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boyfriend over best friend
hey! my best friend who dont get me wrongs is absolutly awsome!!!!! but its just she always has a boyfriend and theres noth in rong with that eather its just she always puts boyfriends before friends which i just dont do!! i finished my boyfriend because him n her hated each other and i thort friends were more important! with her last boyfriend she did invite me to places they went together but she would go off with him and i felt in the way!! and her latest boyfriend shes on about goin to live with his family!! milles away from where she lives now (about 5 hours drive) and i was like but what about our friendship but shes didnt sean that bothered shes just said oh youll be ok and them started talking about him again! im not jelous am i? or obsessive? i just dont want to lose her as a friend but that how her previous friends stoped talking to her as she was always with her boyfriend and not them. i just dont want to lose her as a friend as shes absolutly brillient when shes not with a lad
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You most definitely have to talk to her! Tell her how you feel! Tell her that you think she's awesome and you don't want to lose her!!
Tell her that you appreciate her and you don't want to lose her friendship as you two are so close!
Your not jealous or obsessive!
I mean i'm in the same situation but im in the other place, i'm the girl that puts the boyfriend first!! Seeing what you have written here has also made me realise how much my friends would be missing me!!
They've never said anything so how am I to know?
You must talk to her!
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Hello there! My name's PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll... O.O I just realized how ridiculous my name sounds... ANYWAYS! And I'll be your advice-giver for the evening! (I think. It is for me anyways)
Alright, down to business. I don't know what to really tell you here. I have the same problem actually with one of my friends. Only she doesn't want to move away or anything. She's only 15... But you're absolutely right. Friends are more important than boyfriends. Boyfriends last only a while, since you said yourself she's with a new one all the time. Friends are people you love and cherish more than anything else in the world. Maybe, this new guy she's with is the one. And I'm not saying he is, cause if he wants her to leave her friend behind he's definately not what I'd call "mr. right" but that's just my opinion. Honestly, I'd just sit back, let her move, count down the days, and await her return. I don't think she's going to last very long with this new guy. Give it a few weeks, a month at the most. If she hasn't either called you, wrote you, emailed you, or come back WITH a complaint about him, you should go up and visit her. Tell her how badly you feel. Express yourself openly. Say that you love her (not love love but like love as a friend love and... nevermind! I think you got it the first time ^^; ), and that it hurts when she leaves to go with another guy. Make her see it through your eyes. If she still stays, that doesn't mean you just stop the friendship all-together. Keep in touch with her. It may be hard with the distance, but friendship can grow that way.
I really hope I helped, and this answer is kind of short and crummy *pokes it with her magic spork*. But all the same I do hope I provided some assistance. If not, there are thousands of other AGs who can completely kick my advice in the buttocks (What a silly word. Buttocks. Teeheehee *cough, cough* sorry ^^). I really, really hope I helped.
Luvs,
~PPP~
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