Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
I love cats and sailing and get to the beach as often as I can.
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my boyfriend is wants to have sex, and, im cosidering it. im 15, am i old enuff? i know about being safe and all, and i dont need to be lecture about how its not right cause the bible says its rong, im not religiouse. i just dont know if im old enuff to be having sex. (link)
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You're old enough physically, but what about mentally? If you can do it and walk away and look back when you're 25 and think gee I've had 15 boyfriends that i've had sex with in the past 10 years, then fine. But the reality is that this guy will end up being super-special in your heart and the fact is that he will NOT be your one and only for the rest of your life. I'm not saying that you can't have more than one boyfriend in your life, just be extra careful, because when it doesn't work out, like us girls dream in our heads, it's going to be pure heartache.
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I was at my friend lillys house for her 15th birthday with a few other people. Everything was great we were doing manicures and making prank calls. But then it got really late and everyone got a sugar rush and were bouncing off the walls it was crazy! Well I was sitting on top of Lillys dresser next to her cousin Jenna and all of the sudden Jenna started rubbing my feet and telling me how soft my skin was....it really weirded me out. Everyone laughed like it was a joke...but it didnt seem like a joke to her. She looked kinda like my boyfriend does right after we make out. Should I be weirded out by this? I'm going to her house again on tuesday and her cousin will be there, and I'm kinda scared...should I be? Hellllp! (link)
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If any one's behaviour towards you makes you uncomfortable in any way, then it IS inappropriate - doesn't matter who it is. Trust your inside feelings. If you have to spell it out, say please do NOT touch me, I am NOT into you like that.
Stand up for yourself and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it.
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ok so i'm not currently single but he was my 1st love and such but we didn't have sex he's 16 i'm 15 we dated for 2 years and were taking a break but then we were thinking about getting back together but then he met someone a girl from a different school and she's a real slut he had sex with her now they broke up he is calling me again and he is telling me that he wants to be my 1st and alll this other stuff and well i still like him he was my 1st love what else is there but to fall for him and i think he just wants to have sex with someone that hasn't had sex yet that would be me what should i do should i continue talking to him or do you think he's useing me just to get sex idk plz get back to me and help thanks alot (link)
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Deep down he may be a nice guy, but to come running right back to you and wanting to have sex is because deep down he's a GUY and guys want sex especially now that he knows what it's all about. I'd tell him to take a hike, you had a good, special relationship before, but you don't want to get used. the way to really tell - ask him to go steady with you, without sex just like before and see what he says. good luck.
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Okay this is really embarassing....I went to the movies with my boyfriend last night and we decided to see Nacho Libre...well halfway through the movie I had drank a large soda and I really needed to go ut I didnt want to miss the movie. So then this really funny part happened and I laughed until I peed my pants...I was SO embarrassed and I couldnt get up because I was afraid he would notice to when we went to leave the movie I just rapped my jacket around my waist. On the car ride home he put his hand on my thigh and squeezed...I was so happy! I've never really be touched by a guy (I know I'm a weirdo) and I'm really excited and like a a crazzed fan touched by their hero I'm not sure if I want to wash the pants. I know its gross...but would it be too weird to not wash them and keep them for sentimental value? I wanted to ask my friends but I was WAY to embarrassed to ask people I know. Oh my gosh pleaase help! (link)
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Yes, it's too wierd - wash the pants! Maybe he liked you in those pants and you'll want to wear them again. And lastly - get up and go to the bathroom - that's ridiculously immature.
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My friend met this guy and he is the sweetest guy ever and stuff, and im wicked jealous of her, and this guy talks to me about her because they like eachother and they know it and he told her he loved her and stuff and she said it back but idk what to do because im always talking to him about her..like im her best friend so he asks me for advice about what she likes & stuff, but idk...this whole thing is getting to me and getting me WICKED jealous like, its not right to feel this jealous about anything...so what should i do? Should i stop talking to him? should i stop talking about him with my best friend, or should i keep helping them? because this is like tearing me apart...anything helps thanks (link)
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Feeling jealous is totally understandable. You're kind of caught in the middle and all you're hearing is stuff about them. How about talking about You and what you like once in awhile. If they are SO close and saying ILY then they should be talking to each other!!! You don't need to keep helping at all. Next time either one starts asking you stuff, just say - Hey go ask her/him! And don't feel bad about it. You have a life too. It's nice that you did that in the beginning, but you don't have to do it forever.
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How can I track down a person's email? I've exhausted all of the traditional searches, and have no idea where to go next. All responses appreciated, even the sarcastic ones.
Thanks (link)
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Try searching for profiles first like on yahoo or aol or msn... if you can find a screen name then it's usually that at whatever site you found it... hotmail/yahoo etc.
