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Hello out there! My name's Kim AKA PurplePudgyPenguin or PPP. I'm happily 16! I'm young but I'm smart (at least my friends claim, I dont think so though, lol, I'm such a nerd) Well, if you want some advice, despite how young I am, I'll be more than happy to give it to you. So just send me an email, or write on my advice column. Thank you all! Stay positive and live life to its fullest. Byez!!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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well i really like these 2 guys but the one guy broke up with me and his life is really messed up but hes willing to take me back and the other guy is soo nice and sweet but i like the other guy more. im a 13 year old female.

Hello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG today! Hm... I have to think of something amusing to get you into high spirits. Hm... Amusing.. amusing...? *Cough, cough* Ick... I'm eating watermellon and I choked on a seed. It was an evil seed, but I spit it on the floor and my kitty ate it. Good kitty! Yay! I did it. And yep, that really did happen *Nods*.

Down to business! Okay, I can think of a few things to help you out. These are suggestions! It doesn't mean you pick one and think it'll magically work like a fortune cookie. Doesn't happen that way. Only you can decide what to do. These are just to help the gears in your brain work along and get you through it. Much like a cross-stitch sewing thing. Someone can help you out, but its up to you to finish your masterpiece up.

1) Don't date the guy who's got a rough life just for pity. There's no love there, just well... pity. It won't last anyways.
2) The second guy sounds so sweet. But get to know him better. Take your time with studying him. Hang out with him at school. If he's still sweet and nice, go for him.
3) Same as B. If the other boy you broke up with is having a messed up life, then hang out around him. If he's getting distasteful, or you just can't take it anymore, don't go for him. But you said you liked him better, so you may end up staying with him.
4) Make a chart. List things you look for in a guy. Pair the two up together. See which one is more appealing to you. Don't make it into a contest and just go "yep, he wins". You need to be HONEST with yourself. If not, you may as well flip a coin.
5) What do you know? Flip a coin! If you just can't decide, flip a coin. Date one guy for two weeks, tell the other you may still be interested in him to make sure he doesn't go off with another girl. I suggest dating the nice guy first. Get to know each boy. Whichever one you feel more comfortable with, take him.

I know this probably doesn't help much, and you're probably thinking I'm psychotic (random person: flip a coin?!?! Who comes up with that? / ppp: aw. =( ), but I really do hope I helped in some way shape or form. If not, there are plenty of other advice givers who would be more than happy to help you out. Take care!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Hey my name is Rachel and my bofriend jesse and i are both 17 years old and the problem is that we don't have any classes together and my mom won't let me see him after school i've talked to her about it I talk to him on the phone quite alot and the only time I ever see him is about 15 minutes at breakfast before the bell rings at school what should I do?

Hi there I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your advice giver this wonderful...evening? Well it's evening for me anyways. Anyways! I'm a huge romantic! I feel kind of guilty for telling you some bad, evil ideas, but this is all I have. These are SUGGESTIONS and - (random person: you started this out really badly / ppp: i know. No muse today.. / rp: then why are you giving advice in the first place? / ppp: .. cause i'm a good person? / rp: pft!) and you should do whatever your heart tells you to do. Don't just snatch one of the ideas I provide for you and think it's going to work. It all depends on you.

1) See him after school anyways. Make up an excuse to tell your mom. Say something such as, "I'm just going over to ___ *insert girl friend's name here* for a study session, I'll be back __ *insert time*". I know you'll feel guilty for lying to your mother, but that's the only way I can think of you getting around her.
2) Just tell the truth! Come out to her and say that you love your boyfriend. Tell her you'll do anything to keep him, even if that means disobeying your mother. But be very, very cautious. Bring this matter down gently and maturely. Your mother still has the rights to ground you. Be calm when you tell her and make no threats or insults towards her.
3) Once again, tell the truth. Not like 2, just say you're meeting up with your friends when you actually are. Invite your boyfriend along beforehand and hang out with him there. It could be as simple as a basketball/football/volleyball, any kind of game thing. Or just at practice somewhere.
4) Call him up secretly. Wait for you mother to go to bed and let your heart flutter. If your mother tends to catch you, just say it was one of your girl friend's asking for homework advice. If she asks about the time, say that she was having MAJOR troubles. (^_^ I'm so evil! I did this with my mumsie too. Word of advice, never try this two times in a row. They tend to catch on).
5) Make him your tutor! Or you be his tutor. Get permission from either your teacher or principal before doing so. Get a note and give it to your mother. She may tell you off and ground you for doing so, but then she'll have the school system to deal with. It'll definately be a good back up, and a great way for you to see your boyfriend.

Remember, these are suggestions, and nothing more. It's up to you to do whatever you feel is best. I do hope things work out between you and your boyfriend. What you're doing to see him is inspiring! *dreamy sigh* Unfortunately, my boyfriend is on my parents' goodside, no sneaking out or anything there. Well, time to cut this off before I bore you anymore. Take care!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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whenever im around people that i dont usually hang out with like new people, i usually get shy.. this always happens so now i am known as the shy girl.. any tips that would help me to get unshy? i have tried to start conversations but sometimes i have nothing to say. and i have always tried to be myself too

Hi! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I-! ... My name is a mouthful, and PPP sounds funny. Sounds like peepee with an extra pee in there. t hehe, pee...

