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My name is Misty. Im 23 years old. Im a part time bartendar a part time student and a full time mother of 3 kids. My oldest son is 6years old and my youngest son is 8weeks old and my daughter is 18 months.
Ive been through alot in my short life and feel I can anwser just about anything and I hope my advice helps you out.
I thought this would be a good idea because Im the one everyone calls when they have a problem so I figured I would spread the love.
Ive taken many courses in psychology during my college courses if that helps any.
Just to make it clear my advice is what I think is best but you have to judge for yourself on what you believe to be the best thing to do in your sitation.

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on monday i started packing my things for tuesday (for school)so i looked for a sports outfit for gym class. but mine was all swetty from last time and i forgot to wash it. so i looked in my moms closet...i opened a box and hoped she has something good to wear in there but instead i saw a fake penis..and a magazine with naked women and men in there. i was really shocked i mean i know that my parents are having sex sometimes but i never thought they take that so serious. and i feel really stupid in this house and i'm not talking to my mom anymore but it's really dump cause usually i could talk with her about everything but now i just dont trust her , cause she lies to me a lot lately! so what should i do?

i'll rate

Be happy your parents have a active sex life at their age. And its none of your business what they do behind closed doors to put it straight out.

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Well, i ahve a question!
Be honest!
I am a natural blonde, but i think that brunetts are wilder, but what do you thing, i need your advice!

Hev

Hair color makes no difference in my opinion. Im a red head and am much wilder than any blonde or brunette friends I have. LOL
Its just a stereotype like "blondes are dumb"

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15/f...i went out with this guy ive been best friends with since sixth grade and were now in 9th and so it was a few months and everything was perfect and i just told myself everything was wrong but it wasnt and so i broke up with him for no reason at all i was just like its over.. and so its been about two months and he went out with this other chick and they broke up and now i realize what a big mistake ive made and we were BEST friends we told each other everything and after he wouldnt even look at me and the past week ive been just trying to make small talk and he'll talk to me and he gives me that look like " make it better please" but he doesnt act like that you know?..i want him back so bad i miss him soo much but i dont expect that i just want it to be the way it was before and ..

Thats the risk you take when dating a friend. Sometimes it works great and sometimes you loose the friend in a breakup. Is it that you really want him back or that you just didnt like seeing him with someone else?
Things probably will never go back to the way they where, after all you broke up with him for no reason. He has a right to be angry and hurt. If he dosent really want to talk to you than write him a note telling him exactly how you feel.

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i got a gift from a friends friend and its perfume by healing garden and its called sheer passion.. i got it a wicked long time ago and i dont know wehere to find this.. does anyone know where to get this perfume cause i love it ! ive been trying too look everywhere, i still cant find it.. please help and thanks!

I have a couple different scents from healing gardens and got all of them from Walmart, Im not sure if they still have the particular scent you mentioned but you can look.

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ok so im 14/f n i've never used a tampon before. So today i thought I'd try one and i totally chickened out. It couldn't have gone any worse. I would put it in, but then it would start to hurt so i'd pull it right out. Finally i just gave up.Should i put vaseline on the tip of it? Help please!!

It takes some practice before you get it right. Make sure to get in a good position and aim tword your lower back. When its in properly you wont even notice its there. Yes, a little vaseline will help. Just relaxe. Also the easy glide tampons work much better than the flushable cardboard ones.

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I really need advice. I'm so low in self esteem its crazy. I'm dating my bestfriend and im completely depressed. I love him SO much and he seems to be happy and he loves me too. But, I'm not happy. I get so jealous all the time, because he hangs out sometimes with his ex-girlfriend. Then i feel like i'll never compare to her, and i push away from him and put up this emotional wall. I'm not always unhappy, but im afraid of loosing him and thats when i get upset. Is there anything i can do, to stop getting jealous and start being more self confident? I also hang out with my ex too, and i know its not fair that i get mad when he does. Oh someone please help me!
I rate 5's

Find things that make you feel good about yourself. An activity or etc that your good at. I dont think you confidence level has anything to do with your BF, it sounds like thats something you came into the realtionship with. Its normal to feel jelouse a bit here and there but try to remember, shes his ex for a reason and he chose you.