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Hey, my boyfriend and I are real greatt ogether but the thing is. he keeps teasing me like calling me dork and stuff. It seems like hes joking, which i dont mind but. HE DOES ALL THE TIME. and then think its cute when i get mad..i dont like it. i dont know how to tell him i dont like it without making him feel like i hate him or something. Plus i once told him he can call me
his lil black slave cuz it turns me on (hes white im black) but he says it too much. but i hate it...and he likes to spank my butt. idk what to do...he's too kinky.
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You need to make a stand for yourself.
One way to address would be to say - ya know, it was really funny the first 75 times you said it - but now it's NOT.
Teasing can be sweet and fun and usually means that someone likes you. If it is continuous it is called passive aggression and he is actually trying to hurt you. If he doesn't take you for real and stop treating you this way you need to find a new boyfriend. Otherwise it will only continue to get worse, especially if you say stop and he doesn't, but you still stay.
hope this helps.
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On the 4th of july i'm going to sell little kits/bags of different kinds of items that would be fun for 4th of July. I'm going to sell them at this big feild where all activities are happening and the fireworks are going to be. What kind of stuff should I put in the bags, and how much should i charge. I already know about putting glowsticks in, but i need other ideas! (link)
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How about some gum or candies. The small ones like you get at halloween. You need to add up all you've spent on the items and then divide it by the number of bags you've made. You may also want to factor in the time you spent preparing. and then add in a profit percentage.
Just for the sake of even numbers lets say -
$ 80 on bags/goodies
$ 20 2 hours of your time at $10/hr
= $100 + 20% profit.
= $120 divided by 10 bags = $12 per bag. And ultimately you've made about $20.
Hope this helps you get set up and successful!
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so i'll start by telling you a bit about myself.
i am 15 f. i don't want to sound arrogant but yes, i am popular which is why i don't get what is going on. I am vasrity cheerleader as a sophmore and have no trouble w/ guys and have alot of girl friends. so this is my question...
i got into a figth with this girl and it got bad, but girls are catty. she tried to ruin my reputation, but i ruined her life =] i got her kicked off of class vice president and her friends hate her. but to be fair, she really deserved it im not kidding. she posted pictures of me that were like edited and crap to make it look like i was naked, like photocopying my head onto the pic or w/e. and posted it on alot of the lockers. idk why she did it, shes just jealous b/c im dating her ex bf. seems to me like SHES the sociopath not me...
so after this i got in trouble, the school sent me to a therapist to talk about why i act the way i do. he diagnosed me a sociopath. But um... sociopaths are psycho anti-socials and im the center of attention. Im not a freak, i love shopping and guys and they say just b/c im a little decieving and like it my way, makes me a sociopath???
can somebody please explain to me how a popular varsity cheerleader can be a sociopath because i am way not antisocial. (link)
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You need help. what she did was wrong, but we're talking about You, not her. Normal people get upset but you don't go out and "ruin" someone's life no matter what. That's not going to get you anywhere in life. grow up.
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OK so I'm not trying to sound concieded but i no i'm really popular and my boyfriend gets really mad because everyone stops and talks to me and asks me questions. And he doesnt like that i have a lot of guy friends. But thats just how i am i have a million friends i'm really socail what do i tell him (link)
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Your bf should support you in making all kinds of social connections - that's what life is all about. Just don't let him see what a bad speller you are.
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My friend is really selfish. I mean, she's my best friend but she's so damn selfish. Like, when I go to her house, she eats stuff right in front of me. She never asks if I want anything. And she doesn't let me play her Nintendo DS. She's really spoiled too. It annoys me so much because she has all these things that my mom would never get me. And I want to play a freaking video game and she's so "NOOOO! PUT IT DOWN! I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN PEOPLE PLAY MY GAMES!" It's like, shut the f up! I'm so tired of it. What should I do? (link)
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Dump her and find a new friend. for the love of God... most kids learn how to share when they are 2 years old. she's jealous and selfish and you don't need so-called friends like that.
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My mom made me a doctors appotment in August with a regualar pediatricion. (i'm 13)
I'm gonna get a physical or a check-up, I can't remember which one. Thing is, I havn't been to the doctor since I was 7 or 8. So, of course, I've gotten my period since then.
Will my doctor want to take a look "down there"?
(Sorry my spellings kinda messed up, I'm in a hurry) (link)
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No probably not! he may ask some questions about your periods etc., and only if you were having serious problems, he probably refer you to a gyn. but to 'look' down there it would be an ob/gyn doctor.
If you know "that's not always true" then why are you asking advice anyhow? And then giving a bad rating? Remember something when you are seeking advices - just because you don't like the answer, doesn't mean it's not correct or valuable information. everyone is entitled to their opinion.
