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Jazzy**

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i am friends with benifets with this guy i realllllly like,but he treats me like all he wants is a booty call...alot of girls like him and i wanna be with him soooo bad but he acts like he dont like me that way. He went out with 2 of my friends and he was the sweetest thing to them and they treated him like crap! i know i can treat him better...why cant he treat me like he treated them? how do i get him to treat me like them?!! :"(

STop being his booty call and not a friend with benefits. you bascially say we either be friends or there is no sex an if he want you than he would make it official

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Boys always go out with me and end up dumping me after i get attatched. They tell my friends the only reason they go out with me is because they think i am hott and easy.What can i do to change that?

i dont think ou can change they way people look at you because that you all i would say his let these guys no from the start that if they think your easy and going to give it up fast they minds well let you go now cause it aint happening . basically start being straight up with them

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I finished school early today and I went to meet my mum outside the school. As I was getting into the car, I noticed the most popular guy in school walk past and he goes "Thanks for last night! See you tomorrow"

I don't get it. What exactly did he mean by this? My mum said he was trying to make me laugh. I'm..err.. not so popular so I have no clue why he would talk to me. He blew me a kiss once when I was in the car with my mum too. He is a major flirt and does get a lot of girls so I'm not sure if it means anything.

What's going on here? Was this just a joke or did he have some hidden agenda?

thanks.

why would he say that if you wasnt with him i think it maybe it was a joke but i would say be careful because he might have a trick or two up his sleeve.

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So, over the summer I fell in love with my best friend. You see, I moved to Germany and left him behind and went to visit him over the summer. Well, we slept together, numerous times. Towards the end of the summer I got a UTI (a urinary track infection)... and I couldn't get it treated until I got back to Germany. So my mom made a doctors appointment for 2 days after I got back. Well, the doctor wanted to give me a pap smear, but she checked my urine and found too much bacteria in it, so the pap smear wouldn't make a difference. Now I've been taking medicine for my infection for almost a week. yet I'm still bleeding a little bit, and I bled the whole week and a half I had it. Which I don't know if that was my period gone astray or if it was because of the UTI. I've been noticing some symptoms of pregnancy. I'm eating more, peeing more, feeling nauseous in the morning, and sometimes all day. My boobs are swollen and I've been tired a lot. And I'm going to try and get a pregnancy test sometime this week, but I'm afraid. I'm not afraid of being pregnant, I'm afraid of not being pregnant. I love my boyfriend very much, and can't stand to be away from him anymore. His parents won't even let him come visit me. Maybe if I was pregnant, they'd have to let him come? And if not, I'd have something of his... something we CREATED together to keep me sane. Do you think I could be pregnant? Or just crazy? Maybe it's from stress. I know if you think you're pregnant, you're body will sometimes think you're pregnant as well and you'll get the symptoms.

this is a maybe or maybe not question because you can be causin g your symptoms like you said but then you can be did ou guys use protection im guessing not since you think you pregnant all i would say is take the test and i hope you get the answer you want.

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every boyfriend iv ever had has beet me up.they have choked me,kicked me,punched me.chased me and jumped me,some of my guy friends have hit me with bats and the list gos on and on.i have NEVER had a boyfriend who hasent.there has to be somthing wrone with me because even some of my guy friends have beet me up. whats my problem that i always get beet up.13/f im currently single

you cant blam your self for dumb ass males honey it's not your fault that they beat. only thing you can blame yoursel for is picking some bad ass boyfiends and if your guy friends beat you than their not your friends honey