Sorry! Anyways, I'll be your advice giver today! Now, down to business.. *clears throat all professionally*

You completely remind me of me. I'm always shy around new people. I tend to look down when they talk to me, and I'm never one to add my opinion. In this case, I really need to listen up too (even though I don't mind the shygirl label, people leave you at peace a whole lot more ^.^). It sounds like you just need to open up a bit more. When meeting a new person, don't just give them a simple 'hi' or 'how are you?' ask them more complex questions. Act like you're really curious about them. Ask them their age, if not obvious or informed previously, or where they come from. Note: Don't ask them these things if you've already been told them. There are other questions out there to pick from. Just open up around people more. But as previously stated, don't overdo it so you're not you. Giving up your behavior and the way you act and even your posture can change what makes you you. Be careful not to get hyper or anything, I've ruined my chances with a couple people because I was hyped up on like 20 nerd's ropes and laffy taffys. *Nods*

That's honestly the best I can do for you right now. I'm in a brainfart stage. I'm sorry if the advice I've given to you hasn't been of your liking and/or approval. You've got a bunch of others to choose from. Remember advice is just an opinion and suggestion hybrid. Something I like to call a suggion! Sounds like a fish... t hehe. But anyways, there are other AGs out there who would love to help you out. I do hope I provided some assistance in your problem. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Ok well me and my best friend[friend A] got in a huge fight and she told another one of my friends[friend b] some things that i told her because i was mad and now Friend b is going around trying to get everyone to hate me and truthfuly im not sad that were not friends anymore but i really dont want everyone to hate me.

And friend A and i have been tight sence like kindergarten and like i finally got sick of her ditching me so im not sad about that either but is it wrong of me to de-friend someone for ditching me??

Hola Comrade! ... My stupid way of saying "Hi! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin!" and I'm here to give advice!
You: -_- duh..
PPP: t hehehe ^^

Alright! Down to busynuss! Okay then, your main question here I'm afraid can't really be answered. I can give you my opinion, but not a straight yes/no theory. It'd also depend on the situation. It seems like this friend and you have always been great together. You seem to really understand one another but for some reason, when she keeps ditching you, you seem to grow apart. My answer is: No, you shouldn't just drop friendship like that. If I were you (which I'm not. Remember, advice is just a fancy word for 'suggestion') I'd sit friend A down and talk long and hard with her. Tell her that she's making you sad, that you do want to be friends with her but she constantly ditches you and leaves you feeling pretty terrible. Tell her how much it hurts and try to work out some kind of solution. Maybe if you open her eyes, she might change her ways and return to your side. That would also be of use in friend B situation. If friend A befriends you once more, she may confess to friend B what she said. An apology would follow and you'd have both friends back. However, this is entirely up to you. I'm simply putting myself in your situation and doing what I would think would be right. You don't have to do this if you feel uncomfortable or simply want to end both friendships. Remember, these are SUGGESTIONS.

Oh gosh... I'm kind of lazy today and I'm tired. But I did try to answer this question to the greatest of my corny abilities. (Yep, they're corny. *Puts abilities on fire* POPCORN!) If you're unsatisfied, or just plain angry with how I answered, there are thousands of other AGs ready to give you even better advice. I do hope I helped. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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my best friends birthday is coming up, and i have not idea what to get her. the thing is, that i usually get my friends 20 dollars and vice versa. but she got me somereally nice, and it cost a lot of money. she got me a heart shaped picture frame with a picture of me and her in it, with my name ingraved, and the date and it was 80 dollars..

So far I'm giving her a Geauga lake ticket, and the next day shes going with me to geauga lake.

Any ideas that i can give her that are nice, yet not super expensive?

Oh! Oh! Oh! I love these questions!! Horray! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin by the way! I'm going to answer your question!
Random person: O.O; obviously...
PPP: :( aw.

Anyways! I can think of a few ideas on what to get her. They're small and don't cost much at all. But the thought does count. Trust me, it does. (I have to tell a story. Can I?! Yay! Okay, it was christmas time and my boyfriend isn't the greatest at saving his money or managing it {Ha ha! He'd kill me if he caught me telling you this} [Oh and I gotta admit I expected something big but... ya!] and he gave me this box. I opened it and there wasn't anything in it. I was so confused, and I thought he hated me. I was close to crying {I cry easily. Yeah.} but then he threw himself on me and gave me this huge hug. He told me it was something he would never be able to fit in a box. And he gave me the sweetest, best kiss I have ever had. It was so romantic and it only cost like 5 cents. ^_^ I loved it! ... Okay! Story done!) But anyways, I'll give you a list of things that would be sweet, inexpensive, and from your heart. But keep in mind, these are mere suggestions. Don't follow down the list and do everything like an instruction manual. I'm 16, don't follow what I say. *Girly giggle*

1) Oh my personal favorite, a construction paper card. It's cute, it's sweet, it comes from the heart. No one can resist the vast amount of glue, glitter, paper, and googly eyes on a poorly cut out penguin (Story to that but I'll bore you).
2) A mix tape! They rock. I love them so much when I get them. Record a few songs, burn some on CD that you like and that she likes. Listen to them in the car and smile at each other.
3) A teddy bear!!! Omg! I love stuffed animals. Your girl's probably not as girly and corny as me but I love anything fuzzy and fluffy. And she might too. I recommend Build-A-Bear for this. Liek build one of you or one of her. Or both!
4) DJ record. This is new to me so I can't fill in all the details. It kind of goes to the mix tape idea, only your voice is on it. Parts go in like "Hey I love you!" or just you talking about nothing.
5) A dinner. Either you at her house, her at your house, or just going out to eat. Recommendation: No MccyD's. Girls don't like McDonalds. Trust me. (Story! ... I'll stop ^^)
6) Like my story, get her a hug. It's sweet, it's simple, and it's the most expensive thing you could ever give her. Because it's worth more than diamonds or jewelry or gold. Okay that was cheesy but it'll mean a lot.

