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...What do people think about a teenage pregnancy? Is it bad i mean If a person thinks they are lonley an are scared to be alone while their boyfriend leaves for awhile for the military..would it be okay to have a baby?
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i think you should definatly wait to have a baby at least until he gets back from the military. i think you are just setting yourself up for a lot of hard times. also, when you have a baby, dont you want the father to be there through all of it? it is not fair to him or the baby for you to want a kid just for your own selfishness. i think you should definatly wait until the time is right and you can all be together.
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I Really think you should wait until he gets back my mom was 25 when i was born and she raised me alone and it was still hard for her...and i personally think if the baby grows up with 2 parents it would have a much better life and it wouldnt be so hard on you
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That's a tough one. Well, you really shouldn't have a baby while you are still are a teen. Fist of all, you are still growing an having a baby early can damage yourself, or the baby, it can even be fatal. And you don't want to have a baby without the father. Plus it'll be hard to take care of the baby. If you are alone, just hang out with your friends.
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Well I believe in sex after marriage. In your case, I would still recommend waiting. Say he goes off to the military and is shipped overseas. Something happens and he dies. You AND your baby are left alone. That baby is going to want and need a father. If i were you, I would wait until he comes back PERMANENTLY!!!, get married, and have your baby. If you're scared and/or lonely, try joining a support group. There are thousands out there to choose from!!! Or try making new friends. There are other ways to prevent loneliness than having a baby, trust me!!!
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i think you should wait. thats the best i can do.
but if nothing then talk with him. but i think you should wait
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at 16 you may want a baby but you have yet to prove you are ready for one. i dont think you have any idea what you would be getting into. i really doubt you are finacially and emotionally ready for a baby and then to raise a child. a baby wont make you less lonely just miserable and busy and tired and stressed out and you would lose pretty much your entire social life.yea i know babies are cute and beautiful and precious and they make you laugh and all but thats only like 10% of the time. the rest of the time theyre crying, screaming, pooping, eating, pooping and well just being babies. it is really hard to deal with all that alone. instead you should go out and have some fun...keep yourself busy...maybe date around a bit until he comes back. if its meant to be it will happen and you and him will end up together in the end anyway and then you can raise a baby together.
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Hey, you may think you are ready for one but you are not! even with your boyfriend your not ready!! you have NO idea what you would be getting yourself into!! If your lonely tell your boyfriend that you want to date around while he is gone because your only 16!! Just keep yourself Busy and you wont feel lonely!! A Baby cant solve that...it would make it worse!!
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I think you should wait until he comes back. It would be way to hard to raise a child on your own and I believe every step of pregnancy and childbirth should be a shared thing. I was pregnant as a teen so I can't say it is BAD, there are just SO many things babies need and so many expenses you aren't considering. Not to mention babies dad needs to be there from beginning to end. :)
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do not have a child until you are married. if you get married, then go ahead. teenage pregnancies usually don't turn out the way that most people want them to. the boyfriend leaves, you have no way to take care of the kid, you don't want the kid at all. just wait. waiting is so much better than jumping the gun. you are 17...that doesn't mean that you are ready...and it doesn't mean that you're not. but my advice is to wait...until you are married.
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First off, I'm not going to tell you no you shouldn't have a baby because it's a choice between you and your boyfriend, one only you two can make. Personally I think no matter what your age, you should be able to support a baby before you bring one into this world. While I understand your want to have his children, I honestly think it would be best to wait until he gets home. Even if you ignore everything I say, please at least think about these things.
Pregnancy will be a very emotional time for you and you will need him there for love and support. Not to mention, who is going to run to the store for your 2 am cravings?
I'm sure you want him there to witness each milestone in your pregnancy. The first time the baby kicks and he feels it, you'll understand what I mean. The first time you see your baby on the sonogram is amazing. These are very important moments I know you'll want him to be involved in too.
Once you have the baby, there's even more milestones he'll miss if he's gone. Don't you want him there when your child holds his/her head up for the first time? Smiles for the first time? Cuts his first tooth? Takes his first step? Says Daddy for the first time?
Also, with him going into the military, there is a chance that he may not come home. Are you prepared to raise the baby alone if that does happen? How are you going to deal with the fact that your baby will wonder where daddy is and be asking when he gets older?
Kids take a lot of work and money. While there are single parents around the world that do it, it's easier if both parents are there to share the responsibility. If you're still in school, you are not going to want to stay up for nights on end if the baby has colic. That's something he can help with if he's there. How are you going to be able to feed your baby, buy clothes, take him to the doctor? You really need money before you even think about trying for a pregnancy.
I truly do understand your want to have a child. My husband and I are in the process of trying for a child ourselves. We've discussed it to make sure it's something we're both ready for. I had a checkup to make sure my body was ready to carry a child. We've also saved money and got a place of our own so we can take care of our child.
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At 17 I would not suggest bring a baby into the picture. Find some other way to cope with you 2 being a part. Find some penpals or something. A baby is a HUGE responsibilty. Trust me I know...I had my first at 18 and my second at 20. If I could go back, although I love my children very much, I would have waited. At 22 I feel like I never got to be a teen even though ! was 18 before I became a mother. There is so much I want to do and cant because of my kids. Take sex for example, you may get the urge in the middle of the night and GUESS WHAT you cant be with each other because theres a baby down the hall crying that needs you. It takes a lot of financial stability to raise children as well. Buying diapers and clothes isnt all there is to it. I thought the same thing when I got pregnant.
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Baby.... with that four letter word comes so much responsibility. let me tell you this ... im 17 also. and to think that b/c my b/f was leaving for the military that i should consider having a child ?!?! well i would say naw . not b/c i dont want a child. but in the future. im 17 . i have so much to live for. i cant even vote yet let alone buy an alcoholic drink. i was just legal to drive. babies should be for ppl with a career and an already set life. im not even a high school grad yet. think this over a lot. babies change your whole life. once you have a baby its not all about you nemore. its about you and him/her. plus your husband... if your still together. i would wait it out. but thats my opinion ...
hope this helped a lil
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yah, me and my boyfriend said that if anything were to happen to either of us, and we would still have time and be capable of conceiving and delivering a baby, we totally would. espically for the military!
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It's nice that you want to have a baby for him but I think you should wait until you are positive that you two will spend the rest of your lives together and get married. You need to have your own house, car, and a lot of extra money to support the baby for clothes, diapers, insurance, doctors appointments, etc. Basically you need to have your own house and not live in your parents basement in order to do it right. He also has to support the baby and YOU mostly as well. I personally don't think anything is wrong with teen pregnancy cause they did it back in the 1940's and everything worked out fine. Nowadays it's hard and almost impossible to raise one on your own. I think you guys should get married, so that way you can have 2 incomes going toward a house and baby.
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i think if he could support you, have somewhere for you to live, and if you fell comfortable... go for it. it would be perfectly fine if you are scared about it. if you need more help drop one in my inbox or e-mail me at baby_girl3895@yahoo.com.
~Maegan~
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you shouldnt have a baby unless its what you both want and because u love each other..not because youre lonely..youre a teenage you probably wouldnt be able to handle it..thatd make it even worse
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teenagers aren't ready to care for babies. my mom had my brother when she was 17, and hasn't had her life on the right track since. and the guy was kicked out of her house because he was a bad father. teenagers just aren't ready.
although, if it happens, what can you do about it? it might have been the way things were supposed to be.
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teens just plain old aren't ready for a baby... thats my opinion. And if you are havin ga baby just so you aren't lonley thats even worse
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