JazzY**

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I have been married for almost 20 yrs and we have 2 teenagers. I was 21 when we married, at 22 I was a mom(this may sound crazy but I know he got me pregnant on purpose). He is very affectionate to me especial in front of people. My husband is an alcoholic and that has always been the source of our arguments and my anger towards him. Of course the next day he would always apologize and say he loves me more than anything. Around 13yrs ago I believe he had been unfaithful but he adamantly denies it. About 3 yrs. ago I was suspicious of his activity on the internet(always clicking off pages when I walked into the room). I got a program to track this activity and found that he was sending intimate pictures of me to porn sites and exchanging them with others. This for me was the ultimate betrayal,disgust and I was totally embarrassed. At the time I didn't confront him with what I knew, but I did tell him our kids were getting porn pop ups. I destroyed the photos and the program.After that, I promised myself that if he ever screwed up again that I would leave him. 1 1/2 yrs ago we sold our home and he moved out of state to start a new business, I followed with children when they finished school yr. The busin. was not going as expected, I think it was more work than he thought it would be. With me pressuring him to get a job, he went searching only to find mediocre jobs. A family member got him a great paying job back home and off he went. I went to visit him with children and dog for the holidays and had a great time, when I left to drive back (15 hr.drive) I would call every few hrs just to let him know we were ok. After 10pm I didn't call until I got home (4am) called his cell and it was turned off, called my mom told her were got back safely. I asked "how could you turn your phone off knowing your wife and children were driving thru the night" and he just said "sorry I always turn my phone off at night"....Well he screwed up again! So now I'm angry, I was now responsible for selling off everything from the busin.,which I ran some great sales and fortunately brought in a lot of money because even though he was making a lot of money he was also spending it(at bars). I started thinking about how unhappy I was in our marriage. I struggled with the idea of divorce because of the children and the rest of our families. I finally confronted him with everything and the fact that I wasn't happy and I didn't think I loved him anymore. With that, he flew down and begged for forgiveness, promised he would change and do anything I wanted him to do. Our families were shocked at what I said to him, everyone thought we had the perfect marriage. Of course they ran to his side feeling sorry for him, not knowing the whole story( cheating, porn site,mental abuse). During all this, my brother died suddenly from cancer...Because I have been so distraught over losing my brother, losing over $100,000. in a failed busin. and the strain of living apart from my husband for months a a time, I agreed to take him back and try to save our marriage. We took a vow almost 20 yrs. ago and morally feel that I should try. Its been over 4 mons. and I'm very depressed, still very angry with him, feeling like I again gave up on myself for everyone else's sake and out of fear of being on my own financially.
I am I disrespecting myself or being dramatic?
Mz.R.

hi mz R, your stoty is crazy and i bow down to you to be as strong as you are because alot of women would have been ran away from the problem but you didnt. I can understand you wanting to save your marriage but my concern is dont lose your self tyring to save someone else. you want to keep it working for your children but your children needs you to be here haplly and healty and i know you probably heard this times before but stress kill. What can you do for your kids if your not here. If your not happy there no reason to prented to be get out of it.Your husband keeps sayin this time or next time dont let it be a b=next time your not happy. and GOD is good so hell make a way for you to make it without your husband. You just have to beleive in it. This is your life and you have to live for your children so what ever you decide make for all of you.

I wish you the best
Jazzy**

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Alright well I'm 15/f & if this is helpful live in the midsouth area.
I turn 16 in about 8 months and I am trying to save up for a car.
I can't really get an official job like for example working at a clothes store for a few reasons but the top one is I am not 16. I know I could get a work permit but it is also hard to get hired when your 15. Anyway so 3 questions I am asking... 1) Are there any jobs I could more easily get without so much hassle for the employers? 2) What are some other things I could do & how would I get people to know about it? 3) How are some efficient ways I could save up?
Thanks!

an easy way for a young person to get an job andd quick good money is babysitting thats what i did to save up for my car and to get people to notice make flyerd some one always need a sitter and to actually save keep in your mind that you really want this


JazzY**

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Tonight I am going to the movies with four of my freinds. One of them is a girl, my best freind, and the otehr three are guys. The one guy, lets call him Tim, has been freaking me out. He's always liek I dreamed about you last night and we were hooking up and going out. And I'm thinking of you, I love you xo. And like, I bet you are good at hooking up. And I jsut don't like it. So tonight I am worried he will try and sit next to me and like try to make a move. There will be other girls there who I'm not exactly freinds with. What should I do? Ignore him? Or what?

just try to ignore him but if that dont work try to find a nice way to tell him that your not comfortable with wat he doin. so can he please stop. i think that should work

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my boyfriend and i have had sex before. i love him and really care about him and i wouldve rather lost it to someone i care for a lot now then i wouldve to someone when im 21 and dont care about them. for our 3 months he got me a ring, a really nice ring, but it wasnt a promise ring or anything he just likes to buy me a gift every now and then so i have something to remind me of him. sometimes i feel though that because of the ring and because of having sex [he was my first] that im trapped. i mean right now im happy with him, but about a month ago it got weird and i felt like this was never ending, we broke up, but got back together, but i mean, is it just me or does everyone seem attached to their first?

honey we all feel attached to our first. that is normal every gurl has felt or is still feeling that way becasue yall shared something so there will always been attachment

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Ok, well I had this boyfriend for a few months. He was my perfect guy, the type I've always dreamed about, my dream guy. In that amount of time, we went through alot together and I came as close to loving him as I've come to anyone ever (you know, in that way). Well, a whole lot of crap happened and he broke up with me and I still miss him like every day. I've been out and about alot and my girls have been like wicked supportive but it's been a few weeks and I still cry about it every day. I can't stop thinking about him or anything and I feel pathetic. So how can I get up and move past him?

first of all your not pathetic this is what you call life and love honey you cant make your sekf get over him it will happene but u cant force it thats just the way life is. so keeping going with your friends it will get better day by day