The list isn't that great, and I can't come up with much else. Sorry, this kind of stunk since I'm on a brainfart. I'm sorry if I didn't help much or just plain confused you (*Hyper tonight*). I wish you the best of luck!! By the way, you're a great friend if you go through all this trouble to buy her something special. Don't worry one bit. It isn't how expensive the gift is, it depends on how much love you put into it. If you didn't like the advice, just ask away to another advisor. We've got thousands of them at advicenators. Trust me. It's like battle for answering questions. ^_^ They're good though, and can kick what I said in the fanny. Take care!!!!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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hey! my best friend who dont get me wrongs is absolutly awsome!!!!! but its just she always has a boyfriend and theres noth in rong with that eather its just she always puts boyfriends before friends which i just dont do!! i finished my boyfriend because him n her hated each other and i thort friends were more important! with her last boyfriend she did invite me to places they went together but she would go off with him and i felt in the way!! and her latest boyfriend shes on about goin to live with his family!! milles away from where she lives now (about 5 hours drive) and i was like but what about our friendship but shes didnt sean that bothered shes just said oh youll be ok and them started talking about him again! im not jelous am i? or obsessive? i just dont want to lose her as a friend but that how her previous friends stoped talking to her as she was always with her boyfriend and not them. i just dont want to lose her as a friend as shes absolutly brillient when shes not with a lad

Hello there! My name's PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll... O.O I just realized how ridiculous my name sounds... ANYWAYS! And I'll be your advice-giver for the evening! (I think. It is for me anyways)

Alright, down to business. I don't know what to really tell you here. I have the same problem actually with one of my friends. Only she doesn't want to move away or anything. She's only 15... But you're absolutely right. Friends are more important than boyfriends. Boyfriends last only a while, since you said yourself she's with a new one all the time. Friends are people you love and cherish more than anything else in the world. Maybe, this new guy she's with is the one. And I'm not saying he is, cause if he wants her to leave her friend behind he's definately not what I'd call "mr. right" but that's just my opinion. Honestly, I'd just sit back, let her move, count down the days, and await her return. I don't think she's going to last very long with this new guy. Give it a few weeks, a month at the most. If she hasn't either called you, wrote you, emailed you, or come back WITH a complaint about him, you should go up and visit her. Tell her how badly you feel. Express yourself openly. Say that you love her (not love love but like love as a friend love and... nevermind! I think you got it the first time ^^; ), and that it hurts when she leaves to go with another guy. Make her see it through your eyes. If she still stays, that doesn't mean you just stop the friendship all-together. Keep in touch with her. It may be hard with the distance, but friendship can grow that way.

I really hope I helped, and this answer is kind of short and crummy *pokes it with her magic spork*. But all the same I do hope I provided some assistance. If not, there are thousands of other AGs who can completely kick my advice in the buttocks (What a silly word. Buttocks. Teeheehee *cough, cough* sorry ^^). I really, really hope I helped.

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Hi my name is Vanessa. I live in the UK although all of my family are in South Africa. My husband is English and we have a little boy who is 14 months.

Where to begin. My husband and I have been having A LOT of problems over the past year. The birth of our son has put a lot of strain on our relationship to the point that we no longer have a relationship.

I no longer want him to touch me, we fight all the time. He is constantly calling me names. I am constantly putting him and his family down.

I have always been a little unstable. I have a history of drug abuse (3 years ago now) I was anorexic for a few years (5 years ago) I am slightly depressive and latley, I can feel myself getting more and more unable to cope.

I am in a lot of debt and that brings about a lot of financial stress. Instead of supporting each other, we use each others problems as ammunition when we argue.

I am very needy and I desperaly want someone to love me and touch me and look after me. I would not be able to cope on my own and moving to South Africa is not an option because of the debt that I am in the UK.

I need a realtionship where I am supported but I know I will not get it from my current husband. He will not go to a therapist because he can not open up to people. He says that I have made him that cold and suppressed. I don't think that is true.

We are both unhappy and have needs that are not being met. The solution would be to move on but how can I with a small baby and no friends or family in the uk??? I think that I would fall apart on my own. I think I would drive myself mad. I have done it before.

I have thought about therapy but I can not afford a therapist! I can not go on the NHS (free medical care) because that will go on my record and my husband has told me several times that he will fight for custody for our son and he will use my instability against me.

I love and cherish my son. He wants for nothing. I give him everything he needs and everyone I know says that I am an unbeliveably good mother who lives for her son. I would never in a billion years hurt him. I do fear that my husband will take him away from me if I see a therapist on the NHS.

I need a solution. Some advice. Someone that can put themselves in my situation and help me to figure out what I should do next.

I am desperatly unhappy :( Please help :)

Thanks for your time!

Hi there Vanessa! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin, AKA Kim, and I'll be your AG on this monday __ (I'm tired of writing morning, evening, night... I'm always wrong).

Oh my... Honestly you've pointed out every single piece of your problem, I'm very, very impressed. However, I've never been married before (*Big sign hangs over head flashing 'Only 16* *Rips it down*) or had a son. You sound like a very terrific mother, and for that I just want to give you a big hug! Your son is so lucky to have someone so willing to care for him. Through my eyes, you're someone I'd like to look up to - not saying this for an 'aw' reaction or anything, I mean it - because you see your son's welfare above your own. You're ready to face your husband to keep him by your side. You've got a great sense of motherly instict and I am greatly impressed by that. I can't tell you much more of what to do. You want to start over with a new lover, and you don't wish to be with your husband any longer. It's a tough call, since you have your son to worry about. You're cornered, and feel trapped (I'm imagining myself in your position. So I'm taking this through what I would feel. Sorry if it's inaccurate ^^; ), and you don't see any way of getting out. I'm so sorry to say this, and I know you won't want to hear it, but for the sake of your son and your love for him, put aside your own needs. I know it hurts and you're probably thinking, "This girl's only 16! She doesn't know what it means..." and in fact I don't, but I don't think having a new lover is worth giving up the son you already love very much. I was thinking, I'm no genious in the law category, but if you got a divorce paper that joins custody of your son, wouldn't that sum things up? Maybe I watch too much 'Liar, Liar' but I thought you could do that. I'm so sorry, I'm so clueless here. I'm not helping much am I? I really should just end it here.

