned me about who's numbers were who's. well, this guy offered to put me on his plan- because he's get the phone for free- and if anything- i'd be helping him out- with the bill and all- cuz weve been splitting in directly in half- no matter who goes over. ive had it for maybe 6 or 7 months. but since ive ben kicked out- i lost my job- and another guy at work has been paying my phone bills for me- (the last 3 months). my gramma- who i live with- has never liked the idea of me having a phone on someone else's plan. well, lastnight- we got into an argument about it- and we fought. like, physically. she told me i could keep the phone until monday- but that i had to give it back to him then. i feel horrible- but i just need to know- does she in fact have the right to do that?- i mean, she's not my legal guardian- and the phone was given to me- it's not like i begged for it.my phone is my only bit of freedom here- and i cant live without it. someone please share what you think.

okay well this sucks but it is her house so try to keep that in mind that its her rules too whether shes your guardian or not. nothing here is illegal and i really dont see that you having the phone given to you is wrong. the only thing i would have left to do is try to explain to my grandmother *without fighting* why the phone is so important and that he is just a friend. you do have a very good argument and maybe another thing that would help is if you were to find another job ASAP. maybe that would help get her on your side. but really i think that it was between you and the guy and should stay between you and the guy but i wouldnt tell her that like that and sound like a smartass.

to answer simply....grandmothers have the right to do almost anything especially when youre living in there house. im sorry i know that is not what you wanna hear. but things will get better.

*Sa*r*ah*

Q: I asked this question about one year ago. I moved in my 8th grade year. I miss my friends terribly and I still see them and talk to them almost on a daily basis. My grandmother who lives in the town I moved from said that if I really wanted I could live with her. Now that sounds so easy but my parents are the problem. I get in fights with my mom about almost anything and she has thrown things at me in the past. And my dad only listens to what my mom says. My dad lies to me so I won't move back to my grandmother`s. When we talk about it he always tells me family is more important then I think. It's just that it is no fun for me were I'm living. But I wonder if I could live without them.A part of me wants to go to my grandmother's with all my friends I think right now I just need to convince the other side. It's the summer now and if I'm going to move back I have to make a desicion soon. Please help me I need it. P.S I am 13,female

well maybe you could compromise. i mean go to your grandmothers to be with your friends and have the time of your life for the rest of the summer. and maybe visit your parents occasionally. dont try to cut them out completely. then if it all works out and your parents are ok with it then you can keep that arrangement for school. that way your family still gets some time together maybe on holidays and every other weekend or so and you get o be with the people you miss the most. family is still family no matter where you all are. good luck.

>Sare

Q: my dad i really care for him but he dosnt no my b-day or anything about me he left when i was i was three have not seen in a year or two i relly care for and i still love even tho he has a alcolo probmelm and drugs and many more my mom has a oder of precettion and i can only see him when someone else is there what should i do i relly miss him and i dont no if him loves me please help me
xoxxo
girlygirl4real

he is your dad therefore he loves you even if he deosnt show it.just keep showing that you care. that is so important. tell him you love him every chance you get even if its hard or if he deosnt say it back. he may not know how. nobody might have taught him how to show love when he was growing up so maybe you should try to teach him. but believe me he loves you and one day you'll know

Sarah*Elizabeth

Q: i had my period for about 3 months. i never told my mom because she died.. so now i have a step mom and we were never close. i was planning to wait until she asks me if i have it and then say yeah. but im afraid she'll never ask. if ur wondering how i get my pads i get them from my step sister. should i wait?? please help ASAP!!

well you could keep waiting until you feel more comfortable telling her then tell her yourself. you could have your step sister tell her. you could also wait until she asks...eventually she should. i mean she should worry hen your 17 or 18 and havent mentioned starting. but its alright to be scared especially since she isnt your mom. i think your all good to go for a bit as long as you can get supplies. and congratulations on becoming a woman. it isnt that much fun at least not for me but you'll be fine.

