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Hi my name is Alex. Im 17 and going to be a Senior in high school. I am extremely outgoing and spirited. i love to laugh, smile, and have a great time. i am a huge sports fanatic. my friends tell me a lot cuz im a great listener as well as an advice giver, especially on love, family, and friends. hope my advice can affect you in some way :)

advice

first of all i am sorry if this is long. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and i love him with all my heart. But recently i get a call out of nowhere from this guy that i had a huge crush on when we were younger (i moved away so thats why nothing ever happened between us). So he calls and asks if i wanna hang out with him one day... so i did. Ok i havent seen this kid for about 11 years but when we spent the day together i dont know what happened but i really started to like him again (and i know he likes me he always has). Him and my boyfriend are two completely different people i find that when im with both of them i myself am two different people but i kinda like who i am better with the other guy. So i did the smart thing and the next day i told my bf about my feelings for this other guy and of course he was heartbroken and we broke up... for about an hour... then we got back together. Only the thing is the only reason i took him back was cuz i saw how hurt he was and i felt bad for him. I do really still love him but i dont know if i really wanna continue this relationship but i don't want to hurt him anymore...How do i do it?

staying with him is not the best idea. you like this other guy. you need to think of your happiness in this situation be4 you think of the guy. its you that you hafta live with not them. if you rlly like the long lost guy then go out with him. dont settle for something that doesnt give you butterflies all the time .

keep me posted

hope this helped :)

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(13,female) ok so me and this kid were going out for 4 months and we're at 2 different schools but then he dumped me and said it was because we don't see eachother a lot but then i found out it was really for another girl...but then after a few months we went back out and hes asked me to makeout with him before but i'm kinda scared to cuz i don't want to mess up or anything i mean i'm going into 8th grade and a lot of kids makeout but like idk i'm just kinda nervous...i mean should i just makeout and hope i don't mess up or just wait..?

like the person below me said ... dont rush into nething. plus he dumped you for another girl be4 y do you think he came back ?!?! its prolly cuz he just wants to use you. dont fall for that trap ... dont do nething you dont want to do

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My ex-boyfriend and I told eachother that we liked eachother a couple weeks ago, and since then we havent really hung out or anything. Which is weird cuz we were best friends b4 and after we went out. Is there any place i could ask him to go with me that wont really seem like a date, just a friends thing because we're "waiting" to go out again?

go with a group of friends ... that seems like it would work. go to the mall .. thats not a date place ... just a hangout place ..

keep me posted

hope i helped :)

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ok this might be long but i really need advice
ok this summer i went to an over night camp for about 5 weeks and i hooked up with a guy that is 3 years older then me. we kissed and held hands and sometimes he would touch my breasts and my ass and put his hand down my pants But one night it went a little to far and we had sex then the next day he broke up with me then he left to go back to his home and i was still @ camp Then all the guys at camp were asking me outa nd stuff and it made me feel special but then this one guy asked me out lets call him bob. I really like bob alot so i went out with him and stuff then one thing led to another and stuff and we had sex and it was so good but that was my last week at camp so i went home me and all my friends always hung out @ this ark down the street from me and stuff And then ppl started asking me if i wanted to come over to their house for the night and this kid that hangs out with us letrs call him dan started to grab my but and my breasts then they all come over to my hosue and everyone left exept dan and he came one to me and started to un zip my pants and shit and i ened up giving a blowjob...then 2 nights ago i slept over my friends house because my parents were gone for a night and they didn't trust me so i was in the guestroom and i guess it was about 2am and her older brother came into my room only in his boxers and i was just in my see thru thong with no shirt on and he started dto kiss me and touch me and said take off my thong and i did *because her brother is hott) and then we had sex it was the best! and then the next morning he came into the shower with me and we had sex agian and then he told everyone and now im called a Slut but im not really Am I? and boys touch my ass and breast and try to put there hands down my pants but i don't know...if i am a slut pllz give me ways that i can not become a slut. Thanx

sorry to break it to you but yeah your way way to easy. you let every guy who thinks your hott do sexual stuff with you. and this is leading down a really bad path for you. now some guys will just wanna be with you to get some. and thats a bad reputation to have.

