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problem with my mom
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on monday i started packing my things for tuesday (for school)so i looked for a sports outfit for gym class. but mine was all swetty from last time and i forgot to wash it. so i looked in my moms closet...i opened a box and hoped she has something good to wear in there but instead i saw a fake penis..and a magazine with naked women and men in there. i was really shocked i mean i know that my parents are having sex sometimes but i never thought they take that so serious. and i feel really stupid in this house and i'm not talking to my mom anymore but it's really dump cause usually i could talk with her about everything but now i just dont trust her , cause she lies to me a lot lately! so what should i do?
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I wouldn't be very pleased if I found one of my children going through my things regardless of how innocent the search was. It would also embarrass me to know that they had looked into my cupboards and drawers and found my things.
I don't think you should say anything about what you found because it really is none of your business. It may be that they were bought for a laugh or because your Dad had a problem for a while.
You don't have the right to judge your parents on their private life and you should not question her about it. As for trust, I think that you have broken hers at the moment. Trust is earned both ways and lying is never productive. Can you honestly say that you have not told a white lie or a fib occasionally?
You don't say how old you are so I am guessing that you are still quite young. In which case your Mum will have great difficulty in talking to you about this. If you really find it difficult to talk to your Mum generally, it might be a good idea to apologise for going through her things if she knows.
Finally, would you want to reveal details of your private life to your Mum?
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well i think that you should just stay out you moms bussiness and just do take responibility and do you chores
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hey no mother tell their child everything i dont thin your mad at your mom for wht you found i think your more shock
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Be happy your parents have a active sex life at their age. And its none of your business what they do behind closed doors to put it straight out.
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Unless you have asked your mom before if she has sex toys then technically she is not lieing to you. Your mom is married and they do have sex. They do have to plessure eachother. Im guessing your kinda young. Have those items are not being to serious especially as and adult.
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In such cases as these, it's best you don't bring up the subject at all. Do your best to clear those images from your mind. Even though you don't want to think of your parents in terms of them having sex, they are still regular people. They don't stop being that once they have kids. Your mother would probably be extremely embarassed if she found out what you saw, so it's best to never bring it up. Just because your parents don't tell you everything doesn't mean that they are lying to you and that you shouldn't trust them. It's simply that some things are personal and not something they want to talk about with their kids. Perhaps someday you'll be a parent in this situation reversed, so think about it that way. You saw nothing.
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i know this may be hard to do...but if i was you id try to pretend like i never saw those items that she had. if you tell her the truth she may get mad at you for snooping but then to it would be out in the open. but i woud try to talk to her normally like i use to and not say nething about it. hope i helped!!
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You shouldn't have gone through her stuff without permission, and there isn't anything remotely unusual about your parents having sex toys, most people (adults) do! Frankly, such things are none of your business. If you feel that your mom has lied to you, talk to her about it. It's very important to have a good relationship with your mother. Don't be embarassed to talk to her now because of what you saw, I wouldn't mention it because it would embarass HER but please know that it is completely normal.
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hey, well talking to your mom is very important. afterall, your mom is your best friend no matter what. you guys should be open to each other and be able to confront each other in a time of need. this is def. a time of need. yes, she may be mad at you for "snooping" in her belongings without asking, but just explain to her what you were really looking for -- gym clothes. then explain to her what you found. have a talk about it. dont explode on her for having those items. just calmly talk to her. cait♥
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