I'm so sorry. This advice is by far the worst I have given, but since no one gave you any, I thought I'd lend a hand. I'm very, very, very sorry for not being of better help and/or assistance. I hope I did at least something. You are a very good mother, never forget that. What you're doing for your son is breath-taking and inspiring. Don't give up for a moment. Don't let your husband win. And you never know, maybe if you are patient with him, he'll start to lessen up with the fights. Another thing, I know it'll hurt your pride and once again you'll probably be thinking i'm amateur here, but give in a bit. Tell him your sorry, try to make the rift between the two of you slacken up. For the sake of your son. I'm sorry. It's not what you want to hear, I know. I can picture having someone say that to me and thinking they don't understand and it's none of their business. I'm so, so, so sorry again! I hope I helped.. again! If not, there are thousands of other AG's ready to help you out. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Well one of my best friends cuzin was over and he cute nice and funny so i told sammythat i liked him....wellshes was like you should tell him cause you guys keep flirting and its so cute and i was like no i dn think he does and all that bull but in the end sammy told him i did so he kept asking me to make sure sam wasnt leing and i didnt answer him...I only did once outa like 100 times of him asking well i like him but ive had problems with guys in the past cause im not a pretty girl...so some tll me the oters are just my friends and i hate liking somone then know that i would have no chance so thats why i never told anyone before sam that i ever liked someone...well after i said yes taht i liked him then sam was like oh you guys are going out thats so cute...i just gave her a dirty look cause he never asked me.Then i told sam that and she told him again so shes my middle man i guess well he asked me and i said yes which i never was saposed to because my dad says i cant date till i married and im only a girl im not a women yet so i wanna but my dad would flip i know its because he cares about me and doesnt want to see my hurt but he cant protect me forever and i want to start dating and i know not to have sex...and if i do condom im not stupid and im not ganna throw my goals away cause there mroe inportant to my now then ever.but im to young to even think about sex so im definetly not ganna do it...well anothenyasked me if i had kissed before and i was like i shouldnt answer that but i said no cause i never had..and i belive in the first kiss has to be important.well he kept asking me questions about kissing and if i would and everything but i told him that im not ganna kiss him and everyone was like if you even hold hands ill kill you so...im to young to do anything and i wanna know that hes the right guy and the real reason i dont wanna kiss him because at the end of the summmer i wont see him cause i cant be like ohh im going to the movies with a guy cause my dad would come and sit i row behind me so yeah hechsha no and i wont see him so i wanna tell him why bother cause i dont wanna just be your penpal cause i like him and hes nice and i dont wanna hrt his feelings but the first kiss he ever had he was four!!!what is that...
i wanna tell him and not let sam but am i doing it for the right resons>>>?

*Looks at the top of advice box* .. Ever notice it says "Your brilliant answer"? But my answers aren't brilliant... O.O whoops! Sorry, my mind sometimes just... leaves... *cough, cough* Anyways!
I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG on this monday evening (morning, night,... you know what I mean). It sounds like this guy is just a small crush to tell you the truth. Don't worry about hurting his feelings. It'll sting for a bit of course, but the guy will get over it and nurse his wounds. Infatuations don't last long (trust me). Basically, dont get your hopes up with this boy. On a side note, you could hook up with him. Just - Oh boy... evil teen-to-teen advice again. I really need to stop with this stuffs xDD - fib to your dad and say you're going with some group of GIRL friends. I say 'fib' because it's better than 'lie' you see. ^^;; I'm kind of a rebellious teen. Nah, don't lie unless you really, really, REALLY want to be with someone. But if you want to lose him, just tell him. Write him a note to make it easier on you both, or gain the courage to tell him face-to-face. Up to you. Email him, send him a note, write a message in the sky.. anything that makes you feel comfortable.

I hope my advice was worth reading. I apologize for it's blehness, i'm braindead right now. There are thousands of other AGs who would love to help you. So don't be afraid to ask some of them for help. Hope I helped! Good luck!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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every boyfriend iv ever had has beet me up.they have choked me,kicked me,punched me.chased me and jumped me,some of my guy friends have hit me with bats and the list gos on and on.i have NEVER had a boyfriend who hasent.there has to be somthing wrone with me because even some of my guy friends have beet me up. whats my problem that i always get beet up.13/f im currently single

*Too shocked to give her proper introduction*
THEY HIT YOU WITH A BAT?! THEY CHOKED YOU!!?? Oh my..! Honey, honey, honey. First of all, if you were here, or if I was there i would give you the biggest hug I've ever given to anyone! That's just aweful! And you're 13, no less! (Oh I always hate these message back and forth things. I'd like to get more details of what enviroment you live in, your parents background, and the type of people you hang out with. But since we're doing this I'll have to use my imagination I suppose.) Honey, I can think of three things you should do, but trust me you don't have to. If you feel uncomfortable at all with any of the suggestions, just turn away and follow what you think is right. This is advice, not an order or instructions.