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I'm a 20yr old female and my boyfriend is 21. To try to cut it short i've never met his parents but they hate me they tell him i'm using him and manipulating just every bad thing. We've been dating for almost 6 months we've been best friends for a little over a year we have everything in common but his parents they want us to break up it's his first serious relationhip and i just think that his parents are worried we want to fix the problem with his parents and i but we aren't sure how. another problem is he can't stand up to his parents thanks for your time please help!

Well I hate to be the one to tell you but sometimes things cant be fixed. Ive been married for 7 years and my inlaws still hate me. No particular reason, they just do. And my husband is very good at standing up to his mother.
Try for a bit but if you think they dislike you just because they think noone is good enough for you son you just have to accept it as much as it sucks. You cant make someone like you.
Good luck.

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I have been with my boyfriend for a year but we have been sexually active for three months. He broke my virginity. And he takes care of me so I won't have to work and quit school. But his sex is very aggressive and I really don't like it most of the time. He even freaks me out by some of the things he tells me. Like he is going to let his boys get some of me and stuff like that. What should I do. I love him and he takes care of me. I don't have anyone else but him what should I do???????????????????????

Never, I repeat Never do something sexual you dont want to do just to keep him.
He sounds like he has some serious mental issues and I dont think hes safe to be around. I would try go get away from him. I know you said he loves you and takes care of you but if he really loves you he wouldnt talk to you with such disrespect.

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Okay here is my story ...

I'm 23 and I live with my bf ...I never had a real bf before so all this is kinda new for me..

I did'nt know what sex was and he taught me ..everything was going great but I still hold back ..he does a great job ..he turns me on and everything..I feel great when we have sex but my problem is I don't feel the need to do sex although it's great ..I just never ask him to do sex he is the one who always has to ask ..I never do it or sometimes I just don't feel like it

Last night I asked him how he thinks our sex life is going ..he said to me that it was going great but that I have to do more..... like ask him more often to have sex ..losen up more etc etc

Help me I don't want to lose this guy he is the best but I cann't help it ..whatever I do I keep holding back .,.....

I don't have nobody to talk to ...My mom left us sins we were 12 so as you understand sins than I have been anwsering my own questions but this is one question I can't answer that's why I need help.....

thx

Then loosin up a little. Just dont do anything you dont feel right doing.
Read up on different techniques and positions. Maybe your BF feels he you dont like sex very much when he has to start it all the time. Maybe try initiating sex youself.
Work on your confidence level, a confident partner is sexy!!

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Ok so heres the problem, me and my boyfriend have had sex and I dont think my hymen broke. I know it didnt because even though we have had sex many times sometimes he goes to far and hits it and it hurts but it wont brake. Now I just dont let him go all the way in because it hurts and theres not point since it wont brake. So what can I do! I heard theres an operation to get rid of it but I am 16 and I dont want my mom to know. Please Help

Humm..are you sure you have a hymen? Its possible to loose it with out actually haveing sex. Some virgins do not have their hymen due to tampons, exercise and etc.

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Alright on sunday my boyfriend fingered me, and this was the first time I've ever been fingered. It hurt a lot, and afterwards I bled a little. Now when I pee it burns and hurts a lot...

Is it normal for it to hurt or bleed the first time? And if he scratched me could it get infected?

Thanks

Yes, it could get infected. You need to make sure, if you do it again, that his nails are cut very short and are clean. If his nails have any dirt under them and he scratches you it could cause an infection. More than likley the problem is that you got a small scratch and the urine is burning it. No biggie. But next time just remember to voice you opinion when it hurts and tell him what to do or not to do. Lube works good and make sure to have him use it.

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How do you know when you are in love with someone? And how do you know if it is true love?

Its the feeling you get when the butterflys have worn off and you have seen them at their worst and still love them. When you think about your future it involves them. When you can feel their feelings and are sad when they are and happy when they are happy.

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ok im 13 female and i first got my period in october of 2005 and i havent seen it since. no i havent has sex but i do masturbate so does that have any effect on it or what? also i guess i discharge. my main question is, whats the difference from cum and a discharge for a girl? it looks the same and what nots. please give me good answers!!!!!! i rate HIGH!!!