Jazzy**

p.s WE ALL GO THROUGH IT

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what can i do to stop arguing w/ my mom. Talking w/ her about it isn't helping anymore.
-i'm a 16yr old male

i would say jusy listen to what she is sayin but dont argue back that just make everthing worst when she see your not arguing back she'll shut up

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I have this stomach ache in my lower left side of my stomach. It hurt soo bad that i can't move. Its like a cramp but 10 times worse! What should i do?

this pain could be coming from anything and since your not sure what it is i think u need to go see a doctor asap

Hope u feel better

Jazzy**

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I've been looking for a chihuahua for about a month now. I've finally found a breeder and picked out my puppy. I picked out a girl and she's white with light brown specks here and there. She's so beautiful but I cannot pick out a name. I'm picking her up in about a week and I need a name for her. I just can't pick one out. Any ideas?

Thanks in advance.

i would name it princess and fro short princy i wanted to name my shih tzu tha but i never got it
i hope you chose my name

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Hello, I have two hickies from my boyfriend and I really really don't want my parents to see them, I try putting on make up but can totally see I'm wearing a bunch of make up and you can still kinda see the hickes!! Any tip to make them go away faster??

this may sound weird but use a frozen spoon or ice pack. it always work. the toothpaste thing dosent work

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so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f...she really likes me..and i think i like her too...i wanna go out with her...but her parents are way to strict and so are her cousins...she's not allowed to go on a date until she's 18..i can't wait 4 years...wat do i do???

sorryyy but i dont think there really is much that you guys can do because your so young. i hope things change so yall can go out'



Jazzy**

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Is it weird to have a 3 year age difference between me and my boyfriend? Like 15 and 18?

not is't not weird. people do it all the time and their ages be much further apart.I did the same thing


Jazzy*8
good luck on your relationship :)

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To graduate high school I had to take a theater class but I wasn't really into that stuff so instead of doing my assignments, my teacher let me do other things for grades (stay after and clean the stage, stuff like that). Whenever I'd do that, we would be together. We talked all the time and started to get really close. We ended up making out once but we didn't let it get in farther. We got together a few times outside of school for coffee and such but nothing more because we knew we couldn't


Well, now that I've graduated, he not my teacher, and I don't even go to that school anymore. So do you think it'd be okay to try to pursue a relationship with him? I'm 18 and he's 24 by the way.

im glad that you guys didnt do anything why you was his students. but your not in high school he's
not your teacher. so if you feel it's the right thing to do(and if he feel the same way) than go for it.


Jazzy***

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13/f i have a boyfriend & we have been gonig out for about 2 months. i'm wicked happy with him and i've liked him for almost a year and whenever i see him i am always smiling. i've kissed him on the cheek and i know he wants to kiss me but when we are about to do it i get kinda nervous and i know he thinks i dont wanna, but i do. howw can i be less nervouss? this isnt my first kiss, but i dk why i act like it.

stop think so much about it. You have to just let go. Your thinking to hard on what your about to do you just have to close your eyes and do it. hope it work out

Jazzy** ;)

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I am 14/f and I haven't had my period since early May. I've gone for over two months without getting my period. I'm starting to get concerned about it. I got my first period when I was 12. Lately, I've started eating a lot healthier than I used to. I used to eat ice cream every night and eat a lot of snacks that were high in calories and fat. But now I eat snacks like fruit and yogurt, and I try to balance out the number of servings I eat from all the food groups. Also, I've started running more to get in shape for lacrosse (3 mi. every morning), and I swim on a swim team (twice a day 5 days a week). I've lost about 10 or 15 pounds since the last time I had my period. I know I'm not pregnant because I haven't had sex. And I'm not anorexic, I'm 5'6" and weigh 125. I eat regularly, about 2000 calories daily. So why haven't I had my period. Am I at risk for anything serious? How can I change what I'm doing to ensure that I get my period again? Thanks, I'm so worried!

it may not be nothing bad your body may be changing and it's very posile that you may have an irregualr preiod. i have a friend that has one it' isnt serious BUT to be sure thats the case with you go see a doctor.


JazzY**

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ok well i got fingered for the first time and last untill im like a little older. and yeah that sounds gross but i mean i didnt think it was anything bad. but i havent been feeling well since then. it happen just yesterday but also yesterday i went to this party and ate SOO much food lol so maybe thats why im sick? and i had crampz yesterday before it happen and then after that they really didnt come and now i think they are comming back but i cant really tell..i just know my stomache is blehh lol please and thank you sooo much!

you have nothing to worry about your stomache may hurt from what you ate and the fact of thinking about what you did it's not what happened to you that have you hurting it will go away trust



JazzY***

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