1) Go to your parents or an adult you trust. Tell them more thoroughly your problem. I'm not telling you to rat on any one of your exboyfriends, you do NOT have to give them their names. But try to seek help ASAP.
2) They're young, they're boys, they don't know how fragile we women are. What seems like them chasing you and hitting you with bats might just be their way of growing up. (*Remembers hitting her brother in the head with one of the inflatible bats...*) Ok so the same principals don't apply. I doubt myself here, but it could happen.
3) If you're embarrassed, or frightened to tell your parents or guardian or teacher or whoever, go to a friend you trust. Spill your heart out, cause that's what friends are for. You do NOT ever have to put up with this alone. There's always going to be someone there to help you and pick you up when you fall. Also, do try to stay away from boys who seem quick to anger or who just haven't matured enough. Wait awhile until your knight in shining armor comes along. You'll know it, believe me. He's going to be sweet, handsome, and charming. Totally disney *dreamy sigh*

Once again, none of these could be right. Except the last part of 3, cause that's a happily ever after ending and those are sooo purdy and coot! ... *cough, cough* Moving along. You should do whatever your heart and mind tells you to do. You don't have to take this abuse any longer. Believe in yourself, and the fact that you're strong. You're a woman after all. ;D

If the advice I've just given to you is not of your liking, or you just plain hate it, turn to another AG. There are thousands of people who are more than willing to help you out. I do hope my advice works in some way shape or form. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

P.S. THANKS FOR THE FEEDBACK!! In fact, I do have an e-mail. ultrasonic_kitty@hotmail.com. You can contact me there if you'd like. Thanks again for the rating and comment. I'm so glad I made you happy. ^_^

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I finished school early today and I went to meet my mum outside the school. As I was getting into the car, I noticed the most popular guy in school walk past and he goes "Thanks for last night! See you tomorrow"

I don't get it. What exactly did he mean by this? My mum said he was trying to make me laugh. I'm..err.. not so popular so I have no clue why he would talk to me. He blew me a kiss once when I was in the car with my mum too. He is a major flirt and does get a lot of girls so I'm not sure if it means anything.

What's going on here? Was this just a joke or did he have some hidden agenda?

thanks.

Hello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin, and I'm your 8th.. I think... advice giver! Okay, so by now you've probably made up your mind but it can't hurt to hear my advice right? *cricket chirps* aw.. Anyways! Down to business!

Well, I've gone deep inside the times of space and viewed your future!!! ... No not really (Wouldn't that be cool if I did though? It'd be neat! I could predict the lottery and... Woah off subject! Sorry!). I've come up with a few ideas to why he did what he did, his intentions, your approach, and all that other good stuff. Keep in mind, this is plain advice. Don't pick any of these and just follow it. Do what feels right to YOU. These are merely suggestions:

1) He's definately into you. He may sound like he's being a smarta---butt.. but he may like you as well. Don't be shy to go up to him and talk to him. If he still comes up as a jerk, or being sarcastic, just try to be patient. Boys are sometimes difficult like that. If he mocks you or picks fun at you, give him the cold shoulder and walk away. Don't give him the satisfaction of seeing he hurt your feelings (if that's the outcome), but turn proudly and walk away with your chest puffed out.
2) He's just poking fun at you. My experience with popular boys has been that they live for putting people down to make themselves feel tall. This is called a 'cruel high'. In this case, watch him, be patient with his movements, study what he says carefully. If it's mocking, or too sarcastic to be gentle or meaningful, ignore him, or mock him back. Give him responses such as, "Hey toots", or blow him a kiss in return with a cocky smile. There's no rules in love and war.
3) Undeveloped feelings. He may be struggling with himself if he likes you. In this case, don't approach him forcefully, thinking you'll end up in a relationship. Act as though what he says does not register. Instead, ask him if he'd like to study, do some homework together, or eat lunch. Friendly questions or a simple "how was your day?". Be careful though, undeveloped love means that it can easily shift to hate or nuetral feeling.
4) He's showing off. If you see a group of friends around him when he does these things, ignore it. There's no chance for love in this case. Hold your head up high and keep waiting, cause sooner or later a better, more compassionate man is going to float your way.

Well, that pretty much sums it up. Sorry for the length, I tend to go into explanations a lot. If my advice wasn't to your liking, you have.. *counts* 7 others here that will be more than happy to listen to you. I do hope and wish you the best with your problem. And remember, no matter what, hold your head up high for all of us girls. =)

Luvs
~PPP~

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So, over the summer I fell in love with my best friend. You see, I moved to Germany and left him behind and went to visit him over the summer. Well, we slept together, numerous times. Towards the end of the summer I got a UTI (a urinary track infection)... and I couldn't get it treated until I got back to Germany. So my mom made a doctors appointment for 2 days after I got back. Well, the doctor wanted to give me a pap smear, but she checked my urine and found too much bacteria in it, so the pap smear wouldn't make a difference. Now I've been taking medicine for my infection for almost a week. yet I'm still bleeding a little bit, and I bled the whole week and a half I had it. Which I don't know if that was my period gone astray or if it was because of the UTI. I've been noticing some symptoms of pregnancy. I'm eating more, peeing more, feeling nauseous in the morning, and sometimes all day. My boobs are swollen and I've been tired a lot. And I'm going to try and get a pregnancy test sometime this week, but I'm afraid. I'm not afraid of being pregnant, I'm afraid of not being pregnant. I love my boyfriend very much, and can't stand to be away from him anymore. His parents won't even let him come visit me. Maybe if I was pregnant, they'd have to let him come? And if not, I'd have something of his... something we CREATED together to keep me sane. Do you think I could be pregnant? Or just crazy? Maybe it's from stress. I know if you think you're pregnant, you're body will sometimes think you're pregnant as well and you'll get the symptoms.