Since you only recently started your period it may take awhile for your period to regulate so dont worry.
Discharge happens for a number of reason but basically its just your bodys way of cleaning your vagina. I know it sounds gross.

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(15/f) whenever i am friends with a guy/or become friends with a guy i always seem to end up liking them or at least consider a crush. its like i cant just have a guy whos a friend that i dont end up liking. even guys that are just nice to me or smile at me, i just start to think about them all the time and maybe its because i've never had a real boyfriend so i jump to conclusions/get overly excited about a guy being nice. i dont know how to fix this becuase it causes me to like alot of guys but not like just crushes and i hate having to think about all these different people and decide who i actually lik and who i jus think are fun to flirt with. please help i want a guyfriend who i dont think about as a boyfriend!

Maybe you start likeing them because them showing interest in you is flattering. We are all like that, we like to have attention payed to us. Each time you start to like one of your guyfriends as more than a friend think to yourself why you are likeing him. If its just because he is giving you attention and may like you then tell yourself that and try to understand what you want in a boyfriend and what seperates them from just a malefriend. Hopefully it will help you.

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I'm 18, and my child is due on March 3rd. I'm really excited about this, but the problem is with the father.
Don't get me wrong--I really love him, but I'm scared we leaped into everything too soon.
We were dating for 3 months when I found out I was pregnant. I was scared to tell him, but he was so supportive, and he ended up absolutely ecstatic about it once we'd both been reassured about some things. We're engaged now, and things are going great.

But, that's the problem.

I think things are too good, and that once the baby is born that things might fall apart. I really want to talk to him about this, but I don't know how to approach it.

Any help is more than appreciated.
Thanks for your time.

Well there is no way of knowing if your relationship will withstand a child. Even people who have been togethar for many years question that when expecting a baby. Im sure he has the same worries so just sit and talk it out with him. Things will change when the baby comes but if the relationship is strong and ment to be it will work out for the both of you. Congrats and good luck.

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I was recently with my boyfriend for 5 days straight all alone, and we had sex many many many many times...and we of course knew that there were possibilities of having a baby.

I was wondering if the number of times you have sex in a period of time increases your chance of pregnancy...or if it just doesn't really matter?

Well yeah, the more times you do it the more chances there are of it happening. All depending on if it happened during your ovulation time or not.

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Hi. 14f. I know this boy who seemed like he liked me. He lives an hour away though. He called me everyday, emailed me, and posted comments on myspace like "Omg youre so pretty!" or "I wish I could see you right now." And so we are getting along so well until he turns around and gets a girlfriend. I am so decieved. And now he wont even talk to me. What happend? I guess i am making a big deal out of it. Help me cope...

TurrrrrrtleMolly

Well at 14 boys are not very mature. Most of them do not understand the concept of a steady relationship and often bounce from one relationship to the next.
Or maybe it was the fact that he lived so far away from you.
Either way, just console yourself in the fact that you are young and there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

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Hi Everyone.
I need Diet help!

I am 5'3, 110 lbs, and I'm active in sports.
I'm thin/athletic build.
I play sports.

I would like to reach the 100 lbs mark. I'm sure a lot of you are wanting to give me the whole "Your fine as you are, don't lose weight!"

Well I've made up my mind, I want to lose 10-15 lbs. I need suggestions, and ways that have helped you.
Thanks!

You already know what im going to say..your weight is perfect. If you really want to loose weight because you yourself feel you need to then just watch what you eat. But remember, if your a very athletic person muscle weighs more than fat so takeing measurments may be more accurate in determening weight loss then weighing yourself.

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i am 5'3" and weigh 104 lbs( i am a girl)
i just got back form camp and now my mom is telling me that i look too skinny, but i think i need to loose 5 pounds. how can i make her see things my way so she doesnt get mad at me when i diet.

Maybe she is worried because maybe you are to skinny and she thinks you are falling into the new fad of weighting under 100lbs.

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hi im a 13 year old 5"2 or 5"3 girl and i weight 125. Am i overweight?

I think thats the perfect weight. Im 5ft tall and 110 pounds. But I suppose it all depends on your body shape and most importantly if your happy with your size or not.

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