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Addicted to violence?
I keep having these sexual fantasies where I'm sexually dominated - the guy hits me or forces me to have sex; mostly, they revolve around rape. These are my most frequent fantasies. I'm a very strong-willed girl in my actual life, and what I can't get is, why is this the most surefire way to turn me on? Would this scare guys? (I've never had a boyfriend). Am I a sadist?
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I know what you mean exactly. In real life Im a very dominant person but I kept having fantasies about being dominated. I finially told my husband I wanted to give it a try but he insisted he didnt like the idea of it and was scared he would hurt me. Finially we gave it a try and I realized some things are just better left an fantasy because what seemed really hot in my head turned out to be kinda scary in real life.
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I wouldnt call you a sadiist. Your more a dominatrix. If you dont know what it means its someone wh likes to recive painful sex or give it. It uses alot of whips and handcuffs or even pretend rape. I am the same way. My mom says I am going to become one and I think I will to one day. And some guys like it and some dont. You really have to find a guy that does bc it would be aquard with someone who doesnt. I hope I helped
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no this wouldnt scare guys, a lot of people are into that kinky kinda stuff lol. but...umm its also probably because youre usually very strong willed, you might want a change, to be dominated. a lot of guys are actully turned on by this kind of thing. its kind of hard to explain. if you have other questions leave some in my inbox.
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hi. and yah people think that is weird but some people get turned on by it . and that would be called wild sex. when you act like your being raping . and if that is what you like then just wait for the guy that likes that stuff comes along.
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sounds like your a freaky freaky female.. i guess freak is okay and some guys might be into that SM stufff.. ♥ Dez
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Alot of people have these..its not that you wanna get raped..maybe you are afraid youll get raped..or even when u do have sex..if it turns you on..have him strap you down on the bed..or use hand cuffs.. play it kinky..alot of guys like that kinda stuff
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Fantasies are just that - fantastic ideas to amuse or arouse yourself with.
People often fantasize about things that would not turn them on in real life - whether that's forceful sex, sex with a different gender than you'd normal go for, etc. Some of these transfer into real life, but some are just spicy things meant to live in your imagination.
When you do begin having sex, you might surprise yourself that you don't want to play out fantasies - or that you do. As long as things are safe and consensual, everything will be okay.
Best of luck.
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No, you're not a sadist and you're not a masochist either. Fantasies don't really mean anything, they're just fantasies. If you're mad at someone, you might have a daydream about killing them, but that doesn't mean you would actually kill them. It's basically the same thing. But if you do want to do this kind of thing in real life, don't worry, people do. And they do it safely. It's not torture or rape, it's just a different kind of sex. Research it before you get into it and make real sure you love and trust your partner. As for the guys being scared, well, I guess it depends on the guy. But you shouldn't worry about what they think and you by no means do you have to tell them about your own private fantasies. Good luck!
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