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disappointed in myself...
my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we're both religious and waiting for marriage before we have sex. recently we've been really open and getting comfortable with eachother. we've been talking about sex a lot on the phone, not us doing it, just positions and what feels good. last weekend I jerked him off, and afterwards I got really upset. then yesterday we had dry sex. it was just like the real thing just with our pants on. After every time we do that stuff we promise eachother we won't do that again, but everytime we're in a bedroom it happens. Please help I'm so upset & disappointed in myself and it's so hard to not do these things with him cause I trust him so much. But we're only teenagers and I dont want to do it, plus its against my religion. He never forces me to do anything, I just do it... help =[
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i know wut you mean with being disspointed... becasue me and my boyfriend (now my ex) always talked about not doing it and keeping it and stuff like that and we did dry sex too and that just worked us up and i gave it up to him..and i was dissapointed but now it dont bother me anymore since we broke up i should feel like shyt but i dont i dont regret doing it because i trust him so much too
i dont know its weird but if you feel for his guy then you should do what your heart tells you
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Ok well i completely kno what you mean with bein disappointed in yourself. I am also a Christian ,and i share your believe with waiting till marriage. ok so pretty much all i can say is that people make mistakes and that doesnt make it right, but you can ask God to forgive you and pray with you boyfriend and ask God to give you strength to withstand those urges
hope i helped
~Brianna~
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DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! GWAN, GWAN, GWAN...It'll feel SOOO good!!!
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Ok this a big horomones thing. And I mean sometimes you cant help it. I mean I myself have had dry sex. I didnt plan it it just happened. So I think if you wanna stop you might wanna stay out of your room. Or tell him if you wanna do it tell him to stop you or if he does then you stop him. I know its hard but you'll have to try and hold it in. I hope I helped
Bianca
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its a good thing that you and your boyfriend what to stay virgins untill your marraide (i know i couldn't) then i sugest that you talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you fell afterwards.
Blue Eyes*
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I know how you feel about the whole religion thing, and im gald you guys want to stay virgins, thats very important and its a good decision, but if you really want to stop acting like that you need to talk to your bf, tell him how you feel afterwards and tell him that you want him to help you with this, and you need to make sure that he knows its not because of him that you dont want to do stuff anymore, hope i helped!!
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If he realdy love you he wait to be marriage.
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find more things to do beside in the bedroom and if he loves you like it sounds like if you tell him that you don't want to do and to help me not do thoes things and he will understand!!hope i helped rate high please
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First of all, let me congrat you on being in a relationship for 7 months and not having sex with your boyfriend because its the social thing to do. Kudos to the both of you. Next, you have boldly stated that your religious, then my next task for you to do is pray about your relationship with your boyfriend. Pray and ask GOD to give you STRENGHT, GUIDANCE, & UNDERSTANDING. Be patient, the answere may not come when you want it to, but GOD is an on time GOD. In the meantime, in between time, avoid if at all possible having intimate moments with him. Another good tactic would try to have your couples' time in well lited areas, where there is alot of people around, if you guys do find yourselves in ackward moments of lust pressure, stop, take a deep breath and laugh. If you guys were mature enough to discuss sex, then I have confidence that the two of you will be mature enough to substain from having sex until both of you are willing and ready for that type of commitment. If all else fails, seek counseling from a member of your church.
Good luck to you.
Littlemiss
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tell your boyfriend you dont want to, and help eachother, stay out of bed rooms, go to public places, like mini golf or bowling, ect. you already know that you dont want to, and that is great! :) way to go!
Ask your boyfriend if you can both help eachother, and maybe get promice rings you give him one and he'll give you one, and then you say it means no more "stuff" and then always wear them, so then when you are about to do something, look at the rings! :)
-SLeK-
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Well, first of all, you two HAVE to stay out of bedrooms. :D
You need to set up barriers, you see. If self-control is a problem, you have to make sure that you're not tempted. That means thinking ahead, to times when you two will be alone and have the opportunity. And then you have to find ways to avoid those situations.
(If you do end up having sex, though, please be sure to do so SAFELY - which means, use birth control.)
And try not to feel too terrible about yourself in the meantime. You're both facing a level of temptation that many, many people cannot resist. It's not a failing of you as a person; it's your hormones, which are in overdrive. These urges are built in to your body to ensure that you will reproduce, and they're incredibly difficult to overcome. If you fail, don't be too hard on yourselves.
But it CAN be done. You have to use all of your willpower, and supplement that by being smart. Use your brain to avoid temptation, and you should be able to make it to your wedding day without giving in.
Good luck!
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how about when your with him you stay more entertained like playing sports so then your not in a bedroom doing it ... or maybe if you just in your room to watch tv .. watch tv in a living room so your not tempted to do things because your family may be around
hope i helped
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Well this is a pretty hard but easy question...Try doing other things so you dont have to think about sex...talk about fun things you like ..such as sports or movies with him...if you do get the need for it just simply try something to take your mind off of it and if it happens in the bedroom...try not both sleeping in there and see how that works out for a bit and when you think your done with that sex urge,you two can try sleeping together:)
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i admire following your morals .... its good to hear someone else other than me has promised themself that 2.
all i can tell you is to try and avoid situations where the heat of the moment could lead to something you might regret later. avoid the bedroom definetely .
hope i helped
keep me posted :)
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Waiting for marriage before having sex is an admirable thing. While many of us don't wait, I know a lot wish they had, myself included.
I would suggest not putting yourself into the situation where you'll want sex. You said everytime you're in a bedroom it happens, then stay out of the bedroom. Also when the urge hits, try to distract yourself. Go for a walk around the block. Chances are by the time you get back, the urge will have went away.
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ok. I think it's normal to do this, but if you don't want to do this than don't. If he isn't forcing you than you shouldn't have to feel like you have to. If the bedroom is whats causing you to do this, why not try to go somewhere like the mall or bowling and try to keep your mind of that this subject. After awhile you might find that you can go into your bedroom for just a normal conversation. I hope this helps and i hope that you find a whay to be happy and not have to worry about this anymore.
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Don't go in bedrooms. That's the best you can do. Maybe realize when you're in the middle of doing whatever, think about your religion, and stop what you're doing no matter how good it feels.
that's the best advice I can give you because I'm never been in that situation.
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