-you need to stop having sex with every joe shmoe that comes into your life.
-you need to stop being so easy. play hard to get.
-you need to give off a vibe that your not a slut.

unless you want to be used and then stepped on change your ways and stop being a slut.

hope i helped :)

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my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we're both religious and waiting for marriage before we have sex. recently we've been really open and getting comfortable with eachother. we've been talking about sex a lot on the phone, not us doing it, just positions and what feels good. last weekend I jerked him off, and afterwards I got really upset. then yesterday we had dry sex. it was just like the real thing just with our pants on. After every time we do that stuff we promise eachother we won't do that again, but everytime we're in a bedroom it happens. Please help I'm so upset & disappointed in myself and it's so hard to not do these things with him cause I trust him so much. But we're only teenagers and I dont want to do it, plus its against my religion. He never forces me to do anything, I just do it... help =[

i admire following your morals .... its good to hear someone else other than me has promised themself that 2.

all i can tell you is to try and avoid situations where the heat of the moment could lead to something you might regret later. avoid the bedroom definetely .

hope i helped

keep me posted :)

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What makes a girl a good kisser. Like if you were gonna make out with a girl who has never made out with anyone...what would you tell her to do? and please don't say follow the guys lead. thanks

i found a great website for you .... i have refered it to many ppl in the past . .

http://www.datingclass.com/dennis/how-to-begin-kissing.shtml

it will explain everything.

hope it helped :)

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ok i need some major help... there are 2 guys both are friends but i didnt know before this happen. well guy 1 we talked over the computer alot but we never really met but we go to the same school. well we started to like eachother and what not but he left on vacation. and while he was gone i had summer school and ran into a guy i use to talk to during the year guy 2. well turns out that guy 2 likes me and now we are going out. well guy 2 isnt the guy i really want to be with i think at the time i was was just caught up in the moment and said yes. like guy 2 is already saying the L word and i just dont want to get into that right now i dont even really want to be with him i want to be with guy 1 well anyway guy 1 comes back find out im with guy 2 and now everything is just messed up.. i want to break it off with guy 2 but i dont know how to tell him hes crazy about me. like for the last 6 days we have been going out we have hung out and im getting tired of it because we dont need to see eachother every day but he says we do because we are going out. everything about him just kinda annoys me. how should i break it to him.. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

you need to tell him that your not on the same page. that they way he feels for you is not the way you feel for him ...

then you need to tell guy 1 what you told us. if he likes you then he will understand

keep me posted :)

hope i helped

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I have a guy friend and I think I like him... as more than a friend. What should I do? I don't know how to react around him.

Please!

dont change dramatically how you are when your just his friend ... just start throwing flirting signals. touch him more often like on the arm or shoulder. start wanting to spend more time with him. start calling him ever so often. but dont over do ne of it. he might get scared that your obsessed ..

keep me posted with how it goes :)

hope i helped

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My friend is throwing a party and invited my crush. The thing is my friend said that I have to tell my crush by the end of the party that I like him or she will. I know I have to tell him I just don't want to deal with the potential heartbreak right now. Should I talk to my friend and hopefully convince her not to do it or just tell my crush? Oh and if I tell him his ex is probably gonna be close by since she's invited too... I rate high for good advice! Thanks!

you make a deal with your friend. tell you friend thats hosting the party that you will hang out with him most of the time at the party. throw some signals and see if he sends them back. if he does then NEXT time your with him you will consider telling him. see if they will buy it.

hope i helped :)

keep me posted

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alright, so i really like this guy named Gentry, and he is a grade olde rthan me, hes going to be a sohmore in HS. So he and this girl named alanna went out, and they are still reptty tight, but i hang out with gentry and im SOO confused if he likes me or not--its too hard to tell! he sends mixed signals liek alanna told me hes jsut shy though and its like okayy well when will he make a move!? maybe my hopea are too high, but its not likei will be sad if he doesnt like me, i just want to know if he likes me or not so i can just stop liking him! my birthdya is in 2 days, and i just wanna be with him...but i wanna move onto another guy! oh yeah and since hes shy shold i make the first move? what should i do?!!?

the first thing im going to tell you is that you contradicted yourself a lot ... but im going to answer all your questions .. kk

1)if you think hes throwing you signals he prolly is. but since hes a shy one that prolly not so distinct. so you are def. gonna need to be the "male" in this one and throw a major signal first.

2) if you rlly like him then y are you saying you want to move on. if you like him and he likes you hell come to you eventually . but if your just looking for a fling relationship shy guys arent rlly the ones who can provide you that all the time .

hope i helped :)

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Do you think it's wrong that I kissed my friends forehead? And do you think I should tell my boyfriend what happend?

to tell you the truth i would of done the same thing. saw my friend crying i would of hugged him and kissed him and told him it would be ok. i would of prolly kissed him on the cheek or forehead .

about your b/f. does your boyfriend understand things well ?!?!

answer back with that question

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Hi i am Britney an im 14 i was wondering if my boyfriend fingered me and he had cum on his finger can i get pregnet from that?

no you cant .... sperm lasts about 30 seconds ... they would most likely stay inside your vagina.

hope this helped

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I just started talking to this guy. I thought he was going to be ok to hang out with, but he knows I have a BF, and the other day he started to kiss me. It kinda my fault in a way though, he was crying so I hugged him and kissed his forehead. Then he stoped crying and started to kiss me. I dont know how to make him leave me alone, and im afraid he will bother me at school.

