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abuse
every boyfriend iv ever had has beet me up.they have choked me,kicked me,punched me.chased me and jumped me,some of my guy friends have hit me with bats and the list gos on and on.i have NEVER had a boyfriend who hasent.there has to be somthing wrone with me because even some of my guy friends have beet me up. whats my problem that i always get beet up.13/f im currently single
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first off, ther is absolutely nothing wrong with you. theres something wrong with them. if your "friends" hit you then they are not deserving of your company and friendship and you should ditch them. no guy should hit you.
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wtf is wrong with u sry to go all out like that but seriously thats abuse and i hate when that happens ! dont let it happen how can they really be ur friends they are fags
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you cant blam your self for dumb ass males honey it's not your fault that they beat. only thing you can blame yoursel for is picking some bad ass boyfiends and if your guy friends beat you than their not your friends honey
JazzY**
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*Too shocked to give her proper introduction*
THEY HIT YOU WITH A BAT?! THEY CHOKED YOU!!?? Oh my..! Honey, honey, honey. First of all, if you were here, or if I was there i would give you the biggest hug I've ever given to anyone! That's just aweful! And you're 13, no less! (Oh I always hate these message back and forth things. I'd like to get more details of what enviroment you live in, your parents background, and the type of people you hang out with. But since we're doing this I'll have to use my imagination I suppose.) Honey, I can think of three things you should do, but trust me you don't have to. If you feel uncomfortable at all with any of the suggestions, just turn away and follow what you think is right. This is advice, not an order or instructions.
1) Go to your parents or an adult you trust. Tell them more thoroughly your problem. I'm not telling you to rat on any one of your exboyfriends, you do NOT have to give them their names. But try to seek help ASAP.
2) They're young, they're boys, they don't know how fragile we women are. What seems like them chasing you and hitting you with bats might just be their way of growing up. (*Remembers hitting her brother in the head with one of the inflatible bats...*) Ok so the same principals don't apply. I doubt myself here, but it could happen.
3) If you're embarrassed, or frightened to tell your parents or guardian or teacher or whoever, go to a friend you trust. Spill your heart out, cause that's what friends are for. You do NOT ever have to put up with this alone. There's always going to be someone there to help you and pick you up when you fall. Also, do try to stay away from boys who seem quick to anger or who just haven't matured enough. Wait awhile until your knight in shining armor comes along. You'll know it, believe me. He's going to be sweet, handsome, and charming. Totally disney *dreamy sigh*
Once again, none of these could be right. Except the last part of 3, cause that's a happily ever after ending and those are sooo purdy and coot! ... *cough, cough* Moving along. You should do whatever your heart and mind tells you to do. You don't have to take this abuse any longer. Believe in yourself, and the fact that you're strong. You're a woman after all. ;D
If the advice I've just given to you is not of your liking, or you just plain hate it, turn to another AG. There are thousands of people who are more than willing to help you out. I do hope my advice works in some way shape or form. Take care!
Luvs,
~PPP~
P.S. THANKS FOR THE FEEDBACK!! In fact, I do have an e-mail. ultrasonic_kitty@hotmail.com. You can contact me there if you'd like. Thanks again for the rating and comment. I'm so glad I made you happy. ^_^
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First of all they shouldn't have put their hands on a lady like yourself.A lot of these abusive men have reasons they hit their girls or women like because they want them to fear them or they want to control them or think they are cheating on them or being flirty with other guys or that their women are lazy or they want things done for them when they ask to or done things quickly for them.But whatever of these reasons they shouldn't take advantage of a female,if I were you I would of reported them for abusing me, also think about it they'll most likely do it to other girls,if you do something about it,you'll help out other people,and you'll be thanked for.Also you will be a hero for saving others from these abusive men.
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You need to step back and take a good look at the kinds of boyfriends you are picking. It sounds like you are picking the same type over and over again.
Perhaps you have a thing for "bad boys"? A lot of girls do, for some reason. If you do, then you should understand there is a good possibility you will be treated "badly" by "bad boys".
Try looking at guys who are the opposite of the ones you are picking now, and see how you do.
Sure, not every seeming "bad boy" will treat you badly, and not every seeming "nice guy" will treat you nicely, but statistically speaking, you have a much better chance of being treated nicely by a guy who outwardly treats others nicely.
I mean, if, in your experience, 9 out of 10 "bad boys" will treat you badly... Why take the chance?
So find a nice guy... And stay away from guys who are into "bad" things... Those will be far more likely to treat you badly. Bad things include; drugs, alcohol abuse, violent gangs, fighting, stealing, etc.
You will greatly improve your chances if you find a guy who isn't associated with any of those things.
Good Luck.
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Well sweet heart ♥
I know it's hard to be single, but you need to stay single for a while and try to be friends with your next boyfriend before you call it a relationship, see if you and him connect. i think that would be your best bet.
♥ Anjelica
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umm...this doesnt seem to likely!! but, you should try being sweet to them, dont pick on them, and dont talk about it or expect it to happen!!!!!!
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HOLY SHIT!!!Its because you give them the CHANCE to do so!Lemme guess,it starts off by you guys calling eachother names as jokes THEN it gets to hitting eachother as jokes then when he gets mad at you,he HITS you.PLEASE dont tell me you did nothing to that guy that hit you with the bat.I woulda kicked his balls out.If you didnt then thats totally retarted of you but whats past is past,you desperatley need to CHANGE woman!If ANY guy EVER hits you,its considered physical abuse!YOU SHOULD GO TO THE POLICE STATION AND REPORT THIS not sit down and wait for them to kill you!Dont EVER joke around with guys by hitting them or calling them names,and if they start by doing that,tell them to show you a lil respect and if they dont then DUMP them.Im a 16 year old female and when i was 13 and guys joke around calling me names or as much as HIT me as joking i used to run after them with text books and beat em up!!And if a guy threatens you and tells you not to tell or theyll hit you MORE,then STILL go tell the police,dont be a cowarde,the police will put an end to it all.You need to show self RESPECT if you want guys to respect you.And i also think that since your 13 youve probably dated guys that are 13.13 is wayyyyy to young to be in a relationship but since its come to hitting with you,i think you should lay off the love and boyfreinds for a while and live your age.All i remember doing when i was 13 is having water fights with my freinds and acting like a retart running around playing truth or dare,i was more innocent than EVER and i still do that!!I never had a boyfreind cuz im living my age and life and ill have a boyfreind when im READY to,when im like 20.LIVE YOUR LIFE,did you even get your period?
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You're 13, stop dating until you develop the maturity to choose partners who won't treat you in this way and learn self respect. This kind of wisdom really does come from age and learning, and the only way you are going to get it is if you wait.
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You're THIRTEEN and this is going on!? That is such a serious issue!!
PLEASE, first off, tell people about these kids who are doing this. Not only your parents and the police // or a teacher, but also your girl friends so they're not at risk.
I can't see why they would do something this horrible, and all of them at that, maybe you're timid or shy so they think it's okay? Are they all from the same group of friends? If so, don't date from that group.
Try to stay away from they guys who seem angry easily.
PLease, feel free to message me at my advice site ((myspace.com/askdee))
or email me
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
Also, ask your friends about what guys seem nice. Dont' go for the good looking guys all the time, maybe the ones who aren't are kinder?
Good luck, and please please tell someone, you don't deserve this!
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