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What do I do?!?
Ok so heres the problem, me and my boyfriend have had sex and I dont think my hymen broke. I know it didnt because even though we have had sex many times sometimes he goes to far and hits it and it hurts but it wont brake. Now I just dont let him go all the way in because it hurts and theres not point since it wont brake. So what can I do! I heard theres an operation to get rid of it but I am 16 and I dont want my mom to know. Please Help
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The truth is, it could be your hymen, or it could be your cervix. Having a hymen that is unable to be broken by penile penetration is very rare. The truth could be that you could have a shorter vaginal canal (they're only 3-5 inches to start with), or he could have a particularly long penis. Bumping the cervix is relatively common, and changing angles (putting a pillow under your lower back or bottom during sex) may get you a little bit more penetration, as there is another inch or so of vaginal canal to either side of the cervix.
If it IS your hymen, however, it may need to be surgically removed for pleasurable penetration. My advice would be to have your mom take you for a normal pap smear, and you can ask your doctor from there. Gynecologists don't make a practice of talking to parents about teen's pap smears (unless there's something major that will need treatment, such as an infection or disease), so your conversation should be kept confidential. Even if it is true that it is your hymen, and you can't have the surgery because you can't tell your parents about it, at least you KNOW...and you can work with it from there.
Take care, and good luck -
Marissa
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Well unless you are sure it is your hymen, I wouldn't try getting an operation. If it is causing you to become uncomfortable, then you need to go to a planned parenthood and have one of their doctors check you out. They will be able to tell you what is causing this. Some girls are born without a hymen and some girls have very, very thick hymens that are very painful if they are broken. Everyone one is different. Find the number to a local Planned Parenthood and ask them what days they are open, describe your problem briefly and ask if parental consent is needed to come in and get a check up (it usually is not), and then ask if there any costs to getting a check up with one of the doctors. You usually have to have an ID of some sort and know your Social Security number. After this, find a day that will be easiest for you and get a ride up there. I wouldn't be too worried about this. Best of luck!
~Sherah
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Humm..are you sure you have a hymen? Its possible to loose it with out actually haveing sex. Some virgins do not have their hymen due to tampons, exercise and etc.
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