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ill never understand BOYS!
i am friends with benifets with this guy i realllllly like,but he treats me like all he wants is a booty call...alot of girls like him and i wanna be with him soooo bad but he acts like he dont like me that way. He went out with 2 of my friends and he was the sweetest thing to them and they treated him like crap! i know i can treat him better...why cant he treat me like he treated them? how do i get him to treat me like them?!! :"(
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STop being his booty call and not a friend with benefits. you bascially say we either be friends or there is no sex an if he want you than he would make it official
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Okay, this probably isn't what you wanna hear, but face it, the truth's the truth. And the truth hurts. Yeah, you're a booty call. You are friends with benefits with him, which is what a booty call is anyways. So, you're right. You're a booty call. He doesn't treat you that way, because he doesn't like you in that way. It doesn't matter if you can give him the world & treat him better, he won't care because he only sees you as a friend/booty call. You'll never be able to get him to treat you the way he treated them. It just won't happen.
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He doesn't treat you that way because he doesn't like you in that way, yes- you are just a booty call. If you want to change that then stop being his booty call, it's very simple.
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Well Im not sure its a question of self esteem as such. In a relationship where men and women are equal, who is "putting out" really?
Anyway I get off point. I do however think that "friends with benefits" is a bad idea. The reason it is a bad idea is that 90% of the time this exact thing happens. One partner becomes emotionally involved with the other. This is more often than not the female (since guys can separate sex and feelings in a way most women cant)... however it is not always the case.
Either way, I do agree with the general idea of the answer below. You need to get out quick since the more you stay the worse its going to hurt. Then you can try to see if there is any way to build something more substantial with the guy. But only after you get the sex out of the way. In my non-expert opinion the best relationships have friendship as a foundation not sex (or at least not just sex).
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This isn't meant to put you down, but you're his "friend with benifits". He DOES only want a booty call. If you want to persue a relationship with this boy, or make him like you, you need to stop putting out. Seriously. What kind of guy is going to want to date someone who doesn't show respect for themself? He probably thinks you're a slut. You need to cut him off, NOW! I'm sorry if this was a little blunt. I'm just trying to be honest.
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