sARAhbARAh

Q: my best friend who i love like a sister ran away today to MY house! i told her to go back. but she wouldnt. finally i got her to call her dad and then a police officer came to pick her up and bring her home. now her mom and dad hate me because they think i told her to come to my house. i wasnt expecting her at all!! one minute i was talking to her on AIM then her away message said out. wont be back any time soon. then i heard a knock. but how can i get *especially her mom* to like me again? HELP! any useless answers will recieve a 1. any good answers will recieve a 5.

well good news would be it isnt that big of a deal. my bff ran away half way across the country. i knew about the plan and her father knows i knew about it but he deosnt hate me or anything. tell youre 'stupid friend' to make sure her parents know that you werent in on it and that you were just a safe place to go and that you convinced her to go back home. but you shouldnt worry. nothing should be able to stop love like a sister whether her parents like you or not. there are ways around it.

sarah

Q: can you get pregnant on your period?

well i already read what people already said and now im curious as to whether it is yes or no. i honestly dont know either so im or email me when your absolutley sure because i wanna know too. sry i know this didnt help you.

SaRaHeLiZaBeTh

Q: Basically I'm sick to death of my family. I really need to get away from them for just a little while. I love them, but for the moment, we aren't getting along too well. None of my friends are around and I'm not allowed to go anywhere without my parents.
Info that might help:
I have 2 younger brothers that constantly fight, and an older brother. My dad is in another state for the next few days, but my mom is here.

help me please!

yea my family gets on my last nerves sometimes too. i have a younger sister and brother. anyway yea to get away i go for walks or shut my self in my room and read or turn the music up loud and jam. do anything that will distract you from the fighting and your family. the worst part for me is the lonliness from friends not being aroud. i just try to talk to them as often as i can since i live in the middle of nowhere. there hope i gave you some ideas. sorry if it didnt help.

SARAHBARAH

Q: Ok i REALLY want to move back to my old house. Theres this house for sale right up the street from were i used to live. My mom said she moved to make everyone happy but me and my brother have told her our lives suck and were really sad. She moved in with her boyfriend to our new house and her boyfriend owns the house. I dont want to live in this house! The catch is she doesnt have the money to move back because if we move out,its not our house to sell,its her boyfriends. But i know shes afraid to say to her boyfriend that she wants to move out,there is litterally NOTHING here for all of us. My mom's boyfriend is NEVER home anyway! How can i get my mom to move back,or at least try and get some really good money sorta fast? Im only 13 and my brother's going to be 15 in august.

the only thing left i can think of that i would do is talk to the boyfriend....yea i now that might be weird and all but if you and your brother and your mom all wanna move then all get together and tell him. if he really cares about all of you or at least your mom then he will. if he deosnt simply because he deosnt wanna move then we all know what kinda guy he is.

~Sarah...

Q: What do i do when i have an abuse of mother, who has mode swings, and is VERY abuse of somtime, its starting to be more abuseive than not, i am scared to tell anyone cause i know that it will come back to her and she will hurt me, like last week i didnt do my chores and she twisted my wrist, and now i have a sprained wrist.

please help!

umm hey your gonna be okay. until your dad can get you think of your closest friend or most trusted adult. call them. maybe you culd stay wiht them for a bit. or at least tell them whats going on. they shouldnt tell your mother they know. but if you dont do anything your mother could go too far and kill you. child abuse isnt taken lightly. report her if you can find the strength. you would be taken from her and she wouldnt be able to touch you again. you can try these numbers

National Child Abuse Hotline: 800 422 4453
National Center for Victims of Crime, Abuse and Domestic Violence, Rape: 800 394 2255

People there would know what to do.just trust them. if for some reason those numbers dont work you should be able to find some local ones in your phone book in the front somewhere.

i wish you luck. you can always email me for more help.

