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and now i regret it ...
my friend kayla .. thought it would be a GREAT joke to IM my boyfriend and act like some girl looking to hook up .. and the thing is that kayla has a tendency to make things up .. or to invision things differently when she doenst like the person .. and she really really didnt like how my boyfriend treated me.
well she called me after she 'IMed him' as mandy moody, and he apparently asked her for pictures, her age, grade, and said that he had a girlfriend but wasnt thinking it would last much longer, becuase 'i didnt put out'.
so when i heard this, i got very hurt and very upset. and i tend to make snap decisions and judgements in the heat of hte moment .. so i broke up with him .. now i realize talkin to him would have been a better idea.
the more and more i think about it, the more and more it seems as if kayla maybe did say that just to get me to dump cody .. her own sort of motivation in a way .. because for someone who had such a problem with me not puttin out, he never made any moves .. all the things we did do I INITIATED! .. so i guess my question is .. what should i do .. try and talk to him .. see if i can get him to take me back .. how would be the best way to go about doing that?
guys opinion .. would you take someone who did that back ..?
i mean i wasn't completely happy with how he treated me, but i cant do this anymore. i cry constantly. the only time i dont cry is when i sleep, and then i dream about him. so i wake up and cry more .. i liked this kid for over a year. 7 months of that was trying to get over him. now ive dated him and fell harder, and now i have to give him up. what kills me is i didnt lose him, i let him go ...
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First off, I don't think your friend, Kayla, should have even have been into your relationship business, you know?
Did she even ask you if it was okay to pull a prank on your boyfriend?
If not, then she isn't a good friend. You should talk to him and tell him it was all Kayla talking, and that it really hurt that she told you that 'you didn't put out'
You may never know, he might have never said that, maybe something your friend wanted to tell you to get you two to break up. That is what I'm thinking.
But first, you should talk to your friend, and tell her that it was wrong for what she did, and that your (ex)-boyfriend meant so much to you.
Then, talk to him and tell him that he meant everything to you, and start talking to him as friends. Maybe hang out at the mall, movies, park, your house, his house.
Hope I helped, and good luck!
-Paper_Heartsz
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Talk to him! Don't expect to get back together, but say you just need a little clarification on what happened. Don't ever let a "friend" contact your bf and basically test him. That's not fair in a relationship. If you felt you had to trick him and test him in that sneaky way then you got exactly what you expected. Some people just thrive on drama and when there isn't any, they create it or make it up. And if there isn't enough drama in their lives, they're gonna stir up bs in your life. You don't need friends like that. It sounds like it was all made up and it sucks, but you're gonna have to take it as a hard lesson learned about trusting your so-called friends.
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talking to him wouldnt have been a better idea, trust me because all he would do is make up some lame ass excuse for why he said those things to her. And he'd probably try to turn the story around and start yelling at you for having your friend trick him. Your better off without him. I know breakups are hard. But if he treated you bad and tried to get with some other girl... well thats not the kind of boyfriend you really want by your side. I went through the same experience with the crying 24/7 and feeling miserable.. but trust me it just gets easier as time goes by. Just try and go out more, keep your mind off of him and you'll be just fine. Just don't go running back to him. You have solid proof that he doesn't care too much about you... and in no way can he denie it.
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Go to him and tell him the entire situation. It's a good idea to take turns talking about it. If you want, you can designate an object, and whoever is holding it does the talking. Don't beg to be taken back. Just tell him everything you told us and say, "I hope you can forgive me." Then it will be his turn to say what he wants, because I'm sure he's more than a little hurt. I've seen guys take girls back after things like this, but if he doesn't, it's not such a big deal. You got it off your chest, and you'll be amazed how good that feels no matter what the outcome. And whatever happens, look on the bright side. If he doesn't take you back, just focus on the fact that you weren't completely happy with him anyway--it'll be better for you and it will be easier to get over him.
If you have any more questions after talking to him, feel free to ask me.
-Lea
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I think your friend Kayla shouldn't have got involved in your relationship. I understand she didn't like how he treated you, but that didn't give her a right to interfere. It definitley sounds to me she was trying to get you to break up with him. Perhaps she's jealous of your relationship? Thinks you ignore her? Who knows. Anyway, a good friend would want their friend to be happy, even if they didn't like the guy they were with. And it really doesn't sound like she was thinking of how you felt at all.
I think you should speak to your boyfriend about what happened, and ask him to show you the conversation. You need to hear what happened from his side. There's no certainty that Kayla was telling the truth. She could have exaggerated things, or made parts of it up. Chances are, Cody is very upset at the moment too and is probably trying to figure out exactly what happened with you two. You need to talk, and as soon as possible.
If she was telling the truth, then what you did definitley wasn't rash. You deserve far better than a guy who only likes someone depending on how much they "put out" However, you need to find out the story from him before you decide what to do. If he did really say that... that's VERY bad and he doesn't deserve another chance, but if he didn't.. then I'd rethink this friendship with Kayla.
Good luck.
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i dont think he deserves u, i wouldnt take him back . but as for the friend get her to send u the AIm convo and talk to him about stuff, if u want it to work communicate if not move on, it will be hard but it may or maynot be best for you , i really hope it works out for you.
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I think you should explain the situation to him, tell him the story and maybe hell take you back. But i dont get why he would tell a girl he "doesnt know" that he thinks its not going ot last long. Just talk to him and get the whole story if it sounds the same then take it from there but if it was Kayla who was lying talk to her about it.
hope i helped
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I think you need to talk to your boyfriend & explain to him what happened. Then, try to get the truth from him. Ask him to tell you all of the conversation. Then, if what he says is different from what Kayla says, then I think you need to have a talk with her. Did you even have a say in this? Did you give her permission? You have to make sure you have a clear story from both sides. Then, you need to maybe talk to both of them at once.
& also, when you talk to your boyfriend, make sure that you tell him how deeply sorry you are and how much you love him.
I hope everything works out okay between the three of you, & that you don't lose a friend & a boyfriend. Good luck, & please rate.
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Talk to him and tell him what happened. ♥
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