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My friend said the first time she smoked a cigarette, she got "high" and she felt jittery and light-headed. Is that true? I mean, can that happen with a cigarette? I'll rate high for good answers. Thanks (link)
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it makes you a little lightheaded/dizzy for a few minutes but that's it. It doesn't happen forever if you keep smoking, just the first few times.
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Hallo!
O.K. so here's the deal. My brother takes me to school each morning in his car. Usually we would just leave at the last second, and get there in time. Now, we're leaving 30 minutes earlier to pick up his friend. I was o.k. with it, but now they're starting to smoke in the car and I get to school with my clothes smelling like smoke. Normally, I would just ask him to stop, but during last summer him and his ex-girlfriend had a baby when he was sixteen, and now I just feel bad for him a lot and I would feel guilty for asking him, because it's probably his way of dealing with the baby (Not that it's the right way.) What should I do? (link)
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That's a tough question, cause I'm a smoker and it is his car too, right? Just ask him at least in the mornings not to smoke in the car with you... try and compromise a little. You don't ask him to always not smoke around you and he shouldn't always smoke around you. And you don't have to feel too sorry for him - having a baby was his own deal.
good luck :)
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ok so i have a follow up question and it's more of a story though. ok in my whole life i've been through alot of depressing stuff and about 2 years ago when i still lived in the same city as my bestfriend, i dated what i think was my first love for about 4 months and then I went out of town for the weekend and when i came back my bestfriend was dating my bf and when i asked her to break up with him because i really did like him she said NO and continued to date him for 2 months then she found a hotter boy so she dumped my first love for a guy she that was hotter then him. Now when i said i've been through a lot of depressing stuff i really have. i was abused by my older brother for about 6 years. my mom is an acholic. my dad disowned me and my brother and my sister. My sister had a car wreck 2 years ago and is now mentally retarded. But any thing else in my life that i have been depressed about is because of my bestfriend. She likes to caz drama. And lately she has changed and is not the same person i have been bestfriends with forever. I love her so much. And i already told the guy i would go out with him. So how do i help her understand that i really really want to be with him and to help her understand that since me adn fred have been talking about getting together i haven't been depressed? (link)
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Wow... it's going to be hard to do because us females are so sensitive - even when your head is telling you one thing, you can't ever control how your heart feels. You might have to make a hard choice. You are a deep thoughtful person and sounds like you realize this guy is special. Just make sure he is special and that he understands what you expect and want out of this relationship. you don't see it as a nothing fling or you wouldn't jeopardize your friendship with the gf. Good luck sweetie :)
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14 will be 15 in 6 days/f
ok so my best friend(who is 15) for 8 years was dating this guy named Fred(not his real name,just turned 18) and they dated for about 3 months when he cheated on her and she dumped him but me and fred kept talking on the phone (since i live 3 hours away from my bestfriend and fred) and fred was about to move a lot closer to me. So we started talking about hooking up (since we both have problems with cheating)and trying to have an open relationship. Which sounds bad but i am the type of girl that doesn't ever get jelous and understands that everyone messes up. You can call me a whore if you want. we have a lot in common and we seem perfect for each other. but resently i found out that my best friend still likes him so i backed off and let her have him until he moved. and then he finally told me that he didn't like her anymore and asked me not to tell her that so i didn't until it kinda slipped out. and he wasn't mad at me cause he was moving the next day. and so everybody was ok but my bestfriend who is now claiming that he is her first true love but my bestfriend has a clinging problem with guys and this is like the fiftyth guy she has said is her first true love plus since i told her he didn't really like her she has started "talking" to this guy chris which was something fred doesn't know. Now this is where the real problem comes in. so me and fred decided to keep our plans and try dating. So he said he was going to come all the way to where i live and stay the weekend at a cabin his family owns and asked me to come hang out with him during the days. I said yes and then called my bestfriend to tell her about out plans. i said hi and instead of saying hi back she said your not f***ing going and i'm gonna kick your ass if you do because i still love him which pissed me off because i know she doesn't and i know she is and has been "talking" to chris. So now we are not talking. I want to make up with her but i really want to be with fred not only because we have the same views on almost everything but because he makes me happy and i've been really depressed lately. And my best friend always does this. If she even thinks that me and one of her ex's are going to start dating she starts telling me if i date them then our friendship is over. So i have always gave into her and told the guy no but i getting tired of it and like i said i really want to be with him. So my question is should i date him and lose her or should i give into her again and leave him alone. And there is no inbetween with her.
signed
i really don't know what to do (link)
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Me and my best gf's always had a rule... if one of us was truly broken hearted over a guy then no one else would ever consider dating him. There are plenty of fish in the sea, even if she's felt this way 10 times over, the guy is off-limits. Maybe 5 yrs from now it'd be ok, but if you really value the friendship you never would have been considering a relationship with any of her ex's ever. Although, she shouldn't be threatening you, that's pretty childish, but she is geniunely upset and feels thats the only way to stop you. Your best girlfriends will be around forever, guys will come and go.