*Sare*Bear*

Q: ok so today my dad invoted me and my bro to go the the batting cages. I went for fun and plus i love baseball. SO i was doing awesome on hitting the baseball and everything but my dad never even payed attention to me. Then he was like why dont you try the softball. and i didnt want to but he made me anyways. But it serioucly screwed up my baseball hitting and i sucked at softball and he was encouraging me there. But like i said he never watched my hitting the baseballs... he was totally ignoreing it. Is he one of those dads that thinks girls cant do sertain sports? i mean i hate softball... but its like he doesnt give me a chance and theres no way im a girly girl... plz help!! sorry that its so long..

if you love baseball then certainly play baseball. its illegal to keep you off a baseball team. tell youre father hes being sexist and that girls showed a long time ago that they could and should be allowed to participate in those kinds of sports. i know a couple girls that choose baseball over softball and they're really good. and next time youre at the batting cages yell at him to get his attention. tell him to watch you and see how good you are. just prove to him you can do it. if you ultimatley cant get his support then pursue it yourself.do it for you. dont let him stop you.

*SaRaH*

Q: Hey everyone.. well i'm kinda worried.. i don't kow what is wrong with me! i feel really guilty whenever i eat. i'm pretty sure it's not anorexia but i just dont know what it is. i've gradually started eating less and less because the guilt is just overwhelming. im 99 pounds and 5'2" and i know that's liek average or whatever but when i look in the mirror i always just see myself as HUGE. i have been getting really bad headaches lately from not eating as much as i usually do but its not enough to make me eat more because i just keep thinking about what my thighs would look like if i ate say a cheeseburger. at first i just started eating healthy foods but now im even afradi that THOSE foods will make me fat. help!!!!

well i hate to say but i have felt those axact feelings before. i almost helped myself so i thought i might try to help you. obviously if im writing this. anyway 99lbs is underweight babe for only being 5 2. im the same height and i way 115. you know you need to stop this now. you are falling into an eating disorder. if might not be full blown but really what it is deosnt matter. theres all different forms of eating disorders. whats more important is what you do to yourself, not what its called. anyway keeping eating. try to eat a little more each day. eating healthy foods cant hurt you one bit. now the guilt. i hate that part. its the absolute worst. but after you eat anything, do something to get the fact that you just ate off your mind. exercise or take a walk or a jog or do some sit ups. what ever it takes. and it helped me control some of the guilt. i just had to keep myself busy. fix this now before your addicted. it also helps some to tell a best friend or someone to help you through it a bit. youre okay. you'll be alrite.

Q: I'm not sure why, but latley I haven't been so happy lately. I mean I'm so sick of being me. I don't like my hair, im not as pretty as Miss popular. I dont dress as great as them and I've been alone alot latley cause none of my friends have been invitin me over anymore. I've been on a no sode low sugar diet and I lost my baby fat (im 13 and i weigh 105 lbs) so im noT like fat or anything but I somehow got off my diet and I just feel soo crappy I havent gotten back on. I hate me right now, what should I do?

well i know that a lot of people have already answered but i figured i would chip in anyway. i think every girl goes thruogh this at least once.i mean i have gone through this sort of phase about ten or fifteen times so i figure it averages out to one or two times for everyone else. anyway that doesnt really help but what i do when i feel really bad about about how i look i avoid mirrors, i dont touch myself in any way, do things that make me forget like read or take a walk or exercise some. i hate being lonely, you and me both know it sucks. i live in a plave where there is absolutely nothing to do and yea im not the miss popular either. i have quite a few friends but not many that i hang out with a lot. so idk just call them and maybe invite them to see a movie or something like that. maybe go shopping or get a hair cut that you like. basically, GET OUT AND DO SOMETHING. its hard to get a little motivation sometimes but find some. it helps.

SArAH....

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alrite if ya wanna know anything then simply ask and i will gladly tell.

i definately like to assist people. i have for a very long time. some say im good some say i suck. but whatever you can decide for yourself.

Sarah Elizabeth......