Hey there hun! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG on this lovely monday evening ( or morning, or night... I have no clue what time it is where you are ). I'm no doctor, and frankly I'd rather not become one (blood... ick...) but it sounds to me by the symptoms you described in the earlier message that you indeed are pregnant. I'm 16, so I've never been pregnant before, but I've heard about it and I think you hit the nail on the head. I can't give you a positive answer, that's what pregnancy tests do, but I can guess that you are carrying your boyfriend's child. First off, please let me inform you that having a baby around may ruin your relationship with your bf, but it could help it all the same. You shouldn't hope that you're pregnant to paste together your relationship. I know it hurts to lose someone you love, and it probably scares you to look ahead. It scares everyone. Ever notice how a child seems to be wary before they try something as simple as a food? They get scared too. It's natural. Don't fret one bit until you've got a positive yes/no answer. But don't count on your bf coming to your side. You may be out of luck there. For the most part, you sound so excited to have this child. And GOOD FOR YOU! Many women become very scared and have abortions or become rather clingy to other people. You're facing this situation head-on. Great, great job! I'm proud of you for that. Honey, whatever happens, don't be scared of the future. Embrace what happens with open arms. you'll need a positive attitude for the baby, if it even exists (once again not giving you a yes or no answer ^^). I wish you the best, best of luck with your boyfriend. I really hope things work out with you and you have a beautiful baby and end up together with him. Disney ending would fit you just fine.

If the advice isn't to your liking, or if you are unsatisfied, there are plenty of more Advice givers that can kick what I just said in the rear. (I sound like a corny advertisement xD). So don't be afraid to turn to any one of us. I really hope things work out and my advice helps.

Luvs
~PPP~

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Ok, so I like this one guy(let's call him Ben), and he likes me. He's already kissed me, and I am REALLY tempted to kiss him back later. Problem is, my mom doesn't want me to date until I'm 16, and if I do date him, then before I do, I have to take him home to see if she approves.

Well, everybody knows that I like him and that he likes me back, and a friend of mine asked him if he'd be my boyfriend for me. He said yes, and I guess we're a couple now, but I haven't taken him home or talked to mom about it yet. What do I do?

P.S. I'm 13 and I'm a girl.

SOO SORRY FOR THE LATE RESPONSE!!!

And, unfortunately, I no longer give advice on this site anymore. If you still need help, you are more than welcome to send me an email at ultrasonic_kitty@hotmail.com

I am soo sorry, once again dear! I'll be sure to help you as best I can in my replied email!

~PPP~

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My parenst argue alot...and ya my brother and I are afraid they're gonna get a divorce...they may not say it but it seems so much like it...please help!
Age: 12
Gender: Female

Hello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your advice-giver this fine Sunday evening. Now, down to buisness (Where's my coffee? Eh... nevermind...). Ok, first of all honey, I'm so sorry to tell you this but sometimes these things happen and you can't control them. If your parents get a divorce it's their decision and you can't help but go along with it. I know how much that hurts to hear, believe me I know how this whole thing works, but you gotta accept the fact that your parents might not be getting together as well as they used to when they fell in love. Now, I have a few suggestions for you, but I'm not sure if they'll work or not. First off, you could sit down and talk with your parents about it. Tell them how much it's hurting and effecting you and your brother. Tell them you're scared and ask them to try to work it out for their children's sake. That's all I can tell you. I'm so sorry, but they may not listen, but there's always a chance that they might will too. You'll have to just push your luck and try it. My other suggestion is do some investigating. Find out the topics of their fights and try to resolve it in some way for your parents to agree.
I'm so so sorry about your parents fighting, and I do hope I helped. If not, there are plenty of other advice-givers that would be glad to help you out. You take care, and remember, whatever happens your parents are both always gonna love you. Just keep that in mind, it'll help you get through it.

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Hey,

Just thought I'd stop by. Actually, I do have a slight problem. I have lost motivation. It takes me forever just to do one simple thing. I have to actually convince myself to get up off my butt and go somewhere. This morning was no exception. I set my alarm for 8 am and i didn't get up until 8:45 am. I had term paper due but i just found my sources and put the rest of it off. aren't i lazy? anyways, i just couldn't find a reason to do it. i know i shouldn't be like this but it is and frankly, it sucks. i can only imagine what it will be like when i have to go to work. *shudders*


any suggestions?

love,
J.P.

Hello! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your advice-giver today! First off... *hugs tight* ^^ heehee, secondly I dont think there's anything wrong with you at all. You're just having a type of spell all of us have. It's as if we can't do anything but just sit around and wait for the day to be over. Don't worry, you're just fine. We all have those days when we just want to flop down on the couch and do nothing, we wouldn't be human if we didn't =P So, don't worry about a thing, JP. You're just fine

Luvs,
~PPP~

P.S. Whenever you need to smile just say one thing. Puppy!!!

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So, my boyfriend and I are weirdos who can never come up with anything to do. Just looking for some nice Valentines Day ideas. Thanks!

