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please help!
my boyfriend james raped me a month ago and I think I may be pregnant and my mom will kick me out even if I was raped she's the type of person who thinks I could have done something about it I told my mom he raped me and she asked me how I could be so stupid to let something like that happen what should I do,Iam only 17 and my boyfriend is 19.
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Well let me first say that if you are pregnant you have to ask your self if an abortion is an option. even though im against abortions i cant imagine how any pregnant girl must feel to be in that situation, especially since it wasnt your fault. ok also you need to break up with this guy that is unless your havent already. decide what is more important to you ,your possible future baby or living at home. Im pretty sure your mom wont kick you out, because parents always say that but in the end when it comes to you actually leaving they wont want you to remeber your her daughter that she raised from birth and nothing, not even you getting pregnant should change her love for you.
other then that fate will decide the rest but always remeber that God dosent give you more then you can bare or handle, your stronger then you think.
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Hi,
First thing I would do is, break up with him. Then, I think that you should tell the police what he did. Your mom has no right kicking you out of the house, because it wasn't your fault. I really hope it works out!
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You are talking in the present..as if this guy James is still your b/f. I certainly hope not if he forced you to have sex against your will. First of all do not stay with him, and secondly go to the police. If you are afraid of him get a restraining order.
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your mom does not know what it is like in your place then and do you realize that he can get arrested for that!! best of luck with you, and god bless you!
Jasmine
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I'm very sorry to hear this but ..did you go to the police ?
Did you told your bf your pregnant?
This is not alright ....You need to seek for help .
Maybe he will try to do it again ,just be more carefull and he clearly do not love you if he did he would have never raped you ..
Good luck
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You need to go to a free family planning clinic and talk to a counselor. Not only for counseling the rape and pregnancy - but for the fact that he raped you and you're still calling him your boyfriend??? You've got to get away from him - forever - and ever and ever! There is no relationship there - he raped you. A good counselor will help you through the other issue and work on your own level of self-esteem, so that you won't be with a person that would ever treat you that way.
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if you got raped it is a crime.
If your mom isnt going to do anything for you. You will have to step up and do it yourself. You need to contact the police If you are not willing to go right to a police. You guidance counselor could help you believe it or not. Just go your counselor and tell him/her you need to talk to him privatly.
I do not know your mother && im not sure what her reaction would be if this happened but its better then what will happen if you don't do anything and thats pretty much giving your boyfriend the permission to do what he wants&& and you do not want to allow that.
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Rape is a crime. Forget about everything for now except that you are the victim of a crime and your boyfriend is a criminal. It may have happened a month ago, but it is still a crime. Go to the police. File a police report. They will take you to be examined and you can find out if you are pregnant or not. I don't know your mother and I cannot guess her reaction, but what you should be worried about is you! Let the police and social services handle the rest. Go and get help, don't wait any longer. Don't be scared. It was not your fault and don't let anyone, ANYONE, tell you different. Rape may not be a crime like a mugging or a shooting, but it IS a crime. Go to the police. Take care of yourself if no one will.
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Without knowing your mother or your history, it's difficult to judge her reaction.
However there is something you can do for yourself...get yourself some support by contacting a rape crises centre in your area, the sooner you contact them the better. They will have sound knowledge to base their advice from, unlike a lot of web based places.
As I don't know how far along in the pregnancy you are, it's difficult to give advice on that. I wonder...what is it that YOU think should happen next.
Given that though he was your boyfrind, he still raped you - have you considered whether you wish to tell him about the pregnancy or not?
My heart goes out to you and I hope you contact a rape crises centre for advice and support to help you through this difficult time.
Take care eh :-)
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Find out if you are pregnant, and maybe ask for the clothes hanger next time you go to ambercrombie and fitch.
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