here's the dealio .... you confront your friend and tell him that you are loyal to your b/f and you want to continue that. tell him that the kiss on the forehead was a friends love ... you were not hitting on him. make sure he understands that.... hopefully he will catch the hint and leave it alone ... keep me updated with how he reacts :)

hope this helped

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im 21,but when comes to talking to boys im always blur.how can i attarct their attention?what kind of topics i can talk to them?

number one : be yourself.

if you like to rollerblade then talk about that. if you like to watch a sport then talk about that. if you like to watch tom cruise movies talk about that. be yourself and a guy will like you for you . believe me . eventually some guy will love your quarky ways, your emotions, and your personality.

so be patient be yourself and everything will come naturally believe me.

i used to think no guy would like me. but then i was myself, patient and some guy liked me for me. and now hes my b/f and we have the best relationship. if it could happen to me it could happen to you :)

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hey

my ex and i have gone through a lot and well i love him but he says im wasting my time trying i dont know what to do.should i just give up or should i keep trying

if he says your wasting your time then obviously he doesnt want to be with you nemore. you need to move on . im sure there are plenty of guys out there for you :) just be patient and be yourself

hope i helped

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im 14 and im a virgin. and im dating a 17 year old guy who fucked almost every grl he met. he says he changed every since "something happend". he says he really likes me and hes not gonna presure me to do anything. but i dotn know ... i really like him but i dont knoe if he likes me back. or if hes just using me. its not that im scared to lose my virginaty. im just a lil worried about losing it to him becouse i dont know if hes gonna still feel the same towards me or if hes just gonna throw me aside.... :-/

if i were you i would hold on to that V card for as long as you can with this guy. the thing with a guy whose been around the block means that you could just be another girl on his sex list. and i kno you dont want to be just a number. all relationships dont hafta involve sex. plus your only 14... just hold on to it. if he likes you a lot then it wont matter that you dont give it up ..

hope i heled :)

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my boyfriend's birthday isn't until september, but i want to put a lot of thought into his present. i have no idea what to get him. please give me as many ideas as you can. he is a huge sports freak, so it could have to do with sports maybe or anything else. thank you soo much.

well you can buy him something like a t-shirt, a hat, something small and then buy tickets to a sports game and take him as his gift. im sure he would love that. well i would if i was him :)

hope this helped :)

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i have so many guy friends not boyfirends but just friends and well no one will ask me out and i think its because i have so many boys as friends abd i asked one guy out and he told me that he would not go out with me because of all my friends and that theres a good chance thats i could cheet on him i was so mad 8( and sad because i knoew that i would never do that and he still never went out with me im going in to a higher grade but its time for me to have a boyfriend but with all my guyfriends i dont think they would .should i stop being friends with all the guys and start acting more girlie or the boyfriends aren't worth it

if you have a bunch of guy friends.. keep them ... girls are vicious friends neways... believe me. eventually one guy will like you. and that other guy was dumb cuz he thought you would cheat on him .. hes not worth your time. be yourself and a guy will like you for who you are. even with all your guy friends. i basically only have guy friends and my b/f is totally fine with it. i used to be the same way. but i was patient and a guy liked me for me and now we are going out. dont stress everything always turns out good in the end if your patient :)

keep your guy friends ... guy friends are so much fun and they usually dont cause drama like girls do :)

hope i helped

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a boy at my school likes me and i dont like him and hes like stooking me hes at my looker and in my class i keep telling him to leave me alone and he still calls and i dont even now where he got my number and my boyfriend thinks im cheeting on him with him i keep telling him im not but he doesnt belive me by a boy stocking me its ruining my reltionship and i love him what should i do

tell the stupid boy to leave you alone . approach him. tell him listen im rlly sorry but i have a b/f and i would appreciate it if you leave me alone. hopefully this kid can get it through his thick mind and realize you dont like him

hope i helped :)

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I really like this guy and we met at work. We became close and we flirted a lot and emailed each other. I told him that I liked him and he was cool with it and said he just wanted to be friends. He has always kept his word. He started to act funny though and I don't know how to percieve it. He called me babe and turned around to see the expression I had on my face and had a great big grin on his face. When he told me he was getting another job I was happy for him as I think he deserves the best. Gave me a pix of himself that he took at 1am, and emailed me. Since then I haven't heard from him.Should I give up or give more time? F-40's

email him .. whats the worst that can happen? he doesnt answer back . if you dont attempt to keep in touch he wont ... and its not cuz hes not interested its cuz hes a guy. if he doesnt answer then oh well you tried. no regrets there :)

hope i helped

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