'ello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin, and I'll be your advice-giver for this wonderous saturday night. -dances to it, receives blank stares from readers- erm... *cough, cough* Down to buisness! Now, the following things I am about to list are my opinion. Your guy has his own mind, his own likes, his own hates, so I have no clue about his personality. I'm going to try to list the basics so bear with me. Here's the list of Valentine goodness!
1)A flower. Yep, yep. Guys are suckers for flowers, no matter how much they deny it. It's traditional and sweet, all at the same time. He'll love it.
2)A picture of you and him together. You dont need one of those fancy frames for this. Just cut out the picture in any funky shape you want, and stick it on a construction papered heart. And, of course, you can personalize it any way you'd like.
3)A video tape (if availible). Record yourself saying "This is why I love you." You can joke around, or write this on some paper. It's totally up to you.
4)A stuffed aminal (I mean uhm... animal). Get him a cute dog, or maybe a bear with one of those hearts stuck to its paws. What kind of a guy could turn down a fuzzy animal to cuddle when he misses you in the night?
5)A mix tape. Totally up to you on this, and of course, if it's availible for you. Some people dont have cd burners, that's understandable. If you do, just burn some of his favorite songs onto a disc, including a few of your own, and give it to him. He'll probably be listening to it all night long, dreaming of you.
6)Make him a card! Corny, yep, I know it. It may sound childish, but trust me, you're guy's gonna love it. Just slap some words onto a piece of construction paper, cut out some hearts, maybe draw some, and add a few sparkles, and ta dah! Your guy will totally hang it over his bed so he can wake up each morning and smile at it.
7)A big box of chocolate! Guys pig out, we, as women, know that (that's why they make us cook). He'll probably have those wolfed(or is it wolved? -shrug- my grammar isn't the best ^^'') down so fast that he'll have a stomach ache, but then, you can always be there to give him a hug and kiss and make it all better.
8)A hug! Your guy will melt when you encircle your arms around him. Trust me, every guy is a sucker for a hug.

As I said before, the list is totally up to you. You can say "No" to everything, or pick something and take your chance. Completely your choice. I hope that I've helped, and if not, there are plenty of other advice-givers that could totally kick my butt at this type of stuff. Anyways, I do hope I did help. Have a great V-Day!! Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Hey You Guys,

Well you know the big day is coming up Valentines Day and im so happy that i have a boyfriend for V-day but i dont know what to get him. I asked him to give be suggestions but he said he doesnt know and i dont have to buy him anything. But i do. And the only thing i have for him so far is 5 carnations. So help me out please..Thanks so much

Take Care Everyone_____

Hello there! My name is PurplePudgyPenguin, and I shall be your advice-giver for the evening. Ok, down to busyness... erm, buisness. Alright, first off, the carnations, great job! Guys may not like the whole flowery idea but that's a pretty good tradition and, even if your guy isn't all into flowers, he's gonna love them anyways. Hm.. I'm just going to say my opinion, since I dont know this guy, nor what he likes/dislikes. You can just look at this list and go, "Nope... Nope... Nope... yeeeeeea-nope..". You can by all means do that, since you know him and his personality far more than I do. Ok, now here's the list (of what I think, remember this is just a suggestion. You do NOT have to get him these things if you know he wont like it).
1)A teddy bear!! Oh c'mon, who doesn't want something warm and fuzzy to cuddle with at night when you're not there.
2)Chocolate! Forget the dog, candy can be a man's best friend (except for mine, he doesn't eat candy but... MOVING ALONG!)
3)A mix tape! It's simple and cheap. Just burn him some of his fave songs, including a few of your own, and hand it to him. That way, he'll have something to remind him of you whenever he turns on his cd player.
4)A create-your-own card! What kind of a guy can refuse one of those cute little construction paper cards made by his true love? All you need is markers and glue, no artistic ability needed (it's cuter if you just scribble ^^)
5)A poem or a brief list of why you love him. You dont have to be a genious in english to write this. Just take a list of his favorite sports, colors, shapes, underwear, whatever! You dont have to make a poem, just list some things, each starting with "This is why I love you..." and then at the end, end with something sweet.
6)A hug. Awwwww who could refuse one of those? It shows your guy you care and that you love him bundles. It's short, but has a lot of meaning.

The list is pretty corny, I'll admit. I hope that some of them work out for you. If not, I'm really, really sorry. I do hope I gave you some ideas though. If not, there are many more advice-givers that would be more than happy to fill the slots. I truly hope I helped. You take care and have a happy valentine's day!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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I bet just by looking at this you can tell who I am. anyways, i'm having problems at home with my younger sister. it seems like every other day we're arguing about every simple little thing. to be blunt, it's making me mad and me being mad means me being depressed. i have tried other methods of trying to cope with it but to no avail. is there any other methods that you know of? thanks

-clears throat and begins- HI! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your advice-giver for the evening! Now, down to buisness. Ok it seems like you and your sister have a lot of tensed up emotions with each other. You two seem to be very... edgy most of the time. Think about a dry forest. Rain hasn't fallen for at least a month and it's down south so the sun is always beating on it and what-not. Now, it appears as if your emotions are like a lightning storm. One strike and the forest just lights up. Ok, I bet you're saying, "It's a forest not me and my sister!" well, it kind of is like you and your sister. Your relationship is much like that forest. It can grow with proper care, plenty of rain, and a bunch of love and hope from others. When anger and frustration breaks out, the lightning strikes it and the trees burn. Animals loose their homes, and in a sense, your relationship with your sister dies away. Dont let this happen. I know it's irritating that your sister may get on your nerves a lot and I dont blame you for wanting to lash back and argue (believe me, it's sibling nature). I'd suggest, just doing what she wants for awhile. Let her think she won the fight. Let her just be at ease and when you catch her in a decent mood, tell her straight out you two need to find a common ground to stand on. If she refuses and puts up a fight, or ends up arguing with you again, tell your parents that you honestly tried to speak to her about the issue but she refused. Tell them your problem, sit them down and have them hear you out. I cant promise you that they're going to say, "Ok! We'll take care of it!" i'd like to tell you that, it'd make my life so much easier if I could. Unfortunately, we can't control people (especially our parents) and sometimes, if they cant help, you'll just have to try to find that ground. Tell your sister she needs to give in a bit (she sounds pretty stubborn to me, lol, don't tell her I said that). When your sister makes you so irritated, or you just cant take it anymore, go out of the house and take a nice long walk, or you could always talk to someone about it. It'll work out in the end. (I know I'm going to regret saying this but... -sigh-) One day, you and your sister will be friends. I know, I know! I'm crazy for repeating my parents but I'm telling you, someday, it'll happen. I'm starting to think I'm insane right now so if you think so, it's ok. ^^
Well, I hope I helped. If not, there are plenty of other advice-givers that can do far more than I can on here. I hope I made your life easier in some way. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

P.S. JP right? ^_^ HIIIIIIII!!!!!!!