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Yes, I'm a pimple picker. Guilty as charged. I know the conseuences but for some reason its a natural reaction for me. I have so many scars on my chin and I don't know how to get rid of them. Should I talk to a dermatologist or are they permanent forever?? (link)
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They are pretty permanent.... this coming from a 40 yr old that still breaks out like a 15 yr old. Cut your nails so short you can't pick them and start taking extra care of your skin now.
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my friend kayla .. thought it would be a GREAT joke to IM my boyfriend and act like some girl looking to hook up .. and the thing is that kayla has a tendency to make things up .. or to invision things differently when she doenst like the person .. and she really really didnt like how my boyfriend treated me.
well she called me after she 'IMed him' as mandy moody, and he apparently asked her for pictures, her age, grade, and said that he had a girlfriend but wasnt thinking it would last much longer, becuase 'i didnt put out'.
so when i heard this, i got very hurt and very upset. and i tend to make snap decisions and judgements in the heat of hte moment .. so i broke up with him .. now i realize talkin to him would have been a better idea.
the more and more i think about it, the more and more it seems as if kayla maybe did say that just to get me to dump cody .. her own sort of motivation in a way .. because for someone who had such a problem with me not puttin out, he never made any moves .. all the things we did do I INITIATED! .. so i guess my question is .. what should i do .. try and talk to him .. see if i can get him to take me back .. how would be the best way to go about doing that?
guys opinion .. would you take someone who did that back ..?
i mean i wasn't completely happy with how he treated me, but i cant do this anymore. i cry constantly. the only time i dont cry is when i sleep, and then i dream about him. so i wake up and cry more .. i liked this kid for over a year. 7 months of that was trying to get over him. now ive dated him and fell harder, and now i have to give him up. what kills me is i didnt lose him, i let him go ... (link)
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Talk to him! Don't expect to get back together, but say you just need a little clarification on what happened. Don't ever let a "friend" contact your bf and basically test him. That's not fair in a relationship. If you felt you had to trick him and test him in that sneaky way then you got exactly what you expected. Some people just thrive on drama and when there isn't any, they create it or make it up. And if there isn't enough drama in their lives, they're gonna stir up bs in your life. You don't need friends like that. It sounds like it was all made up and it sucks, but you're gonna have to take it as a hard lesson learned about trusting your so-called friends.
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Well I'm going swimming tomorrow. Today I had my period for the first time and I tried a tampon. It was really hard to get out. I tried pulling it out in different directions and I tried like half a box of tampons and I'm pretty sure it's in correctly. The string almost broke when i tried to pull it out it hurts. My parents wont let me get in the water without a tampon and i cant sneak in without one because they check to make sure im not lying. Oh and ive tried the lowest absorbensy and lubricant stuff still doesnt help. Please help! (link)
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Read the directions carefully and try the junior/slim size tampons. The first couple times can be uncomfortable, but you will get better at it. As a side note - if you are old enough to be using tampons, then your parents have NO business whatsoever checking up on you on an issue like that. That is just totallly weird.
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I have been with my b/f for about a yr and a half now. We have definitely had our ups and downs. Last year i was at a friends house and one of my b/f's good friends showed up. He asked if i wanted to hang out. Went to his house and he put the moves on me. I refused to have sexual contact with him. Even though i had the urge to. He told me that he was sorry and that he couldnt help but wonder why i was with this other guy and that he thought i was pretty.
Ever since that time, he always makes comments to my b/f about how my b/f doesnt treat me right. Or he will joke around about how im his type. We live in a tight-knit town where everyone knows everyone. I see this guy everyday and he always smiles or stares and then looks away.
My major problem is that im finding more and more that im not in-love with my bf anymore as he has become physically violent.
My sister-in-law thinks that i should leave my bf and go with this guy. I am quite tempted as he and i have so much in common and he knows how to treat a lady. I also have a medical condition where i cannot have children. And this guy has full custody of his little girl. Every time i see him with her i melt because he is such a good father.
Am i wrong for wanting to try and have a relationship with this other guy?
And do you think he would be interested in trying to have a relationship? (link)
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First you need to be on your own. If your bf is getting violent with you, leave him imediately. Don't go straight into the arms of another guy no matter who, because that could make the situtation worse. Give it some time and if the other guy is genuine, he will wait. He may be just wanting to screw over your bf, more than truly wanting you. Good luck.
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