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okay. this is complicated. so i liked this kid. lets say his name is brian. so i liked brian and he had a girlfriend and then he dumped her and he was like immediately flirting with me. like we were at the school basketball game and he was like so can i use your phone and i passed it to him and it had all service bars and then he said oh i think i need to use it outside will you come with me and so i did and we madeout before his mom came and i felt bad for his ex since it as like a day after and im kinda friends with her. but now i reallly like him and its now like a week since the basketball game happened and we wanted to hang out but he always has like lacrosse and hockey so its almost like we can never hang out and we were supposed to hang out friday but he was talking to my friend because we were going to hang out with her and her boyfriend too and he said he didn't wanna hang out anymore. and now he like doesnt even talk to me and i know he doesnt really even like me anymore. basically what im asking is like what can i say to him to make him see that i like him a lot and just want a chance but not make myself seem so desperate. i really like him!

Hello out there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG (advice-giver) for the morning. Ok, now down to buisness. It seems like this guy, Brian, is not a very friendly puppy. He probably was only infatuated with you, not in love with you. Or he could've just been trying to get back at his ex, or make you feel bad. Guys are like that sometimes. Some could love you to death, and some would spit on you as they watched your heart shatter. It hurts, I know the feeling. It's the reality of life that makes it hurt so bad, really. Guys will love you, use you, or ignore you. Us, as girls, just have to accept it. Now, as for your question, I dont think this guy is worth even your energy. Obviously, he's trying to give you the cold shoulder. Then again, this is my opinion, so I'll give you a few suggestions. 1) You could straight out tell him that you like him and that you want him to take you back; 2) You can ask him questions about homework and what-not and view his responses. If he seems annoyed, dont even try anymore, but if he's tolerant, than keep going until you can hint to him that you still like him; and 3) Keep hanging out with him. As before, if he's annoyed then there's not much more you can do, but if he allows you to hang out with him, stay friends until you're confident enough to talk to him and tell him right out how you feel. Still, I dont think this guy is even worth your time. But! As I have said before, it is my opinion.
I really hope I helped. If not, there are plenty of other AG who would be more than happy to help you out. It'll work in the end. Good luck, girl. Stay strong, and if the match up doesnt work, move on, find another guy; one who'll love you until the end of time. Take care! Have a good Saturday!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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I worked for two company already. I am jobless now. I always feel not happy when my boss assign many tasks for me to do; they just talk about work, but never talk about salary.

My friends tell me that just do what the boss assign. It is not the time to think about salary yet.

I can not stand with it!

I really need advices!

Ratha

hello! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin. And I'm... -looks at card- going to attempt to assist you in your time of desperate need? -rips up card- Who writes that junk? -pause as cricket chirps- Oh yeah, I do. Anyways! Before I totally freak you out here, let's get down to buisness. It seems to me like your boss is a very strict person. He wants to see things done right the first time, and wants to keep his workers going the way he wants things to be done. I'm not saying that's bad, sometimes, a buisness needs a strict boss to survive. Well, I think it's best if you just stay patient with your boss. Hint that you want a higher salary but dont say it straight out until you're positive that he's in either a good mood for speaking about it, or that your confident enough to approach him with the subject in a bold manner. Just stay positive and dont let the constant work get you down. Just think, it'll help you out in the long run.
I hope my advice has helped you in some way. If not, there are many other advice-givers that would be more than happy to give you other opinions. I'm sorry if I haven't given you the answer you were looking for. Have a good day! Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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ok i like this guy. me and him made out last friday. he likes me and i like him. he asked me out but i said no at first because i liked this otehr guy as well and he new that. well i decide that i wanted to be wit him so i called him a few days later and he said he didnt want a gf after thinking aobut it. that really sucked for me because i useally get attached to guys if i kiss them. so i was a little upset. me and him are still good friends we flirt a lot and hang out. but hes a little shy so its hard somtimes to like flirt with him becaus ei flirt with other guys too. but today he looked so cute, lol! and i just think to myself that i made such a mistake by saying no. im happy me and him are friends but skool year is almost over and i wont talk to him for like the whole sumer and i will really miss him alot. and i just wish there was something to do. i just hate myself for saying no at first. what should i do? im upset and i like him and he likes me and i just dont no how to feel?

hello! I am Super PurplePudgyPenguin, here to save the day! -cape flies and smacks her in the face- Heehee, excuse that. Anyways, before I chase you away with my total insanity, time to get down to buisness. It sounds to me like this guy and you are pretty tight. You two sound closer than close can be. It's so sweet to hear. If he said that he didn't want a girlfriend, it basically means, he needs time. He may not know how to take rejection, and this is the way his heart is healing, or how he is adapting to it. Just hang out with him, flirt with him, and maybe, just maybe, he'll start to warm up to you like a boyfriend should. Then you should ask him out again. Tell him how much you love him, how hurt you felt when he turned you down. If this guy is the right one, he cant possibly say no to that. If he does, by chance, turn you down again, then remain friends and dont go any further than that until he's ready to. You can date other guys when you stay just friends and you never know, the next guy that comes along might be your knight in shining armor after all.
Well, I truly hope I helped you out. If not, there are other advice-givers that'll be more than happy to answer your question, WAY better than what I can come up with. Take care, hun! I hope my advice as been of use and not just bathroom reading material (heehee, that's what one of my friends calls it but she's a dorkus ^^). Byez!!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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